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Are you ready to thrive as you are coming out of a toxic or abusive relationship? Join Sybil Cummin, a licensed professional counselor who has specialized in working with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse for over a decade and runs a membership community for women on their healing journey. On this podcast you will finally feel understood and your experience will be validated as you learn tangible strategies to handle family court, coparent with your abuser, improve your connection with your children, and heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence.
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What constitutes moral injury?It is quite possible that you have experienced enough trauma to have symptoms of PTSD after experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse. And it is also possible that this is compounded by something even deeper; the destruction of your moral code.As promised in episode 50, I am doing a deep dive into all things moral injury so that I can help you become unstuck on your healing journey and find self-forgiveness which is required for healing. I ...
Don’t sign off on your parenting plan until you have listened to this episode! There may be loopholes that a narcissistic ex-partner will exploit for years to come.Divorcing an abusive ex-partner leads to further abuse, called post-separation abuse, especially if you share children with them. The way our family court system is set up allows abuse to continue and at times actually seems to support the abuse. So, it is imperative that you know what loopholes to look out for as...
Did you grow up learning that you were never good enough? Did it feel normal when your abusive partner started their emotional and psychological abuse in your relationship?Growing up with a narcissistic parent can set you up for unhealthy relationships as an adult.Dr. Praveena specializes in working with adult children of narcissistic parents after her own experiences growing up. In this episode, we discuss how to change the thought patterns that were conditioned in your mind as a...
Everyone talks about the escape from domestic violence or a narcissistic relationship. The resources and support are for those trying to escape the abuse.But what if you were not trying to escape? What if the reason you are now separated from your abuser is that you were discarded?In this episode, we look at the differences in support, perception, and reactions after separation from an abusive partner when the victim is discarded vs someone who left on their own volition and timel...
1You dream of the day when you can find freedom and safety for yourself and your children. You escape your abusive partner and are ready to start healing. But years later, you are still dealing with the onslaught of abuse; not only from your abuser but from their family as well.This is what my guest, Aimee has been dealing with for the last 13 years. Aimee shares her story of her abusive relationship and the post-separation abuse she has experienced and the near lethal incide...
If you are like many of The Rising Beyond Community members, then your WHY is around keeping your children safe, physically and emotionally. Getting your children the support they need after leaving an abusive relationship with their other parent can feel extremely overwhelming, especially if they have to continue to see that parent without having you as a buffer.Based on my training as a play therapist, I want to share some tips on building your child’s resilience after this transition...
What questions do you have about post separation abuse? I received many many questions before, during, and after a webinar I did for domesticshelters.org and know that many of you have the same questions. In this episode I will be answering five of the questions received.If you have not left your abuser yet, how can you prepare for post separation abuse? What should we make sure we do? What should we avoid?Do you have some suggestions for safely maintaining boundaries while ...
Did you ever feel the nagging voice of your intuition telling you to get out or to stop a wedding and then ignore it? You had dreams of a happy marriage and children and you were trying to will that into existence even when there were red flags waving in your face?My guest, Amanda Lee knows this all too well. In this week’s episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Amanda shares her experience of falling in love with her abuser and getting married even when her gut was telling her to ...
If you have just separated from your abusive ex and are facing family court for the first time or if you have been doing this for a while, it is important to have realistic expectations and tangible skills to use as you go through this process.In this episode, you will learn what to expect and how to mitigate the challenges of family court with a high-conflict personality ex-partner before you go to court, during a court hearing and testimony, and then in the aftermath. Some of the topi...
Even at your lowest, after experiencing trauma and domestic violence, it is possible to heal and find your purpose. This week’s guest, Misty Chaviers shares her story of abuse and how she was able years later to heal and find her purpose as an advocate and podcaster helping other victims. She is vulnerable and shares how she used drugs and alcohol and eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope with the pain. We discuss how important it is for professionals working in this sp...
Does witnessing domestic violence in your family of origin have effects on your relationships in adulthood? My guest, Lovern Gordon shares her experiences of witnessing her father abuse her mother during her childhood and how this affected her self-worth and identity and led her into becoming a victim of domestic violence later in life. We discuss the misconception that we could pick out an abusive person by how they look and about the mask they wear for the outside world. S...
You get to that point in your relationship where you know you can no longer live with the control and abuse. You separate from your abuser and are left to pick up the pieces.Now what? How do I recover from this? Where do I even start the healing process?In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I have a conversation with Leanne Kanzler, a psychologist and coach on how she helps women and men who have separated from an abusive and controlling partner get back on their fee...
If you have ever felt powerless to help your children as they behave in ways that let you know that they are hurting or scared inside, this episode is for you.Parenting is hard even when you are not having to manage all that comes with post separation abuse; which includes the guilt and shame of what your children are experiencing.So, what can you do to help them and parent in a way that will build their resilience and foster your connection?I am so honored to share this conversation with Rob...
It is episode 100 and we are flipping the script and doing something completely different. My good friend, Lundy Bancroft is interviewing ME, so that you can get a behind the scenes look at how I got started doing this work and why I am so passionate about helping you.We touch on the lack of training mental health professionals get specific to working with domestic violence and coercive control, some of the shifts in the field that I have seen and the shifts that need to happen, how I m...
What does it mean to recover or heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse? I am not sure that there is a universal answer to this question. So my answer…”It depends.”Your healing journey depends on so many different factors such as:Are you/were you legally married?Do you share children with your abuser?How old are your children?How financially dependent have you been on your abuser?What is your experience with your family of origin?What is your current level of emotional s...
How do you know when you are ready to date again after leaving an abusive relationship?It is common that folks find themselves in two camps:I will never date again as long as I liveI jumped into a relationship too fast and found myself another abusive, narcissistic A-holeBut, for those of you in the middle, this question comes up often. There is no one right way to make this decision, however there are some commonalities in the things you need to see within yourself in order to best mak...
Struggling to keep the peace with a high-conflict ex?Does setting boundaries make you so uncomfortable that you don’t do it? But then you are kicking yourself and are full of resentment because you said yes to something that you absolutely do not want to do or don’t have time for?This value-packed episode of "The Rising Beyond Podcast" features sisters, Jan and Jillian Yuhas, who share revolutionary tactics from their latest book "Boundary Badass." Discover how to reclaim your power, pr...
What is the most damaging lie your narcissistic ex partner has said about you? And who are they saying it to?The smear campaign can be extremely hurtful and can cause a lot of problems with receiving support, maintaining relationships, and even family court outcomes.But why do perpetrators of domestic violence and coercive control use the smear campaign post separation?The are trying to get back control and limit your supportThey are trying to hurt you on purposeThey are trying to prote...
How does co-parenting change when either you or your narcissistic ex partner finds a new significant other?What role does your new partner play in the situation?Safety Alert: Oftentimes your abuser will increase their intensity of post separation abuse when you find a new partner. This is not meant to scare, only to inform.First, it is important to have open communication with your new partner before things become extremely serious. This means that you will need to wrap your own m...
Documentation is extremely important for victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. But is what you are documenting really going to matter? And how can we keep it safe?In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I interview Sheri Kurdakul on her experience as a survivor, the shortcomings of the family court system and other larger systems, and why she decided to create Victims Voice. She critiques the existing legal and therapeutic approaches to dom...
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