Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara give an intimate look at the emotional power of a trauma bond. How trauma bonds create mental confusion and a psychological dependence on the abuser. And, the self-help tip is on the importance of identifying and protecting non-negotiable boundaries.Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1 episode 58: Why can't I leave my partner? The seven stages of a trauma bond Listen here.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast, send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

In this episode, Kerry and Tara discuss a particularly dangerous group of people, the Dark Triad Personality Disorders. And today's self-help tip is how to  assess if someone you know is a one. Is My Partner Toxic or Dangerous? Find out with this short survey If you’re wanting to exit a toxic relationship safety,  here are some things to consider. References:Adam Grant Definition of the Light Triad Personality type Robert Hare, Ph.D. Expert on psychopathyBreaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse Season 1 Episode 47: How does a narcissist or a psychopath differ? Aren't both abusive?Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the showSupport the show

In this episode, Kerry and Tara tackle how complicated it can be when the narcissists in your life can also be friends or family members. And the self-help tip is a visualization strategy for your boundaries. Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse Season 1 Episode 69: Ready for the holidays? My three top tips for dealing with difficult relatives and in-laws https://www.buzzsprout.com/2150391/12420137-ready-for-the-holidays-my-three-top-tips-for-dealing-with-difficult-relatives-and-in-lawsFollow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

Victims of narcissistic abuse often complain about seeing happy photos of their exes on social media. In this episode, Kerry and Tara will discuss why some people move on so quickly and easily after leaving a relationship. And the Self-Help Tip will be how to use "containment" for intense emotions like grief. References:"Understanding the Way Men Grieve" https://www.socialworktoday.com/archive/exc_0816.shtml Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson, Ph.D. https://amzn.to/3LN76oiFollow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

Have you noticed how narcissists and toxic people morph into someone new once love-bombing is over? In this episode, Kerry and Tara examine the chameleon-like nature of personality disorders and how this creates confusion and self-doubt for victims. And the self-help tip is a helpful exercise to expose if this dynamic is happening in your current relationship. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara tackle the power of reactive abuse to make some narcissistic abuse victims feel crazy. And the self-help tip is how to increase the effectiveness of an affirmation by pairing it with a positive behavior. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss the vulnerabilities those of us with ADHD or Autism might have in regards to toxic relationships. And, the self-help tip is on how to practice boundaried sharing with the social skyscraper.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss the myth of sex in the narcissistic relationship, and how it might be bad, weaponized, or even assaultive. And, the self-help tip is on how to practice red light/green light in assessing if and what you should do in regards to physical intimacy in a current or new relationship.Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1, episode 44: What's wrong with me? Why isn't my partner interested in sex? Listen here.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss the signs of cognitive dissonance and the impact it can have on us physically, mentally, and emotionally. And, the self-help tip is on how to practice H.A.L.T in order to get back to practicing the basics.Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1, episode 24: If it’s that bad, why don’t narcissistic abuse victims just leave? Listen here.Anonymity by Susan Bergman Why Can't I Just Leave? by Dr. Kristen Milstead Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast; send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss how we might actually gaslight in healthy relationships and how to avoid doing this in the future. And, the self-help tip is on letting others "earn" our trust before blindly giving it to them.Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1, episode 30: Something is really wrong with this relationship. Could I be the narcissist? Listen here.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast, send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss codependency vs. Super Traits, what's the difference, and why we differ in how we feel about each of the terms. And, the self-help tip is on how to create a list of top lines for yourself.Repeat After Me by Claudia Black: https://amzn.to/3ZMYbsnCodependent No More by Melody Beattie: Melody Beattie https://amzn.to/3YpjeQHFacing Codependency: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Miller, Miller, and McMillan: https://amzn.to/3SV8B7gNot Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty by Aziz Gazipura, PsyD: https://amzn.to/3YkEirKWomen Who Love Psychopaths by Sandra L. Brown: https://amzn.to/3mxNNGBCodependent Anonymous: CoDA.orghttps://coda.orgBreaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1 episode 58: Why can't I leave my partner? The seven stages of a trauma bond Listen here.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast! Leave us a review and let us know what you think about the podcast, send an email to hello@breakingfreewithkerrytara.comMore available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.comSupport the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss co-parenting challenges when you have a toxic ex. How do you stay regulated when kids are involved, and what do you do when the kids are being used as pawns? Today's self-help tip is learning to talk to yourself as if you were a friend.Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1 episode 66: Is the abuse harmful to children? Two survivors share their personal experiences. Listen here.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.comRecommendations for coparenting apps: OnwardOurFamilyWizardWeParentCustodyConnectionParentship2Houses Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss why your toxic ex might come back and try to lovebomb you after the break-up through, what may seem like, innocent requests of friendship. We agree that while their offer may seem tantalizing, DON'T do it! Today's self-help tip is a different way to approach communicating with toxic people.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

In this week's episode, Kerry and Tara discuss following through with limited contact or no contact after a break-up. What is limited vs. no contact? How long should you do it for? And WHY should you do it? Today's self-help tip is one way to self-soothe during reactive abuse.Make sure to check out Tara's 30-day SMS course, "How to Go No Contact With Your Ex," and use the code "PODCAST" to receive 35% off!Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

Research has found that over 99% of victims in abusive relationships were also being financially abused. Could you be experiencing financial abuse? In this episode, Kerry and Tara will identify the common indicators of this abuse type along with some suggestions on how to overcome it. And today's self-help tip discusses the importance of leading with your head and not your heart when making big relationship decisions.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accounts.Are you struggling with challenging family relationships? Maybe you’re experiencing damaging power plays, maddening triangulation, or tattling in the form of gossip? Join the upcoming webinar on February 9, 2023, Best Coping & Management Strategies for Toxic or Narcissistic Families: Surviving the chaos of a narcissistic family member. Get your tickets now.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club!Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss the common problem of exes trying to return after a breakup. Tara also shares why it's necessary to be careful with following self-help advice in this week's self-help tip. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accountsAre you struggling with challenging family relationships? Maybe you’re experiencing damaging power plays, maddening triangulation, or tattling in the form of gossip? Join the upcoming webinar on February 9, 2023 Best Coping & Management Strategies for Toxic or Narcissistic Families: Surviving the chaos of a narcissistic family member. Get your tickets now.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More available at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss the use of narcissistic abuse. It's become a very popular topic on social media. Is it being overused? Then in the Self-Help Tip for today, we'll share how to handle a common argument tactic like DARVO.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accountsAre you struggling with challenging family relationships? Maybe you’re experiencing damaging power plays, maddening triangulation, or tattling in the form of gossip? Join the upcoming webinar on February 9, 2023 Best Coping & Management Strategies for Toxic or Narcissistic Families: Surviving the chaos of a narcissistic family member. Get your tickets now.Sign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss setting realistic goals in 2023 and the Self-Help Tip is a simple strategy on how to hold better boundaries.Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accountsSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

Welcome back to a new season! I’m being joined with a co-host, Tara Blair Ball, author & relationship coach and kicking off a new self-help tip segment. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook: Kerry's accounts & Tara's accountsSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse? LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross. Available here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Seeking help? Book a coaching session with Tara.Reclaim & Recover: Heal from Toxic Relationships with a 7-Step Guided Journal. Get the Journal on Amazon.Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show

Narcissist and other difficult people love to ruin the holidays. They will find some way to make it harder on you.In this episode I’m going to offer three of my favorite tips on how to manage this year’s holiday season so that it’s more manageable and meaningful.I'll be back next year for season 2!Register now to 6 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Peace and Confidence. Group coaching with Trey de la Torre and Dr. McAvoy. Next six sessions start January 7th.Follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook! @kerrymcavoyphdSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.Support the show