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#063. What is actually going on in the brain when we grieve? And how do grief and science work together?This Let’s Chat episode explores the affect of grief on the brain and whether science can help us understand grief and love, or even prepare for loss. These Let’s Chat… episodes pop-up every now and then instead our 101 loss episodes, as I (Claire Sandys) chat to a guest who has lived-experience or expertise in a particular area that can help us deal with, or prepare for, loss.In this Let’s Chat I’m talking to Mary-Frances O'Connor, an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Arizona, and author of the book 'The Grieving Brain: The surprising science of how we learn from love and loss'. Mary-Frances conducts studies into understanding the grief process from a psychological and physiological point of view.  Last year, a friend sent me an interview with Mary-Frances for The British Psychological Society and the headline was - 'You can't really study grief without studying love' - I instantly knew I needed to talk to Mary-Frances on the podcast about this, and when I asked her, she said 'yes!' (my favourite answer).  Interview link: https://www.bps.org.uk/volume-35/may-2022/you-cant-really-study-grief-without-studying-loveMary-Frances brings a new perspective to loss, the part love plays in grief, why going through love and then loss is still better than not loving at all, and the distinction between grief and grieving, as she chats from from a viewpoint we haven’t really tackled yet on the podcast - science. For more about Mary-Frances and her book visit:https://www.maryfrancesoconnor.com/To buy 'The Grieving Brain': https://amz.run/6Jno (paperback due out Feb 2023) And you can find her on social media at:https://www.twitter.com/doctormfohttps://www.facebook.com/maryfrancesohttps://www.instagram.com/doctormfoconnorhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/maryfrancesoconnor/And with each Let’s Chat… guest I'm building a tool shed (metaphorically) of tools to help you face and get through loss. So let’s see what Mary-Frances adds to my growing -----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
I love the comedy-drama Ted Lasso and so it was always going to be next on my list of TV programmes to explore on the podcast. Specifically around how the programme approaches loss and grief in Season 1.Welcome to The Silent Why, a podcast exploring every type of loss and grief and all the places we find them.I'm Claire Sandys and every now and then, among our regular episodes looking for 101 types of loss, I've decided to share another love of mine - commentating on fictional storytelling. And to remain on theme I'm going to explore specific programmes, books or stories that handle grief or loss in a particularly good (or maybe even bad!) way.The programme I'm dissecting today is a comedy-drama that launched in 2020 - Ted Lasso (Apple TV+).  SPOILER ALERT: This episode does contain spoilers from 5:40 onwards, basically after my husband's impromptu piano rendition of the theme tune (which is always worth hearing!)So join me as I take a closer look at the themes of grief and loss in these episodes and how the writers and producers handled a subject very close to my heart (and my podcast). Oh and it's impossible to do this review without swear words in the quotes (you'll see why, courtesy of one character in particular), but don't worry, I beeped them out, just be aware if little/sensitive ears are nearby.Watch the Ted Lasso Season 1 trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3u7EIiohs6U Ted Lasso Season 2 trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reP1gVGpFKoWatch Ted Lasso on Apple TV+ or look into a free trial here: https://apple.co/_TedLasso  More trailer links: https://www.apple.com/uk/tv-pr/originals/ted-lasso/trailers-videos/-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
The Silent Fri-days

The Silent Fri-days

2023-01-1305:15

*Announcement Episode* In this short episode we want to let you know about some changes to the podcast from next week, and why. From Tuesday we'll be releasing one episode a week instead of two, and this is for a few valuable reasons we've outlined in this episode. To quote the wonderful Olaf from Frozen - "All good things, all good things." We'll be providing all the same kind of content - in fact, we're hoping it'll get even bigger and better.If you'd like to support the show with your time, money or encouragement, visit: www.thesilentwhy.com/support to see how to do that.-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#062. Ever felt the pain of a broken dream? Those great expectations which turned into even greater disappointment? Hopefully this episode will restore some hope that new beginnings can be found, whatever the dream you lost. This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of permanent loss.Loss #40 of 101 - Loss of dreamsMeet Sheridan Voysey, a writer, speaker and broadcaster who moved from Australia to England just over a decade ago, pursuing a new beginning with his wife, Merryn, after finally accepting their dream of having children was not to be. Their decision to move across the world and start again was to be the making of Merryn and her career, but for Sheridan it also meant the crushing end of a dream career he'd been cultivating and pursuing for many years. In 1995, Sheridan conceived the idea of the Open House show, a talk radio show that interviewed guests from around the world on issues of life and faith. It was a further 10 years of work before that dream became a reality and even longer before Sheridan got to host it. And it was this dream career and blossoming reputation that he had to give up to start again on a new continent where he was unknown.Sheridan speaks openly and honestly about his experience of childlessness, identity shifts he had to come to terms with, grieving broken dreams, facing new beginnings (even when they involve sad endings), and the unexpected blessings that he's unearthed along the way.For more about Sheridan visit: https://sheridanvoysey.comFor his books and projects:Resurrection Year: Turning Broken Dreams Into New Beginnings - https://sheridanvoysey.com/resurrectionyear/The Making of Us: Who We Can Become When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned -  https://sheridanvoysey.com/themakingofus The Creed: https://sheridanvoysey.com/thecreedFriendship Lab (new project in development): http://www.friendshiplab.orgMerryn's acceptance speech: https://sheridanvoysey.com/an-invitation-to-buckingham-palaceSheridan's statement about leaving Open House:https://sheridanvoysey.com/my-open-house-announcement-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
Well, January is here, another marmite-month for many (in England that means you either love it or hate it), so what can we learn from the first month of the year?Welcome to another My Why from me, Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast.My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/theseasonofjanuaryThis My Why is number 11 of 12 blogs in the series ‘To every thing there is a season’, where on the first Friday of the month for a whole year (which I started in March for some reason) I'm sharing lessons I’m learning from each month, and I've reached January.January gets a lot of bad press and I can see why, but I'm finding it has a lot to teach me about choice, beginnings, endings, contradictions, extremes and getting safely through doorways. So if you're keen to see what you can learn from January - this blog's for you. If you've got the January blues - this blog's for you. If you're just a nosey creature that wants to know how on earth you can find anything good in January - it's also for you.-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#061. Dislike New Year's Eve? Don't get it? Don't want to be a part of it? Hate it even?!Well allow us to show you how you can turn it from foe into friend.This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.We (Claire & Chris) know New Year is hard and disliked by a lot of people, but as it's technically only a calendar change we also know a lot of these feelings actually stem from personal hurts and pains people have around their previous New Year experiences.So we've got 6 top tips on how to find ways to enjoy New Year and make it into something helpful instead of hurtful. We've also got 20 questions you can ask yourself and work through if you want to assess where you are right now and where you want to be next year. You can copy and paste them from the podcast transcript if you want to work through those (https://thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.com/1799189/11953644-another-new-year-why).And here's the link to the New Year song we mention and quote from - 'For all that you have done' by Rend Collective: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AYelp1pMpVs  Wherever you are, however you're feeling, we wish you a New Year filled with hope, because... 'Hope is being able to see that there is light, despite all of the darkness.' Desmond Tutu.For more of our content on New Year check out these episodes/blogs:Blog: Know Hope (read/listen):https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/knowhopeEpisode 13 - That weird time between loss of an old year and start of a new year: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/podcast/episode/4be504ec/that-weird-time-between-loss-of-an-old-year-and-start-of-a-new-year 5 short hopelet episodes for bursts of hope:https://www.thesilentwhy.com/podcast/episode/4c222f81/hopelet-1-when-your-hope-is-small-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
The Silent Why podcast is on a mission to seek hope in 101 different types of permanent loss. We (your hosts, Claire and Chris Sandys) also love a good spin-off. In this short episode Claire helps you find what you need.Links to episodes/blogs mentioned...Episode 13 -  ‘That weird time between loss of an old year and the start of a new year’. (Chris & I chat about that weird time between Christmas and New Year): https://www.thesilentwhy.com/podcast/episode/4be504ec/that-weird-time-between-loss-of-an-old-year-and-start-of-a-new-year   My Why: Christmas - friend or foe foe foe?:https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/christmasfriendorfoe My Why: A weary world rejoices: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/awearyworldrejoices   Episode 12: 'Chris’ loss of Christmas Spirit': https://www.thesilentwhy.com/podcast/episode/4b23ecc3/chris-loss-of-christmas-spirit  My Why blog - Where’s the rest?: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/wherestherestMy Why blog - What’s the worst thing about grief: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/worstthingaboutgriefMy Why: The season of December: https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/theseasonofdecember Where’s your hope at? (5 short Hopelet episodes): https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/wheresyourhopeatMy Why: Know Hope:https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/knowhope And lots of other blog topics available on the blog (www.thesilentwhy.com/blog) like: Permission to grieveWhat is loss?Living in the bittersweetAre you lonely?Disappointed with lifeSunshine doesn’t fix everythingWhen did we all get so fearful?And one of my favourites - Meet My friend, the moon.Episode 3  - Loss of Fertility (our personal experience with loss and childlessness): -----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#060. Christmas can be a tough time, right? If your answer is 'absolutely not' then this festive special might not be for you. But if you feel a sad little 'yeah it is' voice inside, then come with us as we chat through why some find it hard and how we can find - and share - comfort through it.We're Claire and Chris Sandys, hosts of The Silent Why podcast, lovers of deep conversation, building community and marzipan. We're also childless (not by choice) which adds a layer of discomfort to this special time of the year.This time last year we recorded a similar episode (Chris' loss of Christmas spirit) and  since then we've had a year of chatting to people who have been through loss, and found it has massively helped us to find our own ways to navigate and cope with grief, especially at tricky times like Christmas. So in this episode we reflect on that and how we're feeling about this Christmas.We're also joined by a host of special guest voices, from previous Silent Why episodes, who share something short about what makes Christmas hard for them, and then something sweet about what is bringing them comfort.Thank you to Sue Brayne, Virginia Solomons, Lori Alcorn, Alina Mavis, Sasha Bates, Lisa Newman, Peter Ellis, Elizabeth Leon, Jennifer Bute, Lis Whybrow, and Greg Williams.Plus, a beautiful piano rendition of In the Bleak Midwinter was recorded especially for this episode by the very talented - Jon Sandys. Thank you, Jon!We know not everyone's Christmas will be happy, but we are finding we can all have hope, so we're wishing you all a very Hopey Christmas instead.To listen to our 'Chris' loss of Christmas Spirit' episode from last year:https://www.thesilentwhy.com/podcast/episode/4b23ecc3/chris-loss-of-christmas-spirit -----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#059. What is the relationship between food and grief?This Let’s Chat… episode is exploring the relationship between food and grief. Does it help or hinder?Heal or hurt? These Let’s Chat… episodes pop-up every now and then instead of one of our 101 different types of loss, as I (Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast) chat to a guest who has lived-experience or expertise in a particular area that can help us deal with, or prepare for, loss.In this Let’s Chat… I’m talking to Lisa Kolb Ruland, a food editor, writer and young widow who divides her time between Washington, D.C. and Brooklyn, New York.Lisa was a full-time food editor when she went through her own very sudden loss; in 2014 her husband Erik was in a group of explorers who died in a mountain climbing accident. Lisa manages the food website Unpeeled Journal and the ‘Food + Grief’ project that you’ll hear us speak about. She has a unique insight into both areas from a personal and professional standpoint. With Thanksgiving just gone and Christmas ahead I thought it was a good time to explore the relationship we can have with food when we, or others around us, are grieving. Food plays a huge role in our lives, and therefore in our grief too, whether it’s eating alone for the first time, big family meals, taking other 'griefy' people food, under-eating, over-eating, cooking recipes that link us to those we’ve lost, or avoiding foods too connected to those we’ve lost, there’s so much to explore.For more about Lisa visit her website:https://www.lisakolbruland.comOr the Unpeeled Journal: https://unpeeledjournal.comOr her Food + Grief project: https://unpeeledjournal.com/category/features/food-grief-projectOr her amazing food photos: https://www.instagram.com/unpeeledjournalAnd with each Let’s Chat… guest I'm building a tool shed (metaphorically) of tools to help you face and get through loss. So let’s see what Lisa adds to my growing list of tools.-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
Because it is an art, not a science. Have you got someone coming to your family or group gathering and you're not sure how to include them and make them feel welcome? Maybe they're single, childless, divorced, grieving, unemployed, or just having a really tough time and you're keen for them to fit in. I'm here to help.Welcome to another My Why from me, Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast.My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/theartofmakingeveryonewelcomeAs a childless woman I know it's hard in gatherings, especially with families. And not only for those of us that don't feel like we fit in, but also for those that are trying to help us fit in. So I thought I'd offer some tips on how to include someone in your gathering and make them feel truly at home. Now, bear in mind this is only for those that want to expend time and energy on helping someone that might find fitting in a bit difficult at the moment. It's not really for people who don't have trouble socialising or feeling like they belong, or for those that don't want to invite people round and try to go the extra mile to make sure they enjoy themselves. I'd also say that this isn't meant as a way of encouraging you to invite others round just for the sake of it either, that can do more harm than good.But if you really want to help a friend or family member feel like they fit in this Christmas, or at a gathering another time, and you know they find it difficult because they're the only single person, or the only childless couple etc, then these tips will help you do that. You can find the other blog I mention here - 'How to talk to the grieving': https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrieving-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#058. How do you grieve a loss that others might be happy about?This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.Loss #39 of 101 - Loss of riding a motorbikeMeet Mark Riddles, from Northern Ireland, who was hit by a car while out riding his motorbike in 2021. Despite only going 30-40mph the collision was enough to end Mark’s motorbiking days, a passion he’d had for as long as he could remember. Mark had two (very nice!) motorbikes and loved everything about the biking life. However, like many family members of bikers, not everyone was as encouraging of his potentially dangerous hobby, so when he had to give it up it wasn’t just sympathy he got but also a bit of ‘I told you so’. This episode opens a fascinating conversation about how sympathetic we are to other people's losses if we can't understand the love for what they lost. How we might put our own spin on their loss because of our opinion of what happened. An important example of how all losses contain grief.In this episode Mark talks openly about his experience of losing something he loved, how he might have responded differently if he didn’t have a family, why he hadn’t really thought of it as a loss to grieve before, and what he wants others to know in similar situations. -----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
Well, December is here - love it or loathe it - we're in it, and what does it want to teach us this year? Welcome to another My Why from me, Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast.My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/theseasonofdecemberThis My Why is the next episode of my ‘To every thing there is a season’ series, where on the first Friday of the month for a whole year I will share lessons I’m learning from each month of the year, and I've reached December.December is a painful and busy month for lots of people, and I get it, being childless we've found this season particularly hard over the years, but as well as a season that can be hurtful, I've found it also has the power to heal too, and I'm going to share share why, and how, through this blog.If you're dreading this month and season - do not fear (as the angel said) - I'm here to tell you there are things you can do to make it better. If you want to that is.As with so many things in life, I've found it's all about choice. Other blogs and links I mention or you might want to check out at this time of year:*Blog: Christmas - friend or foe, foe, foe?*https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/christmasfriendorfoe*A weary world rejoices (for the weary ones)*https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/awearyworldrejoices*The season of October (a.k.a Scragglepie's debut)*https://www.thesilentwhy.com/post/theseasonofoctober*My new daily photo Instagram account*https://www.instagram.com/aviewobserved-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#057. Imagine what it might be like to lose everything around you - husband, house, car, money, financial security, and even your trust in people. Now imagine what that would be like if it was all because you met and fell in love with a psychopath.   This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.Loss #38 of 101 - Loss of a realityMeet Mary Turner Thomson, from Scotland, who has an incredible story about the loss of her whole reality when her world - as she knew it - fell apart in 2006.Mary met Will through internet dating, got married and had children, but six years later she had a phone call from another woman that shattered everything Mary thought she knew about her life. The man Mary had married turned out to be a serial bigamist, con man, convicted sex offender and a psychopath (by the true definition of the word). In this episode Mary talks openly about her experience of multiple losses including the devastating loss of her wonderfully supportive mum to cancer, just months after it all happened. Mary has used her experience to help many other women in similar situations and wrote an amazing book telling the full story (The Bigamist - https://amz.run/6C6Y). Her experience has since led her to study and write about psychopaths, which added a fascinating layer to our chat and prompted her second book (The Psychopath - https://amz.run/6C6Z). In our fascinating chat Mary talks about what it’s like to process so many losses in one go, her desire to help others and not be a victim, the difficult loss of her mum which still affects her greatly, what the term ‘psychopath’ really means and why she doesn’t vilify the man who conned her.For more about Mary Turner Thomson and her books visit: www.maryturnerthomson.com and for more about her new social enterprise The Book Whisperers visit: www.thebookwhisperers.com -----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
The Why Silent?

The Why Silent?

2022-11-0803:25

*Announcement Episode*  This is just a short hello to let you know we are having a three-week break from releasing episodes as normal. We wanted to offer a short explanation, so this mini episode explains why The Silent Why won't appear in your feed until the beginning of December 2022.Out of the two of us, Claire carries the bulk of the load with the mission to explore 101 different types of loss, and producing two episodes a week demands a lot of time, effort, energy and emotion. While we love it, we don't want this to drown out her other passions, such as creative writing, and so we're scheduling occasional breaks like this to allow her to stop and check our priorities. Plus, it's also important to make time to focus on our own loss and check-in with that, so that's what much of November 2022 will be about for us. We have some brilliant people to introduce you to in December so we're excited about coming back refreshed and reenergised ...and hopefully another step closer to publishing a book!In the meantime, if you'd like to support the show with your time, money or encouragement, visit: www.thesilentwhy.com/support to see how to do that.And a special thanks to Chris for the sound effects in this episode. ;) -----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
I've berated November in many of my previous 'Season of...' blogs, so now it's here, do I still feel the same about this grey month?Welcome to another My Why from me, Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast. My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/theseasonofnovemberThis My Why is the next episode of my ‘To every thing there is a season’ series, where on the first Friday of the month for a whole year I will share lessons I’m learning from each month of the year, and I've reached November.November is known in the northern hemisphere for being fairly dull, grey and wet. It's not got great autumn colour, it's not Christmas - what is it?! Is it just a depressing start to winter? Or is there more to November than meets the eye? Is it angry or passionate? Is it full of depressing grey loss or helping us face our own losses? Let's find out...And to follow my new Instagram account that I mention pop over to - www.instagram.com/aviewobserved-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#056. Grief can be hard enough to talk about, but throw 'sex' into the same sentence and you've got the makings of an intriguing conversation that many people will willingly side-step. But it's a conversation that needs to be had.So what is 'sexual grief'? And how do we know if we've encountered it?This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.Loss #37 of 101 - Loss through sexual griefMeet Edy Nathan, a licensed therapist, certified sex therapist, public speaker and published author. Edy is currently working on her second book, based around the area of sexual grief which is an area not openly discussed.We explore it in this conversation, as well as who it impacts and why it's important. It's important to note sexual grief doesn't just relate to the act of sex or sexual abuse, it also includes the loss of touch and physical contact (something Covid has greatly affected), the loss of affection which every human needs from birth, and also incorporates damaging belief systems that say you don’t deserve these things, or you were unwanted as a child, or detached from parents.Edy speaks as an expert but also someone who has experience, having been the victim of sexual abuse as a child and also having watched cancer take the life of her partner, Paul, when she was in her twenties.For more about Edy and her book, 'It’s Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss', visit: https://edynathan.com/-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
I love the BBC TV sitcom Ghosts and so when I watched an episode in the latest series that revolved around grief and loss (the very themes my podcast is based on) I just had to re-watch it. Twice. And then I thought, why not share my musings with you too? And so a new addition to The Silent Why family was created.Welcome to The Silent Why, a podcast exploring every type of loss and grief and all the places we find them.I'm Claire Sandys and every now and then, among our regular episodes and my audio blogs, I've decided to share another love of mine - commentating on fictional storytelling. And to remain on theme I'm going to explore specific programmes, books or stories that handle grief or loss in a particularly good (or maybe even bad!) way.The first programme I'm dissecting is a recent episode of one of my favourite British TV sitcoms - Ghosts, from the BBC. Specifically Episode 4 of Series 4, called Gone Gone.  SPOILER ALERT: This episode does contain spoilers from 5:40 onwards, basically after my husband's impromptu piano rendition of the theme tune (which is well worth hearing, and really hard to play!).So join me as I take a closer look at the themes of grief and loss in this episode and how the writers and producers handled a subject very close to my heart (and my podcast).To see what these Ghosts look like, you can view the sitcom trailer here:  https://youtu.be/5e0nB1mSd9QTo watch the episode visit: BBC iPlayer:https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p0d0mkkc/ghosts-series-4-4-gone-goneAmazon Prime:https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/video/detail/B0B8T2GNB5/ref=atv_dp_season_select_s4 Apple TV:https://tv.apple.com/gb/show/ghosts/umc.cmc.2grssoqzw298ke40dfed13j74Just Watch:https://www.justwatch.com/uk/tv-series/ghosts/season-4-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#055. Let’s Chat… about you, me and personality.More to the point, how can a personality tool lead us towards knowing more about who we are and how we can better navigate loss, grief and stress. These Let’s Chat… episodes pop-up every now and then instead of one of our 101 different types of loss, as I (Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast) chat to a guest who has experience or expertise in a particular area that can help us deal with, or prepare for, loss.In this Let’s Chat… I welcome back Lori Alcorn, from Manitoba in Canada. Lori spoke to us in Episode 24 about the loss of multiple pregnancies, infertility and childlessness. It’s from her experience in this area that she’s created ‘At a Loss Infertility Supports’ to provide resources like Life Coaching, therapeutic art journaling, grief gifts, and her book; The Pregnant Pause. She's also a certified Enneagram Coach and uses it in her life-coaching.The Enneagram is apparently “one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.” It has nine basic personality types, but as you’ll hear it goes a lot deeper than just those. Lori and I explored how it can be of use to us in everyday life, but also when we’re going through stressful times like loss and grief.For more about Lori, her website and social media visit: https://linktr.ee/AtALossInfertility For more about The Enneagram: The Enneagram Institute: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Free basic Enneagram test: https://personalitypath.com/ For an easy place to start your Enneagram journey, try the book, ‘The Road Back to You’ by Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne StabileAvailable on Amazon: https://amz.run/62yW (.co.uk)https://amz.run/62yX (.com)And with each Let’s Chat… guest I'm building a whole tool shed (metaphorically), of tools to help you face and get through loss. So let’s see what Lori adds to my growing list of tools.-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
My Why: Hermontage II

My Why: Hermontage II

2022-10-2110:09

I’m back with another episode full of hope and encouragement from our podcast guests.Welcome to another My Why from me, Claire Sandys, co-host of The Silent Why podcast. My Why episodes are weekly audio shorts of my latest blog post. If you'd prefer to read it, you can find it here: thesilentwhy.com/post/hermontage2Yes our podcast is about loss but it's also about hope. And the biggest dollop of hope we've received so far comes from our guests and their answers to the final question we always ask - "What's your Herman?"For a full explanation visit: thesilentwhy.com/herman. The question offers our guests a way of sharing something that has helped or encouraged them on their journey through grief. Today I'm sharing a few more with you in the hope that wherever you are, and whatever you're doing, something speaks to you in a way you need. -----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
#054. What’s it like grieving the loss of your child’s child? How does the grief of a grandparent differ from that of a parent? This is The Silent Why, a podcast on a mission to open up conversations around loss and grief and to see if hope can be found in 101 different types of loss.Loss #36 of 101 - Loss of a young granddaughterMeet Greg Williams from Cayuga, Indiana, where he lives with his wife, Marsha. Greg has been an English Teacher for 40 years, and he and his wife have five children and twelve grandchildren. Sadly, their first grandchild, Reagan, died in 2006 at the age of just two years old, and in this episode Greg shares his grief journey with us.Reagan’s death was diagnosed as Shaken Baby Syndrome, also known as Abusive Head Trauma or Shaken Impact Syndrome, and her death was the result of being shaken violently by her mother’s boyfriend. We've spoken to several parents who have faced the grief of losing a child, but this is the first time we've spoken to a grandparent about what the grief feels like from their perspective. Greg openly and honestly talks to us about the grief of losing a granddaughter he was very close to, the frustrations with the DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services) system, the complexities of grief when the death is at the hands of someone else, the feelings of guilt, the challenges of trying to help in the area of preventative abuse, and setting up their charity Reagan’s Rescue.For more about Greg and Reagan’s Rescue visit: www.reagansrescuefund.comAnd you can buy Greg’s book, which includes his equally beautiful and heart-breaking journal entries, on Amazon: https://amz.run/62NC (UK)https://amz.run/62NE (US)-----Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn Support the show through: buymeacoffee.com/thesilentwhy Review the show: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Goodpods More about the hosts, our childless journey, photos of guests, blog, and official 101 losses list: thesilentwhy.com What's a Herman? - thesilentwhy.com/hermanTips on how to help and talk to griefy people: thesilentwhy.com/post/howtotalktothegrievingEpisode transcripts and support the show: thesilentwhy.buzzsprout.comThank you for listening.
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