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If you’ve ever found yourself in a relationship that feels like a relationship—but somehow isn’t—you’re not alone. Grab my book here 👉 https://fopsy.ca/situationship-book. Situationships are everywhere, sold to us as "freedom." But what if real freedom is something completely different? Watch this before you settle for less.If this has resonated with you, trust me—you’ll want to get your hands on the full book! Situationship: How Not to Break Your Own Heart is packed with more insight and guidance. Get your copy here 👉 https://fopsy.ca/situationship-book.Thank you for the support! 💕

If you’ve ever felt confused in a situationship, it’s not just in your head—mixed signals create real heartbreak. In this video, I read Chapters 1-3 from my book Situationship: How Not to Break Your Own Heart. 💔 Listen in as we unpack why contradictory words and actions keep you stuck.🎧 Want the full story? Get my book here → https://fopsy.ca/situationship-bookSubscribe on YouTube to join the conversation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAjYhTGjvaU

I thought I was self-aware… until I found myself in back-to-back situationships. 😩 In this video, I share my story—how I kept falling into undefined relationships, why I finally woke up, and what led me to write Situationship: How Not to Break Your Own Heart. If you’ve ever felt confused about “what are we?” or been strung along by someone hiding behind spirituality, this is for you. If this resonated with you, the book goes even deeper—grab your copy here:https://fopsy.ca/situationship-book📌 Subscribe & Turn on Notifications—More chapters coming soon!

One moment, life is chaotic, but going okay, you think. The next, your husband is asking for a divorce out of the blue. Discover how this experience shaped Natalie and propelled her toward seeking a well-rounded life, while helping other ambitious yet stressed women do the same. Dear Fopsy is back with new episodes! Make sure to subscribe here and follow on podcast platforms. If any part of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you in a comment. Get in touch with our guest Natalie Mullin Here’s her website https://www.nataliemullin.com/ Her Podcast: From a Full Cup https://from-a-full-cup.captivate.fm/ Find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nataliemullin/ 🤝🏽 Here's how to support & get in touch with me:  ⭐ Follow the podcast here & please leave a review  Subscribe on Youtube ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FopsyTheGreat⁠ 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me ⁠@fopsythegreat - https://www.instagram.com/fopsythegreat ⁠ 📒 Buy My Book on ➡️ ➡️ ⁠https://fopsy.ca/store ⁠  📧 Email me for sponsorships dearfopsy@gmail.com Chapters: 00:00:00  Intro 00:00:58 “How Are You” Should We be Honest in our Responses? 00:03:20 Meet Natalie 00:04:33 If You’re At Rock Bottom, Yoga Won’t Fix It 00:14:26 Is Wellness a Privileged Conversation? 00:20:15 Natalie’s Story: Accomplished but Almost Divorced 00:30:52 How to Create Balance and Build the Life YOU want  00:42:00 Social Media and Wellness 00:50:24 Wellness without the Family Support to Help  00:57:45 Hold your Well-being Just as High as You Hold Your Goals 01:00:07 Support Our Work

According to Tobi Oluwole, here's the #1 formula to remember: Content = Attention Attention = Traffic Traffic = Revenue Revenue = Freedom And he knows what he's talking about. From a boss who didn't like that, he was doing so much on Linkedin to another company where his content accelerated his career - he got promoted because of his visibility, got to speak at events, and more to now being able to earn (a really good) full-time income from his content. In this episode: How to accelerate your growth as a content creator, expert, or influencer. Tobi shares the early signs he saw, what he studied and replicated, and more to get to millions of impressions in the first six months and now over 100M impressions. 🤝🏽 Here's how to support & get in touch with me:  ⭐ Follow the podcast here & please leave a review  Subscribe on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@FopsyTheGreat 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @fopsythegreat - https://www.instagram.com/fopsythegreat 📒 Buy My Book on ➡️ ➡️ https://fopsy.ca/store  📧 Email me for sponsorships dearfopsy@gmail.com

When it comes to money, most of us are figuring it out as we go. Do you know what else we're figuring out as we go? Marriage. So what's it like when you're figuring both out at the same time? Today, I'm joined by Fikayo Usman of @fixitfinance to talk about all things Money, Marriage and Mortality. It got so good, I already know Fikayo will be back to keep the conversation going. Listen for an honest conversation about paying off debt, learning about personal finance, book recommendations to get good with money, figuring out how to manage giving money to family- #blacktax, and so much more. And don't forget to share + leave a review when you're done :) Fikayo’s book recommendations* for personal finance: Budgeting for dummies - https://amzn.to/3pSpEwe  Total Money Make Over by Dave Ramsey- https://amzn.to/43bdL34  Clever Girl Finance: Learn How Investing Works, Grow Your Money by Bola Sokunbi https://amzn.to/42VMF08  Everyday Millionaires by Chris Hogan https://amzn.to/3Md4mRw The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America's Wealthy https://amzn.to/3MCSpGe *The provided links are affiliate links, which means I may earn a commission if you make a purchase through it. Thanks for your support. Money marriage and mortality  0:00 Intro  1:35 Her journey with personal finance 2:57 Is finance knowledge easily accessible  12:05 How to be financially literate 13:44 Personal Finance  books to read  14:45 Where to start figuring out money 21:18 When should couples talk about money in relationships  25:02 How to talk about money while dating 31:18 Is it wise for couples to merge their finances while engaged? 34:04 Why Money can cause issues in a marriage so  40:51 Should you get a prenup? 45:37 Giving money to extended family  52:44 Why is Life Insurance Important 1:01:11 What to do with your RRSP when you leave a job 1:03:46 Top issues millennials have  1:06:00 Connect with fix with  finance 1:07:10 Fikayo’s money philosophy  Enjoying this podcast? 🤝🏽 Here's how to Support Me: ⭐ Leave a review or rating where you listen ✔️ Please Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@fopsythegreat⁠⁠ 🤳🏽Follow me on Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/fopsythegreat/⁠⁠ 📒 Buy My Book: Situationship: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.dearfopsy.com/store⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📧 For sponsorships and to get in touch, email me at dearfopsy@gmail.com

Talked to Abisola Shof from @theshofs on this episode! We discussed Marriage 10 Years Later, spouses going bald 👀, Family Finances when one spouse pursues a high-risk high reward dream, dealing with the different seasons of marriage, and keeping it fun when life is life-ing 🤩 The Shofs are not just fun on Instagram, but also inspirational and transparent about their marriage on YouTube. Don't sleep on their other content! Follow them around the web. 00:00 Intro 1:05 Meet Abisola Shof 4:31 Marriage Models? 9:36 How the Shofs met 12:27 Has Marriage always been fun? 18:25 Exploring Personal Goals while Married  25:40 Going full-time with content creation  29:00 Enjoying Marriage with Kids  33:08 Body changes in marriage  39:58 Navigating Difficult seasons  in marriage  46:03 Connect with the Shofs  47:22 Spicing Up Your Relationship Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: Enjoying this podcast? 🤝🏽 Here's how to Support Me: ⭐ Leave a review or rating where you listen ✔️ Please Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@fopsythegreat⁠⁠⁠ 🤳🏽Follow me on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/fopsythegreat/⁠⁠⁠ 📒 Buy My Book: Situationship: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.dearfopsy.com/store⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📧 For sponsorships and to get in touch, email me at dearfopsy@gmail.com

David Ojeyinka has spoken to over 150 senior leaders of immigrant descent on his podcast about their journeys, but you haven't heard his story of resilience in moving from Nigeria to Canada. And what a story it is! I sat with my friend, an inspirational speaker and embodiment of resilience, to talk through the highs, lows, and lessons learned on his journey of building a fresh start in Canada. One of my favourite parts of this episode is where he credits his transformation from naivety to becoming wise and visionary to simply believing God. It sounds very ordinary but something about the child-like faith has stuck with me. There’s also the absolute doggedness it takes to keep going when no one else sees the vision of what you're building. Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: 🤝🏽 Here's how to Support Me: ⭐ Leave a review or rating where you listen ✔️ Please Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@fopsythegreat⁠ 🤳🏽Follow me on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/fopsythegreat/⁠ 📒 Buy My Book: Situationship: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.dearfopsy.com/store⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📧 For sponsorships and to get in touch, email me at dearfopsy@gmail.com

Mrs. Busola Arimoro shares her story of life with Sickle Cell Disease - from her childhood and faith to living with chronic illness, finding love, and navigating marriage and childbearing with Sickle Cell Anaemia. I am honoured by Aunty Busola’s generosity in sharing her journey, and I know her story of resilience will inspire you. 00:00 Intro 1:30 Meet Aunty Busola 2:19 Early Life 11:13 Life with Sickle Cell Disease 19:54 The Financial Burden 💰of Sickle Cell Disease 25:22 Life Expectancy with Sickle Cell - turning 50 32:31 Believing God is a Healer - while living with a Chronic Illness 48:15 Dating with Sickle Cell 52:15 Marriage with Sickle Cell Disease 1:10:34 How Sickle Cell Affects You in School 1:13:12 Having Children when you have Sickle cell disease 1:28:55 Encouragement for when life is hard #DearFopsy #podcast #sicklecellanaemia 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @⁠dearfopsy⁠ / @⁠fopsythegreat⁠) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at ⁠dearfopsy.com/ask⁠ 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @⁠⁠fopsythegreat⁠⁠ and  @⁠⁠dearfopsy⁠⁠ 🔖 Work with ⁠Emaege Studio⁠ for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

"With all the horror stories I keep hearing, I'm skeptical about marriage." So I was at  @thebuilders.church  a couple of weeks ago, and this question came up. I decided to dive deeper into this question in this episode. 0:00 First Things First 0:22 Speaking at Builders Church (@) 1:08 Learn the Principles 2:54 Learn the Purpose of Marriage 5:04 Yield to the Process 10:01 Book Recommendations on Godly Marriage And yes, this is a bonus episode, because why not? 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Book Recommendations*: Pastor Timothy Keller https://amzn.to/3KbFGZG - The Meaning of Marriage Fope Nkwocha (that’s me!) https://amzn.to/3JMxNIT - Situationship: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart Pastor Godman Akinlabi https://amarecourse.com/ - A Marriage Preparatory Course for singles looking to start their journey in marriage and a Marriage Enhancement Course for married couples looking to reinvigorate their relationship. Dr Myles Munroe https://amzn.to/3nmb66O Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men: God's Design for Male Identity https://amzn.to/3ZdRQFL Understanding the Purpose and Power of Women: God's Design for Female Identity https://amzn.to/3K7G6k0 - Purpose And Power Of Love And Marriage *Some of these are affiliate links Learning about Marriage from a Godly perspective: https://www.desiringgod.org/topics/marriage#

My husband, Obi, and I have a candid chat about our cross-cultural Nigerian marriage, growing up, building confidence, and dealing with unexpected delays. He also dishes out advice to younger men and we share our favourite things about marriage. Don't miss out on this personal and entertaining conversation :) 0:00 Let’s Get into it 1:25 Meet Obi 3:08 He’s Igbo, I’m Yoruba 11:40 Growing Up 18:21 Building Confidence & An unexpected Delay 26:35 What makes some men mature and others stuck in childhood 47:10 What Brought you to Canada 🇨🇦 54:19 Advice to Younger Men 57:50 What’s the Best Part of Marriage 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

On this episode, Kome & I chat about modern Christian dating. We talk about where “specs” come from (aka your list), unmarried Christian women having babies solo through IVF, the balancing act of settling for Mr. Good Enough, and the struggles of women wanting to be pampered but meeting great men who make less than them. Our guest, Kome, shares her insights and experiences. We also highlight the value of finding a supportive community. Tune in for this thought-provoking episode filled with advice and inspiration on navigating modern relationships. 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

How to deal with the agonizing loneliness of singleness as a Christian. This one’s for the days when you’re sick and tired of being single- feeling frustrated towards God and not sure life is worth living. Based on a real story from boundless.org & Candice Watters’ response.  🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

How do you love your wife like Christ loved the church?  In this episode, we talk through the practical ways that men can show love to their wives. We also address the difficult question of what to do when your wife doesn't respect you. Previous episodes referenced: The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Man: Part 1 How to Love Your Man: What They Don't Tell You About Loving Your Man - Part 2  🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

How do you actually show love and respect for your man? It feels weird to be taught how to love your husband because that's something that should come naturally, right? But, what if as a woman, your definition of love is so fundamentally different from what men want, that your acts of love aren't being translated accurately to him? This "How to Love Your Man" 2-part series is inspired by Pastor Godman Akinlabi's Mr & Mrs Better Half. I'm sharing his words (from his experience as a counsellor, pastor, and husband of 20 years) while reflecting on them as a millennial married woman. You'll get actionable, practical and biblical ways to learn to love your husband. Here's Part 1: The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Man: Part 1 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs What they don’t tell you about how to love your husband.

It feels weird to be taught how to love your husband because that's something that should come naturally, right? But, what if as a woman, your definition of love is so fundamentally different from what men want, that your acts of love aren't being translated accurately to him? This "How to Love Your Man" 2-part series is inspired by Pastor Godman Akinlabi's Mr & Mrs Better Half. I'm sharing his words (from his experience as a counsellor, pastor, and husband of 20 years) while reflecting on them as a millennial married woman. You'll get actionable, practical and biblical ways to learn to love your husband. Previous episodes referenced:  Pod: 7 Lessons from the 5 Love Languages | & Youtube Video My video review of Preparing for Marriage: Help for Christian Couples by John Piper 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

How far is too far when you're dating? Sure you have boundaries, but are they working? Here's an alternative to the "how far is too far" question that challenges you to rethink why you're dating for so long that you need to dance around sex for years.  Also, a moment of vulnerability about the #real struggles when saving sex for marriage. Body no be firewood 😭  🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

Are you torn between two amazing people and don't know how to choose? In this episode, we'll go over some key points to consider as you navigate this difficult choice: Don’t String them along How to seek guidance from the Holy Spirit when deciding who to marry. How to gather enough information about each person you’re considering? Why there’s no such thing as “the one” How to actually decide between two great people you’re interested in? 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube for more relationship advice 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy or Gift my Book (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfopsy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy 🔖 Work with Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs

Re-connecting with family and friends during the holidays sometimes comes with awkward questions about your job, relationship status, weight, or plans for kids.  It's best to be prepared. So you don't get caught off guard. Instead of choosing violence, here are some ways to navigate hard conversations with family and friends during your visits with family. 🔖 Work with our sponsor Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy My Book on Amazon (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships at dearfospy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy ✔️ Watch & Subscribe on YouTube

Every time, you hear about relationship red flags 🚩 . How about Relationship green flags 💚? What are some early signs that you’ve met someone worth dating? Well, that’s what this episode is about. Listen, enjoy and share! 🔖 Work with our sponsor Emaege Studio for your graphic design, website design, & Audiovisual production needs 🤝🏽 Enjoying this podcast? Here's how to support & get in touch: ⭐ Leave a review or rating here 💗 Share episodes that resonate to your social story & with friends (tag me @dearfopsy / @fopsythegreat) 📝 Write to me with your relationship concerns or leave me a voice note at dearfopsy.com/ask 📒 Buy My Book on Amazon (Situationship: How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart) 📧 Email me for sponsorships dearfospy@gmail.com Want to Support Even More? 🤳🏽Follow on Instagram: @fopsythegreat and  @dearfopsy ✔️ Watch & Subscribe on YouTube