The Rising Beyond Podcast

What constitutes moral injury?It is quite possible that you have experienced enough trauma to have symptoms of PTSD after experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  And it is also possible that this is compounded by something even deeper; the destruction of your moral code.As promised in episode 50, I am doing a deep dive into all things moral injury so that I can help you become unstuck on your healing journey and find self-forgiveness which is required for healing.  I reached out to Dr. Daniel Roberts, a leader in the research on moral injury to learn how experiences lead to moral injury and how one can heal.In this episode, we touch on the differences between a moral dilemma, moral distress/conflict, and moral injury.  Dr. Roberts shares what he has seen to be effective in treating moral injury and the next step in researching this topic.Dr. Daniel Roberts is the President and CEO of Moral Injury Support Network for Servicewomen, Inc., and a 20+ year U.S. Army Chaplain Corps member. In the span of time, he has helped many servicewomen who experienced moral injury due to sexual assaults, bullying, spousal infidelity, and other traumatic events. His work and research on moral injury and providing pastoral care have been published in the Journal of Health Care Chaplaincy, the Journal of Pastoral Care and Counseling, the Qualitative Report, SAGE Business Cases, and Amazon.Show Links:Moral Injury Support Network for Servicewomen, Inc. (MISNS) web page: https://misns.org.MISNS interviewing spouses of military service members with PTSD for our moral injury research project: https://misns.org/what-is/moral-injury-research/seeking-participants-for-research-project/.MISNS provides moral injury training for organizations: https://misns.org/moral-injury-training-for-your-organization/.Through the Harriet Tubman Chaplain Network, MISNS provides free pastoral care to women veterans in the U.S. and Canada: https://misns.org/tubman-chaplain-network/.Donate now to support research and programs that help women veterans suffering from moral injury: If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Don’t sign off on your parenting plan until you have listened to this episode!  There may be loopholes that a narcissistic ex-partner will exploit for years to come.Divorcing an abusive ex-partner leads to further abuse, called post-separation abuse, especially if you share children with them.  The way our family court system is set up allows abuse to continue and at times actually seems to support the abuse.  So, it is imperative that you know what loopholes to look out for as you create a parenting plan as a part of the separation and divorce process, to prevent as much of the post-separation abuse as possible and to protect your children.  In this episode, Jan and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC and I discuss some of the most common loopholes that are exploited by a narcissistic ex-partner and some ways that you can mitigate these loopholes ahead of time.  We explore the most common loopholes regarding:Travel and vacation timeSubstance Use and Mental Health Concerns of a parentInability to ParentBreach of ContractParentification (basing decisions like when they can be left home alone on child development)Introduction of New Romantic Partners and their role in the child’s lifeMake-up time for visitsFirst Right of RefusalBio: Jan Yuhas and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC are Family Mediators and Co-Parenting Coaches. They specialize in coercive control and high-conflict dynamics by guiding co-parents to overcome the challenges of divorce through creative solutions that are children-centered. Their expertise is a blend of family psychology, conflict resolution, negotiation strategy, healthy boundaries, and real-life experience to guide and serve all family members. You can learn more about Jan and Jillian through their mediation services and coaching programs at divorcefamilymediations.comWebsite: divorcefamilymediations.com Instagram: @divorcefamilymediationIf you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Did you grow up learning that you were never good enough?  Did it feel normal when your abusive partner started their emotional and psychological abuse in your relationship?Growing up with a narcissistic parent can set you up for unhealthy relationships as an adult.Dr. Praveena specializes in working with adult children of narcissistic parents after her own experiences growing up.  In this episode, we discuss how to change the thought patterns that were conditioned in your mind as a child and how to stop people-pleasing.  Dr. Praveena shares the framework she uses with survivors to find freedom from their narcissistic parents, but also those toxic thoughts that keep survivors stuck in that cycle.  One of the first steps in to find self-forgiveness and self-love as you try to take control of your life and find freedom.Dr. Praveena is a Certified Mental Health & Awareness practitioner and works with parental narcissistic abuse victims. She uses various techniques and coping mechanisms, including her personal life experience, to help victims recognize abusive behaviors, heal and live an empowered life. She has also created a framework known as the Narcissistic Victim Empowerment Technique (NVET) to help victims find freedom from manipulating and controlling thoughts of toxic parenting. She understands that many may find it difficult to speak about parental narcissistic abuse due to the trauma bondage and societal perception associated with it, hence Dr Praveena takes it as a personal mission to empower as many individuals out there to take the reins of their own life. Dr. Praveena has a dedicated column called “Mind the Mind” in The Sun; Malaysia’s national daily where she writes about mental health awareness. Also, she sits at the board of Malaysia Mental Health Association (MMHA) On the professional front, Dr. Praveena wears various hats. As an engineer, academician, researcher and avid animal activist, she holds notable positions in multiple non-profit organizations and serves as a voice for issues pertaining to the environment and animals. For her numerous contributions to the society as a whole: people, environment, and animals namely, Dr. Praveena has received the Malaysia's Women Leaders Award by the World Women Leadership Congress. Show Links:Dr. Praveena's Website If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Everyone talks about the escape from domestic violence or a narcissistic relationship.  The resources and support are for those trying to escape the abuse.But what if you were not trying to escape?  What if the reason you are now separated from your abuser is that you were discarded?In this episode, we look at the differences in support, perception, and reactions after separation from an abusive partner when the victim is discarded vs someone who left on their own volition and timeline.  Shame can increase when a victim is not the one who has chosen to leave, the grief process may be prolonged or look different, and the belief that a discard means that there will not be post-separation abuse is debunked. If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

You dream of the day when you can find freedom and safety for yourself and your children.  You escape your abusive partner and are ready to start healing.  But years later, you are still dealing with the onslaught of abuse; not only from your abuser but from their family as well.This is what my guest, Aimee has been dealing with for the last 13 years.  Aimee shares her story of her abusive relationship and the post-separation abuse she has experienced and the near lethal incident that changed the path of her life.  Aimee shares hope that even after such a scary and life-altering moment and consistent post-separation abuse, you can still find freedom and safety for you and your children.Aimee is the Amazon Best Selling Author of The Re-Wilding of Womxn: Release Your Inner Wild to Live the Life of Your Dreams. She is the creator and host of Now and Zen, a Top 50 podcast, created to share the neuroscience of joy with the world. She is an expert on the neuroscience of adult learning, a speaker, a spiritual gangster, a lazy but avid meditator, and a fellow trauma survivor. Aimee’s mission is to help others on their spiritual and trauma-healing journeys through the neuroscience of mindfulness and joy. She has worked as a leader in higher education for over 20 years and regularly hosts healing meditation ceremonies and workshops in her hometown of Denver, Colorado, USA.Website & Podcast: www.draimeecallahan.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_aimeecallahan/If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

If you are like many of The Rising Beyond Community members, then your WHY is around keeping your children safe, physically and emotionally.  Getting your children the support they need after leaving an abusive relationship with their other parent can feel extremely overwhelming, especially if they have to continue to see that parent without having you as a buffer.Based on my training as a play therapist, I want to share some tips on building your child’s resilience after this transition.  So, this episode will focus on using play to build your connection and attachment with your child.  As you begin to use imaginary play with your child, what is important about this special time for the two of you?  First, using child-centered play will allow your child to feel some power and control when they have very little of this in their world.  And second, it will give you a window into their world and allow you to connect in a way that is speaking the same language, will build problem-solving skills, and will feel amazing to your child.Using the tools from Parent Child Interactional Therapy (PCIT), you can start to foster that connection with your child.  The skills discussed are:PraiseReflectImitateDescribe BehaviorsEnjoy and EnthusiasmEven if you can only spend 10 minutes a day due to single parent commitments or low energy levels, this type of connection will help increase their sense of felt safety with you and their resilience.Register for the Audio Summit, April 17th-22nd: Surviving Post-Separation Abuse and a High-Conflict Co-Parent If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

What questions do you have about post separation abuse?  I received many many questions before, during, and after a webinar I did for domesticshelters.org and know that many of you have the same questions.  In this episode I will be answering five of the questions received.If you have not left your abuser yet, how can you prepare for post separation abuse?  What should we make sure we do? What should we avoid?Do you have some suggestions for safely maintaining boundaries while co-parenting with an abusive ex-partner?We often work with a parent with a child who is court-ordered to visit the abuser.  The children in these situations often act out and have negative behaviors when they’re supposed to go to the visits, so the protective parent often doesn’t take them-which leads the abuser claiming that the child is being withheld and may file contempt of the court order.  Is there anything we can do to support clients in this situation?How do we deal with children who are mimicking the behaviors of the abusive parent?Do you have any tips on how to help children from blaming the survivor/protective parent and getting the kids to avoid taking sides?Register for the Audio Summit, April 17th-22nd: Surviving Post-Separation Abuse and a High-Conflict Co-Parent If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Did you ever feel the nagging voice of your intuition telling you to get out or to stop a wedding and then ignore it?  You had dreams of a happy marriage and children and you were trying to will that into existence even when there were red flags waving in your face?My guest, Amanda Lee knows this all too well.  In this week’s episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Amanda shares her experience of falling in love with her abuser and getting married even when her gut was telling her to get out.  She shares the extreme amount of shame she felt when thinking of telling her family that her relationship was not as wonderful as she made it out to be and that things were getting worse.  An extreme threat of violence to her and her children allowed her to break her silence and force past that shame in order to be “one of the lucky ones.”We discuss the feelings of shame that come up when having to be honest with family and friends and that comes up when having to accept that you have been a victim of domestic violence.A.E. Lee started her career in Pennsylvania politics, and while she had hoped it would be everything like her favorite TV show The West Wing, she quickly learned it was not. Long hours, little pay, and even less respect she decided it was time for a change and embarked on a second career in education. She is now a beloved sixth-grade teacher in Fairfax County, Virginia.She resides there now with her two beautiful children, Ethan and Tessa where she continues her passion for writing and being a domestic violence advocate.Show Links:Amanda's Website Buy Amanda's Book Amanda on InstagramAmanda on LinkedIn Robin Gobbel on the Nervous System If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

If you have just separated from your abusive ex and are facing family court for the first time or if you have been doing this for a while, it is important to have realistic expectations and tangible skills to use as you go through this process.In this episode, you will learn what to expect and how to mitigate the challenges of family court with a high-conflict personality ex-partner before you go to court, during a court hearing and testimony, and then in the aftermath.  Some of the topics touched on are:DocumentationYour relationship with your attorneyRealistic expectations around the length of your caseThe false narrative of your abuserTips for testifying in courtMindset shifts regarding the role of your attorney and that of the opposing counselSafety planning after a hearingThe importance of your support networkThe importance of self-care and how to regulate your nervous systemRemember that family court with a narcissistic and abusive ex is a marathon, not a sprint.Show Links:Blog Post - Let 'Em Have a WinEp 32 - Surviving the False Narrative of Your AbuserEp 11 - Your Nervous System Is ShotIf you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Even at your lowest, after experiencing trauma and domestic violence, it is possible to heal and find your purpose.  This week’s guest, Misty Chaviers shares her story of abuse and how she was able years later to heal and find her purpose as an advocate and podcaster helping other victims.  She is vulnerable and shares how she used drugs and alcohol and eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope with the pain.  We discuss how important it is for professionals working in this space to be authentic and what that offers victims and survivors.  This authenticity allows victims to feel safe to share their most shameful stories and secrets in order to start the healing process.Misty Chaviers is a court advocate, case manager and podcast host of the I’m a Survivor Podcast.Follow Misty at:I'm A Survivor PodcastMisty on InstagramIf you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Does witnessing domestic violence in your family of origin have effects on your relationships in adulthood?  My guest, Lovern Gordon shares her experiences of witnessing her father abuse her mother during her childhood and how this affected her self-worth and identity and led her into becoming a victim of domestic violence later in life.  We discuss the misconception that we could pick out an abusive person by how they look and about the mask they wear for the outside world.  She shares why victims continue to stay in these abusive relationships and how our survival strategies to do everything in our power to “have a good day” that then lead us to more intense cycles of abuse.Lovern shares her experiences of how she moved from a victim to survivor and now a “surthriver” and about her current advocacy work.  We discuss the need for major changes within the legal system to improve safety for victims and survivors.Lovern Gordon is a two-time sur-THRIVER of domestic violence (a child witness until she was 15 years old in Trinidad, as well as a 2-year, young adult relationship in the United States). Ten years after escaping the adult relationship, she became the Founder of Love Life Now Foundation, Inc. (LLN), where she used 2 back-to-back pageant wins to increase awareness around issues in 2010 and the following year, LLN was formed. Today, Lovern continues to head LLN, a global awareness and education organization that supports survivors of abuse through their year-round initiatives and direct assistance to other domestic violence programs. She is also a DV awareness book author of the international memoir called, The Legacy He Left Me, which is on a nationwide book and speaking tour. She conducts DV awareness workshops worldwide, in-person and virtually for corporations, high schools, colleges and community groups.Follow Lovern at:Love Life Now Foundation, Inc.The Legacy He Left MeIf you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

You get to that point in your relationship where you know you can no longer live with the control and abuse.  You separate from your abuser and are left to pick up the pieces.Now what?  How do I recover from this?  Where do I even start the healing process?In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I have a conversation with Leanne Kanzler, a psychologist and coach on how she helps women and men who have separated from an abusive and controlling partner get back on their feet and move forward in their lives.  Leanne shares not only from her career experience but also from what she has learned after leaving a controlling relationship and what it takes to heal and become empowered.  We discuss some of the first steps to healing including finding moments to become attuned to your self and body and learning to listen to what you need in the moment, how to set boundaries with others, and the possibility of needing to remove some people out of you support network and how to bring the safe people closer.Leanne's Bio:Leanne Kanzler is a psychologist and coach, author and speaker.  She is a business owner, second-time wife, and mother.Leanne believes that we find our true selves through our deepest wounds. Her sense of being disconnected from herself and the world around her drove her to continually self-reflect and grow.After being in a controlled marriage for twenty years, she took a leap of faith and started to do things for herself, finding herself along the way. This journey led to many realizations, including a beautiful second marriage.Now, she is passionate about helping others go from Breakup to Breakthrough.This means discovering your sense of self and what you want for YOU. Self-empowerment is the key to happy relationships and great boundaries.Leanne knows that by helping both men and women, there is a  flow-on effect, where the children and extended family also benefit.  SHOW LINKS:Leanne's website Leanne on Instagram Leanne on Tik Tok Leanne on Facebook If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

How does co-parenting change when either you or your narcissistic ex partner finds a new significant other?What role does your new partner play in the situation?Safety Alert: Oftentimes your abuser will increase their intensity of post separation abuse when you find a new partner.  This is not meant to scare, only to inform.First, it is important to have open communication with your new partner before things become extremely serious.  This means that you will need to wrap your own mind around what your relationship looks like, develop the skills needed to share this with your partner, and know when, what, and how you are sharing with them.We also look at what roles your new partner will play in parenting, communication with your ex, and how they can support you, as well as how to mitigate any concerns that come along with your ex’s new significant other.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Documentation is extremely important for victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  But is what you are documenting really going to matter?  And how can we keep it safe?In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I interview Sheri Kurdakul on her experience as a survivor, the shortcomings of the family court system and other larger systems, and why she decided to create Victims Voice.  She critiques the existing legal and therapeutic approaches to domestic violence, especially the requirement of mandatory co-parenting in such situations, and calls for more accountability.the Victims Voice app, a tool she created to help victims of domestic abuse document their experiences in a legally admissible way. The episode explores how this app aids survivors and professionals across various sectors, emphasizing the importance of privacy, safety, and inclusivity for all victims, including those within the LGBTQ and indigenous communities.We also briefly touch on the ethical considerations when partnering with other organizations and the decision to operate as a for-profit instead of a nonprofit.Sheri Kurdakul is the Founder of EBinRA, Inc. dba VictimsVoice and serves as its Chief Executive Officer. Formerly, she was the Managing Partner of Holistic Business Solutions, a small business, and nonprofit consulting firm. As a survivor of child abuse, child sexual assault, sexual assault, and domestic violence, she has devoted herself to ensuring victims of discrimination, harassment, and abuse are heard, believed, and able to seek legal justice. She resides in Central New Jersey with her husband and daughter, as well as a myriad of adopted furry family members.Victims Voice App Website https://victimsvoice.app/On social media as @victimsvoiceappIf you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Everyone that knows anything about our family court system knows that it continues to harm survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  Most want extreme court reform, while those that benefit would like to keep it just like it is.In this episode I share my experience testifying at the House Judiciary Committee in support of HB24-1350 and how listening to the opposition and those who showed up in the amendment position spotlighted areas that were unclear.  This changed my view of the bill from a support position to an amended position.By the time you listen to this episode, the bill will likely have been amended and changed a bit and may have been voted on in different arenas.  There likely will not be a final vote on if this bill will be made into law at the time this episode is released.The number one lesson that I learned from listening to all the testimony for this bill is the importance of clarity when it comes to setting any rules, laws, accountability, or standardization when a narcissistic person is involved.  They are so good at muddying the waters and exploiting loopholes and our laws need to be watertight.Make sure to follow me on socials or hop on my email list to get updates on the passing (fingers crossed) of HB24-1350.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Everyone talks about the financial abuse that occurs when you are in an abusive relationship.  But what happens after you leave?The financial abuse continues during post separation abuse and oftentimes gets worse.  When an abuser believes they are losing control of their victim, they will adapt, intensify and find other ways to abuse.  This includes refusing to pay child support or becoming under or unemployed so they do not have to pay as much child support.  But the main way in which a narcissist will continue their financial abuse post separation is through continued litigation and legal abuse.So, what can you do to mitigate the financial impact of your narcissistic ex partner?In this episode I talk with financial advisor and survivor, Liz Bailey on her experiences of financial abuse post separation and ways in which survivors can get back on track and maintain some level of groundedness throughout the process.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Coparenting with a narcissist is a challenge no matter the age of your child.  We often focus on co-parenting when your children are younger because of the inherent safety concerns.  But things don’t necessarily get easier as your children get older.There are new challenges when you are co-parenting your teens. There are still safety concerns, but they look different.Some of the new areas of conflict are:When one parent has structure and rules and the other parent has noneWhen the narcissistic parent uses the teen as their only emotional support Issues around mental health care or substance usePhones, curfews, driving, first jobs, and moreIn this episode we will talk about how to mitigate these challenges that develop as your child moves into the teen years.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

What role should extended family play in your life and your children’s lives after divorcing a narcissist?Your divorce will have a ripple effect on those in yours and your children’s lives and your extended family will feel this.  Your ex’s extended family will also be impacted.  The role they get to have in your life and your children’s lives will vary depending on the situation and your relationship with each of them.  In this episode I share some things to think about to help you make decisions on what role you would like them to play.First and foremost, it is important to assess the safety of each of these relationships; physical safety and emotional safety.  Who do they believe?  Will they put your child’s safety ahead of everything else? What type of support are they willing to give?Then you will need to think about what the communication needs to look like for everyone involved to be safe. This includes setting boundaries and expectations with your side of the family and possibly sharing these with your ex’s extended family as well if you have the opportunity.Think about how to manage special occasions and vacations.  What is in your parenting plan and how can your extended family be involved?These situations can be extremely challenging and being proactive in making these decisions for yourself can prevent a whole lot of stress later on.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

Has the constant stress from your narcissistic relationship and continued post separation abuse had a negative impact on your physical health?It is common that the constant hypervigilance and ongoing trauma will cause problems with sleep, your digestive system, your immune system…basically all of your systems.Is there anything you can do about it?In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I talk with Stephanie Small, LCSW on a more holistic approach to regaining your physical and emotional health as you heal from abuse.  How can you use nutrition and supplements to accelerate your healing journey?We address the current Western medical model where the goal is to reduce symptoms rather than find the root of the problem.  The goal of this more holistic approach is to identify the root causes before starting to treat the concern.We start by exploring gut health and how it is the gateway to our overall health and wellness.  Our digestive process is not only linked to our physical symptoms, but our mental health as well.  Stephanie discusses the importance of blood sugar regulation and managing inflammation as a huge component to using nutrition on your healing path.Stephanie's Bio:As a licensed clinical social worker / somatic psychotherapist and functional nutritionist, I help people reconnect to their wild and essential truths. In addition to my private practice, I also consult, supervise, teach, and speak at live and online events. I founded my practice Stephanie Small Health in 2012. Ten years later, I founded Las Lobas del Corazón, a holistic psychotherapy and health clinic that exists in order to make deeper and more effective healing available for everyone, regardless of income level. I am of Ashkenazi descent and use she/her pronouns.I hold a BA from Yale University and an MSW from Smith College for Social Work, and multiple certifications in various disciplines and modalities, including Holistic Nutrition Education from Bauman College and Mental Health Nutrition from the Academy for Addiction and Mental Health Nutrition. I also created the five week online course Supplements and Nutrition for Mental Health. When not working, I enjoy immersing in cold creeks, pursuing the art of eight limbs, singing songs in other languages, kitchen witchery, connecting with various loved ones including the two legged, four legged, rooted and elementalIf you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...

When addiction intersects with domestic violence and narcissistic abuse scary things can happen.The intensity of abuse typically increases and leaves so many women off balance.Many victims hold onto the hope that if their partner becomes sober, they will no longer be abusive and this is the explanation many perpetrators of abuse will use to continue abusing their partners.And while there are significant parallels between families who experience addiction and families who experience domestic violence, one does not cause the other.My guest today is an expert in the family dynamics of addiction and we discuss the intersection between addiction and abuse as well as the many parallels between the two.  We identify what sobriety actually means and how the old method of solely doing individual work with an addict and then bringing them back into the same family dynamic does not work.  We identify the parallel processes that can help families experiencing addiction go through to heal as being similar to the processes when there has been violence in the home.Kevin Petersen, LMFT is the founder of The Chronic Hope Institute.  He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with offices in Colorado and Florida. He started The Chronic Hope Institute to help families that are sick and tired of being dominated by their loved one's addiction. He helps them solve the problem with a clear and concise action plan through family addiction coaching.He is also the author of two books, Chronic Hope: Families and Addiction and Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child.Book: Chronic Hope : Families & AddictionBook: Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child Kevin's Website Kevin on Instagram Kevin on YouTube If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Canned Responses Freebie Mic Drop Moments Freebie Our FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Register Here for our April 5th Communicate with Confidence Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/communication Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedIn...