Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman

I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episodes 47, 63, & 68In addition, I wanted to update my listeners on the new “Take It Down Act” signed into law in the US to help fight Revenge Porn, including those generated via Artificial Intellegence.I also wanted to share aboutthe recent controversy with former lead singer, Michael Tait, from the Contemporary Christian Band “Newsboys”.Also a quick update on the podcast itself.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Links Mentioned - Menéndez:Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case UpdateEpisode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interviewEpisode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing Journey New Article: “Menendez Brothers Resentenced to Life With Parole, Paving Way for Freedom”. (from May 2025; NY Times) Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case. (from April 2025; BBC)CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts)Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez BrothersLA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigatingReal Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6Deadline.com articles:Menendez Brothers Resentencing Supported By L.A. DA; George Gascón Sets Press Conference For This Afternoon On Ryan Murphy Spotlighted CaseMenendez Brothers Eligible For Possible Immediate Parole As L.A. DA Recommends Resentencing; Judge Will Consider Case Next MonthLos Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube) Links Mentioned - The Take It Down Act:“President Trump signs Take It Down Act, addressing nonconsensual deepfakes. What is it?” (from May 2025; Associated Press)Links Mentioned - Michael Tait/Newsboys:“K-LOVE pulls Newsboys, DC Talk amid sexual misconduct allegations against Michael Tait” (from June 2025; The Christian Post)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/live**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Scott McKellar is a 54 year old man from Australia. He is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and bullying.  He currently works as an Uber Eats driver and does volunteer work with men dealing with mental health issues.If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Sean’s Contact Information and recommended linksTelling My Story: The Healing Journey (2022) (20 stories of recovery from a group of men who have shared their stories and begun their healing journey, including Scott - under the name “Lance McKellar”)Back on Track 2011 (Youtube; interviews of several Australian Male CSA Survivors, Scott is in the background of many group scenes but not interviewed)GROW (a community-based organisation that has helped thousands of Australians with their recovery from mental ill-health through a unique program of mutual support and personal development.)ParkRun (free, weekly, international running events)The Men’s Table: Men Serving Men (Australia - a safe place to share and be heard in a confidential and non-judgemental environment, creating a greater sense of belonging, camaraderie and connection.)The Mental Health Foundation Australia (MHFA) (the oldest community-based non-government mental health organisation in Australia, serving the community since 1930)Other Links Mentioned:Millstone: “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6 (NLT)“But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” Mark 9:42 (NLT)“It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.” Luke 17:2 (NLT)Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew (links to Amazon)Strive To Be Kind DayMike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Sean Wheeler is a survivor of pre-teen sex trafficking for almost five years. During that time he was used in child sexual abuse material. While his family moved away from that area, other abusers would find him until age 19 when he determined to no longer be used.  In 2018 Sean founded Starfish Ministries in Colorado to provide a voice for boys in the public arena. He works directly with several other organizations and has been involved in lobbying Congress for pending legislation approval. He provides HT 101 and above trauma-informed training. Sean is also ordained and works in the prison ministry, even with convicted sex offenders. He has been interviewed on 100 Huntley Street in Toronto and the 700 Club. His story has been told in Psychology Today and other publications. Today over 6 million people world wide have heard his story.If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Sean’s Contact InformationStarfish Ministries ColoradoFacebookYoutube (includes full video of several of his past interviews, including The 700 Club)100 Huntley Street interview - Part 1|Part 2The 700 Club interviewEmail: sfhelp@zoho.comLinks Mentioned:100 Huntley Street (Wikipedia)The 700 Club (Wikipedia)Reassessing Male Sex Trafficking Statistics: A survivor tells why men don’t report what happened - Psychology Today (interview with Sean Wheeler)PACT: Protect All Children from TraffickingSara’s LawTranscript: US Senate Judiciary Committee Hearing on "Big Tech and the Online Child Sexual Exploitation Crisis" (Jan 31, 2024; TechPolicy.press)DreamCenterOther Helpful Links:Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  Episode 57 - Forgiveness - Part 1 - James Gianakon’s podcastEpisode 58 - Forgiveness - Part 2 - Panel Discussion - LIVE“Child Sexual Abuse Material” vs “Child Pornography” - (US Dept of Justice)“The one unforgivable sin” (Wikipedia)Demonic Opression vs. Demonic Possession (GotAnswers.org)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Today's topic is the overuse and misuse of prescription medications on CSA survivors and victims. Today’s panel includes 2 former podcast guests: Michael Skinner & Robert ManiscalcoIf you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.More about the panelists:Previous podcast interviews with Luke, Richard & Cranford (links to Spotify; contact info is within the show notes of each episode): Episode 54 - Live Interview with Michael SkinnerEpisode 67 - Live Interview with Robert ManiscalcoPrevious podcast episodes mentioned:  Episode 41 - ACEs - Adverse Childhood ExperiencesFree PDF on ACEs includes the test and what the results meanNPR Article on ACEsWikipedia article on ACEsACEs Too High article on ACEsOther Links Mentioned:“Misdiagnosed and Over-Medicated” by Emily Larson - CPTSD FoundationOprah's "200 Men Come Forward" television event is available to watch for FREE (as of 12/31/24) on Oprah.com: (FYI, auto-captioning is provided but they edit out ALL sexual terms with " **** ", even minor ones, making it hard to follow)Watch PART 1 hereWatch PART 2 here (preview only - full episode is not available)TEXT SUMMARY of PART 2Darkness to Light (End Child Sexual Abuse)John Briere (Google Search)SUDS: Subjective Units of Distress Scale (Wikipedia; “on a scale of 0-10, how strong are you feeling ______”)Michael Skinner’s Surviving SpiritMad in AmericaCelebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)Seneca the Younger (Wikipedia)De Tranquillitate Animi (Wikipedia;  “The tranquility of the mind”)Dialectical behavior therapy (Wikipedia)The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick J Carnes, PhD (Amazon)Other Helpful Links:The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (links to Amazon)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Jim Farrington is survivor and is also a men’s minister with First Stone Ministries, which will be 50 years old in January 2026, First Stone specializes in the area of sexual and relational redemption, proclaiming that freedom is not found in a method or a program but in the person of Jesus Christ. Jim does Pastoral Care with men who deal with sexual and relational brokenness and is also the coordinator of the in-person  Be Steadfast Parents Support Group for families impacted by lgbt and also leads their newest Be Steadfast Online Parent Support Group that is serving families all over the US and in Canada.If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Jim’s Contact InformationFirst Stone MinistriesEmail: jim@firststone.orgLinks Mentioned:Corrie ten Boom (Wikipedia)Living Waters Husband Material Podcast episodes about sexual abuse (links to YouTube):Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (interview with Dr. Doug Carpenter)A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)Word (of Knowledge) (Wikipedia)Husband Material Retreat in Colorado - next date: Sept 5-9, 2025 (Western Georgia retreat is tentatively scheduled for Spring 2026)Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  Episode 31 - Live interview with Dan CarlsonEpisode 16 - 200 Men Came Forward (Oprah 200)Episode 54 - Live Interview with Michael Skinner (Oprah 200 alumni)Episode 67 - Live Interview with Robert Maniscalco (Oprah 200 alumni)Living FreeSy Rogers (Wikipedia)Portland FellowshipPF’s “Reach Truth” programHarvest USATeen ChallengeFight the New DrugOther Helpful Links:Article on Family Circus and the “Dotted Line” (NPR)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

“Peter W.,” who recently turned 60, has been married for over 36 years and has three children. He has struggled with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts for many years and sought help at a residential program two years ago. During his time in the program, he opened up for the first time about a sexual assault he experienced at age 26. While he has been working through this trauma in therapy, he was recently assaulted again. Since then, other incidents triggered repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse. Despite these challenges, Peter is in recovery and hopes that sharing his story will help others.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Links Mentioned:A Christmas Story (1983) (JustWatch) Alcoholics Anonymous (links to website; local affiliates listed)Celebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)Other Helpful Links:Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  Episode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing JourneyMike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Alex Abraham has spent years researching, exploring, and experiencing firsthand the therapeutic treatment options for healing from childhood sexual abuse. Psychedelics and integration therapy forever changed his life. When not educating other survivors about the benefits of psychedelics, Alex enjoys traveling the world and experiencing new foods. A connoisseur of food truck fare, he lives in Austin, Texas.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Contact info for Alex:Website: Trauma & EcstasyTrauma and Ecstasy: How Psychedelics Made My Life Worth Living (Amazon)LinkedInInstagramOther Links Mentioned:Olive, The Other Reinsdeer (1999) (Youtube)Pelvic Floor (Wikipedia)Time Ferriss (Wikipedia)Tucker Max (Wikipedia)MDMA-assisted psychotherapy (Wikipedia)The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (links to Amazon)EMDR (Wikipedia)Other Helpful Links:“Five Things to Know About MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD” (Mt. Sinai Physician’s Channel)Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):  Episode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing JourneyMike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

I wanted to update listeners on the follow-up to the HBO/Max documentary “Leaving Neverland”In addition, I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episodes 47 & 63I also wanted to share about my own personal Healing Journey especially after attending a Regional Men’s Retreat where I got triggered.Links Mentioned - Leaving Neverland II:Leaving Neverland (full 4-hour movie; JustWatch page, includes International Viewing Options)Leaving Neverland (in 2 parts; JustWatch page)Oprah Winfrey Presents: After Neverland (Oprah.com | YouTube)Leaving Neverland II (YouTube)Leaving Neverland II (JustWatch page, includes International Viewing Options)Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  Episode 20 - Live - Podcast Review: “Think Twice: Michael Jackson”Think Twice: Michael Jackson podcast (Amazon | Spotify)How to Recognize Coercive Control (Healthline)Links Mentioned - Menéndez:Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case UpdateEpisode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interviewNew Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case. (BBC)CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts)Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez BrothersLA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigatingReal Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6Deadline.com articles:Menendez Brothers Resentencing Supported By L.A. DA; George Gascón Sets Press Conference For This Afternoon On Ryan Murphy Spotlighted CaseMenendez Brothers Eligible For Possible Immediate Parole As L.A. DA Recommends Resentencing; Judge Will Consider Case Next MonthLos Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube) Links Mentioned - Menéndez:Kintsugi Bowls - (links to Wikipedia)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Robert Maniscalco is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and has been a professional creative his entire adult life. Born in 1959 in Detroit, he has lived in New York, New Orleans and currently in Charleston. His commission portraits and fine art are part of over a thousand collections throughout North America. In Detroit he hosted Artbeat on PBS and founded the Maniscalco Gallery. As a fine artist, he likes to work in multiple series. Perhaps his most enduring series is that of a commission portrait artist, immortalizing Supreme Court Justices as well as children and families. Robert blogs on a wide range of subjects and written three other books, The Fishly and Point of Art. His fourth book, an Amazon #1 bestseller, is a full color drawing/painting method, called The Power of Positive Painting. He is an actor/director, writer/playwright, musician/composer and teacher, a former Adjunct Professor of fine art and theatre at Charleston Southern University and drawing illustration at the College for Creative Studies in Detroit. Robert has expanded his creative milieu to include courtroom sketching, covering the Dylann Roof and Michael Slager trials in Charleston. His multi-disciplinary play, Vincent John Doe, received its world premiere, to rave reviews, during the 2018 and 2019 Piccolo Spoleto Festivals. He is now a regular exhibitor in the Piccolo Spoleto Outdoor Art Exhibition. Robert was also one of the 200 audience members on Oprah Winfrey’s groundbreaking episode on male childhood sexual abuse.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Contact info for Robert:The Maniscalco Gallery WebsiteFacebookFacebook - Artist PageYoutubeBooks (Amazon)The Obstacle Course of my Life - Maniscalco GalleryComedy Bits (Youtube):More Comedy BitsTake My WifeRidiculousnessVincent John Doe (new Play with CSA Themes)Other Links Mentioned:Jack Van Impe (Wikipedia)Speaking in Tongues (Wikipedia)Baptism with the Holy Spirit (Wikipedia)Secular Humanism (Wikipedia)“You only fail when you stop trying” - Thomas Edison (GoodReads)Previous HFMS podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  Episode 16 - 200 Men Came ForwardEpisode 54 - Live Interview with Michael Skinner Oprah's "200 Men Come Forward" TV event:Watch PART 1 hereWatch PART 2 here (preview only)TEXT SUMMARY of PART 2EMDR (Wikipedia)Exposure Therapy (Wikipedia)PTSD - Symptoms & Causes (links to Mayo Clnic)Don Harvey (IMDB)Darkness to Light (End Child Sexual Abuse)Tyler Perry (Wikipedia)Primal Therapy (Wikipedia)Gordon Teichner, Ph.D., ABPPThe Last Judgment (Wikipedia)Dylann Roof (wikipedia)Other Helpful Links:Groups offering Men’s Healing Weekend RetreatsMarked Men for Christ (faith-based)Edge Venture (faith-based)The Crucible Project (faith-based) Brothers Road (multi-faith)Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Louis Romano is a parent of a CSA Survivor and a best-selling author of 21 novels, including Intercession and Besa. A crossover artist who has written true crime fiction, crime historic fiction, and one young adult bookSuicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.Contact info for Kyle:The Official Louis Romano WebsiteLinks to order all of Louis Romano’s books from his websiteLinks to order all of Louis Romano’s books via AmazonOther Links Mentioned:“Half Moon Restaurant” - Facebook threadMillstone: “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6 (NLT)“But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” Mark 9:42 (NLT)“It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.” Luke 17:2 (NLT) Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  Episode 60 - Live Interview with Richard WindmannRoad to Recovery - Hope and Healing for Surviviors of Sexual AbuseMitchell Garabedian - attorney, featured in the movie, Spotlight (2015)Calumny - noun - Injuring another person's good name by lying. (Catholic Dictionary)Lucky Luciano (Wikipedia)Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan (Wikipedia)Other Helpful Links:MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & moreMenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors & moreMike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

We have previously talked about disclosure and why it is difficult for male survivors to disclose to anyone about the trauma they experienced. With that in mind, we discuss how to make male survivors feel safe and comfortable enough to share their stories.More about the panelists:Previous podcast interviews with Luke, Richard & Cranford (links to Spotify; contact info is within the show notes of each episode): Episode 19 - Live interview with Luke WiersmaEpisode 61 - Live Interview with Cranford BlackmonEpisode 60 - Live Interview with Richard WindmannPrevious podcast episodes mentioned:  (Male Survivor Awareness Day) MSAD 2023 - “Disclosure”Husband Material Video Podcast (links to YouTube)Husband Material Audio Podcast (links to Spotify)Episode 9 - PLC/Healing for Male Survivor Podcast - Part 1 (links to Spotify)Episode 10 - PLC/Healing for Male Survivor Podcast - Part 2 (links to Spotify)Episode 11 - PLC/Healing for Male Survivor Podcast - Part 3 (links to Spotify)Other Links Mentioned:MaleSurvivor.org - has an online discussion board for survivors & moreCelebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)Movie: That’s My Boy (2012) (links to JustWatch)Ricky Gervais (Wikipedia)Other Helpful Links:Video: Sexual Assault of Men Played for Laughs - Part 1 Male Perpetrators (YouTube)Video: Sexual Assault of Men Played for Laughs - Part 2 Female Perpetrators (YouTube)Mike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Kyle Drossel is a 31-year-old man who has been through a lot. He recently found his way back to God, and that has helped him feel more at peace. He likes to spend his free time hiking and running, which helps him clear his head. But Kyle still struggles with relationships because of something that happened to him when he was 13. The assistant fire chief of Sheboygan Falls, Wisconsin, someone he trusted, sexually assaulted him. This experience led Kyle down a bad path of using drugs and alcohol, but he's happy to say that he's sober now. He wants to help others who have gone through similar things, so he started a group called "Breaking the Silence." Kyle's goal is to help men feel comfortable talking about their problems and getting help. He hopes that by sharing his story, he can inspire others to do the same and create a community where men can support each other. Kyle also wants to spread awareness about the dangers of turning to drugs and alcohol as a way to cope with trauma, and he hopes that his story can help prevent others from going down the same path he did.Contact info for Kyle:FacebookFacebook Group: “Breaking the Silence”Other Links Mentioned:Article on Family Circus and the “Dotted Line” (NPR)Safe Harbor of Sheboygan County Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):  Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case UpdateEpisode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interviewOther Helpful Links:MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & moreMenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors & moreMike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episode 47 I also wanted to share my thoughts and reflections on a recent interview I did with a local TV news station about my personal journey (including the highs and lows of the interview process).Links Mentioned - Menéndez: Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):   Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case. CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts) Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed  Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story  Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez Brothers LA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigating Real Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 Deadline.com articles: Menendez Brothers Resentencing Supported By L.A. DA; George Gascón Sets Press Conference For This Afternoon On Ryan Murphy Spotlighted Case Menendez Brothers Eligible For Possible Immediate Parole As L.A. DA Recommends Resentencing; Judge Will Consider Case Next Month Los Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube) Links Mentioned - Charlotte Interview: Article/Interview with WSOC (Charlotte, NC - ABC Affiliate) “Man trafficked by his own father raising awareness for overlooked cases”Mike Chapman’s links: Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid) Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp Mike’s Website Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike Mike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/live**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Johnny Braun is a 21 year old who grew up as a Mennonite in Canada and is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse . He is still working on recovery and full understanding of his past but he is also helping other people who have experienced trauma work through their own struggles.Contact info for Johnny: InstagramOther Links Mentioned: Men’s Encounter - Ontario (weekend Christian men’s healing retreats) No Longer Ashamed - Podcast (Spotify) Episode 140 - Interview with Johnny Braun (Spotify) MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):   Episode 55 - Live Interview with Dr. Mark Barber MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors & moreOther Helpful Links: Edge Venture (faith-based weekend retreats) Marked Men for Christ (faith-based weekend retreats) Edge Venture (faith-based weekend retreats) Brothers Road (multi-faith weekend retreats) ManKind Project (New Warrior Training Adventure) (non-religious weekend retreats) Noble Man (non-religious 3.5-day retreats)  The Crucible Project (faith-based weekend retreats) Mike Chapman’s links: Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid) Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp Mike’s Website Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike Mike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries:https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Cranford Blackmon is a former Air Force officer, Federal Agent, police officer, and Army soldier. He is also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, family-controlled trafficking, satanic ritual abuse & mind control. Now he speaks and teaches to support male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, prevent violence, empower survivors, and support organizations serving survivors. He believes that with education and empowerment, violence against women, children, and indigenous populations can become a thing of the past. From his years of law enforcement and military service, Cranford developed his FemVincible program for women that he designed to work for women of any size, shape, age, or disability. He is currently developing a program to support boys and men who were abused, molested, or trafficked as children.Contact info for Cranford: FemVincible/LaBCaF website  Facebook YouTube Podcast (Spotify) LinkTree LinkedInOther Links Mentioned: Secret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual Development - by Dr. Doug Carpenter (Amazon) The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse - by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis (Amazon) Previous HFMS podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):   Episode 41 - ACEs - Adverse Childhood ExperiencesOther Helpful Links: Wikipedia: Gaither Vocal Band Millstone:  “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6 (NLT) “But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” Mark 9:42 (NLT) “It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.” Luke 17:2 (NLT) Wikipedia: Star Trek International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference Ena Lucia Mariaca Pacheco - Researcher on Male Sexual Abuse & Male Child Sex Trafficking (Linktree)Mike Chapman’s links: Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid) Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp Mike’s Website Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike Mike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries:https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Richard Windmann, Ph.D. is a survivor of childhood sex abuse and sex trafficking from the age of 7 until 17. He estimates that he's been raped by hundreds, if not over a thousand men during that 10 year period. After doing advocacy work with SNAP, 5 years ago he started his own advocacy Nonprofit 501(c)(3) called "Survivors of Childhood Sex Abuse” (SCSA), which currently has over 37,000 members worldwide. SCSA offers peer-led support meetings, one-on-one consultations, mental health and legal referrals, in addition to championing Statute of Limitations eliminations with legislative lookback windows. The first law passed was in Louisiana, where the Catholic Church challenged the law up to the LA Supreme Court and was upheld. Richard graduated from Loyola University College of Law School in 2022, as a Distinguished Fellow.Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or athttps://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find athttps://findahelpline.com/. Contact info for Richard:SCSA - Survivors of Childhood Sex AbuseOther Links Mentioned:Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests - SNAPScouts Honor: The Secret Files of the Boy Scouts of America - Netflix (documentary featuring Richard’s story of being trafficked by his New Orleans scout troop)Article on New Orleans Boy Scout Sex Trafficking ringArticle on Hope Haven Abuse historyWikipedia: Penn State child sex abuse scandal (includes Sandusky)The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) Other Helpful Links:Wikipedia: Evel KnievelLeave No Trace - Hulu (documentary about sex abuse within the Boy Scouts)Wikipedia: List of disability-related terms with negative connotations (includes “moron”)“I am still every age that I have ever been” - Madeleine L'EngleWikipedia: “Whiskey Lullaby” sung by Brad Paisley (Richard played Acoustic Guitar for this recording)Wikipedia: EMDRWikipedia: Ego-State TherapyWikipedia: Hillsong Church (includes info on the child sex abuses)Wikipedia: Seasonal Affective DisorderMike Chapman’s links:Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREEInfo onJoining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)Learn more aboutHusband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsAppMike’s WebsiteSchedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with MikeMike’s StoryIf you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: PolarLifeConsulting.com/livePlease Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries:https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Marcus Spaur is a Certified Recovery Coach, a Certified Inner Child Recovery Process Specialist, a Brainspotting Practitioner, and is a life & recovery coach with Between the Covers Coaching. He is a podcast host with the Between the Covers Podcast with Marcus Spaur with the theme of getting into people's stories to help them become the heroes in their own story. He is also a survivor of non-contact sexual abuse.  Contact info for Marcus: Website: www.betweenthecoverscoaching.com Podcast: Between the Covers Podcast with Marcus Spaur (Spotify | Youtube) Marcus’ interview of me (Spotify | Youtube) Facebook: Between the Covers Other Links Mentioned: Pure Desire Ministries Conquer Series Podcasts Episodes with Drew Boa Covenant Eyes X3watch Avenue Husband Material Podcast Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa (Spotify | Youtube) Compassion For My Face: HMA Psychodrama Example (feat. Marcus & Mike) (Spotify | Youtube) Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems therapy by Jenna Riemersma (Amazon) Google Image Search for “Feelings Wheel” Brainspotting  Wikipedia article YouTube video describing the process Other Helpful Links: Wikipedia article on “Japanese Swords in fiction” (includes a section on Sakabatō) Wikipedia article on Himura Kenshin  Edge Venture (faith-based weekend retreats) Marked Men for Christ (faith-based weekend retreats) Wikipedia article on Dungeons & Dragons Mike Chapman’s links: Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid) Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp Mike’s Website Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike Mike’s Story If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:  PolarLifeConsulting.com/live Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting. **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.  Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review. DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

This is week 2 on my series on Forgiveness - what it means for a survivor to forgive the perpetrators. In part 1, we went through a recent podcast episode by my friend & colleague James Gianakon on his Imago Dei Recovery podcast where he shares key principles on forgiveness.  This week, in part 2, I host a panel discussion on forgiveness and what it means for survivors. More about the panelists: Previous podcast interviews with Kevin and Daniel (links to Spotify; contact info is within the show notes of each episode):  Episode 18 - Live Interview with Kevin Bolger Episode 22 - Live Interview with Daniel Eichelberger  Contact info for Richard Windmann (interview coming in a few weeks): SCSA - Survivors of Childhood Sex Abuse Scouts Honor: The Secret Files of the Boy Scouts of America - Netflix (documentary featuring Richard’s story of being trafficked by his New Orleans scout troop) Previous podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):   Episode 34 - Panel: Keeping kids safe (w/Daniel) Episode 42 - Panel: Triggers (w/Daniel) Episode 43 - MSAD 2024 Live Event - Panel: Healing - Part 1 (w/Kevin) Episode 44 - MSAD 2024 Live Event - Panel: Healing - Part 2 (w/Kevin) Episode 48 - Holiday Triggers (w/Daniel) Other Links Mentioned: Leave No Trace - Hulu (documentary about sex abuse within the Boy Scouts) 21Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” 22 “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!” (Matthew 18:21-22; NLT) “Forgive and Forget” – Shakespeare quotes this 4 times Oprah Winfrey quote on Forgiveness Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa - episodes (links to Youtube): What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell) Mike Chapman’s links: Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid) Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp Mike’s Website Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike Mike’s Story If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:  PolarLifeConsulting.com/live Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting. **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.  Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review. DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

For the next 2 episodes I will talk on forgiveness - what it means for a survivor to forgive the perpetrators. In part 1, I go through a recent podcast episode by my friend & colleague James Gianakon on his Imago Dei Recovery podcast where he shares key principles on forgiveness.  Next week, in part 2, I will host a panel discussion on forgiveness and what it means for survivors. Contact info for James Gianakon: Imago Dei Recovery Podcast (Spotify | Youtube) Episode on Forgiveness Part 1 (Spotify | Youtube) Episode on Forgiveness Part 2 (Spotify | Youtube) Other Links Mentioned: 21Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” 22 “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!” (Matthew 18:21-22; NLT) “Forgive and Forget” – Shakespeare quotes this 4 times Oprah Winfrey quote on Forgiveness Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa - episodes (links to Youtube): What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell) How To Heal Your Inner Child: Older Brother Coaching Compassion For My Face: HMA Psychodrama Example Internal Family Systems (IFS) - Wikipedia article Mike Chapman’s links: Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid) Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp Mike’s Website Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike Mike’s Story If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:  PolarLifeConsulting.com/live Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting. **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.  Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review. DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give

Dr. Russell Stagg is a trauma therapist specializing in sexual abuse and sexual assault. He has master's degrees in counseling psychology and Jewish studies (chaplaincy). He has been counseling since 2013, with psychotherapy licenses in three Canadian provinces. Before entering private practice, Russell was the Resident Chaplain for the Emergency, Intensive Care, and Burn Units at Calgary Foothills Hospital in Calgary, Canada; and the Jewish Chaplain at the University of Calgary. His articles on trauma recovery have appeared in major psychology journals, and his research in various fields has been cited over 4,000 times in academic publications. His knowledge of child sexual abuse and addictions comes from his training, his clients—and his personal experience. Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.  Contact info for Russell Stagg: Email: stagg.russell@gmail.com One in Six: A Man's Guide to Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse by Russell Stagg (Amazon) Website #1 - Russell’s book info: http://russellauthor.ca  Website #2 - Russell’s therapy pratice: https://russelltherapy.ca Other Links Mentioned: Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused by Steven Farmer (links to Amazon) The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis (Amazon) Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew (Amazon) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (Amazon) MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more Other Helpful Links: Wikipedia article on Rabbi Isaac Luria USA’s CDC - The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (Wikipedia) UK’s National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) (Wikipedia) PTSD - Symptoms & Causes (Mayo Clnic) EMDR - (Wikipedia) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - (Wikipedia) The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS) Mike Chapman’s links: Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid) Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp Mike’s Website Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call with Mike Mike’s Story If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:  PolarLifeConsulting.com/live Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting. **Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.  Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review. DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give