Positively Life After Fifty

Enjoy a free, ten-minute guided meditation focusing on gratitude. Just get comfortable, relax and listen to the soothing voice of Connie Minnell as she guides you towards true appreciation of the blessings within you. Enriched by the soft musical soundscapes from Rebecca Reads Recordings.  Please do not listen to while driving or similar activities.  

Today we’ll bust the three myths of meditation; I’ll share my three favorite types; and I'll reveal the kind of meditation that's best for your health. Plus, stick around for a bonus at the end! Think of a person that has such a deep peace in their spirit, you feel calmer just by being around them. Finding that calmness is something I’ve been working on lately. If you're interested in meditation to help you find this kind of peace but you still have questions, then it's time to find out what’s keeping you from having meditation in your life.  00:02:34 Myth #1 It’s not going to work for me.There are many types of meditation out there; the important thing is to find one that syncs with your background. The best meditation for you is the one that you want to come back to, day after day. The most important thing to remember is Don’t Give Up. Everyone’s mind wanders during meditation, just bring your focus back to your breathing and you’ll see the results in time.  00:03:40 Myth #2 There’s no time; there’s no place. Meditation isn’t defined by a place, a pose or a practice. It can be as simple as just focusing on having a steady, slow breath for a few moments in the middle of a hectic day. There are many ways to gain this peace and calmness in your life, but my favorites have always been walking meditation, controlled breathing and scripture meditation. If you would be interested in finding out more about my podcast on scripture meditation, go to Resting In The Word. 00:06:00 self-practice controlled breathing  00:07:32 Myth #3 You can’t prove it works. Scientific studies have proven that meditation helps to reduce anxiety and depression, heart disease and diabetes, improves sleep, aids your immune system, and  read more  

Welcome to episode 8 of Positively Life After Fifty, and Day 2 in my quest to podcast for 30 days straight, in honor of the National Podcast Post Month of November. Am I ever getting off to a rocky start! In fact, if you were able to hear my podcast yesterday, you are one in a million. In fact, you and I both know that you are already one in a million whether you listened to my podcast yesterday or not because there is no one quite like you. Ok, where were we before I started channeling Mr. Rogers? One reason why this show is so different is that I don't have music today, well, I might put some in at the end. And I won't have any quotes today because I am in the middle of a podcasters biggest nightmare right now, at least for me it is. I worked for hours yesterday, shut my computer off at 1 am, and when I came back to it today, there were 20 more new bugs needing to be squashed. So today hasn't been any different. Here it is almost 11 pm, and I'm still up writing this. But I did take some time out earlier and had dinner with a friend. She's still teaching in the trenches, As I was eating dinner with my former colleague and listening to some of the things she is dealing with not just in the classroom but also the committee presentations, her teenagers, elderly parent issues; it all reminded me of not very long ago when I was teaching. I was working 10 to 12 hour days six days a week and dealing with all those problems and more. So it kind of puts things into perspective. I also think about the news of the past months; all the shootings, fires, and floods, hurricanes, and tornadoes. I'm not trying to make light of this; it is a serious issue for so many. There are people without electricity and people who have lost loved ones. As I think about all these issues, suddenly my problems of getting my id3 tags onto my audio file and getting my media player to look not weird on my web page don't seem that big of a deal. Suddenly all those issues just don't seem important. The work will get done, the problems either will get solved or they won't, and ill find a way to make it work somehow. What's more important is that I make time for friends, I take time for family, and I even carve out some time to take care of myself, to regain a sense of balance and perspective. And I'll tell myself that I'm worth it, because yes, in fact, I am one in a million. And so are you, and so are the people you love. And tomorrow's going to be a better day. I promise. I'll see you tomorrow. Until then keep looking up, and never give up.

Feel like a challenge? I do! I'm not running a marathon or climbing a mountain, but I might as well be! This episode marks the first of the 30 day challenge where I podcast every day for the month of November. I'm accepting the challenge at #NaPodPoMo to become a better podcaster, and to help celebrate the 10 year anniversary of the "birth" of podcasting! You can join me! It doesn't have to be in podcasting, unless that's a goal you have, too. No, just think about this...has there been something you've been wanting to learn, a goal you've put off achieving? Well, do something positive for yourself, something that inspires you to be a better you...commit to taking your own challenge as I take on mine. Do that for the next 30 days and positively change the direction of your life. We can do this! Quotes included: One day you will thank yourself for never giving up. Unknown Set a goal SO BIG you can't achieve it...until you turn into to the person who CAN. Unknown   Check out this episode!

Feel like a challenge? I do! I'm not running a marathon or climbing a mountain, but I might as well be! This episode marks the first of the 30 day challenge where I podcast every day for the month of November. I'm accepting the challenge at #NaPodPoMo to become a better podcaster, and to help celebrate the 10 year anniversary of the "birth" of podcasting! You can join me! It doesn't have to be in podcasting, unless that's a goal you have, too. No, just think about this...has there been something you've been wanting to learn, a goal you've put off achieving? Well, do something positive for yourself, something that inspires you to be a better you...commit to taking your own challenge as I take on mine. Do that for the next 30 days and positively change the direction of your life. We can do this! Quotes included: One day you will thank yourself for never giving up. Unknown Set a goal SO BIG you can't achieve it...until you turn into to the person who CAN. Unknown  

Some of the hardest times in life are also some of the most difficult times to be a friend. What can you do to help a family who is caring for a terminally ill loved one? I've lost family members recently and being on the receiving end of this compassion has left me with a heart full of gratitude. Today I'll share the most precious gifts my friends gave, and what you can do to help those going through heart-breaking times. Every day on my drive to work, I would see a sculpture of eight arrows, seven of which were pointing down and the eighth on pointing up. Curious about it, I found out that the artist titled it, "Seven Down, Eight Up." It is based on a Japenese saying, "Fall down seven times, stand up eight." This sculpture was inspirational to me each time I drove by it. The reason why I am telling you this story is because it took me eight times to finally record this episode! But I eventually got it accomplished because my mom always said: "Never give up." I've had my mom on my mind a lot lately. In fact, that's the reason why I have been away from the microphone for several weeks. My mother passed away recently. I've tried to let you know what's going on, but I couldn't make it through an entire recording without breaking down. Sometimes the grief is just too fresh to share it with the world. I eventually will, but for now, I just wanted to let you know that I now have my "arrows" pointed in the right direction! And more than anything else, I want to be here for you and help you find the end to those "downward facing arrows" in your life. Sometimes you have to reach some of the lowest points in your life   before you can rebuild yourself into the person that you've always wanted to become. I believe that when you begin to focus on bringing positive peace into your life, you will see it happen. This week I want to share with you the things that blessed my  during the days leading up to my mother's death. Three things that you can do to bring comfort to a grieving family: 1. Food is more than comfort, it's essential. My friends offered to send meals, but I kept trying to "be strong." Finally, nearly broken after many days of very little sleep, I asked them to bring meals. Their response was immediate, and even though I didn't think I had an appetite, the food tasted amazing! Another thing I found is that paper products are a must-have. Normally I'm not a "disposable" product user, but when a loved one is terminally ill, I would rather be spending time with family than in the kitchen any day. Here are just a few helpful items: Paper towels and plates, wet wipes, tissues, (there were lots of tears) and even toilet paper (there were lots of visitors in the house;) 2. Ask questions, but accept the answers that they can give you at the time. Whether we're on the asking or the telling end, we are there to offer kindness, caring, and support. 3. When you visit, take a memory to share. Is there a story that you can tell the family member that exemplifies how special their loved one is/was? Heartfelt stories and memories are priceless to the grieving family. One more thing I want to add: Everyone grieves differently according to their upbringing, how close or estranged they were to the deceased, and even according to where they are in life right now. How someone handles the death of a loved one, or how he or she responds to any grievous situation, is a highly personal issue. Our differences make us who we are, but we are also the same: We all have people we love and people we miss who are gone from us. Realizing that made it easier for me to accept the many different reactions to death. No matter what you're facing today, remember to never give up. Whatever positive thing you want in your life, don't give up. If there's someone you can visit today, or send a card, or give a call, please do that: Your heart will be so much fuller, and they will have received such a gift from hearing from you. You'll bring something positive into your life AND someone else's. Until next time keep looking up but never GIVE up! Quotes: "It's in you pain that God is closest to you." ~Pastor Rick Warren "We underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, or the smallest act of caring. All of which have the potential to turn a life around." ~Leo Buscaglia Website: Positively Life After Fifty email: connie@positivelylifeafterfifty.com  

This episode shares motivational stories to help you create a bucket list that can change your life.Today I take a look at the surprising history of "The Bucket List," talk about the benefits of those travel items on your list and share some inspirational stories to help you re-create your own life-changing list. Have you given much thought to your bucket list lately? You should; it's good for you. A quick search and you will find the awesome things people have on their lists; from exotic destinations to simple acts of selflessness. "The Bucket List" became a standard in American culture in 2007 when a movie of the same name was released. Did the term "Kicking the Bucket" come from a children's game or a method of execution(!?!) The benefits of having travel items on your bucket list include mental, physical, social and financial. Here's a list of motivational speakers that may forever change the way you think about a bucket list: Ryan Eller, Motivational speaker and blogger, ryaneller.com "How a Bucket List Saved My Life" TEDx Tulsa Kathleen Taylor, "Rethinking the Bucket List" TEDx Tampa Bay Kathleen is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor with 20 years experience in hospice and advanced care planning. She has a coaching and consulting practice serving the healthcare, social service, and nonprofit sectors. Edward Readiker-Henderson,  "Kill Your Bucket List" TEDx Maui talk Edward was an award-winning travel writer and traveled to over fifty countries and all the continents.  He is quoted as saying,"Whoever created the world went to a lot of trouble. It would be downright rude not to go out and see as much of it as possible." The Joy of a "Wonder List" Maybe you think your life is just too busy even to consider taking that trip right now. Don't worry about your to-do list, or that time is running out to visit all the places you hope to see and memories you hope to make. Sometimes the best moments are unscripted. One"wonder moment" I had on a trip with my family became a treasured memory for me, and an "I wonder" moment blessed me with a life-long friend from the other side of the world. Mark Twain quotes: "Don't wait; the time will never be just right." "Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life.' **Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. Psalm 90:12   Website http://positivelylifeafterfifty.com  

Decisions: How to Make the Good, Shake the Bad, and Take the Rest Hi, I'm your host, Connie Minnell. Today I talk about what goes into making good decisions   I'll share the 4 roadblocks of indecision that people over 50 need to look out for, and I'll give the 5 steps you need to prevent them from happening to you. We'll look at how depression, stress and age can affect your decision making, and I'll tell you how a  good memory can cause poor choices. I'll  share a true story about how one man had to rescue his mother from a poor financial decision and I'll give you the five steps to making better choices in midlife. And finally, we'll talk about how the decisions we make every day create our life and build our legacy. The great thing about being over fifty is getting to know all the stories that we all share about all the different stages we are at in our journey. While some are still working, others may be at the peak of their careers or had to re-enter the work force after years at home or being retired. Some are caring for an elderly parent or grandchildren, and more. We have a great diversity in our lives, and all of the things needing our attention can really cause some stress. Our decisions affect our relationships, finances, and futures. But sometimes all those demands on us can cause us to become temporarily frozen from deciding what to do. Our system shuts down and we retreat to our "safe place," that's what indecisiveness equals-- being stuck. Decisions become harder to make for reasons like depression, stress, and age, or even having a good memory!   Depression When you get depressed you are less likely to go with your gut instinct. In an article in research digest, Carina Remmers and her colleagues tested 29 patients diagnosed with major depression and found that the people with depression had an impaired ability to go with their gut instincts. Disclaimer: If you are seriously depressed, or if you think you ave had symptoms of depression for more than a few weeks, please see you doctor, because I'm not one, and this podcast is for entertainment purposes only. Stress Stress can affect our bodies and our abilities to make good decisions. In the podcast, I share a story about how stress during my last year at work caused my lack of decision, which became my decision and it affected my health in a negative way.  Age Another thing that affects decisions is our age. Studies have shown that as we age, we begin to rely more on our instincts and our past experiences when we make decisions. Age affects decision making also. As people move further past 65, many are taking greater financial risks. This can cause some of us to have to make decisions on behalf of our parents. My friend John had to take over his mothers  bills and accounts because she was giving money to a charity and not paying her bills. The people from the charity were tugging on her heart strings, so she gave them a large amount of money that she couldn't afford. I tell you what he had to do in the audio. The choices we make tell a lot about who we are and what makes us unique. but everyone of us at one time or another has some really hard choices to make. and living with the results of those choices, or the choice of not even choosing at all, can sometime cause anxiety, and even regret.  The thoughts that you have every day influence the decisions that you make, and those decisions have everything to do with what your life is. As long as you're alive, you're making choices and those choices represent what is important to you. Character traits develop as you respond to the choices that you make. Decisions can be quite stressful especially when you don't feel good or someone else in your family is sick. Before you know it, you let your emotions decide for you, or you just do nothing and let the chips fall where they may. Philosopher Ruth Chang calls this "drifting" She says that people who don't exercise their own power of decision-making when faced with hard choices are called drifters. Drifters allow the world to , as she says, "write the story of their lives" I relate drifting in life to the story of watching a stick in the stream. This stick, drifting fast down the stream, sometimes forward, sometimes spinning in circles, sometimes getting stuck someplace. Don't be like that stick. Get in a boat. Make those decisions that move you forward. Indecision is a lot like drifting.  Now I get to tell you about the surprise I found that will make you feel better if you think its all related to age: A (Really) Good Memory A fourth reason you might be having difficulty make a decision is that you may have a high working memory but are easily distracted. Researchers at the University of Chicago and Michigan State University studied a group of people with a high working memory but who freeze when making decisions. Studies show that the  people who have high working memory brain usually rely on those resources to solve hard problems, but if they also have a poor attention span then they get distracted easily which causes them anxiety, and it's that anxiety that gets them to freeze up when the pressure is on.  5 steps to help you make those decisions with confidence Step 1  Let your choices be a reflection of your hopes, not your fears Big decisions can wreak havoc on your emotions... emotions get in the way of decisions, and that clouds your judgment. Fears can take many faces; fear of failure or pain, fear of what others will think,  fear of perfectionism, fear of success, If you cant make a decision, there’s a good chance that you’re afraid of something. Identify the fear, learn more about it, conquer it, and move on. Make the decision that's best for you. Best-selling author, Seth Godin says, "You don't need more time in your day, you need to decide." Don't make major decisions when you are visibly hurt, stressed, angry. Never make a decision that will purposefully hurt someone else. Good decision making includes keeping your honor and integrity. My decision to take early retirement is discussed.  Step 2 Do your Research, but stay focused and set a deadline Even if you don't meet the self imposed deadline, you will be closer to a good decision than with no deadline. Have you ever looked up a certain illness on the Internet and been completely overwhelmed with the information? Doing too much research can lead to even  more stress and overload us with information that we don't need. Pull back from those distractions. There is so much information available at our fingertips, so it's important to remember to look at the research with a discerning eye and stay focused on the specific questions you need answered to make your decision.  As you investigate the options, write down simple and specific information a way that's best  for you.  You could use the traditional pros and cons list on a yellow notepad, or write down your findings on sticky notes and assemble them into categories similar to using an affinity diagram. the main thing to remember is that you're not just relying on your instincts, you are also doing your research.  Some decisions, like how to handle a tough situation, are worth mulling over. Others, like deciding what you are going to have for supper tonight, are not. Don’t fall into that trap of over analyzing the small decision. Ask: Will this matter 10 years from now? Sometimes decisions seem much bigger than they really are. Maybe you’re struggling with whether or not to take that new job. You can quit your new job if it really horrible.  Step 3 Trust your instincts (your gut) Our nervous system really does include our gut. When I'm stressed, I can feel it immediately in my stomach. Think about a person you love spending time with: They either make you feel safe or happy, or both. Now think about someone you can't ever please or get along with. how does your gut feel  when you think of them? Relay that same test to each side of your decision. Remember the simple test of tossing a coin to decide when both sides were relatively equal. And before the coin even landed you knew which side you were hoping for? That's your instincts kicking in.  Don't be so hard on yourself if you can't decide. Even if you have both options, with all the advantages lined up on either side of the yellow tablet, and you think that there is no best option, then you just say that they are on par with each other. You look at the choices and think about how much value that you have give to each item on your list. and make the best decision that you can with that information. Remember, our decisions become our life. Our life becomes our legacy. Step 4 Get the advice of a trusted friend, or two, and pray or meditate on it Reach out to someone you trust, someone who’s been there or done that. Meditate on it or reach out to your higher power to help you become more focused on what you really want. Step 5 Decide, accept, let go and move on Finally, after you have made the choice, accept the fact that you made the best decision that you could with the information you had, in  the time that you had, and using the wisdom that comes with your age. Let go of any further anxious feelings.  Decisions have consequences, but how you handle those consequences are a reflection of your maturity.  Every situation, no matter how bad, can be made better by our attitude. So if you make a poor decision and have to handle the consequences, then it is in those circumstances that attitude counts more than ever. Remember, even wrong decisions can lead to some pretty terrific outcomes, but even if they don't, you'll  have a great story to tell and learned a new life lesson. Thank you for listening! You can visit my website at PositivelyLifeAfterFifty.com or pla50.com. The following were mentioned in the show: For the depression article referred click here. Click here to watch Ruth Chang's TED Talk video Read more about Decision Making Factors People with higher working memory ability suffer

Welcome to an informative, inspiring series for those of us in our forties, fifties and beyond. In this episode, you will meet the host and then look at insights regarding the choices and challenges we are met with at this age. The two points discussed are: “The only guarantee in life is change, how you respond to it is your choice.” and “Find unusual ways to stay positive – like going OUTSIDE your comfort zone.”   Quotes:   Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt. ~Abraham Lincoln   “have a purpose — your family, your work, your community. There may be no better longevity booster than simply wanting to be here. You have one life; it makes sense to love living it.” Dr. Mehmet Oz   Links mentioned in the show:   Changing Course: Navigating Life After Fifty      book by William A. Sadler, Ph.D. and James H. Krefft, Ph.D.   MSNBC anchor Dylan Ratigan gives up fame and fortune to become a farmer     Mother Nature Network article on Dylan Ratigan   Living Long and Living Well         Dr.   Mehmet Oz's Article

Positive thinking, getting rid of those automatic negative thoughts, what is Pollyanna-ism and how can it help you, these are all part of today's show. We're going to look at how you can have that positive mindset to help you survive and prosper no matter what life throws at you. There are countless examples of people throughout history who had physical, mental, or emotional struggles in life, but instead of letting it define them, and keep them down, they used the opportunities that arose from those afflictions to help others.  If you let these automatic negative thoughts control your emotions, then you are likely to follow with a negative action. Maybe that action is a negative response to someone you're talking to, eating something unhealthy, or taking something unhealthy. Maybe your negative thoughts are telling you that you're not good enough, smart enough, or sharp enough. In any case those Automatic Negative Thoughts are keeping you from living the finest life you can have. We'll learn two ways to take control of negative thoughts--and more-- in today's show! Full show notes at Positively Life After Fifty, Episode 002

The Right Career Fit; Take the 40 Day Pledge Changing Careers in Mid Life (This is an edited and updated version of a popular episode)   Thinking about a new career? Which one is the right fit for your special personality? Which ones won’t pay the bills?   Today on Positively Life After Fifty we'll look at which college degrees may not be the best investment, then you'll hear what the 12 work personalities are and how you can find out what yours may be. What's mine? Listen to find out!   You'll hear the moving story of a man who found a new career after a devastating blow, but then made a compelling video encouraging others in mid life to never give up on their dreams.   Finally, I'll tell you about the 40 Day Pledge that helps each of us become more organized with the most precious of all our documents, and helps us to make the decisions that will aid you and your family in the case of an emergency.   The following links are mentioned in the show:   Here's the link to the article naming which college degrees don't have a lot of bang for your buck: Eight College Degrees With the Worst Return on Investment     Click on this link to take the test to see which of the 12 work personalilties you may favor: The Career Archetype Test 12 Work Personalities     Then you'll hear the inspirational story of Erv, and how he took a major turn at the crossroads of life. You can view his video here:   The Inspiring Story that Erv has to Share   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wx4rBY3QKY   I also tell you about the 40 Day Pledge I just signed at Decide, Create, Share, and why I think everyone needs to check it out. You can download your very own copy here: Decide, Create, Share Booklet   You can see more by visiting website, Positively Life After Fifty   Quote mentioned at the end of the podcast:   Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.  -Earl Nightingale   Thank you for listening!