Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

What I Discussed With Shoshanna Blanca- Why Shoshanna created her Jesus Christ Pornstar alter ego.- Her journey from a Jewish upbringing to exploring Christianity and religious imagery.- How religious teachings can shape attitudes towards sex and pleasure.- Why she chose OnlyFans for her erotic performance art.- Exploring sexuality through meditation, prayer and spiritual practices.- Her experiences with psychedelics and sexual self-discovery.- How she navigates her two professional identities as a therapist and adult performer.Chapters00:00 Sponsor: https://senserawellness.com/01:03 Introduction: Meet Shoshanna Blanca03:06 How Her Erotic and Spiritual Art Began04:00 Uncovering Eve and Reclaiming Women’s Bodies04:54 The Second Coming and Radical Christianity06:40 Her Jewish Upbringing and Exploring Christianity08:28 Why She Chose OnlyFans11:47 Challenging Religious Sexual Shame13:10 Religion, Sexual Desire and Pleasure16:18 Sex as a Spiritual Practice17:20 Psychedelics, Sexual Shame and Self-Discovery20:35 Psychedelics and Therapy22:28 How Psychedelics Inspire Her Creative Work23:42 Sexual Expression, Censorship and Performance Art26:24 Balancing Her Career as a Therapist and Adult Performer27:26 Body Positivity and Self-Acceptance28:34 Living Authentically and Embracing Both Identities30:38 Final Thoughts30:51 Closing and Sex Advice for SeniorsShow NotesWhat happens when a sex therapist decides to combine Jesus, OnlyFans and erotic performance art?My guest, Shoshanna Blanca, is someone I've interviewed before as Suzannah Weiss, the author of Eve's Blessing. But this time we're talking about her rather unusual creative persona, Jesus Christ Pornstar.Shoshanna uses biblical imagery, erotic expression and her own experiences with spirituality to challenge the idea that women's bodies and sexual desires should be sources of shame.We discuss why religious conditioning can be difficult to overcome, particularly later in life, and whether sex can be experienced as something spiritual rather than sinful.We also talk about psychedelic experiences, censorship of sexual content online, and the challenges of maintaining a career as a therapist while exploring a much more provocative side of herself.It's an unconventional conversation, and probably not for everyone, but it raises some interesting questions about pleasure, judgment and the freedom to decide what feels right for your own body.Content note: This episode discusses adult performance art, explicit sexual themes, religious beliefs, sexual trauma and psychedelic experiences.Key Takeaways- Messages learned about sex during childhood can continue to influence attitudes towards pleasure later in life.- Religious beliefs and sexual expression do not have to mean the same thing to everyone.- Reclaiming sexual confidence can involve challenging beliefs about the body and shame.- Shoshanna views her erotic performance art as a form of personal and spiritual expression.- Psychedelics have influenced Shoshanna's understanding of her sexuality, although her experiences are personal rather than established therapeutic outcomes.- Living authentically can be complicated when personal expression and professional expectations collide.About the GuestShoshanna Blanca AKA Jesus Christ Pornstar is an adult star with a mission to bridge heaven and earth by bridging the gap between spirituality and sensuality. She has created several video series hosted on OnlyFans and Pornhub including The Second Cumming, where she vlogs about her Jesus visitations on psychedelics, and Church in Bed, where she sings uplifting Christian songs from her bedroom, along with her orgasmic Bible readings and prayers. She's also a body-positive model with lingerie, swimsuit, and fashion photographs showcased in many magazines.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast for people who want to enjoy sex, intimacy, and connection at every age.Through her podcast, newsletter, courses, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and offers honest, practical conversations about sexuality, ageing, relationships, and pleasure.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://sexadviceforseniors.comConnect With ShoshannaOfficial website: https://suzannahweiss.com/Creative projects: https://linktr.ee/shoshannalovesjesusInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/suzannahwise/Book: Eve's Blessing: Uncovering the Lost Pleasure Behind Female PainSubstack: Mary Magdalene's Diary https://substack.com/@diaryofmarymagdaleneWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesSex Without Shame — Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/episode-70-sex-without-shameHow to Ask for What You Want in Bed Without Feeling Awkward — Sarah Ward https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/from-style-to-sensuality-sarah-wardUnderstanding Your Sexual Birthright — Galen Fous https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/episode-104-understanding-your-sexual This is a public episode. 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What I Discussed With Bruce & Judy- What 22 years together has taught them about sex and intimacy.- Why being able to talk openly about sexual desires becomes easier with maturity.- How earlier marriages shaped their approach to relationships.- The role of erotica, fantasy and sexual exploration in a monogamous relationship.- Menopause, responsive desire and changes in libido.- Why accepting rejection graciously can make intimacy easier.- How kindness, humour and playfulness help couples stay connected.ChaptersShow NotesCan sex actually get better as you get older?My guests, psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and his wife Judy Alexander, have been together for 22 years. They also host Couples Therapy in Seven Words, where they explore what makes relationships work.We talk about why sexual maturity can be an advantage, how their previous marriages influenced the relationship they have today, and what they've learned about communicating desires without fear of criticism or rejection.Judy also shares how writing erotica has opened up another side of her sexuality, while Bruce explains why responsive desire, playfulness and simply being kind to each other can matter so much in long-term relationships.Key Takeaways- Sexual maturity can bring greater confidence and openness to intimacy.- Couples can explore fantasies without necessarily acting on them.- Responsive desire is just as valid as spontaneous desire.- Being able to say and accept "no" without resentment helps build trust.- Everyday affection and playfulness can keep sexual connection alive.- Kindness and respect are important foundations for lasting intimacy.About the GuestDr. Bruce Chalmer is a licensed psychologist and couples therapist with decades of experience helping people navigate relationships, intimacy and conflict. He is the author of several relationship books, including Reigniting the Spark and It's Not About Communication!Judy Alexander is a former educator and school principal who writes erotica under the pen name Laria Zylber. Her book, The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible, explores desire through imaginative retellings of biblical stories.Together, Bruce and Judy host Couples Therapy in Seven Words, sharing their professional and personal perspectives on relationships.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast for people who want to enjoy sex, intimacy, and connection at every age.Through her podcast, newsletter, courses, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and offers honest, practical conversations about sexuality, ageing, relationships, and pleasure.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://sexadviceforseniors.comConnect With Bruce & Judy Here:Couples Therapy in Seven Words https://couplestherapyinsevenwords.com/Bruce Chalmer — Website, Books & Courses https://brucechalmer.com/Judy Alexander / Laria Zylber https://lariazylber.com/Couples Therapy in Seven Words on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/couples-therapy-in-seven-words/id1517231158Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesThe Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years — Elana Auerbach https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesntHow to Ask for What You Want in Bed (and Get It) — Susan Bratton https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/episode-105-how-to-ask-for-what-youStill Getting Real: Dr. Susan Campbell on Love and Sex in Your 80s https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/still-getting-real-dr-susan-campbell This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What I Discussed With Andrea Feinberg- Dating again in your 70s and discovering unexpected possibilities.- Why younger men are attracted to older women.- Sexual confidence, body image and feeling desirable.- Reclaiming sexuality after years without intimacy.- Dating apps, kink and exploring new experiences.- Staying safe while dating online and setting boundaries.- Why age doesn't have to determine what you do next.- Reinvention, independence and creating a bigger life later in life.Chapters00:00 Sponsor: https://www.ohmibod.com/00:27 Introduction01:50 Dating Again in Your 70s02:08 Andrea's First Experiences With Younger Men03:22 A Renewed Sexual Life04:22 Suzanne's Experience With Dating Younger Men05:39 Why Younger Men Date Older Women06:01 What Andrea Looks For in a Partner07:22 Why Younger Men Are Attracted to Older Women07:47 What Older Women Bring to Relationships09:13 “Your Sexiest Years Begin at 70”10:21 Body Confidence and Dating Younger Men11:24 Feeling Comfortable in Your Own Body13:28 Why Younger Men Can Be More Open About Desire14:01 Sex, Desire and Personal Transformation16:19 Exploring FetLife and Sexuality17:20 Erotic Writing, Photos and Sexual Confidence19:36 From Sexual Exploration to Wanting a Relationship20:18 Dating Safety and Consent21:31 Andrea's Approach to Safe Online Dating22:29 Background Checks and Meeting in Public25:27 Writing About Sex and Deciding What to Share26:11 How the Book Came Together28:18 Finding New Possibilities After 7029:20 Can Age-Gap Relationships Last?30:23 Looking for a Deeper Relationship31:10 Age-Gap Relationships and What Makes Them Work32:03 Older Women as Trailblazers32:36 Why Andrea Wrote the Book33:14 Reinventing Yourself and Rejecting Age Limits34:42 Deciding What You Want Next35:15 Independence and Confidence36:44 Growing Up Without Shame Around Sex37:57 Why Many Older Women Struggle With Sexual Confidence38:47 What's Next for Andrea39:35 A Possible New Book: The Bridge Club40:40 Why Life Doesn't Get Smaller With Age42:15 ClosingShow NotesWhat happens when you start dating again in your 70s and discover that your sex life and sense of possibility are far from over?Andrea Feinberg began dating again at 71 after years without intimacy. She found herself dating significantly younger men, exploring parts of her sexuality she hadn't expected to revisit, and eventually turning those experiences into her book, Sex, Sensuality, and the Senior Woman.In this conversation, Andrea talks openly about younger men, sexual confidence, dating apps, kink, safety, reinvention and why she refuses to let the phrase "at my age" determine what comes next.She is now looking for something more serious, but the bigger message remains the same: getting older doesn't mean your life has to get smaller.Key Takeaways- Dating and sexual exploration can happen at any age.- Younger men may be attracted to older women for reasons that have little to do with age.- Confidence can grow through new experiences and being seen as desirable.- Online dating requires boundaries, patience and attention to safety.- Reinvention doesn't have an expiration date.- Your next chapter doesn't have to follow conventional expectations.About the GuestAndrea Feinberg is the author of Sex, Sensuality and the Senior Woman, a candid account of rediscovering dating, desire and sexual confidence in her seventies.After 25 years as a business coach, Andrea has shifted her focus toward helping other senior women question the limitations placed on them as they age and explore what they still want from life, relationships and themselves.Her work is rooted in curiosity, reinvention and the belief that getting older doesn't mean your possibilities have to get smaller.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast for people who want to enjoy sex, intimacy, and connection at every age.Through her podcast, newsletter, courses, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and offers honest, practical conversations about sexuality, ageing, relationships, and pleasure.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://sexadviceforseniors.comConnect with AndreaLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreafeinbergSex, Sensuality and the Senior Woman — Apple Books https://books.apple.com/us/book/sex-sensuality-and-the-senior-woman/id6794138217Sex, Sensuality and the Senior Woman — Red Penguin Books https://redpenguinbooks.com/sex-sensuality-and-the-senior-woAndrea also has two Substack publications: Erotica by Andrea Feinberg https://substack.com/@eroticabyandreafeinberg and Not Too Old for a Plot Twist https://substack.com/@andreafeinbergplottwistWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesCindy Gallop on Dating Younger Men https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/episode-13-cindy-gallop-on-datingThe Dating Mistakes That Keep You Single After 40 | ft. Sandy Weiner https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/the-dating-mistakes-that-keep-youWidowhood, Desire, and the Sexual Reawakening Nobody Talks About https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/widowhood-desire-and-the-sexual-reawakening This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What I Discussed With Caroline Hood- Why couples need to stay connected as lovers as well as parents.- How motherhood can affect desire, identity and intimacy.- Why women's desire may not disappear but simply get pushed aside.- What happens when you're "touched out" from caregiving.- How ageing and changing bodies can affect sexual confidence.- Why communication matters when a couple's sexual dynamic changes.- How women can reconnect with their sexual selves.ChaptersShow NotesMotherhood can change the way couples see themselves and each other. The shift from partners to parents can be gradual, and sex and intimacy can easily move down the list.Caroline Hood, a sex therapist, clinical social worker and mother of three, talks about staying lovers alongside being parents, reclaiming desire, and what happens when caregiving and changing bodies affect the way we experience sex. Pasted textWe also talk about feeling "touched out," losing touch with your sexual identity, and why women shouldn't have to give up their sexuality simply because they are getting older.Key Takeaways- Becoming a parent doesn't mean losing your identity as a lover.- Sexual intimacy often needs to be intentional, especially when life gets busy.- Desire can be pushed aside without actually disappearing.- Feeling "touched out" is something couples need to be able to talk about.- Aging doesn't mean giving up pleasure or feeling desirable.- Reconnecting with your sexual self can happen at any stage of life.About Caroline HoodCaroline Hood is a sex therapist and clinical social worker, as well as a mother of three. Her work focuses on desire, sexuality and relationships, drawing on both her professional experience and her own experience of motherhood and long-term partnership. She is also the author of the forthcoming book Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and relationships in later life.Through her podcast, newsletter, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and encourages people to stay curious about their bodies and sexual wellbeing at every age.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://sexadviceforseniors.comConnect with CarolineWebsite https://www.desireinreallife.com/Substack https://substack.com/@desireinreallifeInstagram https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_VhaAzddAiEuQO6Kgk051gWant More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesWhy Couples Lose Desire (And How to Get It Back) | Dr. Anna Elton https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-desire-and-how-toWhy Sex Changes After 50 and What Nobody Tells You | ft. Dr. Jenn Kennedy https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-sex-changes-after-50-and-whatWhy Women Lose Their Libido (And How to Get It Back) | ft. Pauline Ryeland https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/pauline-ryeland This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What I Discussed With Gaylen Wilson- How erectile dysfunction changed Gaylen's sex life and marriage.- Why he believes men should take ED seriously rather than ignore it.- How couples can stay connected when erections become unreliable.- Why intimacy doesn't have to be centred around performance.- How shame and withdrawal can damage relationships.- The connection between ED, attachment and fight-or-flight.- How Gaylen and Heather developed the Monument Method.- Why lifestyle, fitness and overall health still matter.Chapters00:00 Sponsor: OhMiBod https://www.ohmibod.com/ + Introduction01:58 Gaylen’s Experience With Erectile Dysfunction03:33 Rebuilding Intimacy Through Serious Illness04:34 Erectile Dysfunction and the Importance of Heart Health06:02 Stroke, Viagra, and Cardiovascular Health08:42 Sex Beyond Erectile Dysfunction09:46 What Men With Erectile Dysfunction Struggle With12:35 Porn, Performance, and Sexual Connection14:06 When Erectile Dysfunction Leads to Withdrawal in Relationships15:12 The “Tough Nut Letter”16:11 Removing Shame and Facing Erectile Dysfunction Together17:29 Attachment Theory and Relationship Safety19:21 The Monument Method20:13 Repairing Conflict and Rebuilding Connection21:41 Why Some Men Withdraw After Developing Erectile Dysfunction22:53 Why Erectile Dysfunction Can Have Many Causes24:36 Beyond the “Blue Pill”: Lifestyle and Erectile Dysfunction26:18 Erectile Dysfunction Treatments, Injections, and Long-Term Health28:28 The Mission Behind the Monument Method29:36 Healthy Aging, Exercise, and Intimacy31:48 The Sanctuary Bond33:26 Keeping Desire Alive After 20+ Years Together34:31 Sobriety, Connection, and Personal Change35:30 Keeping Long-Term Intimacy Alive36:42 OutroShow NotesErectile dysfunction can affect much more than sex. It can change confidence, intimacy and the way couples relate to each other.In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, Suzanne talks with Gaylen Wilson, a heart transplant survivor, relationship author and founder of the Monument Method Institute. Gaylen shares his long experience with ED and how he and his wife stayed connected when serious illness changed what sex looked like in their marriage.They also talk about what happens when shame causes men to withdraw, why sex doesn't have to be centred around performance, and how the Monument Method grew out of Gaylen and Heather's own experience of protecting their relationship through difficult periods.Key Takeaways- ED can affect a relationship as much as it affects sex.- Intimacy can continue even when erections become unreliable.- Shame and withdrawal can create additional problems for couples.- Talking openly can help partners approach ED as something they can work through together.- The Monument Method uses a shared cue to interrupt conflict and reconnect.- Health, fitness and lifestyle are part of the wider conversation around sexual wellbeing.About GaylenGaylen Wilson is a heart transplant survivor, relationship author and founder of the Monument Method Institute. His work focuses on erectile dysfunction, intimacy, emotional safety and helping couples protect their relationships.You can find Gaylen and Heather's work at Monument Method Institute. Their site describes the Monument Method as a relationship system built around interrupting destructive conflict, restoring safety and protecting the bond.About SuzanneSuzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors, a podcast about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and relationships in later life.Through her podcast, newsletter, and community, Suzanne challenges the idea that sex has an expiry date and encourages people to stay curious about their bodies and sexual wellbeing at every age.Connect With SuzanneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniorsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://sexadviceforseniors.comConnect with GaylenWebsite https://www.monumentmethodinstitute.com/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/monumentmethodinstitute/YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@MonumentMethodInstituteTikTok tiktok.com/@monumentmethodFacebook https://www.facebook.com/share/1aXxBYJ9kw/Want More?Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebieSign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.comOvercome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.comCheck Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirmInterested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoringRelated EpisodesThe Hidden Habits Destroying Men's Erections | ft. 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