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Author: Ashley Pultorak & Fr. Steven Borello

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Become more fully Rooted in the Really Real: God. Join friends Fr. Steven Borello and Ashley Pultorak as they share about the goodness of God, the importance of mental health, intentional relationship, prayer, discernment, and more. Our mission is to help you encounter your story and discover God’s presence within it. Come along for the journey!
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Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the Ignatian style of prayer, in which God meets our story through an encounter in Scripture. St. Ignatius suggests a simple model of "be aware, understand, act" as a means to help us in our prayer with the Lord.  Resource: An Ignatian Introduction to Prayer by Timothy Gallagher Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.
RRR 025: Emotions

RRR 025: Emotions

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Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about emotions, including emotional attunement, emotional regulation, and the six things every child needs from their parents. How are emotions relevant to our prayer life? Does the Church have anything to say on emotions? Take a listen to find out!Resources: The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Youngadamyoungcounseling.com/free-documentsCatechism of the Catholic ChurchEmail us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.
Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the different types of friendship, focusing primarily on virtuous Christian friendship. In this type of friendship, we have our eyes set on the same horizon, the same goal: heaven. How do we begin to cultivate holy, Christian friendship? Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.
Fr. Steve and Ashley end this series on Attachment Theory by discussing, where do we go from here? How do we move from an experience of an insecure attachment style to a posture of a secure attachment style?  Freedom is possible, growth is real. Something that’s central to growth in our journey here from the perspective of the attachment styles is finding the freedom to love and be loved. Satan wants our story to have a certain meaning for us. He wants us to focus on the miserable, horrible pain, the regret, the shame, he wants us to be discouraged and despair, to be angry with the Lord and avoid him. God wants to reframe the meaning of our story in truth, He wants us to see where He was in the story and for us to see the difference between what happened to us and what He desires for us. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. Recommended Resources:Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the disorganized attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. People who have a disorganized attachment style have a negative view of self and a negative view of others, they have a hard time believing they deserve love and that they’re worthy of love. They also don’t trust others or believe they would be willing or able to give them that love. They are able to find darkness and negativity wherever they go.  Because of this, they have a sort of “mixed bag” of attachment problems or difficulties, resulting in a “shattered self.” The disorganized attachment style is the least common attachment style to have.Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.Recommended Resources:Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the ambivalent attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. The ambivalently attached person tends to believe “I am not worthy of love, I am not capable of getting the love I need without being angry and clingy.” In regards to others, they tend to believe “others are capable of meeting my needs, but might not do so because of my flaws" and "others are trustworthy and reliable, but they might abandon me because of my worthlessness.” Those with an ambivalent attachment style tend to fear abandonment.  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.Recommended Resources:Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the avoidant attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. Those with an avoidant attachment style believe "I am worthy of love and I am capable of getting the love and support I need," however they also believe others are either unwilling or incapable of loving them because they are untrustworthy. Others are not reliable when it comes to meeting the needs of an avoidantly attached person. Those with an avoidant attachment tend to fear intimacy and struggle articulating and experiencing their emotions.  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.Recommended Resources:Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the secure attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. Those with a secure attachment style believe "I am worthy of love and I am capable of getting the love and support I need." There is confidence and security within their own acceptance of themselves. They also believe "others are willing and able to love me as I am." In general, they trust others and know relationships to be safe places.   Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.Recommended Resources:Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend 
Fr. Steve and Ashley continue their discussion of attachment theory by looking at how our different attachment styles may affect our relationships, especially our prayer. When we have an insecure attachment style, our prayer life has the potential to cause doubt or fear in us based on the unpredictability of it.  Much of our prayer turns into fighting the lie that God isn't who He says He is. Those with a secure attachment still have doubts and fears that come up at times, but they believe God is who He says He is and knows that He will always be there and has always been there in our story. No matter where we find ourselves, God is always calling us to more, to greater healing and greater intimacy with Him. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.Recommended Resources:Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy The Context of Holiness: Psychological and Spiritual Reflections on the Life of  St. Thérèse of Lisieux by Marc Foley, O.C.D. 
We are back from our brief summer break! In this episode, Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the basics of attachment theory- what it is and why it matters. This is the first episode in our new series delving into the different components of attachment theory and how our attachment style affects our relationships and prayer. There are four attachment styles: secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized. Much like our episodes on story and identity, we see how relationship is at the center of our stories. Take a listen to learn more!  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.Recommended Resources:Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy The Place We Find Ourselves podcast by Adam Young
Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss how to forgive ourselves due to past regrets, mistakes, weaknesses, or temptations and how to show ourselves mercy in these places. They also discuss the difference between guilt and shame, and how shame has an integral role in preventing our self-forgiveness and forgiveness of others. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.Recommended Resources:Daring Greatly and Rising Strong by Brené Brown 
Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss forgiveness- what it is and what it is not, as well as the difference between reconciliation and forgiveness. We can only forgive by grace because Jesus forgives us first! So how do we begin to forgive? Listen for more! Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. Recommended Resource:Unbound: A Practical Guide to Deliverance by Neal Lozano
Fr. Steve and Ashley conclude the series on identity by discussing how to reconcile the different sources of our identity in order to become our true selves. By virtue of our baptism, we can call upon the name of Jesus to help us renounce lies and claim truths related to our identity. Take a listen to learn more!  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
Fr. Steve and Ashley continue their discussion on identity, this time looking to the areas we find our false identities that are not rooted in the Lord by asking the question, "Who does the world say that I am?"  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the origins of our true identity, looking to the Father and asking, "who do you say that I am?" We'll be looking at two of the main areas the Lord bestows our identity upon us: Creation and Baptism. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about imagination from a Catholic perspective and the impact it has on our prayer. There is a sacramentality to our faith that comes alive through the faculty of the imagination that brings about an encounter with the Lord!Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
Fr. Steve and Ashley continue discussing Lectio Divina, but in a new way. We can use the principles of Lectio to notice the Lord throughout our whole day. What stands out to us as we reflect on our day? What are the patterns? How does the Lord speak to us? He can speak to us through anything! Are we asking for the grace to notice Him?  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about Lectio Divina: the Sacred Reading of Scripture and how to apply this method of prayer to our life. During Lectio we read with the heart, not only our eyes. We take some time in this episode to practice praying with a passage of Scripture using these techniques.  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the various expectations we may have for our prayer and the disappointments that follow, as well as how to approach sharing these with the Lord. They also talk about how to deal with distractions, boredom, and perseverance in prayer. Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the two plans for your life: God's plan and the devil's plan. God desires relationship with us; He creates big, beautiful plans for us and wants us to thrive. However, the devil seeks out these beautiful plans and creates a forgery, seeking to discourage and deceive.  Email us at ashley@rootedinthereallyreal.com with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless. 
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