Married After Kids

Your spouse may be trying to help and still be giving you the exact opposite of what you need.In this episode, I'm breaking down why one person can be asking for emotional support while the other is offering explanations, solutions, or logic, and why those two approaches can make it feel like you're speaking completely different languages. We’ll look at what may actually be happening underneath these frustrating conversations and why validation can feel so hard to give and receive.Most importantly, I'm sharing three practical shifts to help you move out of the same frustrating back-and-forth and toward conversations where both of you can actually feel heard, understood, and cared for.Tune in to discover:• Why your spouse may struggle to validate you in the way you need• The reason logic and emotion can completely miss each other• How your attachment style can make these conversations even harder• What may need to happen before a productive conversation can begin• Three shifts to help you feel more heard and understoodLeave a review for a chance to win The Us System! Let’s Connect!Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention CallCheck out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough CallFollow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! FREE Resources: • Marriage Shutdown Checklist• The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video• 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

Picky eating doesn't just affect kids. It can shape your meals, your mental load, and even the way you and your spouse relate to each other.In this episode, I'm joined by Katie Kimball, author of The Picky Eater Playbook, to talk about what happens when you have a picky eater in the family, whether that's your child, your spouse, or both. We unpack why mealtimes can become so stressful, how well-intentioned habits can keep the struggle going, and what may need to shift before food feels easier.Tune in to discover:• Why picky eating may be affecting more than mealtime• The habits that can unintentionally keep picky eating going• What changes when the picky eater is your spouse• How food struggles can add to the mental load• What can make family meals feel easier againPre-order The Picky Eater Playbook: raisinghealthyfamilies.com/pickymarriedConnect with Lindsay:• Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call• Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! • Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System! 

If all you want is less conflict, some of the things you're doing to keep the peace may actually be creating more of it.In this episode, I'm breaking down how dismissive avoidant attachment can show up in mental load fights and why conversations about household responsibilities, emotions, or unmet needs can feel so frustrating for both partners. If you've ever thought, "Just tell me what you need," wondered why nothing you do seems to be enough, or wanted the conversation to simply be over, this episode is for you.We'll look at the patterns that can keep these same arguments repeating and the shifts that can help you create more connection, less resentment, and the kind of peace you're actually looking for in your marriage.Tune in to discover:• How dismissive avoidance can fuel mental load fights• Why trying to avoid conflict can create even more of it• The mental load patterns you may not realize you're repeating• The surprising connection between mental load and intimacy• What can help the same arguments finally stop repeatingResource Mentioned in Episode• Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s Care Load Report: https://bettershareapp.com/care-load-report (Use code MAK10 for $10 off!)Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System! Let’s Connect!Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention CallCheck out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough CallFollow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! FREE Resources: • Marriage Shutdown Checklist• The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video• 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

You can put a lot of effort into fixing your marriage and still feel like nothing is changing if you're solving the wrong problem.In this special episode, I'm giving you a listen inside my new private audio course, Marriage Shutdown After Kids. I'm sharing the first of three shifts that can help you rebuild the love and care that's been missing and understand why the thing you think is keeping your marriage stuck may not actually be where you need to start.You'll hear how I learned this in my own marriage, why common solutions don't always create the change you're hoping for, and how to identify the area that could become the first domino toward something better.Tune in to discover:• The first shift to make when you're stuck in Marriage Shutdown• Why fixing the obvious problem may not be working• How to identify what's actually keeping your marriage stuck• The four areas that create the foundation of a healthy marriage• How to find the first domino that can start creating real changeThis episode is a preview of my free five-part private audio course, Marriage Shutdown After Kids: The Three Proven Shifts That Finally Rebuild the Love and Care That's Been Missing Since You Had Kids. Listen to the full series here: Marriage Shutdown After KidsDownload the Marriage Shutdown Checklist

Back to school doesn't just change your kids' routines. It can completely change the rhythm of your marriage too.In this episode, I'm sharing the three systems my spouse and I intentionally revisit when we move from summer into the school routine. Because without even realizing it, new schedules can create new expectations, mental load imbalances, and patterns that quickly become "just the way we do things."We'll talk about how to get ahead of the friction before resentment builds, stay connected when your schedules suddenly get busier, and communicate about what you need before the small annoyances turn into bigger fights.Tune in to discover:• The back to school systems that can protect your marriage• How new routines create responsibilities you never consciously agreed to• Why getting ahead of the mental load matters before resentment builds• How to stay connected when school and activities take over your schedule• What to communicate early so small frustrations don't become fightsLeave a review for a chance to win The Us System! Let’s Connect!Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention CallCheck out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough CallFollow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! FREE Resources: • Marriage Shutdown Checklist• The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video• 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book