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Welcome to Co-creating Peace, a podcast focused on Conscious Communication and Conflict Transformation. Do you have an important conversation that you know you need to have, but are dreading because you fear it will not go well? Do you avoid confrontation because you equate confrontation with conflict? Do you avoid conflict because you believe the only two approaches to conflict are fight or flight, and that nothing good ever comes from conflict? Then, Co-creating Peace is the podcast for you! In each 30-minute weekly episode, we will explore powerful tools and practices you can use to evolve your approaches to the important, yet difficult conversations you need to have. Each episode will be rich with a variety of tools, understandings, and advice in response to questions from people just like you. Your host, Kathleen Oweegon is the founder of Bridges of Peace Communication & Conflict Resolution Services. She brings to you over 20 years experience as a mediator, facilitator, and interpersonal communication coach, as well the shared wisdom of other experts in human relations, communication, and conflict resolution. Do you have a question or concern about a communication dynamic with someone in your life that you'd like some advice about? Are you wondering about how to tell your boss that their breath odor is offensive without shaming them? Thinking about taking a romantic relationship to the next step, but you aren't sure about how to negotiate getting your relationship needs met? Wishing you had the right words for a sensitive conversation you know you need to have? Are you longing to resolve a conflict or break a conflict cycle with someone in your life? Submit your questions to Kathleen at: oweegon@bridgesofpeace.com, and she will give you detailed answers in a podcast!Listen to Co-creating Peace and become empowered to co-create peace in your life!
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Welcome to “Why CARE?" Episode #52 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.Today, I am speaking with Sam Thiara about an acronym he has created that is central to his outlook and his work: CARE, which stands for Collaboration, Adaptability, Resilience and Empathy. We’ll talk about why this is so important and how it might be applied.Sam Thiara is a professional who has created a personal journey as a speaker, storyteller, writer, educator, mentor, coach, entrepreneur, problem solver and community activator. His goal is to engage individuals in their personal and professional development, work with teams and organizations on alignment and the 45+ non-profits that he has worked with over the years.  Presently, he teaches at the Beedie School of business, at Simon Fraser University and is also the Founder and Chief Motivating Officer at Ignite the Dream Coaching and Consulting, a platform that engages his audience to define their path.  A key element is transformational practices where he has become an expert in career coaching (15-40 year old’s) with over 5,000 conversations to date and supporting teams and organizations.  He has authored two books, one on storytelling and the other a travel memoir about his journey to India to find his ancestral roots with a faded photograph.  He has also spoken at two different TEDx conferences.He is the author of “Lost and Found” in which he tells the story of his seemingly impossible quest to find his grandfather’s village in India —armed with little more than a faded photograph.To learn more about Sam Thiara and his work, visit his website at: www.sam-thiara.com 
Welcome to “An Attitude of Gratitude” – Episode #51 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. When nothing seems to be going your way, your best-laid plans are thwarted by the Fates, and it feels as though the bird of paradise is leaving droppings on your head, it is so easy to go into a dark, desperate, and angry place in your psyche. It’s tempting to scream “Why me!?!” or “Screw you!” to the Universe and the powers that be, or even to vent that anger and frustration on some poor undeserving soul who crosses your path.I speak from current experience, as I sit in a hotel room where I have been stuck for the last week by snowstorms that interrupted my road-trip to be with family for the Christmas holiday, and ruined my chances of being with loved ones, or even in my own home for any part of this holiday season.I’d be a liar if I said I didn’t get extremely upset, or that I haven’t cried more than once as this ordeal has continued, and I sit here, trapped in a place I don’t enjoy and where I know no one. There have been times when I wanted to rage, stomp my feet, do something to vent my frustration and disappointment! What has gotten me through this, and will continue to do so, is reminding myself of all there is to be grateful for – having an attitude of gratitude. On my list of things I am so very grateful for are you, my listeners. Thank you for being with me as we co-create peace in this world. I wish each and every one of you a safe, healthy, and joyful new year, and a long, long list of blessings you are grateful for!
 Welcome to “Resolve to Resolve” – Episode 50 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. As we approach the birth of every new year, many people have the tradition of making resolutions for the new year. For 2022, I would like to invite you to resolve to resolve. Think about the unresolved conflicts in your life, the conversations you know you need to have but have been putting off, unmade apologies, unaccepted apologies, and the forgiveness you know someone deserves, but which you haven’t yet expressed to them.The topic of this episode is inspired by many things. Most prominent of those are a very sad, remorseful letter from a listener and the upcoming birth of 2022. The birth of a new year gives us a sense of a fresh start, and opportunity to do things in a better way – to create better tomorrows than our yesterdays have been. Why not harvest that to co-create peace in your life? To resolve the conflicts, bridge the chasms, and heal the wounds in your life? So, let’s talk about what that means – resolving to resolve, how to decide if you’re ready to do that, and how to go about it if you are.
Welcome to: "Speaking in Rounds to Help People Think” - Episode #49 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Sheella Mierson joins me to talk about a method of designing the flow of a conversation in a way that evokes more thoughtful responses, and which allows for each person to have a chance to share their thoughts without the conversation being dominated by the stronger personalities.Sheella specializes in helping people collaborate more effectively in a variety of settings. One of her favorite tools is having people speak in "rounds" in meetings, whether there are two people or many. She will discuss what a round is, how to do it, and why it is so effective.Sheella Mierson, Ph.D. helps individuals and organizations design relationships, processes, and structures for creative collaboration. In her first career as a research scientist, she became interested in how people collaborate (or not) in and out of the laboratory. She is a certified facilitator for the Blueprint of We Process, and a sociocracy consultant. Her passion is to create joyful, productive relationships and workplaces, where both people and organization can flourish.To contact Sheella or to learn more about meetings that use rounds, visit: www.sociocracyconsulting.com. Her email address is: sheella.mierson@sociocracyconsulting.com. 
Welcome to “A Buddhist Perspective on Peace and Purpose” - Episode #48 of Co-creating Peace – a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today, I have the honor of speaking with Venerable Domo Geshe Rinpoche. The 9th Domo Geshe Rinpoche is the Spiritual Director of White Conch Dharma Center and abbot of Lotus Lake Buddhist Retreat Center and monastery in Central Wisconsin. Having completed extensive training and retreat, Rinpoche’s current incarnation has been teaching in the United States, Europe and Canada for more than twenty years, during which time she has given numerous Buddhist retreats, both at Lotus Lake and at various retreat centers around the world. Domo Geshe Rinpoche is the author of four books:  Mystery of Emptiness & Love, Red Lotus Buddhist Wisdom, Sensing Shades of Reality - A daily reader of Buddhist concepts and journal, and her most recent publication: How to Change Your Karma ~ Healing the Past. Her next book is titled "Buddha's Brass Band" for four to seven-year-olds.You can experience Rinpoche’s teachings during the White Conch Online Winter Retreat 2021-2022. This will be a retreat in the Tibetan Buddhist Tradition. The first session – Tonglen – will be December 27th, 2021 – January 2nd, 2022. The second session – The Nightingale Song will be January 3rd - January 9th, 2022. To register for this retreat and learn more about Rinpoche and her work visit the White Conch website at: www.white-conch.org. Many of her public teachings are free to stream at: www.youtube.com/user/WhiteConchFilms.
Welcome to Part 2 of "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces" – Episode #47 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. This episode is a continuation of last week’s broadcast of my conversation with Denise Blanc about the flow of a river as a metaphor for conversation. In her forthcoming book, "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces", Denise elaborates on this metaphor in each chapter, titling the chapters using various aspects of a river: Current, Confluence, Rivulet, and Riverbank. Last week, we discussed Current and Confluence. Today, Denise will share her insights into Rivulet and Riverbank as components of this metaphor. Denise Blanc has over 23 years contributing to the field of Organization Development as a Leadership Coach, Senior Leader and Facilitator.  Her 20 years in a Mindfulness practice deeply informs her life and work.  She is currently completing a book of her work called Riverlogic - Finding Flow in Conversational Spaces.For more information about Denise and her work, go to: www.riverlogicpartners.com or email her at: Deise@riverlogicpartners.com.
Welcome to Part 1 of "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces" – Episode #46 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. With me is Denise Blanc to share her thoughts on the flow of a river as a metaphor for conversation. This beautiful metaphor can help us to better practice conscious communication. In her forthcoming book, "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces", Denise elaborates on this metaphor in each chapter, titling the chapters using various aspects of a river: Current, Confluence, Rivulet, and Riverbank. In today’s episode, we’ll discuss Current and Confluence. Denise Blanc has over 23 years contributing to the field of Organization Development as a Leadership Coach, Senior Leader and Facilitator.  Her 20 years in a Mindfulness practice deeply informs her life and work.  She is currently completing a book of her work called Riverlogic - Finding Flow in Conversational Spaces.Make sure to join us next week, when Denise and I will continue our conversation, and focus on Rivulet and Riverbank as metaphors for aspects of conversation in part 2 of "Riverlogic - Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces".
Welcome to “Deck the Halls, Not Your Relatives” - Episode #45 of Co-creating Peace – a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Holidays are usually thought of as a time of gathering with family and loved ones, and creating joyful memories. For some families, there is a different experience. Some people find themselves embroiled in family conflict during the holidays, and wishing they could deck one relative or another. Rachel Yarrington joins me to talk about why that is and what we can do about it.Rachel Yarrington is a certified mediator, ombuds, and licensed mental health professional.  She provides mediation and consultation services to couples, families, and organizations seeking to resolve conflict and repair relationships.
Welcome to Part 2 of "Using NVC® to Speak Your Truth” - Episode 44 of Co-creating Peace – a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Last week Jack Lehman and I had a great conversation about how NVC uses observations, feelings, needs, and requests, as part of its communication structure. We discussed identifying our feelings and some understandings and tools that we can utilize to express them clearly and safely. In this episode we continue that conversation.Jack Lehman is a Clinical Mental Health Counselor licensed in the State of New Mexico, and a Certified Trainer with the Global Center for Nonviolent Communication®.  To learn more about Jack and his work, contact him at: girafferide@gmail.com.
Welcome to Part 1 of "Using Nonviolent Communication® to Speak Your Truth” - Episode #43 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #22, Jack Lehman gave us some insights into The Dao of Domination, and told us a little bit about a wonderful conscious communication tool called Nonviolent Communication®, also known as NVC.Today, Jack joins me again for part one of a more detailed conversation about NVC, and how we can use it to express our truth in ways that other people feel safe hearing.Jack Lehman is a Clinical Mental Health Counselor licensed in the State of New Mexico, and a Certified Trainer with the Global Center for Nonviolent Communication®.  Don't forget to tune in next week for Part 2.
Welcome to “You, Me, Us – The Art of Verbal Aikido™," Episode #42 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Joining me today from Lyon, France, is Luke Archer, who will be sharing with us a peace education practice called Verbal Aikido™, which is based on principles and philosophy of the Japanese martial art Aikido. Verbal Aikido™, practitioners train to protect themselves, and to de-escalate conflictual exchanges peacefully. Luke Archer and his team have been developing and sharing this practice since 2009, focusing on empowering both adults and children to listen more deeply and to communicate more assertively."Luke Archer is a writer and facilitator, specializing in communication and educational development. He is the developer of Verbal Aikido™ & co-director of the Newskool SAS training organization. Learn more about Luke and Verbal Aikido™ at: www.verbalaikido.org
Welcome to “Bringing Calm to the Storm”, Episode #41 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I  recorded this podcast in front of a live online audience at the 2021 State of New Mexico Alternative Dispute Resolution Symposium on October 21 – National Conflict Resolution Day.As we all know, conflict often involves high emotion. Not everyone has the ability to manage their emotions well, especially when their emotions are highly escalated. People sometimes completely lose awareness and control of their emotions and behavior. Other times people in conflict may use rage to intimidate and control others.Yet, in order for productive communications to happen and conflict to be resolved, everyone involved must feel safe enough to be able to discuss their experiences and negotiate agreements. That means that someone needs to bring calm to the storm and help everyone de-escalate so that they can move forward together. But, how do we do that??Joining me today is John Allen to provide us with some helpful understandings about de-escalating others, and some effective tools to help us do that. As time allows, John will also take questions posed by the audience.John Allen is a retired Sergeant from the Bernalillo County Sheriff's Office. He is a Lead Law Enforcement Instructor at the Central New Mexico Law Enforcement Academy, which is responsible for training various law enforcement entities. He is a Master Use of Force Instructor, Master Defensive Tactics Instructor and Lead Homicide Instructor with 23 years of law enforcement experience. During his career at BCSO, John was a supervisor for homicide, violent crimes, Special Weapons and Tactics, mobile crisis teams, and crisis intervention teams that deal with mental health. Conflict resolution and crisis negotiation are components of what he teaches in many of his classes.
Welcome to Part 2 of "Walking Through the Blueprint of We - A Way to Co-create Relationships" – Episode #40 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #16 of this podcast, I interviewed Sheella Mierson and Rachel Eryn Kalish about “A Way to Co-create Relationships (The Blueprint of We Process).” They described the Blueprint of We and gave examples of where and how it is used. At the end of that interview, I wanted to know more, and was delighted to continue the series.In Episode #33, "Walking Through the Blueprint of We, Part 1", Sheella walked through writing a Blueprint with Ron Person as he wrote his document. They discussed the first two components of a Blueprint of We. This time, Sheella and Ron will continue the walk-through of the remaining three components. In this time of transition, uncertainty, and adaptation, the Blueprint of We can be especially helpful as a tool to mindfully articulate, co-create and navigate professional and personal relationships for greatest long-term success.
Welcome to “What is Restorative Justice, Really?” – Episode #39 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I am so pleased to have my friend and colleague, Tonya Covington join me to talk about a very important field of mediation – especially in today’s world. It is a powerful, yet underutilized form of mediation known as Restorative Justice.Tonya Covington was appointed by the Mayor of Albuquerque to bring Restorative Justice to the City.  She is the immediate past President of the New Mexico Mediation Association. Tonya has been a trained mediator and teacher of mediation since 1988.  Tonya has expertise in Restorative Justice, Workplace, Family, Transformative, Cross-cultural, Postal (REDRESS), Divorce and Elder mediation.
Welcome to “Implementing Emotional Intelligence”, Episode #38 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In last week’s episode, I talked about “Expressing Emotion Safely”. In this episode, I’ll discuss Emotional Intelligence, also known as EI or EQ, which I think is defined best by Daniel Goleman, author of the book titled “Emotional Intelligence”, who defines EI as the ability to recognize, understand and manage our own emotions and to recognize, understand and influence the emotions of others.To best perceive and respond to the emotions that you and others experience, and the impacts of those emotions, developing and utilizing Emotional Intelligence is key, because when you develop your EQ, you are enhancing your ability to understand and manage your own emotions and how you act on those emotions (or not), and to recognize and respond constructively to the emotions of other people. 
Welcome to “Expressing Emotion Safely” – Episode #37 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Expressing our emotions, especially when we feel those emotions strongly is something that is very difficult for many people to do, or to do successfully, and in ways that help build understanding. We all struggle from time to time with how to express our emotions. We often either react to our feelings without thought, causing others to get upset, or we avoid talking about them altogether in an effort to prevent high emotion and conflict, which – in the long run – can cause us to accumulate a lot of unpacked emotional baggage.  Today, we’ll look at some other options that might be more helpful to us, and to our interpersonal dynamics with others: practices we can use to help us to express our emotions in ways that others can feel safe hearing.
Welcome to “The Courage to Bridge the Divide” – Episode #36 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I share a letter from a listener seeking advice about feeling rejected by family members, and not knowing how to have a productive conversation about that. The advice I will share could be applied in any situation where one feels as though others are distancing from them, whether or not it is family members.Today’s quote is by Winston Churchill. "Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”One the many reasons that I love this quote is because I have so often observed that one root cause of assumptions, misunderstandings and conflict is people being afraid to say what’s on their mind – whether it’s an opinion, their feelings, or a question they need the answer to. Most often, it seems, that fear comes from either not knowing how to approach the conversation, or the fear that the conversation, once initiated, will not go well and lead to conflict. Sometimes it’s because they fear the answer itself. As Churchill says, It takes courage. What can help us to have that courage is to have a well-thought-out approach to initiating and having the conversation. In my response to this listener’s letter, I’ll offer some ideas on how to mindfully approach the conversation she may need to have.
Welcome to “Terms to Know” – Episode #35 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In previous episodes of this podcast, I talked about the importance of being mindful of how we use words. In times of change and unrest, such as the times we are in now, new terms often emerge to help us to better understand the world around us and one another, while other terms that have been around for awhile take on new importance.In this episode, I have invited my dear friend Hollis to help clarify some terms we are hearing a lot these days, but which are often misused, such as equity and equality, which are often mistakenly used interchangeably, as are the words gender and sex. He will also talk about the importance of the use of appropriate pronouns, and clarify terms that are often misunderstood, such as transgender and gender identity.Hollis Benjamin uses he/him pronouns. He has a BA in Behavioral Science and a Masters of Social Work degree. Hollis is currently earning a graduate certificate in Nonprofit Leadership and Public Management, and is considering a doctorate in education with a focus in organizational leadership in a few years. He has strong interests in racial justice, cross-cultural capacity building, and overarching social justice issues.
Welcome to Peacemaking 101, Episode #34 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Victor La Cerva about peacemaking and emotional fluency.Victor worked in violence prevention for more than 25 years. He remains engaged, although he is now retired from his NM Department of Health Family Health Medical Director position. He is the co-founder of the non-profit NM Men’s Wellness, now 35 years strong, whose focus is to create a safe space for men to gather to share the joys and challenges of being masculine in today's world.To learn more about Victor and his work, and to contact him, go to:  myheartsongs.org If you’d like to know more about New Mexico Men’s Wellness, visit: nmmw.org 
Welcome to “Walking Through the Blueprint - A Way to Co-create Relationships” - Episode #33 of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #16 of Co-creating Peace, I interviewed Sheella Mierson and Rachel Eryn Kalish about The Blueprint of We Process. They described the Blueprint of We and gave examples of where and how it is used. At the end of that interview, I wanted to know more, and am delighted to bring Sheella Mierson back. This time, rather than my interviewing her, she will work with Ron Person, who is writing his Blueprint, in order to demonstrate the process. In Episode #40, you can hear Part 2 of this process as Sheella and Ron continue their work together, completing Ron's Blueprint.
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