Better Than Perfect | A Relationship Podcast

This is the definitive episode on male authority in a relationship. We break down logically why it is important and makes sense from a non-religious, completely logical standpoint.Every man should watch this episode to understand how to explain masculine authority and how to act as a true masculine leader.

Are men being “ruined by women”…or by men selling victimhood? In this episode we unpack how red-pill rage-bait hijacks your attention, feeds the male-loneliness loop, and what to do instead: build character, set standards, and lead with strength (not contempt).What you’ll learn• Why the “red-pill cult” works (algorithms, outrage, identity)• Guidance vs. rigid rules—how dogma breeds hypocrisy• Character > looks: discipline, sovereignty, self-respect• How stats get abused (divorce, dating) and what winners actually do• Redemption with consequences: evaluate people case-by-case• Servant leadership that makes relationships safer and stronger• The RPP (Relationship Protection Program): boundaries that prevent messes• A real relationship lab: fixing “anticipatory defensiveness” with vulnerabilityChapters (tap to jump)00:00 Cold open: hypocrisy & double standards02:10 Why we’re calling it a cult (and how the algorithm traps you)07:45 The original idea vs. what it became12:30 Guidance, not dogma—standards without dehumanising anyone18:05 Character beats aesthetics (discipline, sovereignty, service)24:00 The stats trap: cherry-picking risk vs. building skill31:40 Redemption, consequences, and discernment38:15 Servant leadership vs. domination44:10 RPP: no opposite-sex “besties,” no solo hangouts, no secret venting49:30 Relationship lab: repairing anticipatory defensiveness56:50 QOTD + wrapThe Playbook (quick hits)• For Men: Unfollow rage-bait, lift daily, build something that compounds, write your standards, enforce calmly, be willing to walk.• For Women: Reward steady leadership; boundaries without contempt.• For Couples: Adopt the RPP, run a weekly sync (wins, worries, one upgrade), use the repair script: “When X happened, the story I told myself was ___. The impact was ___. What was true for you?”Quoteables• “Men aren’t alone because of women; they’re alone because men sell them victimhood.”• “Guidance builds wisdom; rules breed hypocrisy.”• “Attention is your most stolen asset—take it back.”Question of the WeekWhy aren’t men doing what it takes to be men anymore? What’s the real blocker you’re seeing—and how do we fix it? Drop your take in the comments.👩‍❤️‍👨 Subscribe for weekly episodes: two imperfect people, one better-than-perfect relationship.📝 Send a confession or dilemma: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.com🌐 Episodes, show notes, and updates: BetterThanPerfectPod.com#relationships #datingadvice #masculinity #femininity #selfimprovement #redpill #marriage #boundaries #personaldevelopment #podcast

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Two imperfect people tackle a brutal Reddit letter: “My boyfriend admits he’ll never love me as much as his childhood best friend.” We break down friend-zone vs slept-zone, orbiters, and why clear standards beat “looking insecure.”What you’ll learn• The friend-zone asymmetry: women park guys; men keep women they’ve already slept with• Why “I loved her more” is a deal-breaker, not a dialogue starter• No-ex/no-bestie boundaries and the RPP: Relationship Protection Program• How orbiters erode attraction and loyalty• Exact scripts to set standards without dramaChapters00:00 Intro01:10 Friend-zone vs slept-zone: risks for each side04:05 Reddit case: “He’ll never love me as much as her”09:00 Why that confession kills trust12:20 Standards vs “you’re controlling”16:30 The RPP: no exes, no opposite-sex besties, no solo hangouts21:10 Orbiters and false loyalty to “childhood friends”26:00 Scripts and boundaries that actually work31:30 Key takeawaysSend your questionEmail: BetterThanPerfectPod@gmail.comSite: BetterThanPerfectPod.comSupport the showIf this helped, tap Like, comment your takeaway, and share with a friend who needs stronger boundaries.

Two imperfect people, one spicy topic. We revisit erotica culture, BookTok “spice,” and why the fantasy of extreme dominance can quietly rewire desire, derail intimacy, and normalize what shouldn’t be normal. We also read a listener email from a husband navigating his wife’s romance-novel habit and share concrete steps for couples who want passion without porn—or “book porn.”What you’ll learn• How “spice” conditions arousal (just like porn) and what that does to real intimacy• The healthy female desire for strength and leadership vs degradation and harm• Why men and women experience dominance differently—and how to keep it healthy• Resetting your libido: a simple desensitization plan that actually works• Boundaries and scripts to talk about this without blowing up your relationship• How to replace fantasy with presence and real connectionChapters00:00 Intro: the root desire and “strong dominant man”02:05 Why we’re revisiting smut novels now06:10 When fantasy crosses into harmful conditioning10:45 “Female porn”? How books get normalized vs porn shamed15:20 The dominance line: strength without degradation20:05 Listener email: when the books replace the bedroom27:30 Scripts and boundaries that work (for both partners)33:15 How to resensitize your desire and reconnect39:00 What to do if your partner won’t stop43:10 Takeaways for couplesResources mentioned (no links)• The Queen’s Code (Alison Armstrong)• The Empowered Wife / The Surrendered Wife (Laura Doyle)• Video commentary on the “female gooner” trendSend your questionEmail: BetterThanPerfectPod@gmail.comSite: BetterThanPerfectPod.comSupport the showIf this helped, tap Like, drop your takeaway in the comments, and share with a friend who’s “just reading for the plot.”

We answer Maria’s big question: Should you delay dating to work on yourself, or date to grow? We break down timing for men vs women, how to avoid “healing as avoidance,” what real standards look like, and how to prepare yourself so the right person actually shows up.What you’ll learnThe difference between healing and hidingWhy timing looks different for men and women—and what to do about itStandards vs expectations (and the one standard that stops toxic loops)How to spot avoidance disguised as self-workThe “bus stop” model: making timing meet preparationWhy most growth happens in relationship—and how not to sabotage itChapters00:00 Cold open: “Am I too picky—or just not settling?”01:03 Welcome back + life updates (UPW, Vegas, Ren Fair)03:18 Maria’s email: timing, self-work, and not settling06:20 Jumping into relationships vs waiting—what actually works10:05 Men’s path: build capability, leadership, stability14:10 Women’s path: discernment, standards, environment17:32 Healing vs avoidance: the tell-tale signs21:05 Standards that prevent toxicity (and how to enforce them)26:00 “Don’t date someone you won’t marry”—with nuance29:40 Growing together: why most growth is messy (and worth it)33:45 The “bus stop” analogy: creating your own timing37:10 Action steps + books that help (Queen’s Code, etc.)40:05 Q&A wrap + how to send your questionsSend your questionEmail: BetterThanPerfectPodcast@gmail.comSite: BetterThanPerfectPod.comSupport the showLike, comment your takeaway, and share this with someone who’s “waiting for the right time.”

A hundred down… and here’s the other fifty. 🎉This is Part 2 of our 100th-episode celebration: a rapid-fire recap of Episodes 51–100. We revisit the biggest lessons (and a few hot takes): standards vs. expectations, how long to stay unhappy, defensiveness, chivalry, “what do you bring to the table?”, community, conflict, brutal truths for young and older women, modern-traditional roles, AI + dating, the “financial abuse” debate, winning your wife back, and the #1 relationship killer (resentment).What you’ll learn• How men can raise standards (not expectations) and stop tolerating disrespect• A sane way to assess “I’m unhappy”—without pulling the parachute• Why defensiveness torpedoes intimacy (and how to drop it)• Chivalry, compliments, and the right kind of masculine leadership• Why tolerance breeds resentment—and how to use conflict to bond• The real talk for young women (leverage youth wisely) and older single women (lead with warmth, not baggage)• How community accelerates growth—and when misalignment means boundaries• Why red-pill hate harms boys and men—and what servant leadership looks like instead• AI, smut, and social media: guarding desire in a digital world• Practical steps to “win your wife back” (nothing manipulative—just standards)Chapters (drop these in and tweak times after upload)00:00 Cold open: Men, red pill, and leading with love02:10 What we’re doing: Episodes 51–100 recap04:05 E51 Standards vs. expectations (and why men set the bar too low)07:35 E52 How long to be unhappy—and what “no parachute” actually means11:05 E53 Our most important lessons (defensiveness, vulnerability, timing)14:00 E54–55 Gold diggers, flirting with confidence (not “nice guy” energy)18:10 E56–60 Chivalry, “women don’t care about men’s feelings?”, breakups, and “I need space”24:00 E61–64 Is love enough? Why conflict beats tolerance every time28:50 E65–66 Brutal truths for young vs. older single women33:40 E67–68 Modern-traditional roles & can the right relationship heal you?38:10 E69 Hard advice for men in their 20s (build, don’t date)41:15 E70–72 She’s DMing your husband?! + The Way of the Superior Man + The Queen’s Code46:00 E73–74 Red-pill crisis & the power of forgiveness (how we used it)51:00 E75–77 “Men are dumb, women are crazy,” health, loyalty under stress55:30 E78–80 Fighting styles, toxic ties, and “high standards vs. mediocre men”59:30 E81–83 AI & dating, “women out of control?”, and marriage myths that hurt men1:04:30 E84–86 Compliments men never hear, why waiting can help, and simps/pay-pigs1:09:20 E87–90 Myths debunked, how to win your wife back, status crazy1:14:10 E91–96 Wired to cheat/status, the “financial abuse” dust-up, destroying your sex life1:19:20 E97–100 Therapy-speak fatigue, investment > sex, and Ep. 100 recap wrap-up1:23:10 What changed for us: dropping defensiveness & cleaner conflictBooks & resources we mention• The Way of the Superior Man — David Deida• The Queen’s Code — Alison Armstrong• The Surrendered Wife — Laura DoyleJoin the conversationWhich episode from 51–100 changed your mind the most—and why? Drop a comment (be kind, be specific).About the showBetter Than Perfect is two imperfect people helping each other grow into one better-than-perfect relationship. New episodes every week.Support the pod• Like & subscribe (it really helps)• Share this with a couple that needs practical guardrails• Listen/watch all episodes at betterthanperfectpod.com#BetterThanPerfectPodcast #Episode101 #relationships #marriage #boundaries #polarity #datingadvice #marriageadvice #conflictresolution #traditionalrelationship #AIandDating

A hundred episodes. One imperfect couple. A ton of growth.In our 100th episode, we celebrate by recapping the first 50 episodes of Better Than Perfect — what still holds up, what we’ve refined, and the lessons that changed our relationship. We kick off with a spicy debate on bars and clubs, respect vs control, and then speed-run through episodes 1 to 50: marriage, boundaries, conflict, polarity, resentment, smut vs porn, “girls night out,” and more.Chapters00:00 Welcome to our 100th episode01:05 Bars, clubs, respect, and the “if I wouldn’t want you to, I won’t either” rule08:12 Ep 1 Is marriage still worth it10:58 Ep 2 The 5 rules that changed our relationship location sharing no exes no friends of the opposite sex no girls guys night out phone and email transparency15:45 Ep 3 Why 50 50 doesn’t work for intimacy and polarity18:20 Ep 4 How to keep the honeymoon phase by clearing resentment21:02 Ep 5 He cheated the hard lessons and full ownership24:40 Ep 6 Fighting fair conflict that bonds instead of breaks27:10 Ep 7 Why women date “ugly” men confidence vs looks29:50 Ep 8 Why traditional beats transactional32:15 Ep 9 First date tips playful flirty purposeful34:05 Ep 10 How a man leads servant leadership not barking orders37:20 Ep 11 No girls night out or guys night out and why it is about respect41:05 Ep 12 Why jerks and losers sometimes win and what actually attracts women44:10 Ep 13 Men’s biggest struggles today pride purpose and adversity47:40 Ep 14 When you mess up pausing an episode to repair in real time49:35 Ep 15 Two become one team vs two roommates52:00 Ep 16 Happy wife over happy mom cutting the cord kindly54:20 Ep 17 Can one person be enough forever and the reassurance dance56:30 Ep 18 Sex intimacy and frequency without scorekeeping58:35 Ep 19 Travel stress test before commitment01:00:55 Ep 20 Social media iPhones and modern temptation01:03:40 Ep 21 Kids change everything do not use them to fix problems01:06:15 Ep 22 How to romance a woman yes it starts long before the bedroom01:08:30 Ep 23 Should a woman propose we say no and why01:10:10 Ep 24 How women can be romantic feminine seduction done right01:12:30 Ep 25 Who settles more and why it looks different for men and women01:15:25 Ep 26 Should you take someone back rare exceptions and clear standards01:18:40 Ep 27 Men do not want boss babes they want kind feminine partners01:21:05 Ep 28 Passport bros why running away dodges the real work01:24:00 Ep 30 I love you but I don’t like you dismantling contempt01:26:20 Ep 31 The Surrendered Wife key takeaways01:28:50 Ep 32 If she isn’t a little scared you could cheat do you have any juice01:31:15 Ep 33 The biggest problem making men weak loss of pride and purpose01:34:00 Ep 35 Why men and women hate each other and how to stop01:36:45 Ep 36 Confident dominance vs controlling behavior01:39:30 Ep 37 Why women initiate most divorces and what men can do01:42:20 Ep 38 Why buy the cow if you give the milk away investment matters01:44:50 Ep 39 What men get from marriage beyond romance01:47:20 Ep 40 Delicate and strong vulnerability makes you invulnerable01:49:30 Ep 41 Are the five love languages enough and what’s missing01:51:40 Ep 42 Our big fight and how we repaired01:54:10 Ep 43 Her role as support rocket fuel and why it matters01:56:40 Ep 44 Are men dangerous understanding fear and safety01:59:20 Ep 45 Polarity flips when she is masculine and he is feminine can it change02:01:40 Ep 46 Self-sabotage spotting insecurity before it sinks you02:03:55 Ep 47 Do traditional roles limit your life or create freedom02:06:30 Ep 48 Should we open our relationship we say no and why02:09:00 Ep 49 Is reading smut the same as porn and what it does to desire02:11:40 Ep 50 How women try to control men and how to let go02:14:20 Wrap next week we cover episodes 51 to 100

Dating works better when it’s playful, curious, and pressure-free. We break down why leading with “I’m looking for marriage” screams desperation, how to keep things fun without being a player, and the masculine/feminine dance (men = guardians of commitment, women = guardians of sex). Plus: practical scripts, what “leadership” actually looks like on dates, and when to talk commitment.Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Treat dating like it’s fun.” • 00:40 Intro + the mindset shift (labels kill chemistry) • 03:15 Why “dating for marriage” backfires (neediness vs. selection) • 07:20 The dance: guardians of sex & commitment explained • 11:45 Nice-guy trap vs. jerk trap (and the real third path) • 16:30 Women’s lens: validation, vetting, and slow mystery • 22:10 Leadership & assertiveness vs tactics (how men actually improve) • 27:35 Scripts: flirt without pressure; set clean boundaries • 33:10 When to bring up commitment (timing & phrasing) • 38:25 Red flags: manipulation, love-bombing, performative “boundaries” • 43:10 Weekly challenge + recapRelevant links • Show site & all episodes: https://betterthanperfectpod.com • Gottman Institute (communication & dating research): https://www.gottman.com • Mark Manson’s Models (authentic attraction for men): https://markmanson.net/models • Esther Perel (desire & modern relationships): https://www.estherperel.comQuick takeaways • Don’t announce outcomes; create chemistry first. • Men: lead with playful flirt + clear plans, not neediness. • Women: keep it fun, vet slowly, don’t chase validation. • Talk commitment after mutual momentum, not as an opener.

Therapy terms were meant to heal—so why are they tearing us apart? Today we dig into therapy speak fatigue: how labels like “gaslighting,” “narcissist,” and even “boundaries” get weaponized, why validation isn’t agreement, and how to communicate without hiding behind buzzwords. We share concrete phrasing to replace labels with specifics so you can actually fix problems (and reconnect).Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Therapy speak is creating a divide” • 00:40 Intro + what we mean by “therapy speak” • 03:10 Weaponizing labels (gaslighting, narcissist, “holding space”) • 07:25 When big words dilute real abuse and real harm • 11:40 Validation vs. agreement (and why constant validation backfires) • 15:30 Boundaries vs. pathologizing: the clean way to set a boundary • 20:05 Scripts: describe behaviors without buzzwords • 25:10 Kids/Gen Z, schools, and the “diagnosis as identity” trap • 29:45 “Therapist as judge” + why outsourced accountability fails • 34:20 Coaching lens: responsibility you control vs. world you don’t • 38:15 If your partner weaponizes therapy speak—what to do next • 43:10 Weekly challenge + recapRelevant links & resources • Show site & all episodes: https://betterthanperfectpod.com • Gottman Institute (communication & conflict research): https://www.gottman.com • “Attached” (attachment styles): Amir Levine & Rachel HellerSend us your story or question: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.comFollow on socials: @betterthanperfectpodcastTakeaways • Use specifics over labels: “When you did X, I experienced Y. Here’s what I need next.” • Boundaries you control: “If name-calling starts, I’ll pause this convo and reschedule.” • Validation ≠ agreement. You can honor feelings without surrendering facts.

Most men say “don’t be insecure”—and accidentally make it worse. In this episode we show exactly what to say and do when your partner spirals, why silent treatment is emotional manipulation, and how to stop the avoidant ↔ anxious ping-pong. We role-play a real scenario (the “gym girls” fear), break down a viral Reddit post where a partner went 7 days with no contact, and give practical reassurance scripts that calm anxiety without coddling.Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Don’t be so insecure” (why that backfires) • 01:20 Setup + listener Reddit post summary • 04:05 7 days of silence: space vs. manipulation • 08:40 Why “You’re hot, stop worrying” doesn’t reassure her • 12:15 Role-play: the gym girls insecurity (listen → reflect → reassure) • 18:10 When she’s anxious and he’s avoidant: breaking the loop • 22:45 “Thermostat vs. Regulator”: who feels closeness, who fixes it • 27:30 Mixed signals aren’t mixed—they’re messages • 31:05 Boundaries: what to do if he won’t engage • 36:20 Men’s playbook: reassurance scripts that actually work • 41:00 Women’s playbook: ask for help without “frog-farming” • 46:15 Quick recap + weekly challengesRelevant links & resources • “Attached” (Amir Levine & Rachel Heller) — on anxious/avoidant patterns • The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling (Gottman Institute): https://www.gottman.com • Say hi / send your story: betterthanperfectpodcast@gmail.com • IG/TikTok: @betterthanperfectpodcastIf this helped, drop a comment with the most useful line you plan to use this week. 💬

Is “taking care of her” just a 1950s rerun—or the modern blueprint for trust and polarity? We unpack the blowback from a viral clip about men running household finances, clarify shielding vs. controlling, and show how real servant leadership lifts stress off her plate without putting her in the dark. For women, we cover how to stop emasculating potential (aka frog-farming), set standards without mothering, and hand responsibility back in ways that grow his competence and confidence. For men, you’ll get a Plan-As-a-Man financial continuity checklist (life insurance, trust/will, “open this if I die” doc), plus scripts to lead decisively without becoming a tyrant. We also break down the difference between equal power and identical roles, why 50/50 often kills spark, and a real conflict story that shows why you must speak up early—kindly, but clearly.Timestamps (approx.)0:00 Cold open: “Don’t crush his potential”2:20 Why the internet freaked out about the finance clip5:40 Leadership vs. control (and what “shielding” actually means)9:15 When she manages everything: the hidden hypocrisy12:00 Standards, vetting, and not dating “potential”15:30 Single vs. married playbooks: raising the bar or recalibrating roles18:20 Plan-As-a-Man: life insurance, trust/will, one-page continuity22:30 Polarity > identical roles (why 50/50 feels like roommates)26:10 Women: stop frog-farming; praise & pass-back without mothering29:30 Men: servant leadership habits + speak-up protocol33:10 Our late-night repair: say it sooner, keep it kinder36:30 Takeaways + weekly actions

Two times a week and still unhappy? We unpack a Reddit case where a husband pushes porn “training,” demands replies while she’s with their kid, and even threatens to find someone else. We explain why that nukes trust and desire—and what actually builds a great sex life: enthusiasm, not obligation. You’ll learn how porn scripts sabotage connection, how to get her out of “mom mode,” why taking stress off her plate matters, and how to express desire for her (not just sex). We offer clean, practical scripts, a simple foreplay framework, and a quick detox plan if porn is dulling your attraction. Plus: intensity vs. frequency, why threats are relationship napalm, and how to turn “meh” encounters into memorable experiences—for both of you.⸻Timestamps (approx.)0:00 Cold open: Men’s “3 vs 6” pleasure idea2:10 The Reddit scenario & the giant red flags6:00 Why porn-based demands destroy desire9:40 Enthusiasm is greater than obligation (what men actually want)12:30 Getting her out of mom mode (stress & setup)15:10 Desire for her vs. “I need sex”18:00 Texting that seduces (not spams)21:00 Intensity beats frequency (experience over quota)24:30 If porn is the driver: detox & re-sensitize27:00 The “threat to cheat” = trust killer30:00 Practical scripts + weekly intimacy ritual34:00 When to seek help / when to walk away36:30 Wrap & takeaways

You’re not actually fighting about the toilet seat. You’re fighting about what it means—feeling unseen, unsafe, or unloved. In this episode we argue the #1 relationship killer is resentment, not a lack of communication per se. We cover how resentment builds like plaque, why “surface” complaints are really unmet emotional needs, how to bring things up without triggering a defensive spiral, and the crucial difference between grace and rug-sweeping. We also unpack the weird moment when a partner finally changes—and the other partner suddenly feels more resentment (and what to do about it). Finish with scripts, boundaries, and a weekly ritual to keep the rug flat.⸻Timestamps (approx.)0:00 Cold open: “If you were madly in love, the toilet seat wouldn’t set you off.”2:10 Why we think resentment (not “communication”) kills relationships5:05 The plaque/tartar analogy: small issues → hardened resentment8:00 Surface vs. source: decoding what the “little thing” actually means11:20 How to bring it up: facts → feelings → needs (without accusation)14:45 “Vulnerability makes you invulnerable” (and why it’s scary)18:00 When your partner reacts badly: compassion + boundary script21:40 The “death-penalty” metaphor: why people hide or get defensive24:10 Grace vs. rug-sweeping—one heals, one stores ammo27:30 When improvement triggers anger: processing delayed hurt31:20 Forgiveness ≠ keeping score: what “let go” really means34:00 Weekly maintenance ritual to prevent buildup37:00 Quick self-check: am I hurting my own feelings right now?40:00 Wrap + homework

Get Truth or Drink here: https://bit.ly/3HOnFlSWe played Truth or Drink—but swapped booze for a Wheel of Hot Sauce. Four card tiers (Happy Hour → On the Rocks → Last Call → Extra Dirty). Stakes: Crystal → Carolina Reaper → Scorpion → “Stupidamente Piccante.” Questions escalated fast: ambulance stories, cheating ethics, threesome reveals, nipple descriptions, and whether you should ever not tell the truth.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Cold open: “Dimes or dinner plates?!” + why we used hot sauce instead of alcohol1:45 – Sponsor clip backstory, forgetting the game, Target run, and setup rules4:30 – How the Wheel works (milk = mercy, Reaper = pain) + card levels explained6:20 – Happy Hour: words we hate; weirdest money John ever made (spicy affiliate)10:10 – On the Rocks: “If we suddenly had a 5-year-old, how would we parent?”12:40 – Dominant vs submissive? Nicole calls out John’s driving “leadership”15:05 – “If I died today, my biggest regret would be…” (surprisingly tender)17:20 – Last Call: ambulance IG story, brunch chaos, and why they don’t drink now20:30 – Grooming confessions; advice to younger self about sex (timing truths)23:00 – Perfect foreplay? Nicole taps out—first serious Reaper spin 🌶️25:10 – Cheating: must you tell? John’s hard-won stance from past mistakes27:10 – Kinkiest request declined; desert-island “how long till we hook up?”29:40 – “Last object inside…” (nope) → more hot sauce suffering32:00 – Injuries during sex; why most porn is unrealistic (the squirting myth)34:15 – “Stop only if you’re caught?” John spins the Wheel…again36:00 – Meanest thing seen in the relationship; shallow swipe-left honesty38:10 – Name-drop test; “Are you a good kisser?”; filming yourselves—hard pass40:00 – Threesome? Answered. Quick-start guide to getting Nicole off? She spins 🌶️43:10 – Inadvertent nudity; best compliment on performance (speechless is a review)45:00 – Wrap & lessons: play the game…maybe skip the Reaper shots👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—where every topic splits the vote.

A viral post claims “financial abuse” because a husband (250k/yr) pays all bills, gives an allowance, and more money on request—yet doesn’t grant direct account access. We break down: real abuse vs boundaries, why the man leading finances can reduce stress (when he’s a servant leader), how trust beats “50/50,” and concrete steps to transition out of roommate economics.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Cold open: “No 50/50. No excuses.” What that actually means1:30 – Last week’s spicy ep → today’s money fight setup2:15 – The viral post: allowance, access, and the A-word (“abuse”)5:10 – What’s missing: trust, transparency, and context7:45 – Allowance vs access: stewardship or control?10:20 – What real financial control/abuse looks like (and doesn’t)13:15 – Servant leadership defined: protection, not domination16:05 – Why some women feel unsafe: fear, past chaos, hypervigilance18:40 – Transparency without anxiety: dashboards, summaries, rhythms21:00 – If he dies tomorrow: documents, life insurance, “open the folder” plan23:40 – “Can I see the numbers?” How to answer without dumping stress26:05 – Entitlement vs respect: public disrespect and how he should respond28:30 – From 50/50 to traditional: order of operations (trust → system → habits)31:10 – Combine money or combine drama: why separate accounts breed risk33:20 – Dating advice for men: build first, lead later (30s/40s timing)36:00 – Boundaries that protect trust: no opposite-sex “friend” intimacy, no GNO/club culture, no solo party trips39:15 – Scripts: how to set financial leadership and make her feel safe42:00 – Action plan for couples this week (see below)44:10 – Wrap: choose covenant over “options”Actionables (quick start)• Weekly 20-min money huddle: balances, bills, buffer, big rocks• Create the “If I’m gone” folder: accounts, logins, insurance, payoffs, contacts• One card, one budget, one leader—clear monthly personal spend for her• Boundaries audit: list & agree (social, friends, nightlife, trips)• Transition plan from 50/50: timeline, milestones, who does what👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, money, and leadership—built to spark a 50/50 comment war.

An anthropologist says polyamorous couples are just as happy as monogamous ones. We pause the podcast, look at each other, and ask: Really? This episode dissects the “biology made me do it” argument—men’s visual wiring, women’s romance/status pull, jealousy/mate-guarding—and why biology ≠ destiny when you’re building a life, not running on instinct. We separate momentary happiness from long-term fulfillment and make the case for choosing one person—on purpose.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Cold open: “Poly people are happier?” Our gut reaction2:05 – Are humans biologically monogamous or poly? What that even means4:20 – Fatherhood paradox in that interview: “Fathers matter… but also unnecessary?”6:45 – Biology as excuse vs information: why the difference matters9:00 – Men’s visual wiring; women’s romance/status wiring—temptations aren’t symmetric11:25 – Smut novels vs porn: parallel dopamine loops and why both corrode intimacy13:50 – We don’t live in nature: the attention economy hijacks instincts (food analogy)16:10 – Jealousy & mate-guarding: the biological clue for monogamy18:35 – History lesson: when polygamy “worked” (war, survival, provisioning)21:00 – Sperm Wars & Selfish Gene: cheater-effects, orgasm odds, replication logic23:40 – Happiness vs fulfillment: short-term highs, long-term emptiness26:15 – “Train the dog” metaphor: we already override biology everywhere else28:10 – Status talk: why a man must carry himself as her highest-status choice30:45 – Spiritual layer great than biology: why real love mutes primitive urges33:20 – The Costa Rican mango analogy: you don’t know the ceiling until you find it35:30 – Joint bank accounts, trust, and choosing covenant over “options”38:05 – Why blanket “biology says” claims confuse more than they clarify40:10 – Actionables: protect attention, kill comparisons, build chosen discipline42:00 – Final take: people can live how they want—just don’t sell biology as destiny👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—where every topic splits the vote.

Fame, clout, and the attention economy—have they nuked modern love? John & Nicole tear into celebrity dating dynamics, Instagram DMs, body-count wars, cheating double standards, and whether “status” has replaced character. From Kardashian culture to manosphere hot takes, this one splits the room 50/50.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Cold open: “dark days” mindset and why attention rewires desire2:20 – Fame & access: how celebrity proximity changes rules of attraction5:05 – Beauty inflation: surgery, filters, and the moving target of “hot”6:33 – Status as transaction: dating for clout vs genuine connection7:52 – Modern dating fatigue: why both sexes feel the market is broken8:00 – Instagram DMs & discoverability: selection bias on steroids13:31 – Body-count debate: honesty, hypocrisy, and real risk management14:36 – Cheating & affairs: red flags vs repairable betrayals15:00 – Marriage stakes: trust, exclusivity, and long-term incentives21:24 – Celebrity archetypes (Kim K): attention economics explained24:38 – “Virgin” narratives, purity tests, and performative morality28:49 – Kardashian effect: hypergamy, brand power, and female status games37:32 – Manosphere influence (Tate, etc.): young men, anger, and identity42:59 – Followers vs value: building substance in a metrics-obsessed world57:30 – Action steps: boundaries for social media, vetting, and anti-clout dating1:02:30 – Final takeaways & next-episode teaser👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—every topic splits the vote.

She says she’s done, movers booked, divorce lawyer on speed-dial. Do you level up and reclaim respect—or let her go and start over? John and Nicole break down the brutal path from blindsided husband to high-value man, debating whether fighting for a dying marriage is strength or desperation.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00  Cold open: “Even though she’s leaving you…”—why terms matter2:30  Shock phase: blindsided men & early warning signs they missed4:30  Kids, housework, careers—the hidden resentment load10:00  Silent checkout: subtle clues she’s already halfway gone16:30  Respect erosion & masculine drift—how it starts, how to stop it22:30  Workplace validation and the “new guy” threat25:30  Bedroom shutdown: sex declines and what it really signals28:40  Cheating suspicions vs facts—panic or pattern?33:15  Level-up blueprint: fitness, finance, frame, social proof40:25  Negotiating new terms: boundaries, leadership, non-negotiables49:30  Ultimatums, timing, and knowing when to walk away59:00  Rapid-fire takeaways & next-episode teaser👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—every topic splits the vote.

Ten evergreen “rules” almost everyone hears—John & Nicole shred them one by one. From soul-mate telepathy to the myth that a newborn repairs a shaky marriage, the duo’s rapid-fire myth-busting sparks a 50/50 comment war.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00  Intro & why relationship “rules” won’t die2:50  Myth #1 – If they loved me, they’d just know what I need9:20  Myth #2 – Good couples don’t fight10:30  Myth #3 – You complete me14:45  Myth #4 – Love should be effortless18:25  Myth #5 – Happy couples always feel in love20:55  Myth #6 – Sex must be spontaneous24:45  Myth #7 – Once passion fades, the relationship is over27:45  Myth #8 – We should want the same things all the time37:20  Myth #9 – Talking more always fixes everything41:00  Myth #10 – Having a child will bring us closer48:30  Takeaways: practical rewrites for each myth & weekly challenge👇 Links & Resources• Podcast site – https://betterthanperfectpod.com• Instagram – https://instagram.com/betterthanperfectpodcast• Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0Os5mBb4WMKy7rw5GMHDN7• Apple – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/better-than-perfect-a-relationship-podcast/id1719469324🔔 Subscribe for weekly no-filter debates on love, polarity, and personal growth—every myth sparks a split decision.