Adult Puzzle

On this episode Lolade and Lamide discuss closure , the impact of closure on a relationship, is it overrated? How best to handle closure and the importance of clarity.The scenario (02:26), a break up in person or over text (1 2:40), Can closure be detrimental (15:06) , why do people ask for closure(25:39), who needs closure more(28:24), Is closure earned over time(29:19), “what if” (36:18), choices & options(42;29), how to move on when it still doesn’t make sense (47:40)

On this episode Lolade and Lamide are joined by Gbolahan to discuss the “good guys” . What makes someone a good guy, are they taken for granted, do people just prefer toxic? This episode belongs in the podcast hall of fame, tap in.The scenario(2:45), who is the “good guy”(5:30), getting past the “hoe phase” (14:30), knowing what you want (19:29), just a sprinkle (23:00), the flip side (26:02), preferences (36:00)

On this episode, Lolade and Lamide are joined by Fisayo to discuss conflicts in friendships. What are the most common causes of conflict within our friendships, how do we manage conflicts and the importance of accountability.The scenario (4:00), The trust element(14:29), typical causes of conflict (19:30), Managing conflict in friendships(27;12), Avoiding accountability during conflict(31:40), The friendship meter game (43:32)

On this episode Lolade and Lamide are joined by the amazing Nonso for a very hilarious and honest discussion on physical attractions in relationships. They discuss misconceptions, common errors, the importance of looks, infatuation and getting too comfortable in relationships. You don’t want to miss this.The scenario(10:15), Honesty and delivery(18:18), Does physical attraction/preference outweigh the non physical things(20:39), ). Can attraction grow on you (29:27), Can physical attraction be misleading(37:50), Lust/Infatuation(42:50), Getting too comfortable in a relationship(51:36)

On this episode Lolade and Lamide are joined by the podfather himself Osagie, to discuss “black tax” , family expectations and its impact on adults (young and old). The conversation explores limits and culture surrounding what you are obligated to and what you can do. It’s an episode you do not want to miss.Scenario (8:19), a unique investment (9:57), expectations versus position & gender (11:33), can you be excused (20:43), family obligations (26:56), understanding limits(35:00), Would you rather (41:00)Form more information on all episode releases and all things Adult Puzzle, follow @adultpuzzle on Instagram & Twitter.Email: life@adultpuzzlepod.com

On this episode, Lolade and Lamide discuss compromises , ultimatums and boundaries in relationships. Is compromising normal and are there consequences to not compromising? The hosts dive into all that and lots more.The scenario (2:35) , an unspoken rule (9:25), understanding boundaries (15:00), being self aware (20:30), keeping tabs (33:00), Values (36:40)

Record breaking episode (4:25) , The scenario(6:55), Does body count matter (14:58), Double standards (23:28), Judging (33:45), When would you like to know(38:39), Random facts (50:02)

The scenario (7:30), Friendships and friendship group dynamics (11:48), Power dynamics in friendships (18:20), Can friendships exist without hierarchy (34:13), Bullying in friendship circles (45:40)

Today’s Puzzle(2:43), Telling your partner how much you make (10:25), When is it okay to ask about money while dating(13:32), Financial literacy (20:55), How important are finances in relationships (27:35),Classic case study(35:51), House husbands(43:00), Gender & Cultural  influence impact  in financial dynamics(58:05), Dating someone with “potential” (1:08:08)Sign up for our newsletter to get subsequent episodes and other goodies directly in your inbox: https://adultpuzzle.substack.com/ 

In this episode, Lolade and Lamide discuss physical alterations and the current craze around them. They discuss reactions to partners/people who want to get procedures, societal influence and the choice of disclosure.Welcome back/Offseason (1;30), The Scenario (8:30), Societal influence and insecurities (14:45), peer pressure versus self-confidence (17:59), Thoughts on getting physically altering surgery (29:27), Disclosing when you get surgery (41:17)Sign up for our newsletter to get subsequent episodes and other goodies directly in your inbox: https://adultpuzzle.substack.com/ 

On this episode, the hosts discuss mental health and the stigma surrounding the topic as well as even having the conversation. They discuss the importance of being honest about the reality we face, health check-in’s, responding responsibly to situations, the role of therapy and lots more.Did you know?(3:20), Defining mental health (9:21), poor mental health & mental illness differences(15:00), check in days & responses(32:00), Black men & mental health (36:25), how to get help(40:51), message to our younger self(51:30) 

On this episode Ike joins Lamide & Lolade to talk about religion and spirituality. The conversations cover differences in denominations, religious practices, what it means to be spiritual versus religious, personal journeys and lessons learned. It’s an honest conversation amongst friends, enjoy!Denominations (7:05), Is religion and spirituality the same (10:43), is there a right/wrong way to practice religion (18:00),  seek the answers (27:20), walking through my spiritual journey (31:00), lessons learned and helpful tips(1:03:58)

In this episode, Femi and Naya join the podcast to discuss colourism. We dive into what colourism means and its effect on everyday living and our community. What’s the basis, what’s the mindset, the role of media plus can it be moved past from. This and many more are discussed in today’s episode, enjoy.What’s colourism(15:00), colourism vs racism(17:34), The paper bag test (21:20), colourism around me(28:00), Role of media (50:50), Colourism & gender (55:15), can society escape the colourist mindset? (58:26), Note to my younger self (1:3:25)

On this episode, Itoro joins the pod to discuss all things romantic relationships. We explore general practices, question the norm and give our 2 cents on what we understand by romantic relationships. We also discuss love languages, romance vs intimacy, love vs lust and lots more.What is a romantic relationship (4:04), What does a healthy relationship mean (5:11), “Types” (6:50), romance without intimacy?(9:00), Love languages (15:13), off limits first date conversations (25:00), love vs lust (30:42), when is it time to walk away? (42:20) , Long distance relationships (51:07)

In this episode, the AP stage is graced with Bolanle and Ike as they discuss their hair journeys. The episode discusses hair tips and tricks, the price of maintenance, media portrayal of black hair, the beauty of black hair and lots more.A little backstory (4:11), Thoughts about your hair and cost of maintenance (25:15), The reality of wash days (31:20), Fun facts (33:32) Media portrayal of black hair by society (36:44), Advice to your younger self(58:18).

Who is an immigrant (4:01), Lamide’s immigration story and life as an immigrant  (5:08), Migrating as a student from Nigeria (7:47), Kez’s immigration story (17:02), What is OPT and STEM? (17:30), Life as an immigrant for Kez (27:18), Challenges for international students (30:00), Lolade’s immigration story (47:05), Cultural differences (57:33), What would make you go back home (1:07:05)

Lola the explorer (2:00), this or that(7:09), Fitness and toning(27:06), What a good fitness lifestyle looks like(30:00), Honesty with oneself (46:58), Lolade’s fitness evolution (54:38), Lamide’s view on fitness & goals (1:07:00), Lolade’s fitness goals (1:15:08) , Lessons Learned about the fitness journey (1:17:20)

Rapid fire (4:33), When is it time to meet “the friends” (8:00), what does dating even mean today (10:47), Can situationships be exclusive (13:29), casual vs intentional dating (15:07), stages of dating (18:34), Social media’s influence on dating culture(33:42), Catfishing (43:31), What’s your type (49:12), Red flags (1:00:32),  How do you know it’s time to make it official (1:09:01)

What financial goals look like(4:20), A unique view on money(12:17), Delayed gratification (14:10), When is a good time to start making conscious financial decisions (17:44), The money division buckets (24:25), Negative financial decisions(27:48), The borrowing/lending principle (40:50), The importance of financial literacy (44:46), About Savings (49:06), Savings vs investment (57:36), Financial tips (1:07:18).

The intro of all intro’s (1:43 ) , Breakfast/breakup stories (2:40), Let’s talk premeditated breakups (9:50), when do you end a relationship (17:37), Good vs Bad breakups (24:00), How soon after a break up do you move on (41:54), Mutual breakups (56:33), Deal breakers (1:00:33), Staying friends after a breakup(1:16:19)For email & Ad inquiries: life@adultpuzzlepod.comAdultPuzzle on TwitterAdultPuzzle on Instagram