Midlife Dating Podcast

Highlights for this Episode:The Glossary term is: Orbiting, where someone keeps popping up on your social media radar, waiting to make a move for a date.In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy demonstrates to their officers the right and wrong way to handle a Dinner Invitation. From Blondes Prefer Gentlemen. 1965 US Navy Instructional Film.Paul reviews the book: Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. Highpoints include recognizing the Bad Dater Cycle, Understanding the Relationship Pyramid, where you learn to identify the correct type of person to date. And the significance of being a good ender and effectively ending relationships if they are the wrong type.Episode Links:Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need by Dr. Robert Glover   Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Dating-Essentials-Men-Only-Guide/dp/B09C3FQ948/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1611579163&sr=8-2

Highlights for this episode:The Glossary term is: The Maybe DateIn the Potpourri Segment, Paul offers listeners an excellent refresher on the highly effective 3-1-1 Rule. This straightforward and efficient three-step process not only helps you filter out the flakes and texting buddies but also saves you precious time, enabling you to swiftly move off the dating apps to a meet up date with someone who truly interests you.Paul reviews the movie About Time. A heartwarming romantic comedy that will leave you feeling uplifted and inspired. With its poignant messages about the importance of cherishing every moment and what can happen when you get a do-over chance to approach dating situations with confidence. In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates at a dance or party. From How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film.Episode Links:About Time Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OIFdWk83noQuestions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Highlights for this episode:The Glossary term is: Serendipidating  In the Retro/Etiquette Segment: We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates in a small gathering. From How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film.  Paul reviews the book: Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald, published in 2004. She has a 15-step, easily executable plan of action to market yourself to find better quality, datable, relationship-intentioned men. While written for women, men can easily apply most of Rachel’s advice. Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com  50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/  Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald. Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Find-Husband-After-35-Business/dp/0345466268/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1680099504&sr=8-1

Highlights for this episode:The Glossary term for this episode is: Ghostbusting.Paul reviews the movie Big Stone Gap, released in 2014. This movie looks into dating and romance in the late 1970s. It demonstrates the typical outcome of what can easily happen when men try to use logic to pursue romance.In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film guides men on approaching a movie date.In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 6. Emerging Truths from repeating patterns that Paul identified when he started dating again in his early 50s. Today he reviews Truths 25-30, including the confusion between Chemistry and Infatuation, Fast and Furious Dating, and why One and Done dates will be your most common experience. Episode Links:Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/Big Stone Gap Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wx7Q9mSLrfYHow 1970s VCR dating paved the way for Tinder and Hinge:  https://www.vox.com/22262353/great-expectations-history-video-dating-vcr-apps

Highlights for this episode:The Glossary term for this episode is: Bromance Paul reviews the movie Swingers, released in 1996. This movie gives us a look into dating in the 1990s, how damaging holding on to your ex and being unable to put them behind you can be, and how dance lessons can come in very handy.In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. Restaurant date.In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 5. These truths emerged from repeating patterns and behaviors Paul began to pick up on when he started dating again in his early 50s. Today we look at Truths 21-24, which include, Your type is no longer your Type, You only get one chance, The one who gets to the meet up date first wins, and Beware of the all-or-nothing attitude.Episode Links:Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/Swingers Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHT2zOnutCASwingers Answering Machine Meltdown Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DU3Pk6oDNRUSwingers Swing Dance Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G3Ec9Wqn-msCupid’s Coach Episode 51 – Dating & The Money TrapCourtney Ryan: Which Guy Would Women Choose (Would you Rather…) 

Midlife Dating Podcast EP 19 – Dating Truths Part 4Highlights for this episode:Have you ever gone on a meetup date only to find out their colorful online charisma is nowhere to be found when you meet them in person? This is known as the Cyrano de Bergerac. It's the glossary term for this episode, and we'll take a closer look at this curious creature. I'll be reviewing the movie Before We Go, released in 2015. This film demonstrates that even the worst of days can turn out to be the best of days. It also provides an excellent roadmap of how to proceed when things don't go as planned and how important it is to maintain a sense of humor.In the Potpourri Segment, I'll cover "Dating Truths," Part 4. These truths emerged from repeating patterns and behaviors I began to pick up on when I started dating again in my early 50s. Today we take a look at Truths 16-20, which include, The Bigger Better Deal, The Candy Store Effect, and the outdated Three Strike Rule.Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/Before We Go Trailer:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNzaiGzPoUgDefinitely, Maybe role-playing clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GARQJHyaBD0

Have you been guilty of Professing? It's the glossary term for this episode, and it describes behavior that many of us have embraced at some point in our dating lives, that Hollywood has glamorized but turns out to be creepy in reality.Following the glossary segment, Paul discusses some dating and relationship takeaways from the movie, All I Wish. Here we see that time can heal a rough start and change our attitude about relationships for the better.In the Potpourri Segment, Paul reviews Dating Truths 11-15. Outlining the necessary skills one can quickly master by first putting maximum effort into their profile pictures and written profile. Also, why "One and Done" will be a regular part of your online dates as you endure the learning process.Please contact Paul at the email address below If you have any dating topics you'd like covered or have questions or comments. Of course, we'll keep your identity confidential.Questions and Contributions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Having problems getting past the first few dates, let alone the first meetup? Then, you could be guilty of "Projection." This glossary term describes how we may subconsciously project our past negative dating and relationship experiences onto our new dates.Following the glossary segment, Paul reviews Esther Perel's book "Mating in Captivity."  Social and emotional intelligence are standard terms we hear about. However, Perel gives us much-needed insight into "Erotic intelligence," which is understanding what attracts a couple to one another, including how and why those couples grow apart.In the Potpourri Segment, Paul expands on dating Truths 6-10, explaining why dating with purpose is so difficult, what the dating long game versus the dating short game looks like, and why we want to play the long game.Please contact Paul at the email address below If you have any dating topics you'd like covered or have questions or comments. Of course, we'll keep your identity confidential.Questions and Contributions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Have you ever heard of the Flannel Nightgown? It's our glossary term for this episode, and it explains the transition that develops in all romantic relationships.I'll be reviewing the movie Sing Street, released in 2016. It will bring us back to the 80s when things were so much simpler. The film has a great message about taking risks in putting yourself out there and being willing to accept some levels of humiliation as you grow, learn and chase your passion. In the Potpourri Segment, I'll cover "Dating Truths," Part 1. These truths emerged out of repeating patterns and behaviors I began to pick up on when I started dating again in my early 50s regarding Soul Mates, Rejection, and how to test the dating waters effectively.Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Approximately Half of those you run across on the dating apps seek "Electronic Vanity Validation." This glossary describes those who use online dating apps and legacy websites who validate themselves simply by who they match up with. Paul reviews the book, The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. In it, we learn that good men are simple beings, hard to find but easy to keep. Additionally, why women regret marrying "Nice Guys," and how real men think about their committed relationship.Then, in the Potpourri Segment, Paul explains how the Counteroffer is one of the most significant indicators if someone is interested in pursuing a dating relationship with you.We're retaking dating questions now that the podcast production is more dialed in. If you've got one you'd like Paul to answer on the podcast, please submit it to the email address below. We'll keep your identity confidential. Questions and Contributions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Are you suffering from “Dating Profile Syndrome”? This glossary term describes what happens to users of online dating apps and legacy websites who are repeatedly subjected to the same mind-numbing profiles. Following the glossary segment, Paul discusses what "Nice Guy" behavior looks like in a movie review of Gloria Bell. Here, men and women have a first-hand look at why women shouldn’t date "Nice Guys." Then, in the Potpourri Segment, Paul reviews whether it makes sense for Boomers and Gen X to use the dating app Tinder.We're retaking dating questions now that the podcast production is more dialed in. If you've got one you'd like Paul to answer on the podcast, please submit it to the email address below. We'll keep your identity confidential. Questions and Contributions: questions@50datesat50.com 50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/ 

Ever wonder if you're being played when arranging a date? Our Dating and Relationship Glossary Term for this episode, "Call to Confirm," helps decipher the answer. Next, cheerful and funny dating stories are what the Midlife Dating Podcast is all about. Paul shares one of his personal stories in this episode. It was a mystery to solve when it was happening, but it also reveals how entertaining life can be when you get out there and improvise. Finally, have you ever gone to a meetup date and been short on conversational material? In the Potpourri Segment, Paul explains by example how you can quickly deepen your well of conversational topics while driving, walking, or working out.We're retaking dating questions now that the podcast production is more dialed in. If you've got one you'd like Paul to answer on the podcast, please submit it to the email address below. We'll keep your identity confidential. The team is also looking to add a woman's point of view to the podcast! If you're a Gen X or Boomer gal interested in contributing, please get in touch with us at the same email address.Questions and Contributions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/

Are you dating someone and seeing them 4 or 5 times a week or more? If so, you had better watch out for Fusion catching up to you, in this episode's Glossary Term. For today’s Chick Flick Movie Review, Paul takes a look at the way love finds people even in the worst of times with Last Chance Harvey. Finally, with your smartphone in hand, you go through your dating app, and you run across dating profiles with several fabulous pictures but no written content. Should you swipe right on them? In today’s Potpourri Segment, Paul discusses how to deal with those picture-only dating profiles.We're retaking dating questions now that the podcast production is more dialed in. If you've got one you'd like Paul to answer on the podcast, please submit it to the email address below. We'll keep your identity confidential. The team is also looking to add a woman's point of view to the podcast! If you're a Gen X or Boomer gal interested in contributing, please get in touch with us at the same email address.Recommended books for learning more about Fusion: for men specifically, Paul recommends Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. For both men and women, Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel is a good choice.Questions and Contributions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/

Have you ever seen one person in a couple make drastic changes to accommodate the other, only for the relationship to fail? A lack of Differentiation, the Glossary Term for this episode, is why. Next, Paul shares a retro dating clip consisting of a sound bite collage from the 1951 Coronet Instructional Film Going Steady. Paul then reviews the book Spouse Hunting: Using the Rules of Real Estate to Find the Love of Your Life. Boomers and Gen Xers who have been through the home buying experience will quickly relate to the emotional parallels between the home buying process and dating. Furthermore, this book lays the groundwork to easily discuss a couple of the most sensitive topics in dating: dealing with money and being open to dating more than one person at a time. We're retaking dating questions now that the podcast production is more dialed in. If you've got one you'd like Paul to answer on the podcast, please submit to the email address below. We'll keep your identity confidential. The team is also looking to add a woman's point of view to the podcast! If you're a Gen X or Boomer gal interested in contributing, please get in touch with us at the same email address.Questions and Contributions: questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/

Paul begins with "Soft Ghosting," the Glossary Term for this episode, and how to spot It so you don't waste your valuable time with a Soft Ghoster. The feel-good movie Moneyball, a nonfiction sports drama, is the episode’s Chick Flick Movie Review. How did a sports drama make it into this Midlife Dating Podcast? Simple: Much of what Brad Pit's character embraces to build a record-setting team is paralleled by what Gen Xers and Boomers must master to become successful at online dating. Next, a retro dating clip on "The Fancy Dinner" is taken from the 1949 Coronet Instructional Film Dating Dos and Don'ts.The main focus of the episode is the six different types of people you'll run across in your online dating experience. You'll want to focus on the first two and avoid the last four! We're retaking dating questions now that the podcast production is more dialed in. If you've got one you'd like Paul to answer on the podcast, please submit it to the questions email address below. We'll keep your identity confidential. The team is also looking to add a woman's point of view to the podcast! If you're a Gen X or Boomer gal interested in contributing, please get in touch with us at the same email address.Questions and Contributions:  questions@50datesat50.com50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/

In this episode, Paul first looks at the dating term "Spilling Your Guts" and how Hollywood has brainwashed men into thinking this is a wonderfully romantic idea. Gals (and guys), ever wonder why you didn't get a second date? Paul next gives the lowdown on the possible reasons as he reviews author Rachel Greenwald's book Why He Didn't Call You Back. In this book, Rachel interviews 1000 men to find out what went wrong. She breaks things down to the top 16 reasons and the stereotypes that fit them. As you work through your dating plan, you'll begin to see the patterns in both yourself and your dates. The good news is you can usually correct them with a series of minor adjustments. In addition, guys will discover the top five reasons they don't get to a second date. Many Boomers remember the instructional films shown in school. Paul here begins providing audio highlights from these videos, as they are now part of the public domain. There is nothing like dating advice from 1949 to remind us that no matter how much things change, they still stay the same.50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/

"Oneitis" is a condition we all go through. It can start to sneak up within the first few moments of a phone call and linger for days before a couple even gets out on that first meetup. In this episode, Paul takes a closer look at this vocabulary term.Many romances begin with a couple's mutual dislike for one another. As they spend more time together, they grow and bond. Leap Year (2010) is one such offering with plenty of comic relief. Due to the instant gratification of online dating, some will never get to experience a romance like this. Guys, this movie demonstrates how remaining a mystery creates attraction.Omicron is making its presence known in the dating community, as things have regressed to the way it was last year at this time. Dates are becoming tough to put together. Paul here reviews how the phone call portion of the 3-1-1 rule is significant for filtering out the pretenders. What you should stick to on the phone call is also covered, as is the fundamental objective of the coffee date meetup. (It's not about sparks.) All this and more can be found in the November and December Dating Report!50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/

They say that breaking up is hard to do—true, but you can remove a lot of pain on both sides by using The Two-Sentence Rule. Paul takes a closer look at today’s glossary term with some examples. Then he discusses what author Vince Guaglione calls the "Tinder Time Wasters" in Guaglione’s book Why Are You Still Single?: An Average Joe's Take on What's Really Going On in the Dating Pool and What You Can Do to Stay Afloat.The dating question for this episode asks what to do if your boyfriend/girlfriend continues to communicate with their ex regularly, while in the central Potpourri Segment, Paul examines the case for Ghosting. In dating stories, Paul has two experiences from October demonstrating that dating is a learned skill and that it's easy to provide Too Much Information upfront without allowing yourself the time to provide context. He also notes why showing up to a date dressed for a Costco shopping run is not the best of ideas.  

In this episode, Paul breaks down the dating term "Needy" so you can identify what it looks like and steer clear of individuals who display it.When it comes to getting back on the dating horse for Boomers and Gen Xers, Carol in the movie I'll See You in My Dreams provides a good look at what it's like. Bill demonstrates both a good old-fashioned take-the-lead attitude and the downside of coming on too strong. This movie has many dating and relationship messages for the 50 Daters age group.Is breaking up by text message a good idea? It depends on the situation. Men often think they're in a relationship when they've only been out on a few dates. Paul discusses how that applies to this episode's dating and relationship question.Is it better to arrange a coffee date or to go for alcoholic drinks on that first meetup? Much of it has to do with the phase of dating you're currently in and with your confidence level. Good dating skills take practice. Paul explains how to put yourself in a position to easily work with either drinks or coffee.Everyone has had those Fridays where things are looking good going into the weekend, but then everything falls apart. Paul walks you through one bad weekend with a canceled date, ghostings, deletions, and incomplete phone calls. Knowing what a bad online dating weekend looks like and what the silver linings are will keep you from feeling so bad when it happens to you.Psychology Today Article:  The Value of "Sober Dating"50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/ 

Dating with Purpose is one of the main themes here at 50 Dates at 50. Today, Paul defines what that term specifically means. Ever date someone who insists on keeping in contact with their ex?  Paul explains what this reveals about your partner and what it says about you if you tolerate this type of behavior.To give 50 Daters a foundational understanding of who Nice Guys are, Paul reviews No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. 50 Dates at 50 is committed to opening the doors for Nice Guys and Nice Gals to grow into being Good Guys and Gals.Is virtual dating here to stay? Most likely so, despite the many hidden landmines. It's also pretty much nonsense if you are banking on getting quality dates. However, it does have an essential silver lining.Online dating offers what appears to be an endless amount of options, especially if you're new to it. However, you'll soon discover the harsh reality of being ghosted or quickly deleted for no apparent reason. Do you want to know what it really takes to set up one date per week? Paul walks you through his September by the numbers of initiated conversations, deletions, ghostings, phone calls, phone call no-shows, meetup dates, date cancellations, and second dates. This provides a good frame of reference for what a regular guy or gal can expect. The key, of course, is starting with good-quality pictures and a well-written profile. 50 Dates at 50 Website:  https://50datesat50.com/