The Daughters

In this fourth and final episode, the five women we have followed explain what it took to cause them to leave the Stay at Home Daughter movement and reminiscence on the aspects of the movement they miss and their thoughts on it now looking back in from the outside. The Daughters is an audio documentary exploring the way the Stay at Home Daughter movement - the idea that daughters should never leave the covering of their fathers until and unless they are married - affected those who grew up in it, including in their relationships, careers, education choices, emotions, dress, and religious choices. The documentary is open to those affected by this movement - both positive and negative. Rebekah Hargraves is a Bible Teacher and Arthur at Hargraves Home and Hearth - Living out Biblical Womanhood in Light of the Gospel. You can find her on her website: ⁠⁠https://www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/⁠⁠ Emily Elizabeth Anderson runs a Trauma Recovery Advocacy & Resources group. She describes her goal as helping victims of domestic violence, spiritual abuse, and physical and emotional trauma heal from the past and fill the gap between surviving and thriving. Emily can be reached on ⁠⁠https://www.thrivingforward.org/⁠⁠ To learn more about the movement and project visit: ⁠⁠https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/⁠⁠ AUDIO/SOUND Production: Jake Musiker WRITING EDITOR: Shalom Baer Gee Sources: Ingersoll, J. (2014, June 17). Doug Phillips’ biblical patriarchy scandal moves to the courts. HuffPost. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/doug-phillips-biblical-patriarchy_b_5151442 New charges allege religious leader, who has ties to the Duggars ... (n.d.). https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2016/01/06/new-charges-allege-religious-leader-who-has-ties-to-the-duggars-sexually-abused-women/ Wikimedia Foundation. (2024, January 1). Vision Forum. Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vision_Forum#cite_note-HuffPo-1 Yahoo! (n.d.). What was Bill Gothard accused of? inside sexual abuse claims against Duggar IBLP religious leader. Yahoo! https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/bill-gothard-accused-inside-sexual-194402162.html

The women within the Stay at Home Daughter movement explain how career and education was viewed under this ideology. A higher education or a career outside the home was discouraged and considered pointless at best and an instrument of the devil at  worst. The Daughters is an audio documentary exploring the way the Stay at Home Daughter movement - the idea that daughters should never leave the covering of their fathers until and unless they are married - affected those who grew up in it, including in their relationships, careers, education choices, emotions, dress, and religious choices. The documentary is open to those affected by this movement - both positive and negative. Rebekah Hargraves is a Bible Teacher and Arthur at Hargraves Home and Hearth - Living out Biblical Womanhood in Light of the Gospel. You can find her on her website: ⁠https://www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/⁠ Emily Elizabeth Anderson runs a Trauma Recovery Advocacy & Resources group. She describes her goal as helping victims of domestic violence, spiritual abuse, and physical and emotional trauma heal from the past and fill the gap between surviving and thriving. Emily can be reached on ⁠https://www.thrivingforward.org/⁠ To learn more about the movement and project visit: ⁠https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/⁠ AUDIO/SOUND Production: Jake Musiker WRITING EDITOR: Shalom Baer Gee

What were the ideas propelling forward the Stay at Home Daughter movement and who were the leaders? In this episode, we do a deep dive into the theology and philosophies that drove women to pursue a life of protection instead of explore the outside world. The Daughters is an audio documentary exploring the way the Stay at Home Daughter movement - the idea that daughters should never leave the covering of their fathers until and unless they are married - affected those who grew up in it, including in their relationships, careers, education choices, emotions, dress, and religious choices. The documentary is open to those affected by this movement - both positive and negative. Rebekah Hargraves is a Bible Teacher and Arthur at Hargraves Home and Hearth - Living out Biblical Womanhood in Light of the Gospel. You can find her on her website: https://www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/ Emily Elizabeth Anderson runs a Trauma Recovery Advocacy & Resources group. She describes her goal as helping victims of domestic violence, spiritual abuse, and physical and emotional trauma heal from the past and fill the gap between surviving and thriving. Emily can be reached on https://www.thrivingforward.org/ To learn more about the movement and project visit: https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/ AUDIO/SOUND Production: Jake Musiker WRITING EDITOR: Shalom Baer Gee Sources: Botkin, A. S., & Botkin, E. (2007). So much more: The remarkable influence of visionary daughters on the Kingdom of God. Vision Forum, Inc. Institute in Basic Life Principles. (1984). Training Faithful Men Resources Manual. IBLP Publications. Institute in Basic Life Principles. (2023b, October 17). About - Institute in basic life principles. https://iblp.org/about/ NBCUniversal News Group. (n.d.). Ministry that once nourished Duggar family’s faith falls from Grace. NBCNews.com. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/ministry-nourished-duggar-familys-faith-falls-grace-rcna14024 Ohlheiser, A. (2022, May 12). An Infidelity Scandal Just Shuttered a Major 'Biblical Patriarchy' Organization. The Atlantic. https://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2013/11/infidelity-scandal-just-shuttered-major-biblical-patriarchy-organization/355143/ Pearl, D. (2004). In Created to be His Helpmeet (p. 163). essay, No Greater Joy Ministries. The Return of the Daughters. [DVD]. 2007. The Western Conservancy of the Arts and Sciences.

A wrong view of women? In this episode, five women who grew up as Stay at Home Daughters explain the challenges they experienced developing relationships in the movement. They elaborate on the strict dating requirements of the movement otherwise known as courtship and the influence the leaders (including Bill Gothard & Doug Phillips) of the movement held over families. The Daughters is an audio documentary exploring the way the Stay at Home Daughter movement - the idea that daughters should never leave the covering of their fathers until and unless they are married - affected those who grew up in it, including in their relationships, careers, education choices, emotions, dress, and religious choices. The documentary is open to those affected by this movement - both positive and negative. Rebekah Hargraves is a Bible Teacher and Arthur at Hargraves Home and Hearth - Living out Biblical Womanhood in Light of the Gospel. You can find her on her website: https://www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/ Emily Elizabeth Anderson runs a Trauma Recovery Advocacy & Resources group. She describes her goal as helping victims of domestic violence, spiritual abuse, and physical and emotional trauma heal from the past and fill the gap between surviving and thriving. Emily can be reached on https://www.thrivingforward.org/ To learn more about the movement and project visit: https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/ AUDIO/SOUND Production: Jake Musiker WRITING EDITOR: Shalom Baer Gee Sources: Beahm, A. (2022, October 4). A conversation with Joshua Harris on “I kissed dating goodbye.” Reckon. ⁠https://www.reckon.news/news/2020/12/a-conversation-with-joshua-harris-on-i-kissed-dating-goodbye.html ⁠ HARRIS, J. (2003). In I kissed dating goodbye. foreword, MULTNOMAH Publishers. Karen Swallow Prior, guest blogger. (2010, December 20). What is the stay-at-home daughters movement?. ChristianityToday.com. ⁠https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2010/decemberweb-only/what-is-stay-at-home-daughters-movement.html ⁠ Zylstra, S. E. (2016a, January 8). More women sue Bill Gothard and IBLP, alleging sexual abuse. News & Reporting. https://www.christianitytoday.com/news/2016/january/more-women-sue-bill-gothard-iblp-alleging-sexual-abuse.html

Tiffani shares her story of being a mother that joined the Stay at Home Daughter movement and raised some of her own daughter's in it's principals. She shares her experience of what she describes as the psychological and emotionally damaging repercussions from being in this movement herself and raising her kids in it. To learn more about the Stay At Home Daughter Documentary or get involved visit: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/⁠⁠⁠ What is the Stay at Home Daughter Movement?  This is one of the   topics this project will be pursuing in more detail but the basic   premise that women even well into adulthood should not leave their father’s house, but stay under his household and authority. This is often included with the idea that women do not need to, nor should  they,  pursue a career outside of the home since living and serving in  the  home is of the highest honor.

Elizabeth shares her story of growing up in a family that followed the Stay at Home Daughter principals. After moving out on her own and getting married at a later age, she recalls the path her life could have taken and is thankful that isn't the case. In the end, she says this ideology can be stifling to girls pursuing what they were made for. To learn more about the Stay At Home Daughter Documentary or get involved visit: ⁠⁠https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/⁠⁠ What is the Stay at Home Daughter Movement?  This is one of the   topics this project will be pursuing in more detail but the basic   premise that women even well into adulthood should not leave their   father’s house, but stay under his household and authority. This is   often included with the idea that women do not need to, nor should  they,  pursue a career outside of the home since living and serving in  the  home is of the highest honor.

Autumn Rose shares her story of growing up in a church that followed the Stay At Home Daughter movement philosophies. She shares her experience of eventually going to college, getting married, and her thoughts on the movement now. While Autumn has some hesitations with the way this movement was carried out for herself, she is sympathetic towards the movement and elaborates on how she wishes it to be carried out. To learn more about the Stay At Home Daughter Documentary or get involved visit: ⁠https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/⁠ What is the Stay at Home Daughter Movement?  This is one of the   topics this project will be pursuing in more detail but the basic   premise that women even well into adulthood should not leave their   father’s house, but stay under his household and authority. This is   often included with the idea that women do not need to, nor should  they,  pursue a career outside of the home since living and serving in  the  home is of the highest honor.

Trista Anderson shares her story of growing up in a community that followed the Stay At Home Daughter movement philosophies. She shares the adventures she had there and her journey of eventually leaving.  To learn more about the Stay At Home Daughter Documentary or get involved visit: https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/ What is the Stay at Home Daughter Movement?  This is one of the   topics this project will be pursuing in more detail but the basic   premise that women even well into adulthood should not leave their   father’s house, but stay under his household and authority. This is   often included with the idea that women do not need to, nor should  they,  pursue a career outside of the home since living and serving in  the  home is of the highest honor.

Ruth Harper describes her childhood of growing up in the Stay at Home Daughter movement and how those philosophies affected her as she eventually left it behind to pursue college and a career. In her opinion, a lot of the movement is influenced by romanticizing the pre-industrial revolution time era. To learn more about the Stay At Home Daughter Documentary or get involved visit: https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/ What is the Stay at Home Daughter Movement?  This is one of the  topics this project will be pursuing in more detail but the basic  premise that women even well into adulthood should not leave their  father’s house, but stay under his household and authority. This is  often included with the idea that women do not need to, nor should they,  pursue a career outside of the home since living and serving in the  home is of the highest honor.

Rebekah Hargraves of "Hargraves Home and Hearth" explains her time in the patriarchal Stay at Home Daughter movement. She discusses her previous involvement with this philosophy - including her prior position that women should not pursue a career or education. Rebekah shares her journey of leaving and why she now speaks against these ideas that consumed her teenage years.     You can learn more about Rebekah here on her website: https://www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/   To learn more about the Stay At Home Daughter Documentary or get involved visit: https://www.thedaughtersdocu.com/   What is the Stay at Home Daughter Movement?  This is one of the topics this project will be pursuing in more detail but the basic premise that women even well into adulthood should not leave their father’s house, but stay under his household and authority. This is often included with the idea that women do not need to, nor should they, pursue a career outside of the home since living and serving in the home is of the highest honor.

Emily Elizabeth Anderson was raised in Bill Gothard's Institute for Basic Life Principles which she describes as a cult. She recounts her story of living under the philosophy that all women should stay under male headship until marriage. She recalls what it was like to be told you could not get a career or be independent as a woman. Walk through Emily's journey as she gets a drivers license at the age of 24 and ultimately moves out on her own at 26 years old. Emily manages an online group as well as a blog. www.thrivingforwardblog.com She describes her mission: "I am passionate about trauma recovery. After growing up in a home with domestic violence and being raised in a fundamentalist, patriarchal cult for 23 years, I made the courageous (reckless?) decision to walk away from everything I knew and embark on what has become the most wild ride of my life. What started as a personal journey soon transformed into a mission: to both spread awareness about the life-changing the effects of trauma, and to teach others how to find true healing. Thriving Forward was founded on the belief that through the blood of Jesus Christ and by His Grace, anyone who has endured life-altering trauma can do more than just survive their trauma — they can learn how to thrive!" The  Daughters is an audio documentary featuring the stories of those who  were a part of  the patriarchal Stay at Home Daughter movement. The Stay  at Home  Daughter movement held to the basic premise that women even  well into  adulthood should not leave their father’s house, but stay  under his  household and authority. This is often included with the idea  that women  do not need to, nor should they, pursue a career outside of  the home  since living and serving in the home is of the highest honor.  The  documentary aims to tell the stories of women who have left this  movement and the affect it had on them. More information can be found on www.thedaughtersdocu.com

Martha recounts her time as a Stay at Home Daughter. She recalls her experience getting married at 17 years old after a short 2 months of courtship. She remembers a time when her husband was in a mental institute, she was trying to find employment while being unable to pay rent or find childcare for 4 children under the age of 6.  Martha recalls the moral dilemma she faced as a Stay at Home Daughter. Is it permissible to break the Stay at Home Daughter ideology and get a job to provide for my children? Listen to Martha's full story that will be featured in the upcoming "The Daughters" audio documentary. The Daughters is an audio documentary featuring the stories of those who were a part of  the patriarchal Stay at Home Daughter movement. The Stay at Home  Daughter movement held to the basic premise that women even well into  adulthood should not leave their father’s house, but stay under his  household and authority. This is often included with the idea that women  do not need to, nor should they, pursue a career outside of the home  since living and serving in the home is of the highest honor. The  documentary aims to tell the stories of women who have left this movement and the affect it had on them. More information can be found on www.thedaughtersdocu.com

A trailer for the upcoming audio documentary "The Daughters"  What is the Stay at Home Daughter Movement? This is one of the topics this project will be pursuing in more detail but the basic premise that women even well into adulthood should not leave their father’s house, but stay under his household and authority. This is often included with the idea that women do not need to, nor should they, pursue a career outside of the home since living and serving in the home is of the highest honor. What is the goal of this project?  To dig into the  effects of the patriarchal movement based on the premise that a girls’  calling is to serve and stay with her father until she is of marital age  and then transfer that loyalty to her husband. This calling is held  above all others. Girls and women in the movement are discouraged from  pursuing a career outside of the home or moving outside of the house.  Instead of choosing a traditional path of moving out when you become an  adult and developing a life on your own usually including a career or  college path, these women choose to stay with their families, contribute  to the success of their family often including helping with housework  and mentoring or educating younger siblings. Some women have expressed  that there are many benefits to staying with your parents and helping  until marriage, including protection and accountability. Others who grew  up in this movement have walked away and left and now do not have a  positive view of it. These have expressed damaging effects to growing up  in this environment. This documentary will gather the stories of those  who grew up under this premise and how that affected their religious  choices, emotional health, relationships with others, their career and  education pursuits, and even smaller aspects such as recreational  options.  The simplified goal is to let people share  their stories in hopes that others can benefit from these stories. It is  to raise awareness of the struggles those growing up in this movement  faced and their perspective on it moving forward.