Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach

Why do we keep ending up with people who hurt us, even when we swear it won't happen again? I sat down with Dr. Galit Atlas, renowned psychoanalyst, faculty member at NYU's Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and at Columbia University, and author of the international bestseller Emotional Inheritance, to talk about exactly that. Her new book, Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy, releases the same day this episode airs.We get into Freud's concept of repetition compulsion, why the familiar so often gets mistaken for safety, and why changing a pattern can feel like losing your own identity. Dr. Atlas introduces the different "children" that live inside all of us (the frightened child, the guilty child, the invisible child, and more) and how giving each of them a seat at the table is the real path to change. We also talk about self-abandonment, what it actually means to hold two people in mind during conflict, and why over-functioning is so often a defense against vulnerability. This conversation is rich, honest, and full of the kind of insight that makes you see your own patterns differently.Connect with Dr. Galit Atlas:https://www.galitatlas.com/https://www.instagram.com/galit_atlashttps://wildanalysiswithgalitatlas.substack.com/Come Closer Book: https://www.galitatlas.com/home-1-1 WORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"We go to the same place with the fantasy that not only is this time going to be different, this is going to repair everything that ever happened to us." - Dr. Galit Atlas"The familiar is not more safe than the stranger. It's more threatening, but it's not more dangerous." - Dr. Galit Atlas"When I change a pattern, I am not the same person. And what am I going to do without me?" - Dr. Galit Atlas"Why do you need permission to leave a place that is hurtful?" - Dr. Galit Atlas"Rigidity is what makes us fragile." - Dr. Galit Atlasrepetition compulsion, relational patterns, why we choose the same partners, childhood trauma, self abandonment, inner child work, emotional inheritance, come closer book, psychoanalysis, attachment healing, vulnerability, self worth, deep within podcast, Dr Galit Atlas 

If you've ever felt completely stuck in a decision, ruminating on it for weeks or months, heartbroken and looping and exhausted, this episode is for you. I'm sharing something that has changed my life more than almost anything else I teach: the realization that when we feel that intensely stuck, it's rarely about the thing in front of us. It's about something much older.I tell the story of the night I finally knew my marriage was over, sick with Covid, completely undefended, and how a simple parts work practice cracked open a truth I hadn't let myself see: my stuckness wasn't about my marriage at all. It was a much older fear, one that started long before I ever met my husband. I walk you through the concept, the process, and why understanding this can bring you so much relief the next time you feel trapped in your own mind. You are not broken for feeling this stuck. There is a reason, and it is findable.Join Safe to Connect: https://marinatriner.com/safe-to-connectWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"My stuckness wasn't actually about this relationship. It was a very deep fear." - Marina"When we don't feel safe, we don't go into the body, because that's where all the intense emotion is." - Marina"You're feeling like there's a tiger in the room and the tiger is chasing you, and you've got to make a decision right away." - Marina"This intense emotion is not actually about the present moment. It's actually about the past." - Marina"Once you get to see it and you start to process the grief of it, your body starts to have completely different energy, and you no longer accept that treatment anymore." - Marinadecision paralysis, childhood trauma healing, nervous system regulation, parts work, somatic healing, rumination, emotional healing, inner child healing, trauma and relationships, self trust, deep within podcast, Marina Triner 

Some of the deepest wounds are the ones you can't quite point to. Not a big, dramatic event, just an absence, an emptiness, a loneliness that never fully goes away. I sat down with Morgan Pommells, who specializes in helping adult children of emotionally immature parents, to finally put language to something so many of us have felt but couldn't name.We get into what emotional immaturity actually is (and why it's not the same as narcissism), why this kind of wounding is so easy to dismiss as "not that bad," and how it shows up decades later as a false, performative self, chronic overfunctioning, and a deep fear of asking for support. Morgan also walks through how this pattern replays in romantic relationships, what enmeshment versus true differentiation looks like, and what it actually takes to start seeing yourself through your own eyes instead of your parents'. If you've ever felt like you had "a good enough childhood" but something still feels off, this conversation is going to land.Connect with Morgan:https://www.morganpommells.com/https://www.instagram.com/morganpommells/?hl=enNervous system program opening in the fall: https://artisanal-painter-4513.kit.com/1d0ecb021cWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"It's not just the big things you can easily identify as happening. A lot of this wounding is sneaky, insidious, and it is about what didn't happen." - Morgan Pommells"If my god-like parent cannot survive me feeling, then I can't survive this feeling." - Morgan Pommells"You have to be able to give yourself permission to get it wrong, while staying with yourself." - Morgan Pommells"I am not unworthy of love. Nobody's going to love me are two completely different wounds. One is about who you are, the other is about how the world is going to experience you." - Morgan Pommells"Who I am at my core is good. It's no longer that there's something fundamentally wrong with me." - Morgan Pommellsemotionally immature parents, childhood emotional neglect, relational trauma, inner child healing, self worth, adult children of emotionally immature parents, enmeshment vs differentiation, attunement and mirroring, self trust, codependency, people pleasing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, deep within podcast, Morgan Pommells

What if the food you ate today already decided how much conflict you can handle? I sat down with Luis Mojica, Somatic Educator, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and author of Food Therapy, to talk about something most of us have never connected: the direct link between what we eat and how safe or threatened our nervous system feels. We get into his framework of food as stimulant, depressant, or balancer, and how understanding that shift can change your relationship to stress entirely.From there, the conversation opens into something even bigger: conflict. Luis shares his own story of growing up in an intersex body and facing years of bullying and harassment, and how that experience shaped his life's work in helping people move through disagreement and division without shutting down or attacking. We talk about "over couplings," the difference between being triggered and actually being unsafe, and practical tools for staying present in conflict, whether it's with a partner, a family member, or someone on the opposite side of a political divide. This is a rich, generous conversation, and one I think a lot of us need right now.Connect with Luis:https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-bookhttps://www.instagram.com/holistic.life.navigation/?hl=enPodcast: www.holisticlifenavigation.com/podcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@holisticlifenavigationWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Your food, literally every few hours, gives your body the ability to handle things that normally would overwhelm you, or it will create more overwhelm in your body." - Luis Mojica"You're not responsible for what gets triggered in me. You're responsible for your words. But what gets triggered in my body is mine to tend to." - Luis Mojica"The more capacity you have, the less you'll get triggered. You'll disagree, and you'll have preferences, and you'll be like, I don't like that, but you won't get triggered." - Luis Mojica"It's literally discerning the difference between discomfort and threat." - Luis Mojica"When you get really comfortable with conflict and you have more capacity for it, you're not triggered. You end up doing more." - Luis Mojicafood and nervous system, somatic nutrition, food therapy, conflict transformation, nervous system regulation, trauma and conflict, over couplings, trauma healing, polarization, political conflict, holistic nutrition, somatic healing, trigger vs threat, deep within podcast, Luis Mojica 

Two years ago I went through what I can only describe as a dark night of the soul. Divorce, financial loss, estrangement, war in the countries I am from, and the slow drifting of family. And recently — something has shifted. A profound sense of aliveness has returned to me that I had not felt in a very long time. In this episode I want to talk honestly about how I got here, because for those of you with complex trauma and dysfunctional family dynamics, this is not a story of one day everything was fine. It is a story of layers dying, of shame being felt all the way through, of co-regulation, somatic resources, and the moment I decided I would not allow my childhood to rob me of my life. I also share what I have been doing practically — dancing, nature, breath, sound and movement — and why aliveness is not something you can force, but something you come back to through the body. WORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"The point of being alive is to feel aliveness. If I don't feel alive, what is the point of going through everything we go through?" — Marina"I will not allow my childhood dysfunction to rob me of my legacy. I will not allow anything in my life to rob me of my life." — Marina"On the surface, so many overachievers look really good. But on the inside there is very deep pain — and they don't feel like they can just pause and take in life." — Marina"Feeling the pain from a place of safety means you have enough capacity and space in your body to be with painful things — and know it is okay." — Marina"You deserve to feel good. You deserve the lightness. You deserve to feel great on this planet merely because you exist." — Marinasomatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, complex trauma, dark night of the soul, shame healing, inner child work, emotional regulation, self trust, burnout recovery, survival mode, people pleasing, perfectionism and trauma, aliveness and joy, co-regulation, disconfirming experiences, embodiment, deep within podcast, Marina Triner, somatic coaching