Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman

Dominique (Dom) Benninger is a technologist, researcher, and institutional accountability advocate based in Pennsylvania. A survivor of the high-control college group known as the Narrowgate Fellowship, Dom has spent years documenting how spiritual manipulation, psychological coercion, and authoritarian control operate within religious communities. After later blowing the whistle on a convicted predator in a Pennsylvania church, he channeled his tech background into systemic reform. Dom co-founded BaptistAccountability.org and serves as Vice President of ProtestantAccountability.org, an expansive survivor-led database that aggregates public records of clergy abuse and organizational concealment. His work bridges lived experience and data science to expose institutional abuse and help people identify manipulation tactics.VIDEO 🎥 version: Spotify, Youtube, Facebook, & TikTok. AUDIO version: most other podcast platforms.Links Mentioned:BaptistAccountability.orgProtestantAccountability.orgListing: “Edward (Jack) Powers” “Man gets closure 30 years after sexual assault” (Polk Itemizer-Observer)“Bad Faith: The Narrowgate Cult” by Logan M. Davis (Colorado Times Recorder)“‘The tongue is a fire’: Southern Baptist church fractures over secrets and spiritual abuse” (USA Today)“Emergency hearing set in Pawleys Island church class-action lawsuit” (CountOn2.com/WCBD-TV)Wikipedia LinksDARVOPrevious HFMSwMC podcast episodes mentioned:  Episode 106 - Latest Survivor News (Spotify | YouTube)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREELearn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting. AI is occasionally used for still-image/clip-art creation/augmentation and for research purposes. Riverside also provides AI-based tools to assist in the video editing process.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.If you LOVE this podcast, show your support & ☕ Buy me a Coffee! ☕

This week, I wanted to catch up on all the Survivor-related news that has happened over the last several weeks while I was on hiatus. VIDEO 🎥 version: Spotify, Youtube, Facebook, & TikTok. AUDIO version: most other podcast platforms.Links Mentioned:The Menéndez Brothers - Previous HFMSwMC podcast episodes:  Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update (Spotify | YouTube)Episode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interview (Spotify | YouTube)Episode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing Journey  (Spotify | YouTube)Episode 75 - Updates on the Menéndez case, The Take It Down Act, & the Michael Tait/Newsboys controversy (Spotify | YouTube)Episode 77 - Updates on the Menéndez case, Ohio State University Atheltics Sexual Assault case (Spotify | YouTube)Wikipedia LinksTrey’s LawKIDS ActGrok sexual deepfake scandalChild safety on RobloxThe PREVENT Act (GovTrack.us)“‘Deepfake abuse is abuse’ - Statement by UNICEF on AI-generated sexualised images of children” (UNICEF.org)“InvestigateTV+: Criminals are using AI to create CSAM” (InvestigateTV)“Governor Ron DeSantis Signs Legislation Strengthening Protections for Children and Increasing Penalties for Sexual Offenses” (FLGov.com)“Attorney General James and Governor Hochul Release Final SAFE for Kids Act Rules to Protect Children Online” (AG.NY.gov)“Why sex abuse survivors and broke school districts are at odds in Legislature’s final days” (CalMatters.org)“Appeals court delivers unsettling ruling — and says Supreme Court left it no choice: The Seventh Circuit affirmed dismissal of a possession charge against a Wisconsin man with hundreds of AI-generated images” (FoxNews)“Church Abuse Survivors Create Database to Protect the Vulnerable, Track Abusers” (Crosswalk.com)Listing: “Edward (Jack) Powers” “Man gets closure 30 years after sexual assault” (Polk Itemizer-Observer)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREELearn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting. AI is occasionally used for still-image/clip-art creation/augmentation and for research purposes. Riverside also provides AI-based tools to assist in the video editing process.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.If you LOVE this podcast, show your support & ☕ Buy me a Coffee! ☕

This week, I have a special panel with three prior guests, Matt Melvin, Daniel Eichelberger, & Forrest Lange talking about Female Perpetrators and how that can affect one’s Healing Journey. VIDEO 🎥 version: Spotify, Youtube, Facebook, & TikTok. AUDIO version: most other podcast platforms.More about the panelists:Previous podcast interviews with Matt & Scott (contact info is within the show notes of each episode): Episode 84 - Interview with Matthew Melvin (Spotify | YouTube)Episode 22 - Interview with Daniel Eichelberger  (Spotify | YouTube)Episode 101 - Interview with Forrest Lange (Spotify | YouTube)Links Mentioned:Video Series: Sexual Assault of Men Played for Laughs (YouTube)Part 1: Male PerpetratorsPart 2: Female PerpetratorsBullied Behind Bars: A Gay Christian Trump Supporter Goes to Prison by Martthew Melvin (Amazon)The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey (Amazon)People are all saying the same thing to interviewer's 'unhinged' response when man mentions his childhood sexual abuse (Unilad)“‘I wanted to kill them all’: Inmate admits to targeting child sex offenders in prison killings” by Michael Kiefer April 28, 2025 (Arizona Mirror)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREELearn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.If you LOVE this podcast, show your support & ☕ Buy me a Coffee! ☕

Final episode until September 2026Wendell Wood cohosts the Agents of Recovery podcast that focuses on men’s mental health and addiction recovery. He is also a certified coach with Addict II Athlete, a nonprofit organization that helps men and women erase the pain and traumas associated with addiction and replace them with things of greater value. Wendell is a survivor of child sexual abuse and he’s currently working on turning the mess of his own addiction into the message of recovery.  As a result of his own healing journey, and with the encouragement and support of his wife Janice, Wendell is currently going back to school to get his master's degree in clinical mental health counseling so that he can help other men along their journey of recovery.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Wendell’s Links: Agents of Recovery Podcast (Apple | Spotify)Addict II Athlete Podcast (Apple | Spotify)Links Mentioned & Helpful links:WikipediaChurrascoChuquicamataAtacama DesertBilateral Stimulation - under EMDRInterVarsityA Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" by Marianne Williamson (Amazon) MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA SurvivorsAltogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems therapy by Jenna Riemersma (Amazon)Info on Husband Material Retreats, including Weekend Intensive Retreats (when available).Deep Waters (painting of Jesus underwater by Yongsung Kim; LDS Art)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries

Laurie Hardie is a Seattle radio personality, author, speaker, and podcast coach and producer who empowers survivors to share their stories and leave a meaningful legacy—whether privately or with the world. A former single mom of three and now “Grandma LaLa” to six, she blends over 35 years in broadcasting with a background in social services to help people communicate in ways that truly connect. Inspired during COVID by the gap between intention and impact in online communication, she now guides voices to be more inclusive, intentional, and powerful, including through her 7-Day Podcast Pro program that helps clients launch their podcasts in just one week.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.FULL Show Notes: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1YhqAs90IRaAbrgzEKvqyKHT7ycMfTKQL6RHzS6Mqiy4/edit?usp=sharing