Finding Love in the Chaos of Life

Guest: Marli Du ToitBreast cancer survivor (thriver) and Reach for Recovery SA ambassador Marli Du Toit, from Cape Town, South Africa, shares her #DaretoBeLove story. Shortly after turning 40 and amid the COVID-19 pandemic, Marli faced a magnitude of challenges: divorce, job loss, breast cancer and isolation. In this episode, Marli vulnerably shares her courageous story of Finding Love in the Chaos of her life while undergoing breast cancer treatment during a pandemic, while navigating motherhood and job loss. Now cancer-free, Marli has embarked on a journey of self-evolution and rediscovery, moving from a survivor to a thriver mentality. She shares advice on how to hold space for a loved one undergoing treatment for cancer, and how to shift one's perspective amid chaos.About Marli: Marli du Toit is a midlife model, mother, breast cancer survivor, activist & entrepreneur. Through compounded traumas shortly after turning 40 (divorce, COVID, job loss, cancer), she has been shifted onto an unexpected path from surviving to thriving through surrender and release.

Trigger warnings (TW): Eating Disorders (ED), PTSD and Anxiety. Jacqui and Tanagh dive into the first topic of the second step of the #DaretoBeLove journey: PAIN In step 2 of the #DaretoBeLove journey, we move into the second element of the Four Elements of Self: The Mind. Here, we practice accepting ourselves through silencing our inner critic to process pain by looking deeply into our thoughts.Pain, be it mental, emotional or physical, is an emotion many of us prefer to avoid, sometimes at all costs. However, pain is perfectly natural, something we all feel, and it is a powerful teacher highlighting areas in our lives where a moment of pause is needed for healing to happen. Jacqui and Tanagh share stories of their relationship with pain, the lessons and the powerful emotions that pain brings forth.Once again, you are invited to check out the visual table of the Dare to Be Love Journey to help you understand the journey of real change.

Join Jacqui and Tanagh as they unpack the third step of the #DaretoBeLove Journey: Forgiveness. From an early age, most of us are taught that forgiving others is the ‘right’ thing to do. While we don’t oppose this notion, an even deeper step is necessary to heal from a situation where we feel wrong-done by. This step requires Forgiving Yourself for Wanting a Different Experience. This way, we can own the experience, celebrate the wisdom it affords us, grow and heal.Sometimes, terrible things happen to us at the hands of other people or circumstances. When we acknowledge that each person is merely acting out their trauma patterns because of their past experiences, we can step into the space of Love and realise that forgiving another is an act of kindness, not an act of unconditional Love. Forgiving ourselves for wanting a different experience, frees us from judging the other or the circumstance, surrendering our will to grace and compassion. This act of Love allows us to let the pain through and let go of our ego attachment to the story.It can sound cliché, but everything truly does happen for a reason and by changing our perspective, we can start to see these pain experiences as gifts. As Viktor Frankl so wisely said, ‘When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.’Jacqui and Tanagh share their personal stories of adopting this philosophy into their lives, and their struggles in doing so. 

Guest: George TaylorGeorge Taylor, from London UK, shares his #DaretoBeLove story of courage, resilience and determination. Ever since he was a teenager, George dreamed of becoming a successful musician and making a name for himself in the musical world after picking up his first guitar in high school. With natural talent and a strong work ethic, George achieved relative success, but then everything fell apart. His association with music moved from love to pain.After laying the guitar down for over 15 years and building a successful career in media and publishing, his friend James encouraged George to pick his guitar up again and give his musical dreams one more chance. With multiple hurdles along the way, George shares his story of resilience. Just as they were about to give up, George silently acknowledged his fear, let go of all expectations, and it all came together in a flash of surrender. The music fell out of them. Next, they faced the challenge of finding a vocalist. George shares his views on creativity and how they got to release their new single ‘Lines of Symmetry’.About George: George Taylor is a media, publishing and event expert – with almost 10 years under his belt and two successful organisations, and he has spoken at Google and Social Media Week on behalf of Eventbrite and General Assembly.He is the Founder and CEO of Gramersi – the digital publisher – specialising in consumer and retail start-up news, content, insights and events. He previously Founded Creative Industry Hub – the media and event company for the music, fashion and influencer sectors with thousands of customers and millions of readers. George has worked with the House of Fraser, Esmee Denters, Sony Music, Tropic Skincare, Sian Marie, Tala, Lady Windsor Amelia, M+LK PLUS and more.George is a Guitarist and Songwriter at Good Time Locomotive and has recently released his new single, Lines of Symmetry.Find out more about the band, Good Time Locomotive.

A Prayer for Love was gifted through Jacqui, from Universal Wisdom, for her to transcribe and share. It is a simple Prayer that easily connects us to the 4 elements of Self, where we can ask for the wisdom, grace and courage for our mind, soul, body and Spirit to be infused with Love for Self and others. Join Jacqui and Tanagh as they share this prayer while unpacking each verse and its meaning. Jacqui shares how this prayer, as well as how her poetry, comes through her from Universal Wisdom, and how Ruth Stone’s story of ‘catching the Tiger by the Tail’, as shared by Elizabeth Gilbert in her book ‘Big Magic’, has inspired Jacqui to own these words of wisdom.Incorporating this prayer into your daily spiritual practices is a powerful tool for spiritual integration. We #Dare you to use this prayer daily for 7 days, to intentionally set yourself up for the day and experience the difference. If you’d like to share your experience of this with us, send us a DM on Instagram or Facebook and stand a chance to come onto the show to share your experience of this, or any others, with Jacqui and Tanagh. Get the PDF download of this prayer at https://jacquiburnett.com/free-meditations. Namaste.Amen.

Guest: Tracey WatkinsTrigger warning: NDAs, Hijacking and Burnout.Tracey Watkins shares her #DaretoBeLove story with us and questions if the prolonged effects of PTSD exacerbate the Saviour Mentality. Tracey faced anger after multiple traumas, a car accident, a near-death experience, and a hijacking with her two young children. Her anger took over when people told her, 'At least you are all ok’. Not knowing how to process these emotions, Tracey struggled with depression, anxiety and PTSD.Devoting herself to her work, students and community, Tracey forgot to fill her cup, leading to chronic burnout. While surrounded by a loving family, Tracey says she has never felt so alone. Tracey decided to re-evaluate her lifestyle.Jacqui and Tanagh unpack Tracey’s courageous story of facing her traumas to find peace through continuous growth – an ongoing journey for us all. Listen in on our conversation with Tracey as we discuss the topics of dissociation, the psychology of trying to fix others to heal ourselves, and how Tracey awakens on the show to a part of herself that needs more nurturing. Jacqui and Tanagh walk Tracey through the importance of integrating your Spirit into your body, mind and soul healing modalities to find complete healing.About Tracey Watkins: Tracey is a passionate educator with over 20 years of experience in teaching and school leadership from the ECD through to the Senior Phase and has a special interest in learners who struggle in traditional settings. Tracey’s sole purpose throughout her life has been to teach, seeing this as her soul food. Tracey is the founder of A&E Educational Consultants and strives to alleviate the administrative demands placed on Educators to facilitate their passion for teaching to become evident in the classroom again. Tracey’s true passion is facilitating and assisting children with difficulties in the classroom and providing an environment in which they can achieve. She has taught all ages from 3 months to Grade 7, been a principal of two preschools and one preparatory school.Book referenced in this episode: The Body Keeps The Score, by Bessel van der Klok

Guest: Osarueme OsazeeIn this week’s episode, Osarueme (Osas) Osazee, from Indiana USA, questions the limitation of self-help practices and the important step before self-help, knowing that we are Spirit alongside body, mind and soul. Osas challenges Jacqui and Tanagh with various #DaretoAsk questions around the topic of self-help:1.     How to approach self-help work.2.     How to practice self-help methods from an integrated space of Spirit.3.     Why integrating your Spirit into your body, mind and soul self -help practices is so important.Jacqui and Tanagh share their experiences and opinions on how the world has become so untethered and while self-help work has become so popular, why it often fails us and can be hard to sustain. We dive into the dangers of over-identifying with self-help work, the limitations of self-help that are often overlooked and the importance of having a toolbox of various techniques to help you move through the chaos in life when fully integrated.Want to hear more from Osas? Make sure to listen to our first episode with Osas: Episode 8: Suffering: Proof that Converting Pain into Love is Possible. Here, Osas shares his story of opening to compassion and Love while being surrounded by an enormity of suffering while working as an ICU nurse during the COVID-19 pandemic.About Osas Osazee: Osas works as a Registered Nurse in a Tertiary health system in an Acute Intensive Care Unit. He holds a Bachelor's degree in Microbiology and Nursing and a Master's degree in Public Health with a specialization in Epidemiology. He is pursuing his doctorate in Nursing Practice as a Family Nurse Practitioner. His Christian faith is fundamental to him and his daily ways of Being. Osas strives to follow the teachings of Christ as outlined in the Bible, relying on the guidance of The Holy Spirit or "Christ-Consciousness" in his daily life.Osas Virtual Book Club offers readers a heartfelt community and access to monthly interviews and readings from inspiring authors.

THE STEP BEFORE SELF-HELP: Meet Your Spirit beyond your body, mind and soul.As human beings of body, mind, soul and Spirit, we all have the ability to fully access Universal Wisdom. However, without a connection to our Individual Spirit, our inner and outer self-work is merely an ego narrative from the lower levels of self in body, mind and soul. Integrating Your Spirit in body, mind and soul allows you to access the courage and compassion required to question the quality and structure of your beliefs. Working with your Spirit allows you to truly heal physically, mentally and emotionally when doing self-help work.In this week’s episode, Jacqui and Tanagh dive into their favourite topic: what it means to Meet Your Spirit and why integrating your Spirit into your body, mind and soul practices is so important before starting your healing journey, and the benefits of doing so. Jacqui and Tanagh share insights into how meeting their individual Spirits has impacted their lives and healing journey, and how you too can share the same experience. There are many ways to access your Spirit. However, many of these methods prove unsustainable and sometimes even harmful to our health. Join Jacqui and Tanagh as they shed light on how to create a sustainable connection to your Spirit and how to bring awareness to how your ego hooks into your stories, thoughts, words and actions. Integrate your Spirit into your Body, Mind and Soul practices by Meeting Your Spirit with Jacqui today. Already met Your Spirit? Start your journey of Spiritual Integration by Accessing Your Spirit Daily in the second workshop of the Dare to Be Love Journey: Meditation for Spiritual Connection. 

Guest: Yoda Olinyk from Ontario, Canada.Yoda thought she had it all: Opening a restaurant in Canada, which quickly became successful, each day she come home to the house she owned and loved, a loving partner and their canine children. And then, a series of traumatic events hit her. Life as she knew it vanished in the blink of an eye. In her early 30s’ Yoda found herself sleeping on her father’s couch, in steep financial turmoil, facing addiction and other mental health complications, and running from a partner she thought she knew. Yoda shares her Be Love story of resilience and her recipe for starting over. For Yoda starting from scratch meant waking up alone and sorting through the losses that had vanished: her home, her partner, her dog, her life savings, her restaurant, and her self-worth. Yoda shares the story of her turbulent relationship and the restaurant that caused her to lose so much, including herself. Instead of sugar-coating the process and promising everything will get tied up in a sparkly bow, Yoda details how complicated and unravelling starting over really feels. For Yoda, it was through a combination of facing the hard truths about her relationship and making amends with the people she had wronged. Traveling to Europe, she finds a way to start from scratch in life, love, words, and food and come home. About Yoda Olinyk:Yoda is an author and poet from rural Canada. Her full-length memoir, Salt and Sour, was an Amazon bestseller for 40 weeks. Her second book, Dear Future Lover, an anthology of short poems, is out now. Yoda retired from a 15-year career as a professional chef and now uses words to manipulate texture and create a sense of awe for her readers. She works full-time as a book doula and poet, helping other writers birth their stories and leading Sacred writing workshops. Find more details at www.doulaofwords.com.Follow Yoda on Instagram @doulaofwords

Guest: Harmony Kwiker from Colorado, USA.Trigger Warning: Eating Disorders (ED), Suicide Ideation (SI) and Near-Death Experiences (NDEs).Despite having wonderful parents, who worked as healers, Harmony experienced a NDE at the tender age of 5 months, causing her to suffer and influencing the person who she became. After another traumatic experience at age 4, Harmony started to feel unsafe in the world causing her to set aside her own suffering to accommodate the perspective of how others thought she should be in the world. Adopting the role of a shapeshifter, Harmony attracted abusive relationships, allowing everyone around her to believe she was always okay.After starting the practice of transcendental meditation at age 6, Harmony glimpsed at her future self and knew she was here to be a healer, a teacher, and an author. Despite this clarity, Harmony fell asleep to this message and went spiritually cold.Suffering from SI, ED and depression in her early 20s, Harmony awakened to the knowledge that her voice mattered. This reawakening led Harmony to own her pain experience and reconnect with her True Self.Her new book, ‘Align: Living and Loving from the True Self’ is now available. As a psychotherapist and author, Harmony is visiting instructor at Naropa University, where she teaches mindfulness-based transpersonal Gestalt counselling. She is also the founder of the Institute for Spiritual Alignment, where she trains therapists and coaches to bridge the divide between traditional and spiritual transformation.Listen to how Harmony educates us on the Unconscious Death Urge and Life Urge, a term coined by breath worker Leonard Orr in the 70s’. Find out more about Harmony Kwiker:Website: https://thespirituallyaligned.com/Amazon Author Page: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Harmony-Kwiker/author/B07QMZ2X8QYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYyfPlZ9NuBjjLcq7FVFnsAFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/HarmonyKwikerIG:  https://www.instagram.com/thespirituallyaligned

Guest: Osarueme OsazeeWe are excited to have Osarueme (Osas) Osazee, from Indiana USA, share his inspiring Be Love Story.His story of opening to compassion and Love left us speechless, moving us to Spirited tears.As an ICU nurse during the 2020 COVID-19 pandemic, Osas was surrounded by immense pain and suffering. Despite doing all he knew to treat and comfort his patients and their families through their suffering, Osas could not resist the feeling of helplessness. Osas started to suffer.With onsetting depression and PTSD, Osas turned to God/Christ Consciousness/The Universe/Universal Wisdom (call it what you may) for help. The response and message that he received changed his life forever.About Osas Osazee: Osas works as a Registered Nurse in a Tertiary health system in an Acute Intensive Care Unit. He holds a Bachelor's degree in Microbiology and Nursing and a Master's degree in Public Health with a specialization in Epidemiology. He is pursuing his doctorate in Nursing Practice as a Family Nurse Practitioner. His Christian faith is fundamental to him and his daily ways of Being. Osas strives to follow the teachings of Christ as outlined in the Bible, relying on the guidance of The Holy Spirit or "Christ-Consciousness" in his daily life.Osas Virtual Book Club offers readers a heartfelt community and access to monthly interviews and readings from inspiring authors. Follow Osas on Instagram

In this episode, Jacqui and Tanagh discuss the second Dare to Be Love Topic: SUFFERING. Witnessing and acknowledging our suffering allows us to SEE ourselves, freeing us from the unhealthy ego.Suffering is a chaotic time for any of us. It triggers the emotions that many of us often want to avoid or sometimes pretend not to exist. If we allow ourselves to open our story of suffering to the perspective of Love, we can then change our perspective and see that it gives us a beautiful opportunity to soften, heal and celebrate the painful experience. Jacqui and Tanagh openly discuss their relationships to their suffering and how they practice working through this suffering from an integrated space of Spirit, body, mind and soul, opening them to Universal Wisdom, thereby affording complete healing. Once we can recognise that the cause of our suffering comes from a space of wanting a different experience, we can then forgive ourselves for wanting this different experience and allow the perspective of Love to infuse our blame, guilt and shame stories with the growth and gift it affords us.  Integrate your Spirit into your Body, Mind and Soul practices by Meeting Your Spirit with Jacqui today. 

Jacqui and Tanagh examine the essential differences between courage and bravery in this episode. BRAVERY is the heart of a Spiritual Warrior and sees us pushing through our fears, doubts and concerns, be it for ourselves or others, to complete a task even when the task is not aligned with our authentic selves. In contrast, COURAGE is the heart of a Spiritual Revolutionary where we meet a task from a space of Love and non-resistance, causing no harm to ourselves or others.With the courage of Love, we widen the gap between our trigger and our response. This way, we can see and be aware of the moments we get it right, and when we do mess up, we can open to compassion and the beauty of the moment beyond our unhealthy ego-bound justifications driven by shame, guilt or blame.Life is filled with chaos and challenges. How we show up and move through this turbulence in the world makes all the difference! Join Jacqui and Tanagh as they unpack how you can widen the gap between your triggers and responses, and reignite the Spiritual Revolutionary within you, thereby increasing your self-awareness and access to Love.To learn more about the differences between a Spiritual Revolutionary and a Spiritual Warrior? Watch the YouTube video, ‘Why we Need a Spiritual Revolution’. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RvLfHHHCbGU

Guest: Devina SewsunkerIn this week’s episode, our first guest, Devina Sewsunker, shares her story. From being crippled by her fear and anxiety of driving on highways, Devina shares how she accessed the courage to face her fear, find Love for her chaos and thrive.Being a confident driver for many years, Devina developed a fear of driving on highways after the birth of her two children. Not being able to predict the drivers’ movements around her, Devina fell into states of panic, leaving her stranded on the side of the Kwa-Zulu Natal highways, alone, scared and calling for help. Living with this fear for years, Devina finally made the courageous choice to date her fear. On a Saturday morning earlier this year, Devina turned to her spiritual practices, prayed, chanted and took the wheel to the highway once more. Thinking she had merely survived this fear, Devina came home to find a Facebook Dare to Be Love post, opening her perspective to the Love and understanding that she had not only survived but thrived!To some, this is an everyday task. But to Devina, this was a fear that had control over her. Jacqui and Devina unpack how Devina found enlightenment in her story of overcoming by being integrated in Spirit, affording her a toolbox for all challenges to come.

Trigger warning: Substance Abuse and Eating Disorders.Change is constant, making life unpredictable. All too often, change (natural, planned or unplanned) presents the unknown and triggers fear. This fear is natural, as our brain can perceive this unknown as a danger. However, there are tools and techniques we can adopt when faced with the challenges of change to help us move through the chaos to access courage and open our perspective to Love.In this week’s episode of Finding Love in the Chaos of Life, Jacqui and Tanagh dive into the first topic of the Dare to Be Love Journey: Change. Tanagh shares two stories where she is moving through the waters of change: one where the change has been easy due to a full connection with her Spirit. In the second story, however, Tanagh is amid the turbulence, still seeking this full connection. Jacqui and Tanagh break down these chaotic stories and examine how to approach them through the lens of Love to manifest the miracle of changed perception and inner peace. Next, Jacqui walks Tanagh through the Dare to Be Love Journey steps, shining light on Tanagh’s enlightened Self in her easily resolved change. After that, they look at how Tanagh can find enlightenment around her unresolved pain story by integrating her Spirit into the challenge. Please note: The stories shared in this episode involve discussions around eating disorders (ED), eating disorder recovery, and substance abuse and addiction. Should you not be in the space to participate in/be witness to conversations of this nature, please be gentle with yourself and wait until such a time that you are ready. 

Have you ever felt that a belief you grew up with, or the one your family and friends hold dear, no longer or never did, resonate with you? So have we. Change can be hard, but not following your intuition and a true resonance with Love/God can be more challenging. In today’s episode, we share one of our greatest challenges: Our individual journeys of questioning our childhood conservative Christian narratives and the resistance we faced along the way. At times, this left us feeling isolated and even fearful of sharing our questions and thoughts with those closest to us.With many faiths to choose from, ultimately, we can all choose our own path to connect with God/Love/Universal Wisdom (call it what you may). This episode focuses on having the courage to question if we are practising our connection with our Higher Power through the lens of Love or fear. The Spiritual Revolutionary within each of us only knows Love. So join us as we share our stories from fear to Love.Disclaimer – In no way are Jacqui or Tanagh opposed to any form of faith, especially those mentioned in this episode. Jacqui and Tanagh support the teachings from all faith leaders, mystics, philosophers, psychologists and other teachers infused with Love and inclusion. We do not discriminate or judge the teachings of others. We believe that access to a spiritual life and a connection with God/Love/Universe/Source, call it what you will, is available to all and does not require a single or specific dogma. The content and opinions mentioned in this episode of Finding Love in the Chaos of Life are based on Jacqui and Tanagh’s experiences, respectively and individually, and are not directed or generalised to any group of people or individuals. Here we reflect on our own experiences and beliefs through the courageous lens of Love. 

What does Finding Love in the Chaos of Life mean? How do we open our perspective to Love to find enlightenment around a challenging story? What does it mean to Be a Being of Love with all we believe, think, say and do?In 2010, The Universe gifted Jacqui Burnett the Dare to Be Love Journey: a 4-step process that we can use to work through any situation we face in life, no matter how challenging it appears, to find inner peace. By working through this 4-step process of unpacking our beliefs, thoughts, behaviours and finally, our spoken words, we connect to and integrate the 4 Elements of Self: body, mind, soul and individual Spirit, thereby connecting us to Universal Wisdom. Join us as we discuss how you too can integrate spiritually and expose your guilt, shame and blame pain stories to the perspective of Love, thereby silencing your inner critic and celebrating the experience.Before listening to this episode, check out the visual table of the Dare to Be Love Journey to help you understand and follow along in this life-changing conversation. https://jacquiburnett.com/faqs

Let us introduce ourselves: we’re on a mission to help others lead a spirit-led life. There is no doubt about it, life is chaotic. But how we perceive and move through the chaos is the secret to finding inner peace. By accessing the courage to find Love in all situations, we can cultivate and manifest a joy filled life beyond our wildest dreams. Join us to find out how we do this, and how you too can transform your challenges into the gift of enlightenment and Be the Love that you wish to see in the world. 

The path from spiritual awakening to enlightenment comes in many forms and can be overwhelming at first. Internal peace arrives through Finding Love in the Chaos of Life by working with your Individual Spirit, opening your access to Universal Wisdom as a Spiritual Revolutionary. Join hosts Jacqui Burnett and Tanagh-Jane Breytenbach for regular episodes as they unpack how to live a spirit-led life, gifting you the courage to challenge your perspective through the lens of Love. Keep up with gripping conversations on self-healing, relationship dynamics and mental and physical illnesses as together we shine love and light on our shadows and all life's chaos. Jacqui and Tanagh share how they opened their shame, guilt and blame stories to Love while offering real-time coaching and unscripted Q&A with listeners around their challenging stories. Find out more about the #DaretoBeLove movement on our website.Let's chat! Share your #DaretoAsk question or #DaretoBeLove story with us on Instagram.