Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we delve into the complex world of lust, exploring how it impacts our journey toward self-control and personal power. Inspired by insights from Mirror of Intimacy by Alexandra Katehakis, we look at why lust often feels so conflicting and discuss its role in psychological growth. If you’re interested in a fresh perspective on this intense emotion, join us as we discuss ways to harmonize desire with personal values, fostering a path toward deeper self-understanding. __________________ Episode Breakdown 1. Lust as a Psychological Conflict 2. Lust as a Quest for Personal Power 3. The Conflict of Religion and Biology 4. Aligning Desire with Values ________________ Mirror of Intimacy was written by Alexandra Katehakis, founder of The Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, a clinic dedicated to guiding individuals and couples through healthy relationships and sexual healing. You can learn more about her work at The Center for Healthy Sex, and connect on social media - https://www.linktr.ee/centerforhealthysex. _____________ Books Mentioned: “Mirror of Intimacy” by Alexandra Katehakis - https://amzn.to/4ejUT6V "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl - https://amzn.to/4hNdYRO "The Picture of Dorian Gray" by Oscar Wilde - https://amzn.to/3UKpovZ As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. ______________ For more great content, please check out website and social media sites which can all be found here - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok.com

In this Halloween-themed episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive into the concept of metaphorical monsters in our relationships—those individuals who drain us, manipulate us, and leave a trail of negativity in their wake. Join us as we explore four personality types to steer clear of: Vampires, Werewolves, Witches, and Ghosts. Each figure symbolizes a different toxic relationship pattern, and we’ll unpack how to recognize them and set boundaries to protect yourself. Meet the "Monsters" We All Encounter: Vampires: These people deplete your energy, relying on "borrowed functioning" to feel stable. They’re always taking, leaving you emotionally or physically drained. Werewolves: Appearing charming on the surface, Werewolves have hidden agendas. When you’re no longer useful, they reveal their self-serving motives. Witches: With charisma and passion, Witches lure you in, but their influence is toxic. Behind their captivating words are empty promises that leave you feeling manipulated. Ghosts: These figures may seem present, but when you need them most, they disappear. They lack real commitment, vanishing when the relationship calls for substance. Listen in as we discuss these personality types and offer strategies for avoiding their impact on your life. More About Our Guest - Mackenzie Camp. Website: Https://www.familysolutionsok.com/mackenzie-camp Article: Better Boundaries: Introducing the PARC Tool - https://shorturl.at/GF7Lu ________ Featured Podcast Episode: Therapists' Take on Scary Relationships - https://www.youtube.com/live/Rs-HIvN--WI?si=GFh9ZFDEWXCff3q4 ————— Featured Halloween-Themed Books: A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness - https://amzn.to/48YKhX Halloween by Jerry Seinfeld - https://amzn.to/3UnOVL3 Five Little Pumpkins (Baby Book) - https://amzn.to/3Aev1eM As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. ______ Halloween-Themed Articles: Stephen King’s IT and the Horrors of Addiction by Joshua Nichols, LMFT, CSAT - https://shorturl.at/5zrjc Un-Masking America: Why Our Culture Needs Halloween by Joshua Nichols, LMFT, CSAT - https://shorturl.at/9gizt ______ Therapist Directory: To find a therapist near you, visit https://www.psychologytoday.com Become a client of Josh & Carrie (must be present in the state of Oklahoma at the time of service) - https://www.familysolutionsok.com _____ For more great content, check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, we dive into the controversial topic of "Fat Culture." Is the word "fat" inherently fat-shaming, or does it reflect a cultural reality? We’ll explore the psychology of disgust, how societal standards perpetuate a thin vs. fat divide, and whether acceptance of different body types means ignoring health concerns altogether. Join us for an honest conversation on the complexities of body image and societal expectations. ____________ Episode Breakdown: 1. Is “Fat” a Shameful Label? We discuss whether calling someone "fat" is inherently derogatory or a neutral descriptor of body type. 2. The Role of Disgust in Shaming How feelings of disgust influence fat shaming and the psychological impact on individuals. 3. Fat vs Thin: Cultural Imbalance Examining how society favors thinness and the resulting stigmatization of larger bodies. 4. Does Acceptance Mean No Concern? We unpack whether body acceptance should come at the expense of health awareness. ___________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified S*x Addiction Therapist): https://www.iitap.com Somatic Experiencing: https://directory.traumahealing.org EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): https://www.emdria.org/find-a-therapist/ Brainspotting: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory IFS (Internal Family Systems): https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners ____________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. ___________ Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we explore the complex relationship between sexual addiction and the brain's functioning. Join us as we discuss how compulsive behaviors are driven by the brain's reward system and how the brain gets hi-jacked when addiction forms. We also dive into practical approaches for recovery and how trauma and emotional wounds contribute to the cycle of addiction. Whether you're a mental health professional, someone affected by these issues, or simply curious about the psychology of addiction, this episode is packed with insights and hope for healing. ____________________ Episode Breakdown: Dopamine and the Neuroscience of Sex Addiction: How the brain's reward system gets hijacked, leading to compulsive behaviors. Maladaptive Coping and the Role of Trauma: How unresolved trauma fuels addiction, and why addressing these wounds is crucial for recovery. Neuroplasticity and the Challenges in Breaking the Cycle of Addiction: Why willpower alone isn’t enough and how neuroplasticity can play a role in long-term change. Finding Hope in Recovery: Practical strategies for overcoming sex addiction and regaining control, including therapy, support systems, and healthier coping mechanisms. _____________ Books and Resources: 📚Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. - https://amzn.to/402uEOW 📚Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson - https://amzn.to/400P3nl 📚Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hi-Jacks the Male Brain by William Struthers, Ph.D. - https://amzn.to/3U8LWGu 📚The Brain the Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD - https://amzn.to/4dG1VCF 📚TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction by Michael Barta, Ph.D. CSAT - https://amzn.to/3zKPmbx As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. ___________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified S*x Addiction Therapist): https://www.iitap.com Somatic Experiencing: https://directory.traumahealing.org EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): https://www.emdria.org/find-a-therapist/ Brainspotting: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory IFS (Internal Family Systems): https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners ---------- About the Hosts: Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive deep into the valuable relational purpose of difficult emotions. Anger, resentment, guilt, and feelings of defeat are often seen as negative, but they hold important messages about our relationships. Join us as we explore how these emotions can act as signals for unmet needs, boundary issues, and personal growth. We discuss how to better understand and work through these feelings to foster healthier connections and emotional resilience. If you've ever struggled with managing tough emotions in your relationships, this episode is for you! Learn how to harness these feelings for deeper self-awareness and stronger, more authentic relationships. _______ Books to Consider: 📚The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., - https://amzn.to/3XUrbz5 📚The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman, Ph.D., - https://amzn.to/4gVvldB 📚The Library of Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/47VxR4J ___________ Therapist Directories: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ______________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive into the complex world of love addiction and limerence—two often misunderstood concepts that can deeply affect personal relationships. We’ll explore how childhood trauma plays a pivotal role in forming these patterns and, most importantly, offer hope and practical steps toward recovery. Whether you’re experiencing these struggles or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and guidance. Key Topics We’ll Cover: Love Addiction: What Is It and How Does It Impact Relationships? We discuss the signs and behaviors of love addiction, how it can disrupt lives, and why it’s essential to address. Limerence: The Obsession of Idealized Love. Limerence is that intense, often unreciprocated feeling of infatuation that can lead to emotional turmoil. We’ll break down how it differs from genuine love and the ways it can negatively impact mental health. The Role of Childhood Trauma in Love Addiction and Limerence. Early childhood experiences shape our emotional needs and relational patterns. We’ll explore how unresolved trauma can set the stage for addictive relationships and unhealthy attachments. Hope in Recovery: Healing and Moving Toward Healthy Relationships. Recovery is possible! We’ll discuss actionable strategies, therapeutic approaches, and the hope that exists for individuals recovering from love addiction and limerence. ___ Take the ACEs Quiz - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean ___ References used for this episode: Is It Love or Limerence - https://health.clevelandclinic.org/limerence Limerence (Psychology Today) - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/limerence?sockid=048b00caf77f646d2f53132ef6f16547 What Is Love Addiction (Psychology Today) - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-new-home/201902/what-is-love-addiction?msockid=048b00caf77f646d2f53132ef6f16547 Limerence of Love Addiction (LivingWithLimerence.com) - https://livingwithlimerence.com/limerence-or-love-addiction/ Can You Be Addicted to Love - https://health.clevelandclinic.org/addicted-to-love ___ Books on Love Addiction: Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://amzn.to/3zwxu3X Ready to Heal by Kelly McDaniel - https://amzn.to/3zqwRZL Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel - https://amzn.to/47KJRGn The Deepest Well (Book on ACEs Research) by Nadine Harris - https://amzn.to/47JOmkk ____ Therapy Resources: Love Addiction Therapists: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ____________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this special bonus episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, couples expert Donnie Van Curen delves into the heart-wrenching experience of a broken heart. Together, we'll explore some of the toughest questions that come with this deep emotional pain: Why does it hurt so much? Will the pain ever fade? Does this signal the end of a relationship or marriage? And perhaps most importantly, is it possible to heal a broken heart while still committing to your relationship? ----- Donnie Van Curen-related links: New Path 12:2 Christian Counseling – http://www.newpathok.com Counseling1820 – http://www.counseling1820.com New Path 12:2 Facebook Page – https://www.facebook.com/New-Path-122-Christian-Counseling-1652062238426679/ Donnie’s Book, “The Best Marriage Ever” - https://amzn.to/3B6YIhT “Ask Donnie” on News9 - http://www.news9.com/story/25774243/ask-donnie-best-time-for-a-fight Family Solutions Counseling links: website - https://www.familysolutionsok.com LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok.com -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "How to Handle Intrusive Thoughts in Sex Addiction Recovery" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfPOphLTTNk -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Affiliate Disclaimers: Some of the links in this post are affiliate links, meaning if you click through and make a purchase, I may earn a commission at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, hosts Carrie and Josh dive into the world of critical thinking and logical fallacies, drawing inspiration from Adam Grant's work on the Hierarchy of Critical Thinking. Critical thinking is the ability to objectively analyze and evaluate an issue in order to form a judgment. It’s a crucial skill in our increasingly complex world, helping us to make informed decisions and avoid being misled. But even the best critical thinkers can fall victim to logical fallacies—errors in reasoning that can undermine an argument. Join us as we break down three common logical fallacies: 1. Anecdotal Fallacy: Relying on personal experiences or isolated examples instead of sound evidence to support a claim. 2. Tu Quoque Fallacy: Deflecting criticism by pointing out flaws in the critic, rather than addressing the argument itself. 3. Either/Or Fallacy: Oversimplifying a situation by presenting only two extreme options when, in reality, more possibilities exist. Understanding these fallacies is key to sharpening your critical thinking skills and making more rational decisions in both personal and professional life. Tune in to learn how to spot these fallacies in everyday conversations, and strengthen your ability to think critically. Don’t miss this essential episode for anyone looking to enhance their reasoning skills and engage in more meaningful discussions. --- Book Reference: “Think Again” by Adam Grant - https://amzn.to/3TH4L3p Logical Fallacies Website: https://www.logicalfallacies.org Logical Fallacies Detector: https://www.logicalfallacies.org/fallacy-detectory YouTube Video Reference: https://youtu.be/P3w6LTkRCZQ?si=u7MIEYf4cEocI2vR Election Stress Blog by Carl Patterson - https://familysolutionsok.com/election-stress --- **Subscribe** to our channel for more insightful episodes, and don't forget to **like** and **comment** to join the conversation! Check out our Link Tree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ---- #TherapistsTakePodcast #CriticalThinking #LogicalFallacies #AdamGrant #MentalHealth #Psychology #AnecdotalFallacy #TuQuoque #EitherOrFallacy

In this episode, Carrie and Josh take you all the way back to the very first Therapists' Take episode, before it was a podcast. Here they tackle the "Karen" phenomenon—a topic that has sparked countless debates, memes, and YouTube channels. Join us as we explore: The origins of the "Karen" phenomenon and its evolution over time. What "Karen" really means and the stereotypes it perpetuates. Whether the "Karen" label contributes to female suppression or reinforces harmful stereotypes. The idea that we all have "Karen moments" and what they reveal about us. How the "Karen" phenomenon has impacted our culture—are there redeeming qualities? Don't miss this insightful discussion that goes beyond the surface to explore the psychological and cultural implications of the "Karen" phenomenon. _________________ About the Hosts Joshua Nichols is a licensed marital and family therapist (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. In addition to his passion of creating quality mental health content, he also is co-owner and therapist of a private practice group called Family Solutions Counseling - https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Fair Use Disclaimer: This video contains copyrighted material, the use of which has not always been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We are making such material available in our efforts to advance understanding of issues related to childhood trauma and impact it has on our adult desire for and understanding of unconditional love. We believe this constitutes a 'fair use' of any such copyrighted material as provided for in section 107 of the US Copyright Law. In accordance with Title 17 U.S.C. Section 107, the material in this video is distributed without profit to those who have expressed a prior interest in receiving the included information for research and educational purposes. If you wish to use copyrighted material from this video for purposes of your own that go beyond 'fair use,' you must obtain permission from the copyright owner.

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the emotional turmoil faithful partners experience after infidelity, particularly the pervasive feeling of foolishness. We'll explore why so many partners blame themselves and break down the three most common ways this feeling manifests: "I feel foolish for letting it happen," "I feel foolish for letting it happen again," and "I feel foolish for staying." We'll also discuss how to navigate the uncertainty that follows betrayal and the journey toward regaining a sense of self. Join us as we unpack these complex emotions and offer insights to help faithful partners find healing and empowerment. _________________ Recommended Books for Faithful Partners Impacted by Infidelity: The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays - https://amzn.to/4dvY4sQ Mending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie Carnes - https://amzn.to/3Av8ryj Intimate Deception by Sheri Keffer - https://amzn.to/3M7lLeH _________________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) - Betrayal Trauma Informed Website: https://www.iitap.com/find-a-professional EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Website: https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS (Internal Family Systems) Website: https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing Website: https://directory.traumahealing.org/ Neurofeedback Website: https://isnr.org/neurofeedback-directory Brainspotting Website: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory _________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) and certified sex addiction therapists (CSAT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website - www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include Instagram and Apple Podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _________________ Articles by Carrie & Josh - What Is Transitional Distrust - https://shorturl.at/gpuTZ - Introducing Reflection Aggression - https://shorturl.at/bpHPW - The 12 Types of Gaslighting - https://shorturl.at/dHb4Q _________________ Equipment Used & Other Amazon Links: Mic Stands - https://amzn.to/46o4So6 Rode Pod Mic - https://amzn.to/3Rsw5Sz Pyle Mixer Board - https://amzn.to/3ZsJU5g iRig Pre 2 - https://amzn.to/3ZpCPm9 _________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we are joined by Whitney Alexander, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR therapist and consultant, and founder of the Warren Alexander Group. Whitney brings a wealth of knowledge and experience in trauma therapy, particularly in addressing the complexities of PTSD. Today, we’ll explore the profound impact of Complex PTSD and delve into the feelings of brokenness that often accompany it. Join us for an insightful discussion on how to navigate the journey of healing from deep emotional wounds. ___________ Here some of the topics you'll hear discussed in this episode: What Is Complex PTSD The Concept of Mis-Attunement The Concept of Emotional Flashbacks "Being Seen" as It Relates to Complex PTSD "Brokenness" and the Impact on Self Guilt vs [Toxic] Shame Childhood Origins and the Power of Repair No One Wants a Sad Story Therapeutic Approaches and Building Your Team Practical Steps Toward Healing and Resiliency _________ Books: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker - https://amzn.to/3WEkoctHealing the Shame that Binds You - https://amzn.to/3Agxwgr What Happened to You by Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey - https://amzn.to/3WWFd3X What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo - https://amzn.to/3YFj8s6 The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk - https://amzn.to/4dFc2Iv —————- Learn More About Our Guest - https://warrenalexandergroup.com/our-staff Check our Link Tree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok __________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________________ Equipment Used & Other Amazon Links: Mic Stands - https://amzn.to/46o4So6 Rode Pod Mic - https://amzn.to/3Rsw5Sz Pyle Mixer Board - https://amzn.to/3ZsJU5g iRig Pre 2 - https://amzn.to/3ZpCPm9 As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases. #ComplexPTSD #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthPodcast

I think it is safe to say that the challenges parents face in the twenty-first century are far more complex than the challenges parents faced even one or two generations ago. What do we tend to blame? Technology! In reality, technology has always been the bane of parental existence. The world has always been going to hell in a hand basket. How many generations of parents can relate to that feeling when they stumble across their children’s magazines or comics books, music albums or playlists, movie interests or YouTube subscriptions. How many times have we sighed and rolled our eyes in that “hell in a hand basket” sort of way? I think we all can relate. But there is something different about the world today that just didn’t exist 30 years ago, or at least to the capacity that it does today. That difference is how digital our world has become. So, although parents have always battled the evolution of tech, the challenges parents face today due the rapid evolution and vast presence of tech is unparalleled to generations before. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh are going to talk about the real parental challenges of raising children in a digital world. This episode will follow the following format: - Why are parents concerned about the advancements of tech? Why does this characterize parents for generations? - What’s the differences between digital natives and digital immigrants? Why does it matter? - What are unhelpful responses? The problem with tech-shaming. - What are optimal responses? The power of relationships and healthy attachments. ________________________ Books: Closer Together Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Parenting, Work, and Relationships by Robert Weiss & Jennifer P. Schneider - https://amzn.to/3yeDyxd The Distracted Mind: Ancient Brains in a High-Tech World by Adam Gazzaley and Larry D. Rosen - https://amzn.to/3Ylh2NV Video Games and Your Kids: How Parents Stay in Control by Hilarie Cash and Kim McDaniel - https://amzn.to/4bWlRjL ________________________ YouTube by RecoveryTV: Is Tech Ruining Society and Relationships with/ Dr. Rob Weiss - https://youtu.be/W2Z48giYxR0?si=B5iLYtFid5tQYbcI Parenting in a P*rnified Culture w/ Diana Giles - https://youtu.be/OqKED5SdGD4?si=Lh5ipOnj8GPCwzYo 5 Ways to Protect Children from Online P*** w/ Diana Giles - https://youtu.be/xXBb0bvY2fE?si=ETwh30V5jevU4UCB ________________________ Websites Sensible Cyber Parenting - https://sensiblecyberparenting.com Culture Reframed - https://culturereframed.org ________________________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

Everybody has heard of sexual infidelity, but what is financial infidelity? If fidelity is the “quality or state of being faithful,” according to Merriam-Webster.com, then “infidelity” would be the opposite of that, which might be why “unfaithful” has become synonymous with sexual infidelity. So, we can safely assume that financial infidelity is some kind of egregious relational violation involving the family finances. Debra Kaplan, in her book “For Love and Money” defines it as, “…the keeping of financial secrets in an intimate partnership.” In this episode of Therapists’ Take podcast, Carrie and Josh are going to discuss the concept of financial infidelity. The structure of this episode will go as follows: - What Are the Variations of Financial Infidelity? - Are There Any Links to Sexual Infidelity? - What Are Red Flags? - Any Preventative Measures? Thanks for tuning in to this episode. As always please check out the resources linked in the below. ___________________ Books by Debra Kaplan: For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationships - https://amzn.to/3y6MWD8 Coupleship Inc.: From Financial Conflict to Financial Intimacy- https://amzn.to/3LwgFs8 Battle of the Titans: Battling the Forces of Sex, Money, and Power in Relationships - https://amzn.to/4d5ujhK _____________________ Resources: Debra Kaplan's Website - https://debrakaplancounseling.com/ Family Solutions Counseling Website - https://www.familysolutionsok.com Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

Have you ever done something truly courageous? If so, what was it? What made it an act of courage for you? If you haven’t, then why not? What has held you back? Is it possible you were brave at times, yet your brain doesn’t conceptualize it as courage? Courage is a complicated concept and phenomenon. Most human beings over the age of three have displayed acts of courage. So how come we often don’t feel that way? How come we can do something that is objectively brave, yet we don’t feel brave? In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, host Joshua Nichols, and guest host, Rebel Buersmeyer, will walk us through the complexities of the phenomenon in effort to help us understand it better. You'll hear an amazing story of courage where Rebel was in the position where she was compelled to land a small plane on an unfamiliar landing strip. Rebel and Josh will also discuss the role shame plays, the role of fear, and the problem they have with the concept of "cowardice." Here are some great quotes from the episode: "You only have to be brave five seconds at a time." "The opposite of being courageous isn't cowardice, it's just being." ____________________________ The structure of this episode will be as follows: 00:00 - Hi, Rebel! 02:00 - Episode Format 05:55 - Rebel's Courage While Flying a Plane 17:10 - Defining Courage 23:10 - Paradoxical Courage 33:35 - The Problem of Cowardice 42:50 - The Power of Short-Lived Courage __________________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ BOOK: Will by Will Smith - https://amzn.to/465ndrq ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

This bonus episode is technically the ending to Episode 28: On the Complex Role of Anger after Infidelity. This particular portion primarily focuses on the unfaithful partner's anger that often has been long suppressed. That, however, does not mean that it is always appropriate to express to the betrayed partner who is healing from the act(s) of infidelity, but it can no longer be repressed either. It's quite the conundrum. We hope you enjoy this episode, but you can watch the full episode, which is linked below. __________________ The Role of Anger After Infidelity (LIVE video broadcast) - https://www.youtube.com/live/SQqbm-Rrlto?si=RRaliEwLCXgdtYv4 The Role of Anger After Infidelity (YouTube Podcast) - https://youtu.be/nZ-ZEDgji00 __________________ Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Most people can intellectually understand that anger is a reasonable emotional response for those who discover the infidelity of their partners. Anger makes sense, but is it helpful? Does it have a purpose or place in one’s recovery? The reality is that many of us have a complicated relationship with anger. Some are more comfortable with it than they should be and others may be so uncomfortable with it that they rarely express it; and then there is everything in between. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh will discuss the complexities of anger as well as how it can effectively be used to aid in the process of recovery. Here is the structure of the episode: - The Purpose of Anger After Discovery - Toxic Anger vs Healing Anger - Anger and Accountability to Boundaries - The Anger of the Unfaithful Partner Please tune in for this LIVE broadcast. #angermanagement #betrayaltraumarecovery #podcast Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________ Equipment Used & Other Amazon Links: Mic Stands - https://amzn.to/46o4So6 Rode Pod Mic - https://amzn.to/3Rsw5Sz Pyle Mixer Board - https://amzn.to/3ZsJU5g iRig Pre 2 - https://amzn.to/3ZpCPm9 As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

You may have heard some version for the following phrase in reference to couple communication - “You have a perspective. Your partner has a perspective. Then, there is what really happened.” You also likely are familiar with the research on eye-witness testimony that speaks to just how wildly unreliable eye-witness testimony is in a court of law. So, if our memory is seemingly so unreliable, then what’s the point? What is the purpose of memory; and can it be used in a way to enhance couple communication as opposed to escalation disagreement and amplifying already heightened emotions? In this episode of Therapists’ Take Podcast, Carrie and Josh are going to have a conversation about memory, its limitations, and how it can be most effectively utilized in couple communication. The structure of this episode will be as follows: - How does memory serve us? - Why does memory change? - What are limitations to memory? - How can memory be properly utilized in couple communication? ______________ Links: Topic: Flashbulb Memory | Ep: Free Brian Williams | Revisionist History Podcast | Season 3 Episode 4 - https://youtu.be/Nn7RPk5e4uA?si=RI7b8u4YPO5P2DPN How Reliable Is Eye-Witness Testimony? - https://www.science.org/content/article/how-reliable-eyewitness-testimony-scientists-weigh Black Mirror clip - https://youtu.be/hv68PrVbW4k?si=dkcYqyatrm27fsMg _________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

No one likes a bully! More often than not when you imagine “a bully” your mind gravitates to some kid from your childhood that pulled your hair, called you names, or even inflicted physical harm upon you. We just can’t wait to be grown so we don’t have to deal with that anymore, right? Wait! Do bullies exist in adulthood as well. The short answer is “yes,” but it often manifests differently. In this episode of #TherapistsTakePodcast, Carrie and Josh are going to talk about adult bullies. Not only are they going to give their take on the nuances and subtleties of how adult bullies function as opposed to childhood bullies. _______________ 00:00 - Hi, Carrie! 06:34 - Episode Structure 09:08 - Why Adult Bullying Is Difficult to Recognize 17:30 - The Tactical Nuances of the Adult Bully 29:30 - Effectively Responding to the Adult Bully 44:33 - The Logic Bully 49:28 - Assessing the Emotional Aftermath _______________ Referenced in the Episode: Disordered Eating Episode w/ Rebel Buersmeyer - https://youtube.com/live/6l9T2_GVWlY?feature=share The Michael Richards Clip (21:50) - https://youtu.be/mNSK5aLIt_M?si=9K3Uh6KgJkZ2xvd9 Adam Grant Podcast - https://adamgrant.net/podcasts/ The Fresh and Fit Clip (47:35) - https://youtu.be/_yPPqKb5WIo?si=BYyG9CWA04S2IfH4 Gaslighting Playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKQiGv_EQ7Rh-Jc_Asg4Rm5BC-m9v2e Gaslighting Article - https://familysolutionsok.com/vulnerability-exploitation-twelve-typologies-of-gaslightingfound-in-committed-couple-relationships/ Logic Bully Article - https://nicholsworth.medium.com/life-is-short-dont-be-a-logic-bully-e78a71e5e39d ________________ Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Bullying Website - https://www.stopbullying.gov/ Article: Adult Bullying Is a Thing, Too - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-we-are/202102/adult-bullying-is-thing-too ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. _______________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases. #bullyingawareness #bullyprevention #mentalhealthpodcast

The decision to leave a marriage or a committed relationship is hardly ever an easy decision and it’s even harder to execute. As much as we applaud the courage it takes to leave when that time comes, it doesn’t change the reality that it is supposed to be hard. It shouldn’t be an easy decision; and it most definitely shouldn’t be a knee-jerk reaction. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, podcast hosts and professional couples therapists, Josh and Carrie, are going to discuss a question that is often dreaded and sometimes painfully avoided - How do I know when it is time to leave my marriage (or committed relationship)? The format of this episode will go as follows: - When does someone have the “right” to leave? - What are the valid concerns or fears in staying or leaving? - Valuing Togetherness Over Happiness Diminishes Accountability - Josh’s Paradox: If you’re NOT willing to lose each other, you’re NOT ready to have each other. __________________ Books for Couples Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel - https://amzn.to/3RfFN9K Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman - https://amzn.to/4aYuUjD Why Him, Why Her? By Helen Fisher - https://amzn.to/4aSN4n7 The Anatomy of Love by Helen Fisher - https://amzn.to/3Vd4mFl Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson - https://amzn.to/4aUFrN5 The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman - https://amzn.to/45f535Q The Works of John Gottman - https://amzn.to/3KyRgxz _______________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ _______________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases. #mentalhealthpodcast #marriage #podcastshow

The decision to go to therapy is not an easy one. In addition to figuring our how you are going to afford it, there is also many other emotional barriers to overcome like overcoming the social stigma, facing your sense of failure or embarrassment, not to mention all that goes in to choosing the “right” therapist. With all the effort and vulnerability that goes in to merely making the decision, the last thing you want to experience is therapy “not working.” When people have the experience in therapy, it can often leave a stain on their perception of therapy and its efficacy that ends up being just another barrier to overcome. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh are going to address this issue and discuss what they believe people can do in effort to get the most out of therapy. Their discussion will be broken down into the following segments: - The Search: Finding a Good Fit - The Session: What to Do While in Session - The In-Between: What to Do in Between Sessions - The Follow-Through: What About When Therapy Ends? _______________ Carl Patterson wrote an excellent blog on this very issue. Please check it out at https://familysolutionsok.com/stop-paying-therapists/ Carrie & Rebel's episode on EMDR - https://youtube.com/live/sGb1tTJqbA0?feature=share What Is Betrayal Trauma - https://youtu.be/4F8lVLc4UyM _________________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. _____________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.