Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh

In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we explore the profound role vulnerability plays in building and sustaining healthy relationships. Vulnerability is often misunderstood as a sign of weakness, but in truth, it’s the cornerstone of trust, emotional intimacy, and genuine connection. Join us as we break down what vulnerability truly means and how embracing it can transform relationships for the better. We’ll tackle common fears surrounding vulnerability, the myth of risk-free intimacy, and how to balance openness with self-protection. You’ll also learn practical steps to approach vulnerability in ways that foster trust and connection, without oversharing or losing your sense of self. ____________ Episode Breakdown (02:50) 1. Defining Vulnerability (04:55) - What does it mean to be vulnerable in a relationship? 2. No Risk-Free Intimacy (19:03) - That’s right! There is no such thing! Every meaningful relationship requires a level of emotional risk. 3. How Much Is Too Much? (21:08) - While vulnerability is vital, oversharing or pushing too far too soon can harm relationships. But most relationships are referred to as “give and take relationships” in some circles. 4. Steps Toward Healthy Vulnerability (30:34) - Learn actionable strategies to embrace vulnerability in a way that strengthens relationships without compromising your emotional safety. ________________ Chapters: 00:00 – Intro & Hi, Carrie! 02:50 – Episode Breakdown 03:35 – Squirrel Moment 04:55 – 1. Defining Vulnerability 10:20 – Intimacy Indicator 11:05 – V. begets V. 15:45 – Lifeblood? 19:03 – 2. No Risk-Free Intimacy 21:08 – 3. Can There Be Too Much? 23:35 – It’s Tricky. 25:00 – Parental Vulnerability 29:00 – Domestic Violence Disclaimer 30:34 – 4. Practical Steps 31:57 – Josh’s Embarrassing Story 34:05 – Self-Awareness 36:50 – Runaway Bride Metaphor 38:40 – My Best Friend’s Wedding Metaphor ____________________ Links & Resources: For more great content and services by Carrie & Josh, please check out their LinkTree – https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok The 3 Channels of Self-Awareness - https://www.youtube.com/live/n_psQU9kcgg?si=dJZV6Kw50yxyvLdo Gratitude vs. Grief | Thanksgiving Episode 1 - https://youtu.be/fXJeoBS2lnU?si=glSNVRZXEXX7Ndon Finding Healing Through Connection | Thanksgiving Episode 2 - https://youtu.be/Sf-arzf8B0w?si=1pc0JzSTyn1LiJkv Episode on Authenticity - https://www.youtube.com/live/48vTHXudO-s?si=NK-7Aak2XhYNVcMI Love Addiction - https://youtu.be/aHKUEQRKrZM?si=YSLQFWc6xvsdDXX5 __________________ Domestic Violence Disclaimer: The content of this podcast may include discussions about domestic violence and related topics, which could be triggering for some listeners. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, you are not alone, and help is available. In the United States, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or by texting START to 88788. You can also visit their website at www.thehotline.org for confidential support, resources, and a live chat feature. If you are in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number. For listeners outside the United States, please reach out to your country’s local domestic violence resources or helplines for support. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and there are people who care and want to support you. 

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, Carrie and Josh dive into the controversial topic of polygraph exams in betrayal trauma recovery. For years, polygraphs have been used to aid couples navigating infidelity or sex addiction recovery, often as part of therapeutic disclosures. But are they truly effective? Do they truly serve the healing process? Join us as we: 🧐 Unpack how polygraphs have been used in therapeutic disclosures. 🧐 Examine the perceived benefits that make polygraphs appealing in couple recovery work. 🧐 Reveal why we chose to phase out polygraphs in our recovery model. 🧐 Discuss whether polygraphs still have a place in therapeutic practice. Whether you're a clinician or someone on a recovery journey, this episode sheds light on the evolving role of polygraphs in betrayal trauma recovery. Tune in to hear our insights and join the conversation! ________________ Episode Breakdown (03:42) 1. Polygraphs & Disclosures (05:48). Polygraphs have often been incorporated into therapeutic disclosures to verify information following infidelity or the discovery of sex addiction. We'll explain how they've historically been used and their role in aiding trust-building between partners. 2. Perceived Benefits (14:53). Why have therapists, including us, seen polygraphs as helpful? We'll share anecdotal benefits from our experience, highlighting how they supported some couples in their recovery journey. 3. Why We Stopped (23:15). While polygraphs seemed useful, the drawbacks outweighed the benefits for us. We'll delve into why we chose to stop using them and how this decision aligns with our couple recovery model. 4. Is There a Place for Polygraphs in Betrayal Trauma Recovery (39:20) ? We'll discuss a scenario where we see how polygraphs could work their way back into our recovery model. ___________ Books: Stop Sex Addiction by Milton Magness - https://amzn.to/49qYVts The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays - https://amzn.to/3OKAHRo As Amazon Affiliates, we earn on qualifying purchases. _____________ Articles: Therapeutic Disclosures by Josh & Carrie - https://tinyurl.com/286beza5 Transitional Distrust by Josh & Carrie - https://tinyurl.com/2s3mspv4 ______________ For more great content or to check out our services, please visit our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/FamilySolutionsOK

From Conflict to Connection: Healing Relationships Over the Holidays. In Part 2 of our Thanksgiving series, we’re joined by two incredible returning guests: Dr. Shannon Dial and Whitney Alexander, LMFT, who bring their expertise to the table to help us navigate the emotional complexities of the holiday season. Building on the insights from Part 1, this episode focuses on practical steps to bridge the gap between gratitude and grief while fostering healthier, more meaningful connections. Episode Breakdown: Emotional Regulation Techniques: Discover helpful ways you can help you navigate the swirl of holiday emotions without dismissing your grief. Setting Healthy Boundaries: Learn how to protect your emotional well-being by communicating needs effectively, maintaining balance, and avoiding unnecessary conflict. Building Connection Through Vulnerability: Explore ways to turn tough moments into opportunities for growth, repair, and deeper bonds with loved ones. Join us as Dr. Dial and Whitney Alexander share their wisdom on transforming holiday challenges into opportunities for connection, resilience, and healing. 🍁 _________________________ Therapist Directories: General Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma: https://www.IITAP.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ _________________ Books Inspired by the Episode: A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness - https://amzn.to/3Vgwpor Books by Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/49mxdy9 No Bad Parts - https://amzn.to/4146cxi Boundaries - https://amzn.to/3B52fO0 As Amazon Associates, we may earn on qualifying purchases

The holidays are a time of joy and togetherness, but they can also stir up unexpected feelings of grief, resentment, and emotional conflict. Why do gratitude and grief so often coexist during this season? In this powerful episode, we explore the emotional complexities of the holidays and offer insights to help you navigate them with self-awareness and compassion. We’re thrilled to be joined by Dr. Shannon Dial, LMFT, from Family Solutions Counseling in Oklahoma City, and Whitney Alexander, LMFT and EMDR Consultant (in training), and owner of the Warren-Alexander Group in Stillwater. Both are seasoned professionals in mental health and relationships, bringing valuable perspectives to this heartfelt discussion. Whitney's Profile - https://warrenalexandergroup.com/our-staff Shannon's Profile - https://familysolutionsok.com/shannon-dial ______________________ Whitney's Previous Episodes on YouTube: - Episode 10: On the 3 Channels of Self-Awareness - https://youtube.com/live/n_psQU9kcgg?feature=share - Episode 32: On Complex PTSD - https://youtube.com/live/LpDt5yhS1t4?feature=share ----------------- EPISODE BREAKDOWN Understanding Emotional Coexistence: Discover why gratitude and grief often appear together, especially during the holidays. Cultural Pressures vs. Personal Reality: Examine the tension between societal expectations of joy and your personal emotional experience. Impact of Personal Experiences on Emotional State: Learn how strained relationships or past losses can amplify feelings of sadness or resentment during holiday gatherings. ----------------- The holidays can be challenging, but understanding the interplay between gratitude and grief is a good first step toward finding balance and peace. With expert insights from Dr. Dial and Ms. Alexander, we unpack the emotional triggers of the season and provide tools to help you navigate them more effectively. -------------- Therapist Directories: General Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma: https://www.IITAP.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ _________________ Books Mentioned in Episode: Books by Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/49mxdy9 No Bad Parts - https://amzn.to/4146cxi Boundaries - https://amzn.to/3B52fO0 As Amazon Associates, we may earn on qualifying purchases #GratitudeAndGrief #HolidayStruggles #MentalHealth #Relationships #TherapistsTakePodcast #FamilySolutionsCounseling

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the complex realities of coping with chronic illness as a family. Joined by guest Ceedee Gaddis, LMFT, we’ll explore how a long-term health condition can challenge family bonds, reshape communication, and create new expectations for support and care. Tune in for insights on building a resilient, unified family approach to chronic illness and finding pathways to hope, connection, and shared strength. ________________ Discussion Topics: 1. Impact of Chronic Illness on Family Dynamics Chronic illness often reshapes roles, routines, and responsibilities. We’ll discuss how families can acknowledge these changes and adapt in a way that reinforces unity rather than causing division. 2. Effective Communication and Emotional Support Open and honest communication is crucial, but it can be difficult to sustain in the face of long-term illness. This segment will cover strategies for talking about illness-related stressors, setting boundaries, and expressing both empathy and personal needs. 3. Coping Strategies for Family Members Coping isn’t just for the person with the illness; family members also need tools to manage stress and avoid burnout. We’ll talk about techniques and resources to help everyone in the family manage their mental and emotional health. 4. Building a Resilient Support System Chronic illness requires a long-term approach, and families benefit from a resilient support system. We’ll look at ways to cultivate support within the family and how to connect with external resources for additional strength. _________________ Guest Introduction: Ceedee Gaddis, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist at FSC Kids in Oklahoma City, specializing in family dynamics and mental health support. With a compassionate and insightful approach, Ceedee helps families navigate life’s toughest challenges, including the complexities surrounding chronic illness. Visit Ceedee on the web at https://familysolutionsok.com/ceedee-gaddis. Additionally, check out FSC Kids - https://www.FSC.kids ______________ For more great content including but not limited to, blogs, book recommendations, mental health services, and more, check out all our website and social media platforms by visiting our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we delve into the complex world of lust, exploring how it impacts our journey toward self-control and personal power. Inspired by insights from Mirror of Intimacy by Alexandra Katehakis, we look at why lust often feels so conflicting and discuss its role in psychological growth. If you’re interested in a fresh perspective on this intense emotion, join us as we discuss ways to harmonize desire with personal values, fostering a path toward deeper self-understanding. __________________ Episode Breakdown 1. Lust as a Psychological Conflict 2. Lust as a Quest for Personal Power 3. The Conflict of Religion and Biology 4. Aligning Desire with Values ________________ Mirror of Intimacy was written by Alexandra Katehakis, founder of The Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, a clinic dedicated to guiding individuals and couples through healthy relationships and sexual healing. You can learn more about her work at The Center for Healthy Sex, and connect on social media - https://www.linktr.ee/centerforhealthysex. _____________ Books Mentioned: “Mirror of Intimacy” by Alexandra Katehakis - https://amzn.to/4ejUT6V "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl - https://amzn.to/4hNdYRO "The Picture of Dorian Gray" by Oscar Wilde - https://amzn.to/3UKpovZ As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. ______________ For more great content, please check out website and social media sites which can all be found here - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok.com

In this Halloween-themed episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive into the concept of metaphorical monsters in our relationships—those individuals who drain us, manipulate us, and leave a trail of negativity in their wake. Join us as we explore four personality types to steer clear of: Vampires, Werewolves, Witches, and Ghosts. Each figure symbolizes a different toxic relationship pattern, and we’ll unpack how to recognize them and set boundaries to protect yourself. Meet the "Monsters" We All Encounter: Vampires: These people deplete your energy, relying on "borrowed functioning" to feel stable. They’re always taking, leaving you emotionally or physically drained. Werewolves: Appearing charming on the surface, Werewolves have hidden agendas. When you’re no longer useful, they reveal their self-serving motives. Witches: With charisma and passion, Witches lure you in, but their influence is toxic. Behind their captivating words are empty promises that leave you feeling manipulated. Ghosts: These figures may seem present, but when you need them most, they disappear. They lack real commitment, vanishing when the relationship calls for substance. Listen in as we discuss these personality types and offer strategies for avoiding their impact on your life. More About Our Guest - Mackenzie Camp. Website: Https://www.familysolutionsok.com/mackenzie-camp Article: Better Boundaries: Introducing the PARC Tool - https://shorturl.at/GF7Lu ________ Featured Podcast Episode: Therapists' Take on Scary Relationships - https://www.youtube.com/live/Rs-HIvN--WI?si=GFh9ZFDEWXCff3q4 ————— Featured Halloween-Themed Books: A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness - https://amzn.to/48YKhX Halloween by Jerry Seinfeld - https://amzn.to/3UnOVL3 Five Little Pumpkins (Baby Book) - https://amzn.to/3Aev1eM As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. ______ Halloween-Themed Articles: Stephen King’s IT and the Horrors of Addiction by Joshua Nichols, LMFT, CSAT - https://shorturl.at/5zrjc Un-Masking America: Why Our Culture Needs Halloween by Joshua Nichols, LMFT, CSAT - https://shorturl.at/9gizt ______ Therapist Directory: To find a therapist near you, visit https://www.psychologytoday.com Become a client of Josh & Carrie (must be present in the state of Oklahoma at the time of service) - https://www.familysolutionsok.com _____ For more great content, check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, we dive into the controversial topic of "Fat Culture." Is the word "fat" inherently fat-shaming, or does it reflect a cultural reality? We’ll explore the psychology of disgust, how societal standards perpetuate a thin vs. fat divide, and whether acceptance of different body types means ignoring health concerns altogether. Join us for an honest conversation on the complexities of body image and societal expectations. ____________ Episode Breakdown: 1. Is “Fat” a Shameful Label? We discuss whether calling someone "fat" is inherently derogatory or a neutral descriptor of body type. 2. The Role of Disgust in Shaming How feelings of disgust influence fat shaming and the psychological impact on individuals. 3. Fat vs Thin: Cultural Imbalance Examining how society favors thinness and the resulting stigmatization of larger bodies. 4. Does Acceptance Mean No Concern? We unpack whether body acceptance should come at the expense of health awareness. ___________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified S*x Addiction Therapist): https://www.iitap.com Somatic Experiencing: https://directory.traumahealing.org EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): https://www.emdria.org/find-a-therapist/ Brainspotting: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory IFS (Internal Family Systems): https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners ____________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. ___________ Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we explore the complex relationship between sexual addiction and the brain's functioning. Join us as we discuss how compulsive behaviors are driven by the brain's reward system and how the brain gets hi-jacked when addiction forms. We also dive into practical approaches for recovery and how trauma and emotional wounds contribute to the cycle of addiction. Whether you're a mental health professional, someone affected by these issues, or simply curious about the psychology of addiction, this episode is packed with insights and hope for healing. ____________________ Episode Breakdown: Dopamine and the Neuroscience of Sex Addiction: How the brain's reward system gets hijacked, leading to compulsive behaviors. Maladaptive Coping and the Role of Trauma: How unresolved trauma fuels addiction, and why addressing these wounds is crucial for recovery. Neuroplasticity and the Challenges in Breaking the Cycle of Addiction: Why willpower alone isn’t enough and how neuroplasticity can play a role in long-term change. Finding Hope in Recovery: Practical strategies for overcoming sex addiction and regaining control, including therapy, support systems, and healthier coping mechanisms. _____________ Books and Resources: 📚Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. - https://amzn.to/402uEOW 📚Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson - https://amzn.to/400P3nl 📚Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hi-Jacks the Male Brain by William Struthers, Ph.D. - https://amzn.to/3U8LWGu 📚The Brain the Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD - https://amzn.to/4dG1VCF 📚TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction by Michael Barta, Ph.D. CSAT - https://amzn.to/3zKPmbx As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. ___________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified S*x Addiction Therapist): https://www.iitap.com Somatic Experiencing: https://directory.traumahealing.org EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): https://www.emdria.org/find-a-therapist/ Brainspotting: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory IFS (Internal Family Systems): https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners ---------- About the Hosts: Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive deep into the valuable relational purpose of difficult emotions. Anger, resentment, guilt, and feelings of defeat are often seen as negative, but they hold important messages about our relationships. Join us as we explore how these emotions can act as signals for unmet needs, boundary issues, and personal growth. We discuss how to better understand and work through these feelings to foster healthier connections and emotional resilience. If you've ever struggled with managing tough emotions in your relationships, this episode is for you! Learn how to harness these feelings for deeper self-awareness and stronger, more authentic relationships. _______ Books to Consider: 📚The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., - https://amzn.to/3XUrbz5 📚The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman, Ph.D., - https://amzn.to/4gVvldB 📚The Library of Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/47VxR4J ___________ Therapist Directories: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ______________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive into the complex world of love addiction and limerence—two often misunderstood concepts that can deeply affect personal relationships. We’ll explore how childhood trauma plays a pivotal role in forming these patterns and, most importantly, offer hope and practical steps toward recovery. Whether you’re experiencing these struggles or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and guidance. Key Topics We’ll Cover: Love Addiction: What Is It and How Does It Impact Relationships? We discuss the signs and behaviors of love addiction, how it can disrupt lives, and why it’s essential to address. Limerence: The Obsession of Idealized Love. Limerence is that intense, often unreciprocated feeling of infatuation that can lead to emotional turmoil. We’ll break down how it differs from genuine love and the ways it can negatively impact mental health. The Role of Childhood Trauma in Love Addiction and Limerence. Early childhood experiences shape our emotional needs and relational patterns. We’ll explore how unresolved trauma can set the stage for addictive relationships and unhealthy attachments. Hope in Recovery: Healing and Moving Toward Healthy Relationships. Recovery is possible! We’ll discuss actionable strategies, therapeutic approaches, and the hope that exists for individuals recovering from love addiction and limerence. ___ Take the ACEs Quiz - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean ___ References used for this episode: Is It Love or Limerence - https://health.clevelandclinic.org/limerence Limerence (Psychology Today) - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/limerence?sockid=048b00caf77f646d2f53132ef6f16547 What Is Love Addiction (Psychology Today) - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-new-home/201902/what-is-love-addiction?msockid=048b00caf77f646d2f53132ef6f16547 Limerence of Love Addiction (LivingWithLimerence.com) - https://livingwithlimerence.com/limerence-or-love-addiction/ Can You Be Addicted to Love - https://health.clevelandclinic.org/addicted-to-love ___ Books on Love Addiction: Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://amzn.to/3zwxu3X Ready to Heal by Kelly McDaniel - https://amzn.to/3zqwRZL Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel - https://amzn.to/47KJRGn The Deepest Well (Book on ACEs Research) by Nadine Harris - https://amzn.to/47JOmkk ____ Therapy Resources: Love Addiction Therapists: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ____________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this special bonus episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, couples expert Donnie Van Curen delves into the heart-wrenching experience of a broken heart. Together, we'll explore some of the toughest questions that come with this deep emotional pain: Why does it hurt so much? Will the pain ever fade? Does this signal the end of a relationship or marriage? And perhaps most importantly, is it possible to heal a broken heart while still committing to your relationship? ----- Donnie Van Curen-related links: New Path 12:2 Christian Counseling – http://www.newpathok.com Counseling1820 – http://www.counseling1820.com New Path 12:2 Facebook Page – https://www.facebook.com/New-Path-122-Christian-Counseling-1652062238426679/ Donnie’s Book, “The Best Marriage Ever” - https://amzn.to/3B6YIhT “Ask Donnie” on News9 - http://www.news9.com/story/25774243/ask-donnie-best-time-for-a-fight Family Solutions Counseling links: website - https://www.familysolutionsok.com LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok.com -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "How to Handle Intrusive Thoughts in Sex Addiction Recovery" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfPOphLTTNk -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Affiliate Disclaimers: Some of the links in this post are affiliate links, meaning if you click through and make a purchase, I may earn a commission at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, hosts Carrie and Josh dive into the world of critical thinking and logical fallacies, drawing inspiration from Adam Grant's work on the Hierarchy of Critical Thinking. Critical thinking is the ability to objectively analyze and evaluate an issue in order to form a judgment. It’s a crucial skill in our increasingly complex world, helping us to make informed decisions and avoid being misled. But even the best critical thinkers can fall victim to logical fallacies—errors in reasoning that can undermine an argument. Join us as we break down three common logical fallacies: 1. Anecdotal Fallacy: Relying on personal experiences or isolated examples instead of sound evidence to support a claim. 2. Tu Quoque Fallacy: Deflecting criticism by pointing out flaws in the critic, rather than addressing the argument itself. 3. Either/Or Fallacy: Oversimplifying a situation by presenting only two extreme options when, in reality, more possibilities exist. Understanding these fallacies is key to sharpening your critical thinking skills and making more rational decisions in both personal and professional life. Tune in to learn how to spot these fallacies in everyday conversations, and strengthen your ability to think critically. Don’t miss this essential episode for anyone looking to enhance their reasoning skills and engage in more meaningful discussions. --- Book Reference: “Think Again” by Adam Grant - https://amzn.to/3TH4L3p Logical Fallacies Website: https://www.logicalfallacies.org Logical Fallacies Detector: https://www.logicalfallacies.org/fallacy-detectory YouTube Video Reference: https://youtu.be/P3w6LTkRCZQ?si=u7MIEYf4cEocI2vR Election Stress Blog by Carl Patterson - https://familysolutionsok.com/election-stress --- **Subscribe** to our channel for more insightful episodes, and don't forget to **like** and **comment** to join the conversation! Check out our Link Tree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ---- #TherapistsTakePodcast #CriticalThinking #LogicalFallacies #AdamGrant #MentalHealth #Psychology #AnecdotalFallacy #TuQuoque #EitherOrFallacy

In this episode, Carrie and Josh take you all the way back to the very first Therapists' Take episode, before it was a podcast. Here they tackle the "Karen" phenomenon—a topic that has sparked countless debates, memes, and YouTube channels. Join us as we explore: The origins of the "Karen" phenomenon and its evolution over time. What "Karen" really means and the stereotypes it perpetuates. Whether the "Karen" label contributes to female suppression or reinforces harmful stereotypes. The idea that we all have "Karen moments" and what they reveal about us. How the "Karen" phenomenon has impacted our culture—are there redeeming qualities? Don't miss this insightful discussion that goes beyond the surface to explore the psychological and cultural implications of the "Karen" phenomenon. _________________ About the Hosts Joshua Nichols is a licensed marital and family therapist (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. In addition to his passion of creating quality mental health content, he also is co-owner and therapist of a private practice group called Family Solutions Counseling - https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Fair Use Disclaimer: This video contains copyrighted material, the use of which has not always been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We are making such material available in our efforts to advance understanding of issues related to childhood trauma and impact it has on our adult desire for and understanding of unconditional love. We believe this constitutes a 'fair use' of any such copyrighted material as provided for in section 107 of the US Copyright Law. In accordance with Title 17 U.S.C. Section 107, the material in this video is distributed without profit to those who have expressed a prior interest in receiving the included information for research and educational purposes. If you wish to use copyrighted material from this video for purposes of your own that go beyond 'fair use,' you must obtain permission from the copyright owner.

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the emotional turmoil faithful partners experience after infidelity, particularly the pervasive feeling of foolishness. We'll explore why so many partners blame themselves and break down the three most common ways this feeling manifests: "I feel foolish for letting it happen," "I feel foolish for letting it happen again," and "I feel foolish for staying." We'll also discuss how to navigate the uncertainty that follows betrayal and the journey toward regaining a sense of self. Join us as we unpack these complex emotions and offer insights to help faithful partners find healing and empowerment. _________________ Recommended Books for Faithful Partners Impacted by Infidelity: The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays - https://amzn.to/4dvY4sQ Mending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie Carnes - https://amzn.to/3Av8ryj Intimate Deception by Sheri Keffer - https://amzn.to/3M7lLeH _________________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) - Betrayal Trauma Informed Website: https://www.iitap.com/find-a-professional EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Website: https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS (Internal Family Systems) Website: https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing Website: https://directory.traumahealing.org/ Neurofeedback Website: https://isnr.org/neurofeedback-directory Brainspotting Website: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory _________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) and certified sex addiction therapists (CSAT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website - www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include Instagram and Apple Podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _________________ Articles by Carrie & Josh - What Is Transitional Distrust - https://shorturl.at/gpuTZ - Introducing Reflection Aggression - https://shorturl.at/bpHPW - The 12 Types of Gaslighting - https://shorturl.at/dHb4Q _________________ Equipment Used & Other Amazon Links: Mic Stands - https://amzn.to/46o4So6 Rode Pod Mic - https://amzn.to/3Rsw5Sz Pyle Mixer Board - https://amzn.to/3ZsJU5g iRig Pre 2 - https://amzn.to/3ZpCPm9 _________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we are joined by Whitney Alexander, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR therapist and consultant, and founder of the Warren Alexander Group. Whitney brings a wealth of knowledge and experience in trauma therapy, particularly in addressing the complexities of PTSD. Today, we’ll explore the profound impact of Complex PTSD and delve into the feelings of brokenness that often accompany it. Join us for an insightful discussion on how to navigate the journey of healing from deep emotional wounds. ___________ Here some of the topics you'll hear discussed in this episode: What Is Complex PTSD The Concept of Mis-Attunement The Concept of Emotional Flashbacks "Being Seen" as It Relates to Complex PTSD "Brokenness" and the Impact on Self Guilt vs [Toxic] Shame Childhood Origins and the Power of Repair No One Wants a Sad Story Therapeutic Approaches and Building Your Team Practical Steps Toward Healing and Resiliency _________ Books: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker - https://amzn.to/3WEkoctHealing the Shame that Binds You - https://amzn.to/3Agxwgr What Happened to You by Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey - https://amzn.to/3WWFd3X What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo - https://amzn.to/3YFj8s6 The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk - https://amzn.to/4dFc2Iv —————- Learn More About Our Guest - https://warrenalexandergroup.com/our-staff Check our Link Tree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok __________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________________ Equipment Used & Other Amazon Links: Mic Stands - https://amzn.to/46o4So6 Rode Pod Mic - https://amzn.to/3Rsw5Sz Pyle Mixer Board - https://amzn.to/3ZsJU5g iRig Pre 2 - https://amzn.to/3ZpCPm9 As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases. #ComplexPTSD #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthPodcast

I think it is safe to say that the challenges parents face in the twenty-first century are far more complex than the challenges parents faced even one or two generations ago. What do we tend to blame? Technology! In reality, technology has always been the bane of parental existence. The world has always been going to hell in a hand basket. How many generations of parents can relate to that feeling when they stumble across their children’s magazines or comics books, music albums or playlists, movie interests or YouTube subscriptions. How many times have we sighed and rolled our eyes in that “hell in a hand basket” sort of way? I think we all can relate. But there is something different about the world today that just didn’t exist 30 years ago, or at least to the capacity that it does today. That difference is how digital our world has become. So, although parents have always battled the evolution of tech, the challenges parents face today due the rapid evolution and vast presence of tech is unparalleled to generations before. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh are going to talk about the real parental challenges of raising children in a digital world. This episode will follow the following format: - Why are parents concerned about the advancements of tech? Why does this characterize parents for generations? - What’s the differences between digital natives and digital immigrants? Why does it matter? - What are unhelpful responses? The problem with tech-shaming. - What are optimal responses? The power of relationships and healthy attachments. ________________________ Books: Closer Together Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Parenting, Work, and Relationships by Robert Weiss & Jennifer P. Schneider - https://amzn.to/3yeDyxd The Distracted Mind: Ancient Brains in a High-Tech World by Adam Gazzaley and Larry D. Rosen - https://amzn.to/3Ylh2NV Video Games and Your Kids: How Parents Stay in Control by Hilarie Cash and Kim McDaniel - https://amzn.to/4bWlRjL ________________________ YouTube by RecoveryTV: Is Tech Ruining Society and Relationships with/ Dr. Rob Weiss - https://youtu.be/W2Z48giYxR0?si=B5iLYtFid5tQYbcI Parenting in a P*rnified Culture w/ Diana Giles - https://youtu.be/OqKED5SdGD4?si=Lh5ipOnj8GPCwzYo 5 Ways to Protect Children from Online P*** w/ Diana Giles - https://youtu.be/xXBb0bvY2fE?si=ETwh30V5jevU4UCB ________________________ Websites Sensible Cyber Parenting - https://sensiblecyberparenting.com Culture Reframed - https://culturereframed.org ________________________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

Everybody has heard of sexual infidelity, but what is financial infidelity? If fidelity is the “quality or state of being faithful,” according to Merriam-Webster.com, then “infidelity” would be the opposite of that, which might be why “unfaithful” has become synonymous with sexual infidelity. So, we can safely assume that financial infidelity is some kind of egregious relational violation involving the family finances. Debra Kaplan, in her book “For Love and Money” defines it as, “…the keeping of financial secrets in an intimate partnership.” In this episode of Therapists’ Take podcast, Carrie and Josh are going to discuss the concept of financial infidelity. The structure of this episode will go as follows: - What Are the Variations of Financial Infidelity? - Are There Any Links to Sexual Infidelity? - What Are Red Flags? - Any Preventative Measures? Thanks for tuning in to this episode. As always please check out the resources linked in the below. ___________________ Books by Debra Kaplan: For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationships - https://amzn.to/3y6MWD8 Coupleship Inc.: From Financial Conflict to Financial Intimacy- https://amzn.to/3LwgFs8 Battle of the Titans: Battling the Forces of Sex, Money, and Power in Relationships - https://amzn.to/4d5ujhK _____________________ Resources: Debra Kaplan's Website - https://debrakaplancounseling.com/ Family Solutions Counseling Website - https://www.familysolutionsok.com Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

Have you ever done something truly courageous? If so, what was it? What made it an act of courage for you? If you haven’t, then why not? What has held you back? Is it possible you were brave at times, yet your brain doesn’t conceptualize it as courage? Courage is a complicated concept and phenomenon. Most human beings over the age of three have displayed acts of courage. So how come we often don’t feel that way? How come we can do something that is objectively brave, yet we don’t feel brave? In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, host Joshua Nichols, and guest host, Rebel Buersmeyer, will walk us through the complexities of the phenomenon in effort to help us understand it better. You'll hear an amazing story of courage where Rebel was in the position where she was compelled to land a small plane on an unfamiliar landing strip. Rebel and Josh will also discuss the role shame plays, the role of fear, and the problem they have with the concept of "cowardice." Here are some great quotes from the episode: "You only have to be brave five seconds at a time." "The opposite of being courageous isn't cowardice, it's just being." ____________________________ The structure of this episode will be as follows: 00:00 - Hi, Rebel! 02:00 - Episode Format 05:55 - Rebel's Courage While Flying a Plane 17:10 - Defining Courage 23:10 - Paradoxical Courage 33:35 - The Problem of Cowardice 42:50 - The Power of Short-Lived Courage __________________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ BOOK: Will by Will Smith - https://amzn.to/465ndrq ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

This bonus episode is technically the ending to Episode 28: On the Complex Role of Anger after Infidelity. This particular portion primarily focuses on the unfaithful partner's anger that often has been long suppressed. That, however, does not mean that it is always appropriate to express to the betrayed partner who is healing from the act(s) of infidelity, but it can no longer be repressed either. It's quite the conundrum. We hope you enjoy this episode, but you can watch the full episode, which is linked below. __________________ The Role of Anger After Infidelity (LIVE video broadcast) - https://www.youtube.com/live/SQqbm-Rrlto?si=RRaliEwLCXgdtYv4 The Role of Anger After Infidelity (YouTube Podcast) - https://youtu.be/nZ-ZEDgji00 __________________ Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok