The Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood Podcast

In this episode, Vallen discusses the process of rebuilding life after pregnancy loss and finding a new normal. She emphasizes that everyone's timeline for healing is different and there is no set path or plan. The host shares her personal experiences and coping mechanisms, such as writing, focusing on living children, and adopting a puppy. She also talks about the importance of allowing oneself to grieve and the physical and emotional aspects of mourning. Rebuilding life after pregnancy loss is a challenging and individual process. There is no set timeline for healing and it is important to take the time needed. Coping mechanisms such as writing, focusing on living children, and adopting a pet can be helpful. Allowing oneself to grieve and express emotions is an important part of the healing process.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

Sarah Cox, a guest on the Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood podcast, shares her journey of infertility, pregnancy loss, and motherhood. She discusses her experiences with PCOS, early losses, and the stillbirth of her daughter Jasmine. Sarah also talks about the rainbow skirt project she started, where families who have experienced pregnancy loss can request to wear the rainbow skirt and share their stories. The conversation touches on topics such as the emotional toll of pregnancy loss, the anxiety and fear that can arise after loss, and how to navigate these challenges with living children. The conversation revolves around the experiences and challenges faced by parents who have lost a baby. They discuss topics such as explaining death to young children, the need for better education and support for pregnancy loss, and the importance of seeking support from others. They also touch on the regrets and unanswered questions that parents often have after a loss. The main takeaway is the importance of not going through the grief journey alone and finding support from others who have experienced similar losses. You can find more information about Sarah, Jasmine, and the traveling rainbow skirt at https://www.journeyforjasmine.com @journeyforjasmineLinks + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this episode, Vallen Webb discusses the importance of attitude and how it can impact the quality of our lives. She shares her own struggles with maintaining a positive attitude and how it relates to her experiences as a mother. Vallen emphasizes the need to pause and reflect when negative thoughts and emotions arise, and offers tips for shifting our attitude. She also explores the influence of past generations on our attitudes and the importance of self-love and flexibility.TakeawaysAttitude plays a significant role in determining the quality of our lives. It is important to pause and reflect when negative thoughts and emotions arise, and to challenge their accuracy.Our attitudes can be influenced by past generations and the messages we internalize from our upbringing.Self-love and flexibility are key in changing our attitudes and embracing our authentic selves.Every day is an opportunity to choose a positive attitude and start fresh.Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone03:11 Sitting with Discomfort and the Power of Healing07:02 The Influence of Past Generations on Our Attitudes10:48 The Importance of Pausing and Reflecting15:39 Embracing Self-Love and Flexibility25:49 Taking Responsibility for Our Reactions28:06 Closing ThoughtsLinks + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this episode, Vallen Webb shares updates and changes happening in her business and personal life. She discusses rebranding her business under the name Evelyn James and Company. She emphasizes the importance of self-trust and self-love in the healing process and encourages listeners to find joy while honoring their babies. Vallen concludes by expressing her gratitude for the support and love from her audience.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

"In 2016, we chose to TFMR at 20 weeks. We didn't have a clear diagnosis very "grey area" which made the decision to terminate our son even more challenging as we thought of all the "what ifs" This was right before the 2016 election which brought on a lot of feelings and continues to do in this political climate."Courtney is so open and vulnerable about sharing her sweet boy with us and her journey surrounding her loss. Stories like these are why I have this platform so we can learn from them and share love and connection. Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this conversation, Gina Mundy, an attorney specializing in childbirth cases, discusses the importance of understanding childbirth and making informed decisions to ensure a healthy birth. She shares her motivation for writing a book on childbirth and highlights the common issues in legal baby cases. The impact of Pitocin, the need for self-advocacy in labor, and the role of baby advocates are also discussed. The conversation emphasizes the significance of choosing a good doctor for a positive birth experience. In this conversation, Gina Mundy emphasizes the importance of choosing a good doctor or midwife and being your own advocate during childbirth. She highlights the significance of communication skills and the doctor's specialization in managing labor and delivery. Gina also discusses the importance of understanding the baby's heart rate and learning about childbirth to make informed decisions. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the need for expectant parents to be proactive and educated to have a safe and positive birth experience. Takeaways Understanding childbirth and making informed decisions is crucial for a healthy birth. Common issues in legal baby cases can be prevented with proper knowledge and preparation. Pitocin, a drug used to induce labor, can have significant impacts and should be understood by pregnant women. Self-advocacy is important during labor to ensure the best outcome for both the mother and baby. Having a designated baby advocate can provide additional support and help make informed decisions. Choosing a good doctor is essential for a positive birth experience. Choose a doctor or midwife who aligns with your values and communication style. Trust your instincts and be your own advocate during labor and delivery. Learn about childbirth and understand the baby's heart rate to make informed decisions. Seek recommendations from nurses, doulas, and other trusted sources when choosing a healthcare provider. You can connect with Gina below gm@ginamundy.com ginamundy.com You can purchase her book HERE. Connect with me here Website: ⁠www.pregnancylosseducation.com⁠ Email: pregnancylosseducation@gmail.com Purchase: Pregnancy Loss Coloring ⁠Books HERE. ⁠ If you are a doula and want to take the Pregnancy Loss Education Course-⁠ head HERE. ⁠ You can also join my ⁠FREE FB group- pregnancy loss education for doulas and perinatal professionals⁠ for resources, live trainings and support! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

In this episode, the Vallen Webb discusses her identity crisis after experiencing a stillbirth. She shares how the loss of her child caused her to question her sense of self and navigate the challenges of grief and parenting. The conversation explores the duality of grief and gratitude, the fear and stagnation that can follow loss, and the importance of finding purpose and growth in the healing process. The host also emphasizes the need for support and offers guidance for turning pain into purpose. Overall, the episode highlights the ongoing journey of bereaved mothers and the resilience they find in balancing grief and living in the present.TakeawaysPregnancy loss can lead to an identity crisis as the loss of a child can cause a person to question their sense of self and their role as a parent.Grief after pregnancy loss is a complex experience that involves a range of emotions, including confusion, fear, and sadness.Finding purpose and growth in the healing process can help bereaved parents navigate their grief and find meaning in their lives.Balancing grief and living in the present is a constant challenge for bereaved parents, but it is possible to find joy and fulfillment while still honoring the memory of their lost child.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.⁠⁠⁠20 Ways to celebrate and honor your angel baby.⁠⁠⁠ Printable.⁠⁠⁠Pregnancy Loss Journaling Prompts⁠⁠⁠. Printable.

My friends would visit and bring me coffee, just seeing their faces and being with me brought me so much hope and life. My bestie visiting for a week and making me laugh was hope. Sitting outside in the sunshine and letting in soak in was hope. Watching others from afar have babies that lived…was hope. Watching the world move on, even when it seemed to do so without me… was hope. Watching the seasons change brought me hope… nothing stayed still, it was always moving. So would I… one day. There were days a dragonfly would land on me and not just for a second or two. But I mean minutes passed where these dragonflies would just stay with me and I knew it was Evelyn visiting me and checking in on her family. Even when your at your worst and you feel that you could just die from the pain, you won’t. That pain is there because there is LOVE attached to it. If we didn’t love or care so much, would it hurt that much? Even if you don’t believe in god, having hope and faith in something out there will get you through. Evenif that is having faith in yourself in making it through your bad days. Hope in your family, your dogs, your job, your friends, your hobby, your dreams. You just have to hold on to the glimmers. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

What's next? You start doing it little by little with these little moments, it will happen without you even knowing at first before you start to become more aware of it. You'll have moments when you are grieving or crying and you will have these small clips or visions or glimmers if you will .These little moments of hope, joy, love, or dreams. You will see the light, the sun, you will see beyond that thick fog of grief. As the days go by you will see a little more and a little more and realize that you are still here. Life is still here. Living your life is okay and necessary and no matter what that baby is your baby and you are his/her mama. Living your life doesn't mean disrespecting him/her. You have to go on living. Living with intention, awareness and joy brings so much happiness to your baby, i will guarantee it. They are always with us. This is not just a sad and devastating end, but a beautiful, unimaginable beginning. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

The first week you think about all you have lost. The future you imagined, the dreams you had for your baby, yourself and your family, that included them. You think about how unfair it is. You question your faith or spirituality because who would make this a part of our “destiny” something we HAVE to go through to become who we are meant to be. You start thinking about having another baby, you need another baby, not to replace the baby we lost but to have a baby because we are suppose to have one, we wanted one, we were growing one, our bodies are postpartum bodies without a baby, this isn’t suppose to happen. Doensn’t our bodies know? What do I have to go through postpartum when I don’t have a baby? There are so many emotions and feelings we go through after we lose a baby. I was going through my journal that I kept after Evelyn died and I saw all of these conflicting feelings and thoughts and I remembered how confused I was. I want you to know how normal it is to feel these things. I also want you to know that it is a sign of tremendous strength to get help, just like I did. Here are some journaling topics if you want to start writing and processing the things in your head. It really helps to get them on the page. Journaling prompts here. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

If you want to know more about me... your host, Vallen, this episode has it all. I figured it was time to connect with you all in a different way. Sharing who I am, who I was and where I am going! Pregnancy Loss Education Course... Learn more HERE! www.vallenwebb.com for free resources, the blog and more! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Prioritize your self-care. When you are grieving and in a place of deep despair and sadness, it is physically hard to move to even do the most mundane of tasks. It is essential that you try your best to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Grief can be draining, so make sure you're getting enough rest, eating well, and finding ways to cope with your emotions in healthy ways. I will always say you need these 4 things. SLEEP, SUN, MOVEMENT, WATER. ( FOOD IS A GIVEN) There is so much evidence to support these modalities of healing. Seek Support. It can be so hard to ask for help when you don’t know what you need and there is no solution to what is wrong. But this is one of those situations where you need to lean on your support network, whether it's family, friends, or a support group. You don't have to go through this alone. Do you know anyone right now who has gone through loss? Is this a person you could talk to, and have a weekly check-in on? There are some wonderful support groups out there, I suggest asking in mom groups on FB in your area or surrounding cities. I highly recommend going off of a recommendation rather than a google search. Find a therapist who can support you through your grief and healing journey. This again, can take time to find the right support person. Ask friends and family to help with the kids, animals, grocery shopping, or cleaning. Professional Help. Not everyone feels comfortable going to therapy or trying to find mental health help. But if you find your grief is overwhelming and affecting your ability to parent, consider seeking support from a grief counselor or therapist. Communicate with Your Children. Effective communication during a grieving period can be so hard. What and how you talk to your children can depend on their age and understanding. I always encourage families to have open and honest conversations with your children about your grief. Make sure to use age-appropriate language and answer their questions to the best of your ability without lying or being vague. This one was always tricky for me. I always wanted to make sure there was a balance and I wasn’t throwing all of my emotions or feelings on my girls, especially without my husband home.( He was on a 7-month deployment when I had my full term 40 weeks 5 day stillbirth) The girls and I spent all of our time together and sometimes it was hard not to just sit there and cry when I was cuddling with them, being reminded that Evelyn should be there too. Maintain Routines. Adults and children find comfort in routines, so try to maintain a sense of normalcy as much as possible. Consistency can provide them with a sense of stability during a devastating time. A month after my daughter died, Jon headed back to his ship on deployment and the girls and I went back to our daily summer routine. There was relief in our simple steps. Be Patient with Yourself. Remember, grief is a process, and it's okay to have days when you're struggling more than others. The healing after losing a baby is anything but linear. You will have waves, more so in the beginning. Be patient with yourself and acknowledge your emotions. Create Special Moments Despite your grief, try to create positive moments with your children. Board games, puzzles or watch a silly family movie and just soak in all the love and cuddles. One day you will come to realize it is all about love. At the end of the day, love is what will make it all okay. Find free resources at www.vallenwebb.com If you are a doula or postpartum doula and you would like to support loss...

There are a few things that can get us through this devastating loss. Two of these things are goals and purpose. A lot of us try and find purpose after stillbirth or miscarriage. Some of us discover and create goals to keep us on an upward path. These two things help bring hope back in the picture. Something to look forward to and work towards. I also believe it helps speed up the healing process. Pregnancy loss takes a lot from as as women and mothers and humans in general. Stillbirth and miscarriage are still taboo and stigmatized in our society. Nobody wants to talk about it. I'm kinda blazing my own trail and trying to figure this all out as I go- normalizing pregnancy loss I mean. Join me on this journey as we navigate it together . Let's dive in to the episode. You can get free resources at www.vallenwebb.com/resources Click HERE for a list of pregnancy loss journaling prompts. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Normalizing pregnancy loss involves making the conversation around stillbirth and miscarriage more common and accepted within society. The goal is to create an environment where individuals can openly discuss their experiences without fear of judgment or shame. It's interesting that we're trying to normalize something as profound as death, which society often tries to distance itself from due to its inherent discomfort and uncertainty. This avoidance is driven by the fear of the unknown and the discomfort that arises from facing the concept of mortality. However, avoiding conversations about pregnancy loss doesn't help the families affected by it. The process of normalization plays a vital role in healing by addressing several crucial aspects: 1. Reducing Stigma: The stigma associated with pregnancy loss often prevents individuals from seeking support or sharing their stories. By normalizing the conversation, it becomes easier for people to seek help and discuss their experiences without fear of being judged. 2. Increasing Awareness: Normalizing a topic brings it into the public domain, enhancing understanding and knowledge. As awareness grows, empathy and support for those affected also increase. 3. Creating Connection: The normalization of pregnancy loss reminds people that they are not alone in their experiences. This shared connection can foster a sense of belonging and validation. 4. Encouraging Communication: Open discussions about normalized topics encourage people to talk openly about their emotions, experiences, and challenges. This communication can lead to a deeper understanding, empathy, and sharing of coping strategies. 5. Promoting Healing Strategies: Normalization of healing strategies like seeking therapy or practicing self-care can encourage individuals to adopt these practices without feeling unusual or weak. To help normalize pregnancy loss, you can take several actionable steps: 1. Education and Awareness Campaigns: Utilize platforms like social media, podcasts, workshops, and community events to share information, stories, and resources. Educate people about the realities of pregnancy loss to counter misconceptions. 2. Promote Authentic Conversations: Create safe spaces for open and honest sharing. These spaces allow respectful, empathetic dialogue where people can express themselves without judgment. 3. Lead by Example: When influential figures or role models openly discuss and normalize these experiences, it sends a powerful message that these topics are important and should be discussed. 4. Media Representation: Showcase diverse and realistic portrayals of pregnancy loss in movies, TV shows, literature, and art. Accurate depictions contribute to the normalization process. 5. Collaborative Efforts: Partner with organizations, communities, and advocates sharing the goal of normalizing pregnancy loss. Collective efforts amplify impact and reach a broader audience. 6. Storytelling: Sharing personal stories humanizes the topic and helps others relate. It builds a sense of community and is integral to the healing process. 7. Consistency: Normalization is an ongoing process. Consistently discussing and advocating for the topic helps it become a natural part of conversations and reduces the novelty factor. Ultimately, the goal is to move forward, not "move on." Healing is a continuous journey, and by focusing on identity building, finding joy, and practicing self-love, individuals can move forward while honoring their experiences and maintaining a sense of empowerment. Normalizing pregnancy loss is about recognizing its place in the tapestry of life and...

This is such a good episode. I give you 10 actionable ways to love yourself after pregnancy loss. Using self-care, self-aware(ness) and self-love. Sometimes after a stillbirth or miscarriage, we neglect ourselves because we blame ourselves. But I want to remind you, you did nothing wrong and that loving yourself isn't hurting the memory of your baby or make you a bad mom. Sometimes we feel like we have to ALWAYS focus on the baby that died. If we aren't thinking about her/him, no one else is and they will be forgotten, I'm their mom, I need to think about them all the time. They deserve that. Sometimes we are worried about taking care of ourselves and someone saying something mean or being unkind. Well you know what? Our baby may be gone, but we have to go on living- especially if there are other babies to take care of. So Guess what?! We have to take care of ourselves, if we don't what use are we? How can we fill others cups if ours is empty? Just because our baby died doesn't mean we can't love ourselves, and I'll keep reminding you and me of this!!! You deserve to love you and nurture your soul. Let me give you some ideas on how! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

to exploring the complexities of anxiety and how it can manifest in our lives after experiencing pregnancy loss. Anxiety is a common struggle for many of us, and while some may have coping mechanisms, the aftermath of a painful event can bring forth a whole new set of fears, worries, and intrusive thoughts that can be daunting to navigate.In this podcast, we talk about my personal journey after experiencing my daughters stillbirth. I faced an overwhelming amount of anxiety surrounding the birth options for my sons. I felt paralyzed by indecision and the fear of making the wrong choice.I hope you enjoy this episode and have a great week--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Jon headed back to work after 5 weeks of paternity leave... Here is what happened! I had a really hard week and I wanted to share some of my thoughts with you!!! I tried to be so intentional with my week and lower my expectations because I knew it would be difficult. Boundaries were violated and I was upset and just realized how important it is that we really hold our boundaries and make sure we are taken care of. Just remember you are important, your boundaries and needs are important and you have to take care of yourself, especially when you are healing. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Every year there is a month we all may dread, be saddened about or is bittersweet. Maybe some are excited to celebrate their sweet babies and look forward to it. Where ever you are on that scale, there is no right or wrong. Sometimes I have ALLL the feelings- you know what I mean. One minute we are filled with love and feel blessed to know our babies are always with us and we can still celebrate them and the next minute we are finding a closet to ugly cry in. Well this month is my daughters birthday. I look forward to the traditions we have created over the last 3 years. This year would have been her 4th birthday. I can only imagine how much joy she would have brought our family. We would have 5 children- to me that sounds crazy to say outloud. I never wanted that many kids. But after losing her, I wanted nothing more than a big family to share this life with. I wanted to share how this month typically goes for me and share the rituals and birthday traditions we created to keep her memory alive. My sweet baby girl. Sometimes it still feels unreal. I hope you all are healing a little each day. If you have any of your own traditions that you would like to share with me, please leave me a comment! I read them all. You can also send an email to info.vallenwebb@gmail.com or send me a message on FaceBook Join our group here- https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094243272420 If you want more info on what I do head to the website and check it out! www.vallenwebb.squarespace.com Looking forward to connecting with you! xx Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Grief can be so heavy. It can also make you believe so many things that are not true by creating intrusive thoughts, that we can often put on loop in our brains. Grief can create these lies that we start to believe and I see this so often- especially in my own story. I share my story and the thoughts that my grief tried getting me to believe and how to change them. We have to be intentional in the thoughts we have and knowing when we need to shift and reverse them. You can find hope and joy again, even amidst grief, you can find pockets of joy or happiness. Grief and happiness can coexist. You can have more than 2 conflicting feelings at one time and that's OKAY. That makes you NORMAL lol. We can normalize that and realize that we are allowed to feel anyway we need too. Focusing on the now and being present is what saved me in my worst grief. Focusing on how I could love my girls more and help them heal as well. Spending time outside in nature and really feeling with my senses the sun, the wind, the rain, breathing the air, listening the world around me. Grief has a way of isolating us but we can fight that, we can change that and we normalize that and build a community around us. Hope and joy are coming my sweet friends. It just might take a little time! xx Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message