One Fry Short

After Jamie discusses how transformative therapy has been for her OCD in one of our latest episodes, Rachel realizes she's living with paralyzing anxiety around parenting that she thought was part of the gig. Hint hint, it's not!In this week’s episode, we discuss:How undiagnosed and untreated PPA/PPD can still linger years after giving birth.The different types of therapies Rachel will be using.How decision paralysis goes hand in hand with perfectionism.The importance of feeling ALL emotions.How we can be good parents without being anxious parents.While we don’t have any answers or advice in this episode, Rachel does share some experiences that will hopefully make you feel not so alone. If anxiety and depression are leading emotions in your life, please reach out to a specialist. As we're learning, you don’t have to live like this.Read more over on our substack: OneFryShort.Substack.comand our Instagram: @OneFryShortPod

Women are almost twice as likely to go to therapy than men. Jamie’s husband Connor joins this week to discuss just that, and…- Compartmentalization and its hazards ⚠️- The benefits Connor reaped from therapy

At the end of February, Jamie started therapy for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.In this episode, we talk about Jamie's experience with ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) therapy and…The difference between generalized anxiety and OCDThe “label” of OCD and how it makes me feelDifferent modalities of therapy and how very different they can beThe huge misconceptions our society has about what OCD “looks like”"Recording this episode was a huge triumph for me. It is one large “exposure” — sharing my story that I was so deeply ashamed of for many years. My fear is that you’ll think I’m a crazy, dramatic, hypochondriac. And you might! That is your business. But my hope… is that you won’t."With love and uncertainty,JamieCheck out our substack at: OneFryShort.Substack.com and our Instagram at: Instagram.com/onefryshortpodWe are not medical professionals, so, as always, please consult with your doctor regarding your medical needs.

This week's episode couldn't be timed better. After multiple signs from the universe in the form of snails and pottery teachers telling us our version of 'slow' is actually not slow at all, Rachel sits down with her mentor, Maggie Klein, to talk about the positive effects that going slow has had on her life.Here's what we discuss:Why the tension of the unknown is a good thing.The difference between waiting for something to be perfect vs. going when you know.Saying no in a culture of yes.Why boxes and labels can box us in.The power of going slow to go fast.and more!

How accepting the "bad" stuff has helped me become more open to the "good" stuffHow negative feelings are part of lifeWhy avoiding them can be really detrimental to our overall mental healthClaire's fear of snakes and how Rachel handles it

In this week’s episode, we discuss the idea that aiming for normal is cutting ourselves short. The very definition of normal even includes the word “average.” We've spent a large chunk of our youth trying to fit in while being molded by society to fit into the status quo. So what happens when you're finally free and and wonder who you even are? We answer that & more...*uncover why our 20's and 30's feel so freaking awkward*why finding your own breed of weirdos may be the best thing for your mental health*how Taylor Swift taught us to be unapologetically yourself *how doing the things that scare us can help us gain confidence Check out our substack for more at onefryshort.substack.com & our instagram at @onefryshortpod.Thank you!-Rachel & Jamie

This week's episode was recorded shortly after news broke of the Covenant School Shooting tragedy. Not mentioning it while recording this week wasn't an option but talking about it also felt too raw. It took reading a poem by Langston Hughes for it to all click....HOPE.Hope began to take shape as this week’s topic, inspired by the person who posted it, Suleika Jaouad.As you’ll hear in this week’s episode, Suleika was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia at the tender age of 22 — and beat it by 27. She wrote a book about her experience, Between Two Kingdoms and she also gave a TED talk about her recovery — which has been viewed almost 5 million times. In her TED talk, she says…“You can be held hostage by the worst thing that’s ever happened to you, and allow to hijack your remaining days — or — you can find a way forward.”Finding our way forward is an expression of hope. It’s in having all the facts, and all the reasons we should be scared — and doing it anyway.This episode was hard to record in many ways, we were both crying at certain points. But we — hope — that it encourages you, dear listener, to find your way forward.Check out our Substack for ways you can help the victims and let your voice be heard for change.

From experience, we know that talking about our struggles helps us realize we aren’t alone in them. We’ve opened up the door to the conversation about mental health and thanks to the courage of Gloria White, she’s opening up the door to talk about grief. In this episode we talk about:*How grieving the loss of someone can occur even before they die.*How to offer support & love to someone going through a loss.*The power of laughter as the best medicine.*There's no right way to grieve or timeline for it to be over.Check out our substack for more on grief & our IG for (funny!) mental health jokes.A big thanks to Gloria for courageously sharing her story. Here's her IG (she's one of our favorite follows) to keep up to date on her latest stand-up.As always, sending you a big hug. <3

We’re fully aware that this is now our second podcast episode dedicated to Elizabeth Gilbert, the first was discussing her view of purpose while on Kate Bowler’s Podcast, but we now firmly believe that whatever this woman is serving up, we’re taking.The main point of her book, Big Magic, is the belief that ideas are mystical beings, waiting for a human to be present enough to accept them and bring it to life.Each chapter answers the question you’re asking yourself from the previous chapter and in the end, you feel inspired to create. The permission to create *anything* feels so freeing. Once you peel away the fear, self-doubt and expectations, you realize finding a creative outlet that brings you pure, unadulterated joy may be the greatest gift we can give ourself.In this episode, we discuss:*Elizabeth’s belief on how ideas work.*How Big Magic played a role in the creation of this podcast.*How to live a creative life without it dictating your purpose and/or career*Discounting the notion that there are “creatives” and “non-creatives when it come to people”*Ultimately, the reason WHY we should create (i.e. not money, not recognition, but joy!).Make sure to follow along at OneFryShort.Substack.com and @OneFryShortPod on Instagram. Thanks!-Jamie & Rachel

In this week's episode, we share the advice we read that reframed the way we look at happiness. It seems like society is constantly selling us ways to be happy but what if, instead, we just felt the emotions that were appropriate for that moment? What if happiness wasn't the north star of emotions, rather just a feeling amongst others that you feel and let go? Let's dive in.

We broke up this week’s podcast episode into two episodes because it is a complex topic. Our un-Earthed “purpose” can cause a lot angst for those of us who feel compelled to make our life and work mean something. The question what is my purpose? feels impossible to answer and the reality is it probably changes throughout our lives. A better question might be Are you proud of yourself? Here's what we discuss: Maybe purpose ebbs & flows If purpose is intertwined with our job, do we work to live or live to work? How your identity evolves when becoming a parent. Learning to be proud of ourself before needing other's approval. Enjoy!

Purpose feels heavy. And it is. Or so we’re told it should be. Once we figure out what our God-given, unique gift is, we can finally live our life to our fullest and truest. But what if we haven’t found it quite yet? Cue Purpose Anxiety. In this two part episode we explore: *Should your profession and purpose be intertwined? *How your culture influences your concept of purpose. *Does becoming a mom pivot your purpose? *Do we even *need* a purpose? Or is humaning beautiful enough. We have Kate Bowler (Everything Happens and No Cure For Being Human) of “Everything Happens” and her guest Liz Gilbert (author, Eat, Pray, Love and Big Magic) to thank for a life-changing episode that inspired the talking points for today’s episode.

In this week's episode, we answer your questions. Here's what we cover: What's the barrier to therapy besides money? How do you find a therapist? How do you know when to break up with a therapist? How often should I go? Is therapy a forever prescription or can I go for 6 months? How do you tackle the OCD/perfectionist spiral? How can you tell the difference between giving yourself grace vs actually be lazy? Is it actually depression making me tired? What do you ask as a loved one to really find out how a person is a feeling at the time without triggering more angst in that person? I have often felt like what I've said is wrong.

Postpartum anxiety is like regular anxiety on steroids. Like heavy duty, Arnold Schwarzenegger-style steroids. It’s scary, lonely, and exhausting… and sometimes the tools for overcoming it seem laughable when you have a newborn… “get more sleep!” “make sure you find time for self-care!” In this week’s episode, I (Rachel) interview my friend and neighbor, Christina McPhillips, about her experience with postpartum anxiety. It’s raw and can be triggering for those currently in the throes of it. We discuss resources in the episode and I’m listing and linking a few below for easy access. The ethos of our podcast is YOU’RE NOT ALONE. You’re not alone in having these thoughts and it doesn’t have to be this way. It also doesn’t make you a bad mom or partner by seeking help. Actually, it’s quite the opposite. If you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, please call or text the free & anonymous crisis helpline at 988. As a first step, we recommend reaching out to your primary care physicinan, OBGYN or Therapist and sharing your symptoms & thoughts. If you're looking for a therapist, we suggest https://www.psychologytoday.com/us to find a therapist who fits your needs in your area. Take gentle care of yourself.

Does the world feel like it overwhelms you? Yeah, us, too. In this week's episode we answer these questions... What's an HSP? When's the first time you realized you were one? How can I make parenting easier as an HSP? Which careers are best (and which ones are not). Resiliency. Oof. Balancing the ordinary with extraordinary.

In honor of our collective seasonal depression, we gift you today’s newest episode: “Sad in the City” featuring Jamie’s sister Jordan aka @boujieblonde! She joins the pod to talk about family, relationships and therapy. Contrary to the adage that therapy is self-indulgent, she says one of the most “selfless” things you can do is to go to therapy - because it makes you better for everyone else in your orbit. As a resident of New York City, she talks also about the constant pressure to excel, the *abyss* of dating and how to be less Sad… In The City.  Warning: Jamie and Jordan sound very, very similar. Bonus points if you can decipher who is who. 

We review 2022, share the questions we ask ourself instead of making resolutions, discuss how the bad times don't stay long and our tools for getting through them and proclaim January 2nd the worst day of the year. Is it March yet?

'Tis the season to.... air all of your grievances. We're taking a page out of Frank Costanza's (Seinfeld) playbook and rattling off the things that make the season not so merry. Also, Rachel gives her thoughts on the White Lotus Finale. Happy Festivus...for the rest of us!

PERFECTION. It’s unattainable. Despite what social media tells us. Things will never be perfect. Especially in relationships. Striving for perfection is parallel to how much we care. But when grasping for “it,” it can heighten our anxiety and cause depression. How do we mine for the nuggets of gold that can come from wanting to be great, while accepting the present moment? That — and a very forensic analysis of White Lotus lead by Rachel — in this episode.

Gratitude. The act of being thankful. Experts say gratitude is an antidote to depression. But for us it feels… more complicated than that. Let's dive in.