Heal Through Humor

Morgan Pommells, a childhood trauma therapist, discusses the impact of growing up with emotionally immature parents. She specializes in helping adult children of emotionally immature parents heal from the trauma and develop healthy relationships. The conversation explores the insidious nature of this type of trauma, the guilt and self-blame that often accompany it, and the challenges of setting boundaries with emotionally immature parents. The importance of self-knowing and self-acceptance is emphasized, as well as the need to question traditional beliefs and expectations. The conversation also touches on the difference between emotionally immature parents and narcissistic parents. The conversation explores the dynamics of emotionally immature parents and the impact on their children. It emphasizes the need for self-awareness and questioning in relationships. The emotionally immature parent offloads their distress onto their child and struggles with boundaries and criticism. The conversation also delves into the overlap between narcissism and emotional immaturity, highlighting the fear of abandonment and control. The goal is for individuals to develop autonomy and authenticity, separate from their parents' expectations.

In this conversation, Talia Bombola and Betsy Chung discuss their experiences with pregnancy and parenthood. Betsy announces that she is five months pregnant, while Talia shares her journey of unexpectedly becoming a mother. They explore the emotional challenges and transformations that come with preparing for parenthood and becoming a parent. They also discuss the impact of their own childhood experiences on their parenting styles and the importance of choosing a supportive and attuned partner. The conversation highlights the complexity and joy of the parenting journey. The conversation explores the concept of generational healing and the importance of modeling healthy conflict in relationships. It emphasizes the significance of understanding one's childhood relationships and how they shape adult relationships. The conversation also highlights the need for self-reflection and self-work in order to have fulfilling relationships. The guest, Betsy Chung, discusses her book, 'The Couple's Skills Workbook,' which focuses on meeting emotional needs in relationships and promoting teamwork.

Rachel Brooks, author of Chasing Perfection, shares her journey of hitting rock bottom and finding healing, fitness, and self-love. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, gratitude, and forgiveness in the healing process. Rachel discusses the need to ask ourselves profound questions like 'Who am I?' and 'What's holding me back?' in order to redefine our narratives and find purpose and meaning in life. She highlights the significance of emotional healing and the importance of aligning our mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being. Rachel encourages listeners to embrace discomfort and seek support in their healing journey. The conversation explores the themes of worthiness, external validation, chasing perfection, and redefining success. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing and valuing one's inherent worth, rather than constantly striving for external validation. The discussion also touches on the dangers of people-pleasing and the need to set boundaries. The conversation concludes with the idea of giving from a place of overflow, where one's cup is already full, rather than trying to fill a leaky cup.

In this episode, Talia Bombola interviews Dr. Lina Haji, a forensic and clinical psychologist. They bond over their shared interest in debunking myths and misinformation. Dr. Haji shares her background and career in forensic psychology, including her experience working in prisons. She explains her inspiration for pursuing forensic psychology and her personal passion for the field. Talia and Lina highlight the dangers of misinformation and misdiagnosis in the field of psychology. She emphasizes the need for qualified professionals to address and correct this misinformation. Additionally, she discusses the impact of technology and social media on vulnerable populations, as well as the need for laws and regulations to catch up with these advancements.

In this conversation, Talia interviews Thais Sky, a fellow psychoanalytic therapist. They discuss the healing power of psychoanalytic therapy and the role of the therapist in providing a secure attachment and a safe space for clients. The two have a dynamic discussion about The Worthiness wound. They explore the impact of the subconscious mind and beliefs on behavior and the importance of self-discovery and insight; delve into the unconscious mind and the role of defenses in protecting against pain and differentiates between insight-oriented psychotherapy and skills-based coaching; highlight the significance of listening and investigating assumptions in therapy and the value of exploring the here and now. They emphasize the journey of self-understanding and the profound impact of talking. They also address the issue of limited access to psychoanalytic therapy and advocate for expanding access to all individuals. Connect with Thais at https://www.instagram.com/iamthaissky/ Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 00:52 Journey into Psychoanalytic Work 09:13 The Limitations of Insurance in Long-Term Therapy 10:03 Differentiating Coaching and Psychotherapy 11:22 The Need for Awareness of Different Modalities 14:37 Insight-Oriented Psychotherapy vs. Skills-Based Coaching 22:53 The Healing Power of Therapy 23:22 The Role of the Therapist 24:20 The Subconscious Mind and Beliefs 25:18 The Journey of Self-Discovery 26:22The Unconscious Mind and Defenses 32:06 The Journey to Self-Understanding 33:03 Creating a Safe Space for Exploration 35:19 Access to Psychoanalytic Therapy 37:31 The Injustice of Limited Access

In this conversation, Talia Bombola LMFT, and Emily Celis LMFT discuss their personal and professional journeys, the challenges of balancing multiple roles, and the importance of living in alignment with one's values. They explore the concept of embodying a holistic lifestyle and the need to prioritize what truly matters in life. They also touch on the grief process of letting go of certain visions and the importance of self-reflection and self-care. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of finding balance and making choices that align with one's values and priorities. Follow Emily on IG https://www.instagram.com/sagewellnessctr/ 00:00 Introduction and Personal Connection 02:55 Balancing Multiple Roles and Priorities 07:58 Living in Alignment with Your Values 12:02 The Grief Process of Letting Go 16:03 Finding Balance and Embracing a Holistic Lifestyle 23:11 Exploring Identity and Regret 25:24 The Challenges of Decision Making 27:07 Defining Courage and Bravery 30:29 Believing in What's Meant for You 37:40 Loss, Growth, and Embracing Change 41:38 The Role of Therapy in Personal Growth 43:08 Creating a Holistic Healing Collective 44:14 Embracing the Sage Method for a Holistic Lifestyle Takeaways:- Balancing multiple roles and responsibilities requires self-reflection and prioritization.- Living in alignment with one's values and priorities is essential for a fulfilling life.- The process of letting go of certain visions and embracing new ones can be a grief process.- Finding balance and making choices that align with one's values and priorities is key to living a holistic lifestyle. - Courage and bravery are necessary for making difficult decisions and aligning with one's true self.- Therapy can provide support and guidance in navigating these processes.- Loss can lead to growth and new opportunities.- It's important to surround oneself with people who believe in and support personal growth. Keywords: personal growth, work-life balance, holistic wellness, vision, alignment, values, self-reflection, self-care, courage, bravery, difficult decisions, alignment, therapy, fulfillment, loss, growth

In this episode, Talia Bombola, LMFT, interviews Erika Ettin, the founder of A Little Nudge, a company that helps people with online dating. They discuss the importance of online dating and how to navigate the challenges that come with it. They also explore the evolution of online dating over the years and the impact of technology on dating. The conversation highlights the need for efficiency and time management in dating, as well as the importance of knowing one's needs and intentions. They also discuss the balance between work and dating, the role of boundaries in relationships, and the societal pressure to find a partner. Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alittlenudge Chapters 01:14 The Importance of Online Dating 06:00 Efficiency and Time Management in Dating 08:16 Balancing Work and Dating 10:03 Knowing Your Needs and Intentions in Dating13:12Avoiding Rushed Relationships 15:30 The Importance of Autonomy in Relationships 24:35 Exploring Relationship Envy and Jealousy 29:06 Redefining Success in Relationships 30:07 Identifying Obstacles in Dating 32:36 Understanding Potential in Relationships 33:24 Being Authentic and Communicating Needs 35:08 Balancing Ambition and Relationship Building 36:26 Exploring Assumptions and Blind Spots 47:38 Relationship Advice Takeaways- Online dating can be a valuable tool for meeting potential partners, but it requires effort and intentionality to be successful.- Efficiency and time management are crucial in online dating to avoid wasting time on unproductive interactions.- Knowing your needs and intentions in dating is essential for finding a compatible partner.- Balancing work and dating can be challenging, but it's important to prioritize both aspects of your life.- Setting and maintaining boundaries is crucial in healthy relationships.- Society's expectations around marriage and children are changing, and it's important to make choices that align with your own values and desires. - Challenge societal expectations and judgments in making life choices.- Communicate openly and honestly about relationship envy and jealousy.- Recognize the cumulative nature of relationships and the importance of individual moments.- Challenge assumptions and be authentic in dating and relationships.- Value flexibility, assertiveness, and communication in relationships.- Recognize and communicate personal needs and preferences.- Respect boundaries and seek consent in all aspects of relationships.

In this episode, Talia interviews Dr. Ashley Southard discuss the concept of the over-functioning woman and her under-functioning partner in love relationships. She shares her personal journey and how it led her to specialize in helping women in unfulfilling relationships. The origins of the over-functioning woman concept resonates with many women. She also explores the influence of childhood and parental relationships on adult partnerships. This conversation explores the dynamics of over-functioning and under-functioning in relationships, particularly focusing on the experiences of women. They discuss the concerns about children's well-being when parents are going through a divorce. They emphasize the importance of teaching children how to advocate for themselves and navigate difficult situations. As children grow, their needs shift from physical support to emotional support, and parents need to adapt their parenting style accordingly. The conversation also explores the importance of modeling healthy relationships for children and the different approaches to co-parenting. It is crucial for parents to be in integrity with themselves and live according to their values. They should also teach their children to listen to their inner truth and make courageous decisions. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the trap of over-functioning and the need to find balance in parenting. Follow Ashley on Instagram @drashleysouthard and learn more about her practice here https://www.drashleysouthard.com/

In this re-release episode, Talia Bombola interviews Britt Frank on her book The Science of Stuck, which has a new workbook out now! The conversation covers the life stories of the speakers, their experiences with therapy, the inspiration behind writing a book, and the impact of knowledge on therapy. It delves into the importance of understanding the brain, the role of therapy, and the significance of archetypal psychology in trauma and relationships. The conversation covers a wide range of topics related to relationships, communication, emotional regulation, and the dynamics of the nervous system. It delves into the complexities of human behavior and the impact of childhood The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding and validating emotions, setting boundaries, and navigating the multifaceted nature of the human mind. Takeaways:- The importance of personal experiences with therapy in shaping one's approach as a therapist.- The impact of knowledge and understanding of brain science on therapy and client outcomes.- The significance of archetypal psychology in trauma and relationships.- Understanding the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships- Differentiating between niceness and kindness in relationships- The importance of emotional regulation and validation in communication- Recognizing the multifaceted nature of the human mind and the role of the nervous system in relationships Connect with Britt on Instagram: @brittfrank

In this episode, Talia Bombola interviews Robyn Isman, a therapist specializing in working with parents of anxious children. They discuss the importance of working with parents in addressing childhood anxiety and the concept of anxiety as a gateway diagnosis. Robyn explains the interpersonal aspect of anxiety and how parents can inadvertently accommodate their child's anxiety. They also emphasize the importance of parental accountability and empowerment, as well as the need for parents to apologize and take ownership of their actions. The conversation highlights the challenges and learning process of parenting and differentiating anxiety from personal preferences. In this conversation, Talia Bombola, LMFT, and Robyn Isman discuss anxiety in children and teens. They explore the importance of understanding anxiety versus oppositional behavior and the impact of anxiety on parent-child relationships. They also highlight the benefits of addressing anxiety and increasing independence to decrease anxiety. The role of parents in anxiety treatment, including validation and belief in children, is emphasized. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the power of modeling emotional regulation, the challenge of balancing emotional and physical health, and the importance of humor and lightness in parenting. Takeaways- Anxiety in children and teens should be explored and understood, distinguishing it from oppositional behavior.- Addressing anxiety can lead to closer parent-child relationships and increased independence in children.- Parents play a crucial role in anxiety treatment by providing validation and belief in their children.- Modeling emotional regulation and using supportive language can have a significant impact on children's emotional well-being.- Bringing humor and lightness to parenting can help create a positive and supportive environment for children. Robyn's Links: @parentingtheanxiouschild 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:55 Anxiety as a Gateway Diagnosis 05:50 The Importance of Working with Parents 09:13 The Interpersonal Aspect of Anxiety 13:02 The Role of Parents in Accommodating Anxiety 15:55 Empowerment and Accountability for Parents 22:12 Parenting as a Learning Process 24:00 Differentiating Anxiety from Personal Preferences 24:58 Exploring Anxiety in Children and Teens 26:23 Understanding Anxiety and Oppositional Behavior 27:49The Impact of Anxiety on Parent-Child Relationships 28:48 Benefits of Addressing Anxiety in Children and Teens 29:44 Increasing Independence to Decrease Anxiety 30:23 The Role of Parents in Anxiety Treatment31:11The Importance of Validation and Belief in Children 31:59 Modeling Emotional Regulation and Validation 33:19 The Impact of Parental Invalidation on Children 34:08 The Power of Validation and Supportive Language 36:12 The Challenge of Balancing Emotional and Physical Health 37:06 The Role of Parents as Role Models 38:14 Differentiating Between Parent and Child Responsibilities 39:29 The Power of Naming and Validating Emotions 40:27 Bringing Humor and Lightness to Parenting 43:19 The Importance of Modeling Behavior and Language 44:36 The Impact of Humor on Parent-Child Relationships 46:00 Resources and Courses for Parenting the Anxious Child

In this episode, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss the challenges of creating content in a healthy relationship and the importance of setting boundaries and privacy. They also explore the impact of social media on relationships and the evolution of dating apps. The conversation delves into the talking stage and the dangers of getting stuck in that phase. They emphasize the need for authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability in relationships, as well as the importance of fine-tuning the picker and raising relationship standards. In this conversation, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss various aspects of relationships and offer valuable insights. They explore recognizing patterns, setting boundaries, and unprogramming relationship programming. They emphasize the importance of seeking objective advice and avoiding biased opinions from family and friends. They also discuss the influence of curated content on social media and the need to trust one's gut instincts. The conversation delves into the fallacy of 'if they won't, someone else will' and the importance of effective communication. They highlight the benefits of long-term healthy relationships and the power of weekly check-ins. Finally, they discuss the nuances of healthy relationships and the importance of taking space and communicating needs. Takeaways- Creating content in a healthy relationship can be challenging, as it may require setting boundaries and respecting privacy.- The evolution of dating apps and social media has changed the dynamics of dating and relationships.- It is important to differentiate between the talking stage and dating, and to avoid getting stuck in the talking phase.- Authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability are crucial in building healthy relationships.- It is essential to fine-tune the picker and raise relationship standards to attract emotionally available partners. Recognize patterns in your relationships and set boundaries to create healthier dynamics.- Seek objective advice from counselors or trusted individuals rather than relying solely on biased opinions from family and friends.- Be mindful of the influence of curated content on social media and actively search for diverse perspectives.- Trust your gut instincts and cultivate your inner voice to make decisions that align with your values and needs.- Regularly communicate with your partner through check-ins to deepen intimacy and address any concerns or needs. Connect with Talia: taliabombola.com therapywithtalia.com IG: @taliabombola Connect with Dave: IG: @coachdaveglaserTiktok: @dave.glaser Dave's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-challenger-podcast/id1397178628 00:00 Introduction and New Relationship Story 01:01 Challenges of Creating Content in a Healthy Relationship 03:07 Setting Boundaries and Privacy in a Relationship 05:53 Using Dating Advice in Real Life 07:58 The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication 09:05 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships 10:05 Navigating Communication in Relationships 11:07 The Role of Voice Memos in Communication 12:19 The Evolution of Dating Apps and Social Media 13:14 The Talking Stage and Dating 15:12 The Dangers of Getting Stuck in the Talking Phase 17:21 The Paradox of Choice and Multi-Dating 18:24 Defining Relationships and Emotional Availability 20:13 The Challenges of Being Friends with an Ex 22:20 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships 23:54 The Impact of Social Media on Relational Content 25:18 The Importance of Authenticity and Vulnerability 28:00 Taking Accountability in Relationships 29:16 Reframing Relationship Patterns 31:33 Fine-Tuning the Picker and Raising Relationship Standards 32:51 The Power of Light Bulb Moments 33:36 Differentiating Red Flags and Deal Breakers 33:46 Recognizing Patterns and Setting Boundaries 34:40 Unprogramming Relationship Programming 35:36 The Biased Advice of Family and Friends 36:29 Curated Content and Social Media Influence 37:26 Trusting Your Gut and Seeking Counsel 38:02 The Fallacy of 'If They Won't, Someone Else Will' 39:00 Unraveling Relationship Programming 40:09 The Importance of Effective Communication 41:02 The Danger of Unrealistic Expectations 42:29 The Benefits of Long-Term Healthy Relationships 43:42 The Power of Weekly Check-Ins 46:31 The Nuances of Healthy Relationships 49:03 Taking Space and Communicating Needs 52:02 Defeating Past Patterns and Trusting Your Inner Guide

This week, Talia sits down with fellow psychotherapist Britt Frank. They discuss what led Britt to the field, what being stuck looks like, how to know it's time to change, what you can do to get unstuck, the joy of therapeutic journey, the power of childhood, and more.Connect with Britt:scienceofstuck.comIG: @brittfrankConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

In this episode, Talia sits down with mental health counselor and Instagram-viral therapist, Stassi of @BossyStassi. They talk self-awareness, knowing that if you're feeling something someone else out there probably is too, the way we project our feelings when we know others are suffering, and the fact that we can't rescue people.Connect with Stassi:evergreenwellnesstherapy.comIG: @bossystassiConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia chats with Logan Ury, dating coach and behavioral scientist at hinge. They answer questions about how Logan got into the industry, dying alone, how dating has changed over the years, Logan's book, and so much more.Connect with Logan:loganury.comIG: @loganuryCheck out Logan's book, How to Not Die Alone, here.https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622/ref=as_li_ss_tl?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1603216350&sr=8-2&linkCode=sl1&tag=loganury-20&linkId=fa9564cbd4d496dfc6d90e077b24c528&language=en_USConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia and Vanessa talk codependency, depth psychology (also known as psychology of the soul), how to maintain relationships as you change, growing together instead of growing apart, and more.Connect with Vanessalinktr.ee/vanessasbennettIG: @vanessasbennettConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia and Christie sit down to discuss the benefits of knowing yourself before dating, how to continue that process while you’re dating, how each of their signature programs helps you to better understand yourself and dating partners, how certain attachment styles play into this communication pattern, how family dynamics and other research stats plays into partner choice, how self-worth and self-love can help you hold high standards, and more!Connect with Christie:drchristiekederian.comIG: @thedatedoctorchristieConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Talia sits down with Jackie Brubaker for an insightful conversation covering things like what ghosting is, the common causes of ghosting, how certain attachment styles play into this communication pattern, why situationships happen and how to prevent it if it’s not what you want, how self-worth and self-love can help you hold high standards, and tips for how to regulate yourself as an anxious or an avoidant.Connect with Jackie:linktr.ee/loveyouevenmorepodcastIG: @jackiebrubakerConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

In this episode, Talia chats with therapist and relationship expert Dr. Katie Fedrick. They dive in on what it’s like to be a therapist who helps people with relationships and attachment, some of the common thoughts and feelings of various attachment styles, how to work towards earned secure attachment, how attachment styles can be fluid and flexible over the lifespan, how therapists and coaches have a role in helping people healing attachment, and tips for how to regulate yourself as an anxious or an avoidant.Connect with Elizabeth:drelizabethfedrick.comIG: @drelizabethfedrickConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Jacquelyn is back on the podcast for a dynamic and insightful conversation about being a therapist on the frontline and social media, why nuance matters, the importance of being mindful of the content you consume, and how therapists and coaches both have important roles in helping as long as they can stay in their respective lanes.Connect with Jacquelyn:jacquelyntenaglia.comIG: @no.bs.therapistConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola

Today, Talia and guest Dr. Katie Fracalanza talk people pleasing. Where does it come from, what does it look like, and how can you shift out of it?Connect with Katie:drfracalanza.comIG: @dr.katiefracConnect with Talia:taliabombola.comtherapywithtalia.comIG: @taliabombola