Sex, Lies & Parenthood

Please consider watching this episode on YouTube as it is a very visual interview and we even added elements to go along with some of the items we discussed in the episode (just search Sex, Lies and Parenthood in YouTube).This is Part 2 of the "Sex, Lies & Parenthood" special Pride Month edition of the podcast with entertainer and Drag Queen Ginger Ladd. Part 1 began with Ginger simultaneously going live on his social media, as he often does, to get ready in drag while recording the podcast with us. Part 2 was recorded exclusively for our podcast because Ginger was able to get a little more spicy with us than on social. If you missed part 1 please go check it out - it is such an intimate interview where he shared so many emotional moments of his life and even talked about the threats he gets even now because of his job as an entertainer. We recorded both parts before Texas State Rep. Bryan Slaton decided to attack family-friendly drag shows for allowing children to watch the performances. As a fellow Texan and Drag Queen performer, Ginger was nice enough to record a statement regarding the issue and we put it here in Part 2. We want to thank Ginger Ladd for allowing us a sneak peak into his world as an entertainer, and Drag Queen but also as a son, a husband, a father, and, most of all, a HUMAN who has gone through it all and still continues to embrace his audiences whether over social media or in person at live shows. FOR MORE INFO OR TO BOOK GINGER LADD GO TO: www.GingerLadd.com

Please consider watching the video version of Part 1 and 2 as the episode is very visual and we added items to the interview that support elements of his story.Welcome to “Sex, Lies & Parenthood!” This Special Pride Month Edition of the Podcast featuring a 2-part interview with Drag Queen Entertainer Ginger Ladd! In Part 1 we watch Ginger Ladd begin the transformation into drag while getting very intimate with the details of his life. We talk about the trauma, the love, the pain, the loss, the backstabbing, ALL OF IT! We are so grateful that Ginger Ladd trusted us enough to tell stories he has never told publicly before. FOR MORE INFO OR TO BOOK GINGER LADD GO TO: GingerLadd.com

In this episode we interview Dr. Sandra Zichermann, creator of The Mom Rant and Rave, a safe space on Facebook and Instagram for parents to support each other during the hard times and the good. Sandra has been a social media influencer for years and is adamant about teaching others how to get paid for their hard work instead of doing it on trade. SAY NO TO TRADE, INSTEAD GET PAID! She has a loyal following on social media and on Clubhouse. We also discuss the fact there is no perfect parent and no one way to parent as well as self care and taking time out for yourself.To contact Sandra, go to her Instagram and DM her @TheMomRant or you can send her an e-mail Sandra@TheMomRant.com. To find her Facebook group, search The MOM Rant and Rave.

In this episode we had so much fun talking to Intimacy Coach Kristie Lynn. From the Yes, No, Maybe list of what we would and would not do in the bedroom (wait until you see Capricorn’s list OMG) to fun toys, some with remote controls. I learned A LOT about my husband, things I feel like we should have discussed when we met 14 years ago. Kristie also taught us ways we can keep that spark going when we feel like our sex life is ebbing more than flowing. I really hope you enjoy and learn from this episode.For more info on the sensuality tools or anything discussed in this episode, go to www.kristielynncoaching.com Share Tweet Share

We are working on Season 2 but in the mean time, we have a couple of interviews we are posting that are PHENOMENAL. We had the pleasure to speak to Mal Harrison, a clinical sexologist with the Center for Erotic Intelligence, all about the clitoris and pleasure. So many people don’t know much about what their bodies are made of and how the parts work, even as adults. There is nothing to be ashamed of in not knowing but knowledge is power, especially when you put it to use! This was a fun and informational conversation and I hope you all enjoy it as much as we did.Go to www.MalHarrison.com to find out more about herIf you want more information on the center go to https://centerforeroticintelligence.orgShare Tweet Share

I was late to the school pick-up line aka on time. I had a panic attack, but how did my kids react? Not like I was expecting at all.My husband was doing the dishes this morning despite his PTSD from when he was punished as a child (check out previous episode) and I am so proud of him.Then we discuss are you an opener a closer or both when it comes to the kitchen?We also discuss how neither of us is the boss over the other but has that lead us to being lackadaisical when it comes to chores?We discuss how much we hate adulting – who said being an adult means cleaning all of the time and doing projects? (This is turning into an ongoing theme, maybe one day we’ll do something about it).My husband says we are lazy, I say we are prioritizing down time instead of cleaning aka doing the bare minimum to survive. I discuss why my ADHD is a hindrance when it comes to cleaning the house.Then we get the wheel out and the question causes me to be fully honest about something I have hidden from my husband in the past. We also rehash one of the worst nights of my life – our bachelor/bachelorette parties and the strip club scam. Then my husband tells me how he knows when I am lying but reveals he never lies except when I ask him this over the phone. Plus we discuss how project timelines are meaningless for my husband because he thinks everything will be done “in a day” but it never is.Then of course we get back on the subject of cleaning but my husband says something that made me so happy, then, in the next breath, pissed me off when he tried to joke about my cooking. And we close it out discussing farts and what would cause a divorce if we did THIS to one another.Share Tweet Share

We begin this episode with the age-old problem, my husband won’t turn on the air conditioning and I am sweating. Why is there always one spouse that holds on to the last second in the summer?! The good news is we both hate cuddling when we are hot and sweaty so there’s that to look forward to later. Then wait until you hear who changed my Apple ID password and what they charged! WTF?! Then my husband explains why he watches porn on “private mode” and I learn for the first time that even exists. Then we discuss what daily activity I do that makes me feel like a failure. Finally we spin the wheel and have a very serious question from a mom whose child has revealed something HUGE and she isn’t sure how to handle it.Share Tweet Share

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions unwanted advances and sexual harassment. We get a little deep in this episode but, as always, there is still laughter. Oh and if you want to hear my husband’s excuses as to why my Mother’s Day was bleh, that’s in here too! We talk about when we each lost our virginity and how we felt about it. We discuss self pleasure and exploring our bodies. We discuss how to handle your drunk friend and being the responsible person at the party. We discuss catcalling and overstepping bounds and raising a girl in a society where women have to be careful and learn to protect themselves. We talk about setting boundaries as parents with our kids. As always send in more questions and feedback to producerrachel@gmail.com. We are working on getting Mark to talk INTO the microphone so his audio isn’t all over the place. He’s getting better.Share Tweet Share

I asked our 10-year-old son Nico about his secret girlfriend that everyone knew about except me. I bribed him with Nutella and did it before I had to drop him off at school, I figured some sugar and limited time would get him to tell me quickly. His response was priceless and I hope I am showing him that I want to keep the line of communication open without judgement. I am not great at this parenting thing, I think I thought a magical switch would turn on and I would just be the perfect parent, nope. Just like a marriage takes work every day, so does parenting; some days are better than others and, at this point we are living one day at a time. In this episode we discuss what our son finally admitted to me about the girlfriend AND what he wants to do next, spoiler alert, he wants us to meet her! That is a little too real for us right now and I am not sure where to go with that request; I told him it was something we can discuss further in the future. Yes, supposedly her parents know about him and she is allowed to have a boyfriend which makes me feel a little bit better about the situation. Also in this episode, we discuss what the older boys tried to discuss with Capricorn during puberty that actually made him VERY uncomfortable.Share Tweet Share

I recently noticed a change in our 10 year old son’s behavior, showering without us making him, cleaning his room without us nagging, doing chores without us asking. I was scared he was either body snatched or I woke up in a different dimension. Did he want money? Yes. Did he eat all of the ice scream and get scared I would be pissed so he was trying to soften the blow? Yes. BUT the worst thing of all…he has a secret girlfriend! I found out when I did a cell phone check and I saw texts to a contact he labelled “my best friend.” They text “luv u” which is insane to me. The only thing is, I am the ONLY one who didn’t know about it. My husband even knew! In this episode I confront my husband to find out why he didn’t tell me AND I decide whether to confront our son about it as well or wait for him to come tell me on his own. Later in the episode we talk about the story I teased in episode 26, a story we never aired. I discuss why it never aired and finally tell the damn story. We also discuss what makes our marriage work for us right now and give advice for those people struggling in their relationship. Share Tweet Share

In this episode we let you know what happened AFTER we taped episode 25, the roadie episode…what a cliffhanger…and then we recap what we’ve been doing since the road trip and why we haven’t posted content for a bit. Spoiler alert, the hospital was involved but wait until you hear WHY; I am so screwed. ALSO, we are happy to announce you can find us on YouTube. We have added a video component but, because of their rules, it is a very edited, cleaner version of the podcast. I like the podcast audio version better, we can be ourselves and you don’t have to see my flat boobs and my stomach rolls. Podcast audio version for the win! I am so much hotter on audio.Share Tweet Share

I know it sounds dramatic but we legit got into a heated discussion and I seriously wasn’t sure what was going to happen after…My husband was salty with me the night before and I finally figured out why, because I hadn’t given him a roadie yet. OMG he was really in his feelings and really let me have it. I fell into a TikTok hole while we were driving in the middle of nowhere on the way to a hotel. I was scared and not feeling sexy but he was hoping I would have paid more attention to the fact that we were alone on a dark road, the perfect opportunity for a roadie. I, however, was waiting for “The Walking Dead” music to come on and praying we had no car issues. Literally we were in the middle of NOWHERE! Yes, I get it, I missed an opportunity. Did I apologize? Yes. I did feel bad for not coming through when I had the chance. Will my TikTok addiction destroy our marriage? We get very real in this episode and you pretty much hear us fight and work it out (finger crossed) in real time. How did we do?Share Tweet Share

We’ve been driving for 3 days already and finally decided to record a couple of episodes because why haven’t we been this whole time? I’m a procrastinator and figured we had days to go but that time went quicker than anticipated so this is the best we could do. It has also taken me a week to edit the content so, there’s that too. Love you all for sticking with us! In this episode, you can clearly hear how tired and bored we are on this part of the drive (Kansas on). We discuss that time Capricorn moved to Florida (or as I say Fla-rid-uh), wait until you hear WHY he made the move. We also discuss how we picked up a couple of college kids that didn’t know each other along our hike in Arizona and how I am convinced they are dating right now but have no way to find out…I am considering turning to social media to see if anyone knows them (we all took a selfie and then disappeared). We discuss road trip foods we HAD to have. Capricorn makes me nuts during this episode as he insisted on chewing sunflower seeds right as we began recording. If they annoy you as much as they annoyed me, I tell him to stop chewing them at 15:30. HEADS UP: Then we get into a homeowner beware conversation when it comes to hiring a contractor for a project. Contractors and homeowners…do you agree with us? Capricorn wanted you all to know this episode took a turn away from the usual topics, I say it goes under “lies.”Share Tweet Share

In this episode we are leaving LA with our car (finally) on our way to Arizona for a few days. I asked questions we probably should have asked BEFORE we got married. You’ve seen those lists right? I thought it would be fun for us to answer some thought-provoking questions. The lesson? Don’t ask anything you don’t really want the answer to. Listen to Capricorn go from calling me “powerful” to “nagging” in less than 30 seconds. Every time I think I know everything about my husband, there is ALWAYS something new he adds to the pot.Share Tweet Share

In this episode we discuss how I am NOT the sleepover mom. Our home is always under construction and I don’t like other people’s kids, no, that’s actually not true, sometimes I like them more than my own, but I still don’t want them sleeping over. Does that make me the meanest mom ever? Yes, according to my kids I am the worst. Well we discuss that in this episode, is our bad parenting causing our kids to be sassy or are our sassy kids causing us to be in a bad mood and parent with a little too much negative emotion? It’s a chicken before the egg kind of question (or is it?). Regardless, we are not alone…we spin the wheel and answer a listener’s question about their sassy kid. We discuss what we could do to be better parents and ultimately realize we can’t help the listener because our kids are just as bad. Hey, at least we know we are all in this together.Share Tweet Share

Warning: we are drinking alcohol and get a little tipsy plus it’s unedited so you’re welcome…In this episode I confront my husband about something that has been bothering me, the poop stains in the toilet. Why do I feel like I am constantly cleaning poop and pee still? Our kids are years out of diapers, I thought I was done! Then we spin the wheel and that turns into a shit show because I was unprepared for the category. Capricorn comes up with a question on the fly and, well, you’ll just have to hear if we stayed on track. Spoiler alert, we didn’t, but we laughed a lot and had fun with this episode so, we hope you laugh along with us…or at us, but hopefully with us.Share Tweet Share

Warning: this episode is unedited and raw which just means you’ll hear us say “like” and “you know what I mean” – I usually cut those out.In this episode we talk about getting spammed on our texts and e-mails, it’s draining and I swear if someone signed us up for this crap karma is a bitch! We go behind the scenes on how we record the podcast – trust me, you can do it too. I discuss my start in TV and telling stories which is what content producers do and I get to do with my husband now which is AMAZING! I reveal how we plan to grow our brand and, of course, Capricorn pitches his merch ideas.CALLING GRAPHIC AND WEB DESIGNERS…did you make a pivot during the pandemic after losing your job and are now growing your former side hustle? We need you! Producerrachel@gmail.comThen we break out the Sex, Lies and Parenthood wheel where we answer a question in the category that the wheel randomly landed on. This one hit close to home for us as we have been dealing with the same issue in our own home. Listen to HOW we deal with it and we would love your take on how the issue should be handled. Comment here or send me an e-mail producerrachel@gmail.comShare Tweet Share

Warning: this episode is unedited and raw…My husband Capricorn heard that JLo and ARod have called off their engagement so he decided to shoot his shot, I just about peed myself! She is on his list, you know the list of celebrities people have that they get a pass from their significant other to have sex with. He had the worst pick-up line ever which got us talking about pick-up lines and how useless they are at the bar. Capricorn gives advice on how one should carry themselves if they want attention when they go out, apparently NOT looking desperate and playing hard-to-get works wonders.Then we break out the trusty wheel to see if it will land on a Sex, Lies or Parenthood question…let me just say, the title of this episode says it all. Can you turn a “Ho” into a husband? I would love to hear what you think in the comments or send me an e-mail producerrachel@gmail.comShare Tweet Share

Warning – these are unedited and raw so forgive us! My computer was left in California with the car so these are getting published as is…Sophia and I are back and home, she is so happy to be back to normal and I am trying to figure out what my new normal is. I am have worked my whole life, I have never not had a J.O.B. and I have never had the opportunity to be called just “mom” and “wife.” There was always another title along with those that often came first. Now that I am a stay-at-home mom and wife, I am finding myself a bit lost and I have realized its just not my thing. Sophia is 9 and Nico is 10, they aren’t much into spending time with mom anymore. I am glad I did my best to maximize their days and weekends when I was working because they were cuter when they were younger and wanted their mommy. Yes, I am salty. Now they are pushing boundaries and getting into trouble which makes me “mean mommy” and both have suggested I go back to California and leave them alone. Fun. Then there are household chores I can’t seem to get done because I am balancing building an empire while trying to do dishes and cook. My mother-in-law lives with us, she moved in to take care of Nico and Mark while I was away. She does all of the laundry and makes sure my husband has breakfast and makes him lunch. So basically I am there for the sex, at least that’s what it feels like. I will keep building the empire, while planning our next trip without kids because, let’s be honest, I don’t want to be here either. God bless Nana, she can handle it…In this episode we break out the trusty Sex, Lies and Parenthood wheel, whichever topic it lands on we pick a question from our followers/listeners, and do our best to answer it with no other authority whatsoever, just years of experience and a sense of humor. WARNING: this episode deals with sex and not being fresh “down there.”Share Tweet Share

Will Sophia stay in LA or are we packing up to go back home?  Will she continue to pursue acting or give up? We gave ourselves 3 months to get settled, learn as much as we can about the business and try to land an agent; listen to hear what happened.PLUS…My mother-in-law is leaving us soon, she got a trailer and will be living in an RV park in the Spring snd Summer months so who is going to watch our kids if we go on the road? Does that mean we have to actually parent our kids now and take them with us?We can’t win with our kids no matter what we do, we are older parents now so we are a bit more chill than when we were younger (and by chill I men we are tired). Parents, how do you manage your kids lofty expectations when you are trying to come up with fun things to do together? We really need advice because our kids are bougie and we have to stay on a budget.I want to know what age you can retire – like 50 right? My husband and I have been working since we were kids and I just want to figure out what to finally do with my life. There is no hustle right now, but we do have flow…what will that mean when you have to make money to live or can we make the mental flip and live while making money?Capricorn has the acting bug and it’s making me nuts. We had ONE commercial shoot and now he thinks he’s a movie star. Nope. Help…Share Tweet Share