In Episode 83 here on the podcast we talked about how we planned our girls trip to Tokyo, Japan! We shared how we chose the location, the hotel, the activities we wanted to do, and even how we set expectations beforehand (we were going to be living together after all!)In this episode we’ll share a trip recap! We break down what went well, what we’d do differently next time, and how our trip went overall. Points Discussed in this Episode We score ourselves 1 - 10 on the location, the hotel, and the activities we planned  An overview of our time together, including our itinerary Our favorite stops Hosting our mastermind in person for the first time together! What we would do differently next time Our impressions of Japan Mentioned in this episode: Mimaru Suites NihombashiHarajukuteamLab Planets TokyoYoyogi ParkShibuyaSin Den SalonStylist experience through AirBNBThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences from our girls trip to Tokyo, Japan!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

There are any number of things, people, and situations that can put us in a negative state of mind. Knowing this, how do we get out of that negative state of mind? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with how we identify when we’re in a negative state of mind, and the steps we take to get out of it.Points Discussed in this Episode The power of our minds and how we can choose our response - and the space we give ourselves before responding Covid, running a business, and managing a team  Derek Sivers 5 steps to get out of a negative state of mind You don’t have to always have an answer Having too many “inputs” and how notifications and overwhelm can subconsciously be putting you in a negative state of mind Taking a conscious pause Shifting your focus to something you’re really excited about right now Mentioned in this episode: Hell Yeah or No by Derek SiversEpisode on NKCR w/ Katie KrimitsosThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you get out of a negative state of mind?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Letting go - or “quitting” something - isn’t always easy, but it can absolutely help you expand and grow. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with letting go of things that are no longer serving us, or that we simply don’t enjoy as much as we used to.Points Discussed in this Episode What we believe about “quitting” Should you quit things you love?  Why quitting / letting go of things you feel like you “need” is a good idea Letting go of things you might be doing simply because you think you’re “supposed to” Not letting the sunk cost bias keep you attached to things you should quit or let go of The power of “thought experiments”! Mentioned in this episode: Hell Yeah or No by Derek SiversThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How do you know what to let go of?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Toxic positivity isn’t a term many people are familiar with - us included. First Michele introduced Nicole to the idea, and then Nicole introduced Kate to it. In this episode we’re removing all barriers to discuss how social pressures are preventing us from validating our own - and others - emotions, along with the toll it’s taking on our overall well being.Points Discussed in this Episode What is toxic positivity exactly?  All emotions are valid; to deny yourself certain emotions just makes things worse Intentional vulnerability and how empathy plays a huge role  Michele shares some examples of toxic positivity How social media plays a role How much of your personal life belongs in your online brand? The importance of self-empathy and being able to move through an emotion versus pushing it away Recognizing activities in your life or business that drain you Mentioned in this episode: Deploy Empathy: A practical guide to interviewing customersGeocod.io: Michele’s businessSoftware Social PodcastToxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes (article)MJWHasen.comMichele's TwitterThank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Michele Hansen on toxic positivity!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We’re both ecstatic because we have a girls trip coming up - that we’re going on together! That’s right, friends… Nicole and Kate are jet-setting to Tokyo to meet up with our third mastermind member, Cass, for a week of relaxation, fun, business brainstorming, and exploring.In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with planning this trip: the intention behind it, how we sorted out all the details, and so much more!Points Discussed in this Episode Setting the intention and having a vision for your trip  Being clear about what you want to get out of your trip Planning sessions and keeping track of ideas, places, and things you want to see (we love Google Sheets!)  Sharing your budget and getting on the same page about boundaries and what your routines are Delegating certain research points and holding one another accountable Determining milestone decisions to keep the planning moving  Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Nicole & Kate plan their trip to Tokyo, JapanDon’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We all experience change in our lives, but how we anticipate it, react to it, and adapt to it varies greatly.In this episode we’ll share a discussion on the book Who Moved My Cheese?, a fable that follows the moves of 2 mice and 2 “littlepeople” as they make big life decisions in response to change.Points Discussed in this Episode How do we instinctively react to change?  How our experiences impact our reaction to change as we get older or more mature Which character we relate to the most in the book Being able to help someone to the extent that they want to be helped What would you do if you weren’t afraid? When you change your beliefs, you change your actions, and therefore you change the way you behave Mentioned in this episode:  Who Moved My Cheese? By Spencer JohnsonThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share a book discussion on Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson.Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently? It’s probably not a question you ask yourself often - if ever. But your answer can be incredibly revealing of growth, a perspective shift, and more.In this episode we’ll share a few things we’ve changed our minds about, and what these shifts in our beliefs have taught us.Points Discussed in this Episode You’re wrong about everything; you’ll change your mind about everything How change leads to growth Beliefs and rewriting new truths Fitness tracking, the tooth fairy, regret, and vitamins! Contempt and learning how to disagree better Mentioned in this episode:  Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck by Mark Manson The Power of Regret by Daniel H. Pink  Festival of Dangerous Ideas: Contempt is Corroding Democracy  Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Kara describes it like this: “You know the image of the duck in the pond, and the legs are flailing underwater madly, but the duck just looks like it’s sailing along no big deal?... That’s pretty much a summary of how I feel most of the time!”In this episode Kara pulls back the curtain and shares very candidly what it was like to be the first of her friends to start a family, the defining moment when she knew she had to quit her 9-5 job, and how she managed to start her own business from scratch in the midst of it all.Points Discussed in this Episode Did Kara and John always know they wanted kids?  Kara’s timeline: meeting her husband, moving in together, getting married, starting a family, building multiple businesses Kara’s job situation and their plans as a family once their little girl, Stella, was born  How EVERYTHING changed once Stella was born, plus a defining moment that changed everything for Kara and her family Kara’s journey to discovering other ways to generate revenue outside of her 9-5 job Returning to work while side-hustling, leaving her job, finding out she was pregnant again, AND feeling like she had a million responsibilities all at once  Where Kara found support during a very difficult time How the heck Kara built a business (and then another) in the midst of her life completely changing How to have it all - anytime you want “We will be truly successful when we have all of the things that we need, and a lot of the things that we want.” Mentioned in this episode:  Wedding Planning Podcast on Apple Podcasts WeddingPlanningPodcast.co Kara’s Vineyard Wedding on Etsy If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help, support, or guidance, check out these resources: Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia) Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36 (Australia) Headspace on 1 800 650 890 (USA) BetterHelp (USA) Asking for help shows strength.Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Kara Lamerato on having kids - and starting a business.Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Whether you love it or hate it, there’s no denying that goal setting works really well for a lot of people. But when’s the last time you actually took goal setting seriously and held yourself accountable to accomplishing your goal?In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with goal setting and talk about recent experiences we’ve each had with setting and accomplishing goals!Points Discussed in this Episode 100 Day Goal Challenge on Kate's Take  Win the Year Mini-Course w/ Nicole & Omar! Biggest struggle when it comes to setting goals Why is goal setting so easy for some people but not for others? How big a role accountability plays in setting and accomplishing goals An exercise inspired by Warren Buffet: “The 25 Things”  A fun announcement about some upcoming travel we have planned together! Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: When’s the last time you took goal setting seriously?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Do you ever get to a point in the day where you simply can’t think straight? You’re being asked to make decisions and choices, but you just feel exhausted! Yep… that’s decision fatigue.In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with decision fatigue and some of the ways we’ve learned to combat it.Points Discussed in this Episode What is decision fatigue?  How decision fatigue might show up in our everyday lives  Some helpful tips to combat decision fatigue, starting with awareness Setting expectations for ourselves - and others Setting up daily streaks to build momentum Asking yourself, “What’s my job today?” Mentioned in this episode:  Atomic Habits by James Clear Free Time: Lose the Busy Work, Love Your Business by Jenny Blake Episode 72 with Angela Henderson on NKCR Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How is decision fatigue affecting your everyday life?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We love books, but it’s not always easy to choose your next read. In this episode we share the books we’re reading right now - and what we think of them! Get ready to add one or two to your own reading list!Points Discussed in this Episode Nicole shares the books she’s reading right now  Free Time: Lose the Busy Work, Love Your Business (Jenny Blake) 1Q84 (Haruki Murakami) The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward (Daniel Pink) The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform your Life (Todd Herman) Kate shares the books she’s reading right now The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters (Priya Parker) Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing (Matthew Perry Memoir) The Joy of Missing Out: Live More by Doing Less (Tanya Dalton) The Midnight Library (Matt Haig) Mentioned in this episode:  The Science of Regret: Daniel Pink interview on A Slight Change of Plans Podcast Diane Sawyer interview with Matthew Perry Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What books are you reading right now?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Do you meditate? It’s a question we’ve been asked dozens of times, and typically we’ve both been inclined to say “no”. But what if meditation didn’t have to look a certain way, or go by just one definition?Tune in to today’s special feature with Katie Krimitsos, Founder and Host of the Women’s Meditation Network, and open your mind to a whole new world of what meditation and mindfulness can be!Points Discussed in this Episode The many forms of meditation and how it doesn’t have to “look” any certain way How we see meditation and how we currently “practice” this in our daily lives The Monkey Mind - is it OK to have thoughts during meditation? Common misconceptions about meditation Real-life examples of meditation and how they can help you bring peace and patience into your home and into your relationships Meditation can be stepping outside and putting your feet in the grass, or it can be laying on your bed and closing your eyes and listening to your breath Katie walks us through what “mini moments of mindfulness” are Gratitude as meditation Not being reactive; your ability to control your time and your day You might already be meditating in your day-to-day already The difference between meditation and mindfulness Mentioned in this episode:  Women’s Meditation Network Katie’s Instagram Katie’s Facebook How to enter Katie’s giveaway for a swag bag filled with her favorite health & wellness products, worth over $300! Subscribe to any one of Katie’s podcasts in the Women’s Meditation Network Go to Apple Podcasts and leave an honest Rating & Review Go to Instagram or Facebook, tag Women’s Meditation Network, and share your review! Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Katie Krimitsos on meditation and mindfulness!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Have you ever thought about the rules you live by? Yeah, we hadn’t either - until now!In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with setting aside time to consider our own rules of life, what they are, and why we highly recommend you do it, too!Points Discussed in this Episode The inspiration for this episode We share a healthy handful of our rules of life, including personal cleanliness, spending money on experiences over things, daily movement being a must - and wine and cheese being a perfect meal substitute! Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What are your rules of life?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

How often do you just stop to ponder some of life’s biggest questions? We’re willing to bet not that often, as we know this is the case for us.In this episode we’ll share a discussion on a podcast episode in which a woman shares her story - a story that allowed us to do just that: ponder questions about our existence, about suffering, about mindset, and more.Points Discussed in this Episode Brief overview of Maya Shankar’s story We share a few things that stood out to us, like considering our attitude towards existence, our sensitivity to others’ sufferings, our mindset when it comes to bringing children into this world… We chat about compatibility and being willing to see things from a different perspective The idea of “connected detachment” The power of gratitude Mentioned in this episode:  Episode on the Meditative Story podcast: The Joy of being an unwilling traveler through life Maya’s Podcast: A Slight Change of Plans Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we discuss and reflect on our existence.Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

When this book came up in a random conversation and we realized we had both read it, we were so excited to discuss it! In this episode we’ll share our biggest takeaways and standout moments from the book, How to Live: 27 conflicting answers and one weird conclusion. Don’t worry - no spoilers here!Points Discussed in this Episode Brief overview of the book and how it’s quite different from your traditional read Our favorite chapters and ideas from the book Some interesting connections we found with our top values Our overall feelings on the book Mentioned in this episode: How to Live by Derek SiversThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we discuss the book How to Live by Derek Sivers!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

No one wants to be blindsided by criticism and negative feedback, especially when what they’re sharing is meant to support and empower others.Well, that’s exactly what happened when Angela Henderson published an article on a popular website in Australia called MamaMia, and today she’s joining us to share exactly how she handled that criticism and negative feedback without losing sleep - or her confidence.Points Discussed in this Episode What went down - straight from Angela What she was most surprised about How she handled the criticism and negative comments  Mindset and our beliefs, and how big a role those play in how we see the world Supporting women to speak up and take ownership of their decisions - everyone has a choice How every situation in our life gets presented to us for a reason Being responsible for how you receive others’ feedback and opinions and what you do with that - how you react (or don’t react) Whatever you’re not changing, you’re choosing Trusting that what’s in front of you is working for you and not against you Mentioned in this episode:  AngelaHenderson.com.au Angela’s Article on MamaMia: 'I outsource all my home life admin. Here's exactly how I do it, and how much it costs.' Angela’s Podcast Episode: The Toughest 36 Hours in Business If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help, support, or guidance, check out these resources: Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia) Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36 (Australia) Headspace on 1 800 650 890 (USA) BetterHelp (USA) Asking for help shows strength.Thank you so much for joining us for this special feature episode with Angela Henderson on handling criticism and negative feedback.Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

In our last episode on the podcast (Ep 70) we shared our initial exploration of our core values with you. In today’s episode we’ll continue the convo as our discovery unfolds! Turns out a deep dive into your core values goes a lot farther than we thought - in the best way possible!Points Discussed in this Episode Quick recap of our previous episode, Part I on Values (Ep 70) We revisit our 2nd value (neither of us were convinced we had it nailed!) We discuss some questions from Brené’s worksheet on when we are - and are NOT - living our values An example of when we’re living our values Are “systems” and “freedom” contradictory? Mentioned in this episode:  Episode 70 on Values (Part I) Brene Brown podcast episode on values Via personality test Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do you know what your core values are?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Values are important - we all know this - but have you ever really taken the time to actually write them down… to declare them?In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with values, and how a podcast episode and PDF worksheet from Brené Brown has helped us immensely on our journey to declaring our core values!Points Discussed in this Episode Our serendipitous desire to dig deep into our own values   The anxiety we felt around choosing just 2 core values (we have at least 10-15!... or so we thought) Our experience going through Brené’s PDF worksheet We each share our top 2 values (ok… admission: neither of us are really quite sure about the 2nd - yet!) We decide by the end of this episode that there must be a part II! So, to be continued :) Mentioned in today’s episode: Brene Brown’s podcast episode on valuesThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do you know what your core values are? (Part I)Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Planning and hosting an event, a mastermind, or a retreat is a lot of work. But the experience and outcome is worth every second!In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with planning and hosting our own events, masterminds, and retreats!Points Discussed in this Episode Defining masterminds, events / conferences, and retreats  Our own experience planning and hosting our own events Nicole talks about WebinarNinja Live in San Diego (2015), the WebinarNinja Team Retreat they hosted in Bali (2019), and OzCon in AUS (2022) The importance of setting a goal, an intention, and expectations when planning any type of event Kate talks about Puerto Palooza (2017, 2018), and the Bonus Events they’ve hosted (2019, 2020) Nicole breaks down a behind-the-scenes of OzCon, including how they came up with the idea and details on the execution Kate breaks down the behind-the-scenes of Puerto Palooza and why hosting this mastermind at their home in Puerto Rico was so important to them The importance of asking for feedback post-event to learn what went well and what could be improved next time Our favorite parts about planning and hosting our own events, masterminds, and retreats  Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Have you considered planning and hosting your own event?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

There comes a time when the scales have to tip: you consume to learn, but then what about producing… Isn’t that where the true learnings and experience come from?In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with the different stages of consuming and producing, and how each benefits us in different ways.Points Discussed in this Episode Does consuming sap your creative energy, making it more difficult to produce?  Different types of consuming - not all content is created equally! Our own experiences with producing versus consuming Are energy levels expended at different rates based on the type of producing you’re doing? The many different phases and stages of consuming and producing  Mentioned in this episode: Kate Toon’s Reel on InstagramThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Consuming vs. Producing: Should there be a balance?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.