The Bubbly Bibi

Self-reflection is like a big, juicy steak. It's delicious, it's satisfying, and it's good for you! But just like a steak, self-reflection can be tough to chew at times. It can be uncomfortable to confront your own thoughts and feelings, but that's where the real growth happens. So if you want to be a badass at life, you've got to be willing to dig deep and do the work. Trust me, it's worth it! Yes, self-retrospection can actually be a lot of fun, too! It's like going on a treasure hunt, but instead of gold, you're searching for insights about yourself. You never know what you might find when you take the time to explore your thoughts and feelings. So grab a cup of tea, coffee or whatever you like and join me on this invigorating podcast adventure! 😍

You have unrealised potential waiting to emerge. You only need to take the next step and trust you are being guided to merge with your greater self. 😍 Everything in your life — especially your challenges — is tailor-made to help you see your stories of struggle. 💪 Whatever is in the way is the way! So switch your mentality from "I'm broken and helpless" to "I'm growing and healing" and see how fast your #life changes, for the better...🤩 You are not broken, so love yourself exactly as you are, allowing the next chapter of your life to unfold. ✨🤗

Love yourself like no one else - it's time to give yourself the Valentine’s gift you have always wanted – 24/7 real love, real romance every day of the year – you deserve it and nothing LESS. ❤️🌹

The internet wants you to believe you aren’t doing enough with all that “extra time” you have now. But staying inside and attending to basic needs is plenty. On the days when you have free time, when you have hours upon hours to get shit done, you might feel extra pressure to be productive. You might feel like you need to cross everything off your to-do list. You might feel like if you don’t do the laundry and exercise and walk the dog and cook a healthy meal, then you’re a failure. You might feel like there’s no excuse for slacking when time is on your side. But you need more than time to be productive. You also need to be in a healthy state of mind — and if you’re not in a good place right now, you might need some rest. You might need to sit back and give yourself a break. You might need to go easy on yourself for a little while. If you don’t get anything productive done today, you shouldn’t beat yourself up about it. You shouldn’t feel like you’ve wasted a perfectly good day. You shouldn’t feel bad about what a screwup you are. Not every single day is meant to be filled to the brim with activities. Some days are meant to be catchup days. Not when you catchup on work, but when you catchup on sleep, catchup on shows, catchup with friends. You need to give up the idea that you’re lazy for spending the day on your couch. You’re allowed to relax. You’re allowed to give your brain a well-deserved break, especially at a time like this. No, you shouldn’t make a habit out of procrastinating, out of putting things off until tomorrow, out of lounging around when you should be working. But you shouldn’t make a habit out of forcing yourself to go go go when you’re not in the right state of mind, either. You don’t want to burn yourself out. You don’t want to push yourself over an edge. If work is the last thing you want to think about right now, that is okay. If you aren’t able to get anything productive done today, that is okay. If your emotions are all over the place, that is okay. But if you feel like you’re the only one who isn’t taking advantage of their newfound free time, you’re wrong. There are plenty of other people in the same exact situation as you right now. There are plenty of people who aren’t able to keep their minds focused, who aren’t able to keep their attention on their work, who aren’t able to motivate themselves when there are so many other things to worry about at the moment. Even though you might be kicking yourself for not getting anything done when you have so much time on your hands, you need to give yourself a break. You need to understand that it’s okay if your confusion and disappointment and fear are getting the best of you right now. Maybe tomorrow you can get yourself back on schedule. Maybe tomorrow you can get your motivation back up. Maybe tomorrow you can do something productive. But it’s okay if the only thing you do today is survive.

Forgiveness can be hard. When someone does something that hurts you, it can be difficult to let it go and move on. Although forgiving others can be a daunting task at times, it is often much easier to forgive others than it is to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Maybe you missed your daughter’s winning goal because you left work late, told a lie that caused problems for others, or perhaps your actions resulted in life-altering consequences. No matter what happened, practicing self-forgiveness provides an opportunity for important growth, meaningful change, and improved emotional well-being.

You may feel pressure to set goals and reach them quickly. To know exactly what you want and how to make it happen. To have it all figured out. But rushing may lead to a life you don't truly want. Never learning who you are or who you want to be. It's okay to take your time. That might not be exciting. It might not be sexy. It may conflict with popular messages or narratives. It is, however, often the best long-term strategy. To move at your pace. Getting to know your desires. Your dreams. Your goals. Then, learning how to move toward them on your terms. Not anybody else's. This takes patience. It takes confidence. It takes courage. You might draw criticism. Ridicule. Doubt. From others, and maybe even yourself. You choose what matters more. That negativity. Or moving toward a life in alignment with your truth. You are worthy of that kind of life. Only you can make it happen. You’ve got this. 💪❤️

Why is that so many of us find ourselves limiting our windows of opportunity and potential because we think it’s too late to learn how to start over? When you become stuck in life, one strategy that you have at your disposal is to start over again with a blank canvas. You can hit the reset button and pursue a goal or dream that you’ve never tried before. 💕☺️

You're deserving of love. On your good days, on your bad days, you deserve love. You're worthy of love and compassion. You're worthy of hugs when you struggle and high fives when you accomplish. You deserve happiness. You deserve to be treated with respect. You deserve for someone to fight for you. You deserve kindness. You deserve to be lifted up and encouraged. You deserve to be able to depend on someone other than yourself. You're deserving of love. You're worthy enough to love yourself. You're worth of getting to know and to be understood. You're worth more than the stars in all of the galaxies. You're deserving of love. You are worth a person’s time. You deserve to feel wanted and needed. I'm sorry for the people in your past that have walked away. I'm sorry for the people that have caused you to question love. I'm sorry for people who have broken your soul and left the mess for someone else to clean up. I'm sorry people have taken advantage of your kind soul. I'm sorry you have felt abandoned and feel that everyone will eventually abandon you. But you're deserving of love. Say those words out loud, “I'm deserving of love.” Say it every day if you need to. Say it in the mirror when you wake up. Say it at night before you go to sleep. Say it before you leave the house and when you’re driving down the road. Remind yourself that you are worthy. Surround yourself with people that remind you that you're worthy. There are people in this world that would give their life for you. There are people in this world that would make sacrifices to provide a safe haven for you. There are people in this world that know exactly what you’re worth because you're deserving of love. ❤️

Do you ever find yourself pulled between what you want and what others want for you? Are you too afraid to be your true self or share your real thoughts? Do you care too much about what other people think? 🤔 Let’s talk about learning to live for yourself & not others. 🤗 From childhood, a lot of us begin our lives learning to live for our parent's approval and the approval of those around us—our peers, teachers, or society in general. This comes out of our desire for love and a sense of belonging. We seek love and acceptance from others, which is understandable, as one of Maslow’s psychological needs. Eventually though, we must learn to love ourselves, and find within us the love, approval, validation and confidence we've been yearning for. Thus begins the journey of discovering internal validation over external validation. 😊 Living for yourself means living the life that YOU want for yourself, regardless of the opinions of others. It’s living a life you feel aligned with, a life you love, and a life you are proud of. 😎 Living for others means living to please others, living for external validation & approval, and caring about what others think. You’re setting your goals based on what others want for you (like your parents), or chasing what society deems as success. Living for others can also mean wanting to do things to impress others, please others, or get approval from others, so you're not really being your authentic self and doing what you want. You're doing things because you care about how you appear to others. 😔 Let’s first clarify that “living for yourself and not others” doesn’t mean you should live a selfish life without considering or helping other people. It means learning to put your own needs first, and making choices that align with your values; doing things because you want to, and not because other people are influencing you to. If you want to help others, and it’s coming from an authentic place, then great. But don’t do it just because you feel obligated or pressured to. 🙅‍♀️ Understand that your life is in your hands, and if you give away that power to anyone else, you’re taking away from your own. 🧏‍♀️ Listen to Episode 45 to discover some interesting steps to begin living for yourself. 😍

Facing your fears and pursuing your dreams is the greatest gift you can give yourself — and others!

Ah la zone de confort, un sujet d’actualité pour moi en ce moment… C’est difficile d’en sortir, pas vrai ? Evidemment, personne n’aime être bousculé. Changer ses habitudes fait souvent très peur. Personnellement, je stresse, je doute… Parfois, c’est même la panique totale. Je suis morte de trouille… Est-ce que j’ai pris la bonne décision ? Est-ce que je ne vais pas regretter mon choix ? Vous aussi vous êtes du genre à vouloir tout contrôler ou vous avez du mal à lâcher prise ? La zone de confort, on la reconnaît facilement. Quand vous êtes dans votre zone de confort, vous avez l’impression de maîtriser tous les éléments que ce soit au niveau professionnel ou personnel. Vous ne ressentez pas ou peu d’inquiétude. Psychologiquement, vous vous sentez à l’aise et en sécurité. Ce peut être, par exemple, ce travail que vous effectuez depuis plusieurs années et qui ne vous procure plus de réelle satisfaction, mais vous le connaissez bien. Vous appréciez votre équipe. Vous avez un salaire confortable, une mutuelle d’entreprise, des tickets resto et un bon CE… Peut-être même que vous avez la chance d’avoir un patron en or. Oh bien sûr, votre rêve c’est d’être à votre compte. Vous aimeriez gagner en liberté et en indépendance, mais il y a un hic. Pour ça, il faut prendre des risques… Et puis, un jour survient une opportunité… Une super idée de business, par exemple. Exactement ce que vous attendiez pour vous lancer. Ce dont vous aviez toujours rêvé. Un job qui vous plaît et colle à vos valeurs. Et malgré tout, votre cerveau va commencer à mouliner : et si ça ne marchait pas ? Si je faisais une énorme bêtise en quittant mon poste ? Est-ce que je vais être à la hauteur ? Est-ce que je vais y arriver ? Est-ce bien raisonnable ? Si seulement je pouvais être sûre de prendre la bonne décision… Et la panique, l’angoisse, le stress, les doutes commencent petit à petit à vous paralyser. Vous êtes à 2 doigts de prendre le téléphone pour supplier votre ancien patron de vous reprendre ? Ne le faites pas ! Quand vous ressentez tout ça, c’est que vous êtes à la frontière de votre zone de confort. A moins d’avoir atteint le summum de l’épanouissement, si vous voulez évoluer, vous devez sortir de votre zone de confort ! C’est une manière de prendre confiance en vous et de repousser vos limites toujours un peu plus. Bien sûr, l’inconnu fait peur, moi-même la semaine dernière, je n’en menais pas large. Alors, j’ai listé mes angoisses pour me rendre compte que la plupart étaient sûrement infondées. J’en ai parlé avec certaines personnes qui ont su me rassurer. J’ai enfin repensé à tout ce que je n’aurais pas fait si je n’avais pas surmonté mes craintes jusqu'ici. A de rares exceptions, la plupart des opportunités ne se présentent qu’une seule fois dans une vie, saisissez-les ! D’accord, parfois elles vous prendront au dépourvu. Vous ne serez pas préparés et il vous faudra faire un choix dans l’urgence. Pas le temps d’hésiter ou de tergiverser… Mais finalement, ce sont les situations que je préfère. J’ai tendance à trop réfléchir alors un peu de spontanéité ne fait pas de mal. A trop vouloir calculer, peser le pour et le contre, nous ne faisons plus rien. Dédramatisons, nous avons le droit à l’erreur et ma devise depuis toujours est que je préfère avoir des remords que des regrets. Alors osons ! Réaliser mes rêves me demandera de sortir encore et encore de ma zone de confort. Pour certains, je sais que je ne suis pas encore prête, mais ça viendra… Vous doutez encore ? Pour vous apaiser, écoutez à ma nouvelle épisode ! Dans ce podcast, je vais vous expliquer pourquoi il est important de sortir de sa zone de confort et comment devenir une meilleure version de soi-même, même si ça fait flipper !

If you claim not to have a “worst” character trait, you can probably add dishonesty to the list. I think almost everyone has struggled with at least one bad trait. The good news is that those negative traits we fear may be holding us back can actually end up being the unlikely driver that propels us forward. But how do we learn to love the very characteristics we like least? How to transform those negative quirks into sources of strength and self-love? How can we change for the better? Like many women, I was afraid of my own voice. I was scared of what would happen if I acknowledged and expressed my feelings. Above all, I feared people would leave me if I shared my deepest feelings. The need to voice out was natural and necessary, but my belief that it was wrong prevented me from taking ownership of my voice. So, instead, I communicated in unhealthy ways. I was passive-aggressive, I had anger outbursts, and many times, I would play the martyr. And as I tried to suppress and control that side of me, it came out in waves of anger and pain. After years of transformation, I now understand that many of my behaviours were based on my belief that things are either all good or all bad. So how did I unlearn this belief and learn to express my authentic voice? By learning how I played the black and white game. When we are young, we are taught that some aspects of our personality are bad or inappropriate, while others are good and helpful. And like most things we learn as children, we have to unlearn them. So to fit in, feel loved and be accepted, we deny the ‘bad’ qualities we think we have and try to express those considered ‘good’. This polarised mindset forces us to see the world in terms of black and white, good and bad, or right and wrong. And in this game of black and white, the only rule is that white must always win. Unfortunately, the world is not that simple. Most things exist on a frustrating spectrum of grey. Fortunately, we can learn to re-train these repressed qualities and turn them into qualities that benefit ourselves and others. Listen to Episode 42 and make the first move to get out of your head and get where your heart has always hoped to be.

Kill that part of yourself that still wants to save someone after they've walked away while you were drowning. Don’t let that one person who doesn’t care about you live rent-free in your mind. They’ve taken enough. Re-claim your power by redirecting your focus to those around you who love you and care about you. Your worth has nothing to do with how others treat you. How others treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. As soon as we realise those two things, it becomes easier to see the situation for what it is: a hurt person projecting their hurt onto us. You’re a beautiful being with so much love and empathy in your heart. Honour that you care, honour that you put yourself out there. Rejection doesn’t have to harden us; it can make us stronger, kinder, and quite frankly unstoppable.

Listen to the second part of Episode 38. Missing Them Doesn't Equal Getting Back Together. There are people out there who will make you feel uncomfortable whenever they are around. It is as if they were born to humiliate you, distract you, and get in the way of your success and happiness. And even if you've kicked them out of your lives, they always find their way back to you. The worst part of all these is that you let them back in your life again, thinking they have changed for the better. And each time, you end up getting hurt. But you should not keep allowing toxic people to rent space in your head again and again. Instead raise the rent and kick them out for good. It's high time you achieve your highest potential by eliminating one of the major stressors in your life—toxicity. If you want to free yourself from unnecessary stresses and hassles, it would be best to drive out whomever and whatever is pulling you down. It may seem difficult in the beginning, but it will be worth it in the end, I promise. Your own battles are already enough to handle—you don’t need someone else’s baggage as well. Cutting people out of your life doesn't necessarily mean you hate them. It means you respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. It means you are protecting your space and prioritising your mental health. ❤️🌟🧠 After you successfully remove these people and their negativity from your life, you will be surprised at how healthy and happy you can become. Life can be tough, so you need people who can bring out positivity in you, and not the other way around. While getting rid of toxic people is important, getting rid of your own toxic traits is equally important. Stay tuned for "My Personal Development Diary - A Journey to Changing My Toxic Behaviour" podcast where I'll do a deep dive in topics like self-development, self-introspection, self-awareness and so much more. Loving yourself isn't only about telling how awesome you are or defending your boundaries, it's also holding yourself accountable for your actions, not blaming others for things that don't work out the way they should and not feeling like a victim. Yes, it's the foundation of all personal development and growth because it gives you a reason to change and improve yourself for the better. It's the kind of love that gives you true fulfillment and peace. It's a form of unconditional love for yourself. No matter what you do, no matter what happens to you, no matter how other people treat you, there is a part of you that says "I respect myself and accept myself fully and completely." ❤️

"Boundaries" seems to be a buzzword in mental health circles right now –—and there is a good reason for that. They say good boundaries make good neighbors. I say good personal boundaries build great interpersonal and professional relationships. Some people feel the need to please others, often without realizing that by saying “yes” to everything, they are also saying “no” to something else that might be equally important to them. This can have negative effects on both your personal life and your career. Not sure how to set boundaries? You'll want to learn as this is the key to gaining self-worth, self-esteem, and healthy relationships. Stay tuned for the next part of this episode to find some great ways to set personal boundaries

You may miss someone; you may miss everything you’ve experienced with the person you’ve loved so much and wish you could relive these moments. And you wonder why it all ended... you fill your mind and thoughts with tons of unnecessary ifs and buts, trying hopelessly to figure out why things had to end this way. Could it have been something to do with you, with them, with the universe, with their dog, with...? What would have happened if...? Should we get back together? The dilemma is real! But nostalgia doesn’t necessarily mean you want to find that lousy prick who made you feel that way. Missing someone who has ghosted you or someone you’ve removed from your life can be complicated as fuck. Sometimes it involves satisfaction and relief, sometimes it’s accompanied by a twinge of pain and regret, and sometimes it involves anger and the need to revenge. But honey, you have to realise that some people only appear in our lives for a limited time; we experience good and bad times with them and then part ways. When we miss them, it’s good to remember the two sides of the story. There was a reason it ended in the first place. Keeping your distance helps you resist the temptation to go back – because, deep down, you know you don’t wanna go back into that shitty, crappy, unfulfilling relationship or friendship. You may miss the person or the story that brought you together, but this significantly affects the meaning of your memories. Sometimes you don’t want that stink ass saphead to come back, but you want to enjoy the good ol’ times again. However, remember that it doesn’t have to be with the same person again. You can relive part of the story and create better memories with another person.  When you start again with someone you already know, someone with whom you’ve shared part of your past or someone with whom you try to relive moments from another time, you start from a whole different point. And this has nothing to do with living or feeling the same shit again – I’m telling that from personal experiences. I’ve suffered a lot, thinking that I could start over. Because at some point, what I was missing was the good old times and how we used to be. But getting back together ain’t the same in any way! And that’s where you need to distinguish between missing the person and missing the memories. When stories end, they just fucking end. Yes, this may sound harsh, but it’s the brutal truth. So even if we wanna repeat the same thing with the same trashy person, it will NEVER EVER be the same. Because people mature, grow and develop and therefore will never come back to the same point – ever. So, on this note, let’s learn to leave the memories in our minds and savour the flavour they’ve left behind. Let us re-feel them when we close our eyes, when our eyes are filled with tears, sometimes thinking about how it’s no longer there. But at the same time, let’s be happy that it all happened, and they’re still here in us, in some way or another. We are all made up of our memories, and that’s why we must live them that way. So allow yourself to miss things. But if it’s gonna hurt like hell, just leave it there. Don’t try to repeat or force something that no longer exists. You may miss it, but you may not want it back. It’s high time to draw a line and move on if we make a decision based solely on nostalgia. Let’s stop thinking about the past and open our eyes to discover what the future has in store for us. The people who left will undoubtedly remain in our hearts, minds and emotions, but those who are waiting to walk our path will want us to open our arms wide to them. ❤️😍

While relationships can be beautiful, they can also be complicated and messy. 🤯 And the root cause of a messy relationship is none other than insecurity. There comes the point in every relationship where one or both partners feel insecure. Insecurity arises from self-doubt, low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and self-love and the fear of losing one’s partner. We often believe that we cannot make our partner happy because we’re unsure of ourselves. This not only takes away your inner peace and affects your mental health, but it also affects your romantic relationship in a dangerous way. You may come off as a terribly jealous person, and your partner may feel too stifled in the relationship. Whatever the reason for your insecurity, it’s important to deal with it healthily so that you can be more honest, open and loving with your partner and build a nurturing relationship together. If you find that you are constantly feeling insecure in your relationship, it’s time to address the root cause of your insecurity. Working on becoming more assertive and building a healthy sense of self-love can do wonders for how you perceive yourself. 😊 And this can reflect in your relationships with others. Gaining self-confidence also gives you the courage to walk away from a toxic relationship if you are being abused. But how can you overcome your insecurities and gain confidence? Listen to this podcast! And don’t forget to check out the first part of this series! Stay tuned for the third part.

We all are selfish to an extent, but some people are just too much into themselves and tend to disregard others. They can even make you feel worthless! Some use you when they have issues, but they are never around when you need them. Sometimes they make you feel inadequate and invisible. But, no matter how the selfish person treats you, it doesn’t mean that you should behave like them and adopt a selfish lifestyle. Instead, stay true to yourself. Be who you are, do what you want, and prioritise yourself. Remember why you are still with this person but retain your good qualities. Don’t stoop down to their level. Self-centred individuals think that only their day, opinion, likes and dislikes matter. So their conversations are also like that – centred around only them and their lives. If you’ve been taking it for a long time, it’s time to snap out of it silently and smartly. If you want to know some calm and smart ways you can deal with self-absorbed people and put them in their right place, here are a few tips that may be useful.

The relationship is on the rocks and about to end, but you can’t accept that your partner, that person whom you loved so much, is about to become your ex. It hurts too much. Even worse, you find yourself begging for them not to leave you. And when they break things off, you can’t stop wishing for them to take you back, hoping that they’ll want to start over with you ... and you hate yourself for it because you know it’s too late. 💔   Honey, you’re not alone. Most people find it heart-wrenching and incredibly difficult to let go of their ex - no matter how bad the relationship was. Begging for love is more common than you think. Many people refuse to let go of their ex and plead with them to come back and give their relationship a second chance. 🥺 Sometimes begging can be a silent cry in your heart, streams of tears or late night crying fits. Sometimes it is loud, verbal and shameful.   But it’s okay to cry. An emotional meltdown is healthy and cleansing - even when it feels like you’re going crazy! 😵🤕 So, give yourself time to break down and express all the pain and heartache. Let the little child living inside you come out. Let the inner child cry, wail, throw a tantrum, stomp its feet, fall on the floor in a puddle of tears and cry. Let all the emotions you feel run wild. 😭 Collapse. Turn your heart inside out and have a good cry. Cry like your mother is holding you... Cry like your dad is watching over you... Your heart has to be flipped inside out before you heal.   But how do you stop begging for love? You may have tried telling yourself that even if you get back together, you’ll always know your ex is with you just because you’ve asked them to come back. Deep down, you know you don’t want a relationship based on pity or pleas for love. You know you want to heal your heart ... but you just don’t know how to do it and stop begging for love. 😢   Hopefully, this podcast can help you deal with this situation and make you realize how wonderful and precious you are. ❤️🤗

The truth is, many of us experience a lack of self-confidence from time to time, and that's perfectly normal. But when it comes to jealousy, personal insecurity and comparison in a relationship, it can drive a wedge between you and your partner. Insecurity can be somewhat positive and cute, as it can inspire you to work harder in the relationship and value your partner more. However, if insecurity starts to get out of hand, it can create a toxic atmosphere in your relationship and wreak havoc on your confidence. Even worst, it can tear apart partners who genuinely love and care about each other. 💔 Feeling insecure in your relationship can be deeply painful and upsetting. It can show up in all kinds of ways. For example, you may have trouble believing that your partner won't cheat on you. You may feel like your bond has been getting weaker and weaker for a while and that the foundation is starting to crumble. Or you may even feel like your partner is constantly on the verge of breaking up with you. 😰 Under these conditions, it can be tough to believe in the future of your relationship, and you may sometimes wonder if the easiest solution would be just to split up. It can also begin to have very negative effects in other areas of your life. Your self-esteem and self-confidence may be undermined, making it difficult to resolve problems. 😟 When insecurity or jealousy begins to surface, it can often seem harmless and somewhat adorable. But if it creeps too deeply into the relationship, it can cause you to act out of character and destroy your relationship. 🤯 So, if insecurity and jealousy are taking a toll on you and your partner, I suggest you listen to this podcast for some ideas to deal with this whole situation! 😊