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Should couples follow society’s expectations about money, or decide for themselves what financial equality looks like?In this episode of the Yalla Habibi Podcast, we explore money in relationships, conflicting social expectations, financial compatibility, and why couples need to find an approach to finances that works for them.We’re joined by Lauren Thorpe, financial educator and founder of Learning Money, to discuss how couples can navigate different beliefs about money, overcome judgement, and build a financially healthy relationship. Lauren also shares practical money saving tips, spending hacks, and advice for families looking to enjoy life without breaking the bank.In This Episode:Why society holds conflicting expectations about money in relationshipsWhether financial equality is a universal rule or a personal choiceHow couples can navigate different beliefs and financial valuesWhy frequent arguments about money can put relationships at riskHow to manage finances together without losing financial independencePractical money saving tips and spending hacks for couples• How families can enjoy fun weekends with children on a budgetWhether disagreements about money mean couples are incompatibleTen controversial money and relationship opinions in On the RecordWe also put Lauren in the hot seat in On the Record, where she faces quickfire agree or disagree questions about financial equality and some of the most controversial opinions on money in relationships. Watch to find out what the expert thinks about the questions everyone has an opinion on.Chapters:00:00 Introduction 👋03:55 Is There a RIGHT Way to Handle Money as a Couple? 🤔06:32 Why Society Gets Couples’ Money WRONG! 💰08:50 Are You the Money Talker or the Money Avoider?! 💰 11:15 How to Handle Money When You DISAGREE! 💥13:20 Can a Relationship Survive Different Money Beliefs?! 💔16:13 The Mindset Shift That Changes EVERYTHING! 🧠19:10 Simple Money Hacks Couples NEED to Know! 💸25:25 How to Have Fun With Kids Without Going BROKE! 👨‍👩‍👧29:10 Are We Getting Money WRONG as a Couple?! 👀30:48 On The Record 🎤36:02 Conclusion 💡37:44 Recommended Episodes 🎧38:23 Outro 👋Recommended Episodes📺 S4: My Money, Your Money or Our Money?🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Lauren ThorpeGet in contact with our guest here.🔗 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/learningmoneylauren/🔗 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@learningmoneylauren🔗 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/learningmoneylauren/Press and Media📰 Reuters - How loud budgeting is helping Gen Z set financial boundaries🔗https://www.reuters.com/markets/on-the-money/how-loud-budgeting-is-helping-gen-z-set-financial-boundaries-2026-07-08/📰 Mirror - Millions of Brits are scared of investing - but most are already doing it🔗https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/millions-brits-scared-investing-most-37061826📰MSN - 'Backwards shopping' hack helps me save £5,000 a year🔗https://www.msn.com/en-gb/money/other/backwards-shopping-hack-helps-me-save-5-000-a-year/ar-AA1V9ExZDiscount Codes:AiraloAn eSIM service that lets you get mobile data while travelling without needing a physical SIM card.🏷️ Airalo: SCOTR7127🏷️ Airalo: SHELBY5873 🔗https://www.airalo.com/Starling BankA digital UK bank offering easy money management and fee-free card spending abroad.🏷️ Starling: LBL0M2D🔗https://www.starlingbank.com/About Yalla Habibi Podcast:Yalla Habibi — Let’s go, my friend! We talk about relationships, life, travel, social expectations, personal experiences, and the things couples often think about but don’t always talk about. If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, like, share, and leave a review. It really helps us reach more people and bring interesting guests onto the show.Follow Yalla Habibi:TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@yallahabibipodcast?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/yallahabibipodcast/⁠⁠⁠

Why is saying no so difficult, even when you know it’s the right thing for you?In this episode of the Yalla Habibi Podcast, we’re joined by psychology coach Breanne Felicella, founder of Diary of a People Pleaser, to explore people pleasing, healthy boundaries, self worth and the pressure to meet society’s expectations in relationships.We put our five social rules under the microscope, from attending weddings and splitting the bill to staying until the end, drinking alcohol and dancing. Together, we explore the difference between people pleasing, personal preferences and setting boundaries, why saying no can lead to confrontation, and how to handle friends and family who struggle to accept your choices.In This Episode:• The difference between people pleasing, personal preferences and boundaries• Why we struggle to say no without feeling guilty• How social expectations influence our relationships• Why people can react badly when you start setting boundaries• Building self worth without relying on other people’s approval• How to set boundaries with friends and family• Knowing when a relationship is no longer healthy• Whether we’re wrong to challenge society’s social rules as a coupleWe also put Breanne in the hot seat in On the Record, where she faces quickfire agree or disagree questions about relationship boundaries, people pleasing, social expectations and when it’s time to say no.Chapters:00:00 – Introduction02:26 – How would you define the difference between people pleasing, boundaries and preferences?04:30 – With those differences clear, where do each of our five social rules fall?09:52 – Why do you think we struggle so much to tell the difference between people pleasing, boundaries and preferences, especially when someone suddenly starts saying no?12:27 – Do we naturally develop stronger boundaries as we get older, or do you find people have to learn them through bad experiences?16:15 – How do you set boundaries with someone who won’t let it go, and when do you decide the relationship is no longer healthy?20:00 - One Piece of Advice Breanne Gives Her Clients to Build Self-Worth 21:37 – Do you think we’re wrong to go against any of these five expectations? If so, why?24:12 – On The Record28:16 – Conclusion29:52 –  Recommended Episodes 30:38 –  OutroRecommended Episodes📺 S3: The Social Rules We Stopped Following as a Couple🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Breanne FelicellaGet in contact with our guest here.🔗 Diary Of A People Pleaser: https://diaryofapeoplepleaser.com/🔗 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diaryofapeoplepleaser_/?hl=en-gb🔗 LinkedIn: https://ca.linkedin.com/in/breanne-felicella-578b39256Discount Codes:AiraloAn eSIM service that lets you get mobile data while travelling without needing a physical SIM card.🏷️ Airalo: SCOTR7127🏷️ Airalo: SHELBY5873 🔗https://www.airalo.com/Starling BankA digital UK bank offering easy money management and fee-free card spending abroad.🏷️ Starling: LBL0M2D🔗https://www.starlingbank.com/About Yalla Habibi Podcast:Yalla Habibi — Let’s go, my friend! We talk about relationships, life, travel, social expectations, personal experiences, and the things couples often think about but don’t always talk about. If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, like, share, and leave a review. It really helps us reach more people and bring interesting guests onto the show.Follow Yalla Habibi:TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@yallahabibipodcast?lang=en⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/yallahabibipodcast/⁠⁠Tagspeople pleasing,setting boundaries,healthy boundaries,people pleasing,Yalla Habibi,Yalla Habibi Podcast

How can couples manage money fairly when everyone has a different opinion on how relationships should work?In this episode of the Yalla Habibi Podcast, we talk about financial equality in relationships, managing money as a couple, communication, and why social expectations shouldn't determine how couples handle their finances.We share how we make financial equality work in our relationship, from tracking shared expenses and resolving disagreements to challenging traditional expectations around money, and what other couples can take from our experience to build a happier, more balanced relationship.In This Episode:How we make financial equality work as a coupleWhy communication is important when managing moneyHow we track shared expenses and keep each other accountableDealing with financial disagreements in relationshipsWhy couples should question traditional financial expectationsHow family, culture and society influence financial decisionsSetting healthy financial boundaries with your partnerFinding a financial approach that works for your relationshipWe also explore financial independence in Scott’s WTF of the Week — including research revealing that 56% of British adults have savings set aside in case their relationship ends.And in Shelby’s Good Vibes Only, we look at why Gen Z is embracing cheaper, more creative dates and challenging the idea that romance has to come with an expensive price tag.Chapters:00:00 – Introduction01:34 – Why 50% of People Would Rather Use the Toilet Than Ask for Money 03:50 – How We Make Financial Equality Work10:16 – What Can Other Couples Learn?14:41 – Scott’s WTF of the Week: 30 Million Brits Are Saving for a Breakup18:34 – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Gen Z Is Making Cheap Dates Romantic Again20:47 – Conclusion21:46 – Cliffhanger22:16 –  Recommended Episodes 22:39 –  OutroRecommended Episodes📺 S4: My Money, Your Money or Our Money?🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 S3: The Social Rules We Stopped Following as a Couple🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stories Shared:💔 ⁠Scott's WTF of the Week – 30 Million Brits Are Saving for a Breakup🔗https://www.novuna.co.uk/news-and-insights/personal-finance/love-actually-comes-with-a-back-up-plan-30m-brits-saving-for-a-break-up/🥰 Shelby’s Good Vibes Only – Gen Z Is Making Cheap Dates Romantic Again🔗⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.vistaprint.co.uk/news/2026/06/08/coffee-dates-fuel-britains-new-low-cost-high-frequency-dating-economy-with-single-brits-spending-over-2k-a-year/Discount Codes:AiraloAn eSIM service that lets you get mobile data while travelling without needing a physical SIM card.🏷️ Airalo: SCOTR7127🏷️ Airalo: SHELBY5873 🔗https://www.airalo.com/Starling BankA digital UK bank offering easy money management and fee-free card spending abroad.🏷️ Starling: LBL0M2D🔗https://www.starlingbank.com/About Yalla Habibi Podcast:Yalla Habibi — Let’s go, my friend! We talk about relationships, life, travel, social expectations, personal experiences, and the things couples often think about but don’t always talk about. If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, like, share, and leave a review. It really helps us reach more people and bring interesting guests onto the show.Follow Yalla Habibi:TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@yallahabibipodcast?lang=en⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/yallahabibipodcast/⁠Tagsmoney in relationships,finances in relationships,financial equality in relationships,couples finances,expectations,social norms,financial pressure in relationships,healthy relationships,couples podcast,relationship podcast,Yalla Habibi,Yalla Habibi Podcast

Is splitting everything 50/50 really the fairest way to manage money in a relationship?In this episode of the Yalla Habibi Podcast, we talk about splitting finances as a couple, financial equality, money disagreements, and the challenges of managing shared expenses while keeping personal finances separate.We share the challenges of splitting everything evenly, dealing with judgement from family and friends, deciding what counts as a shared expense, and why financial independence, trust and freedom make the extra effort worthwhile.In This Episode:The challenges of splitting expenses 50/50 as a coupleDealing with judgement over who pays for dates and days outHow we track and manage shared expensesDeciding what counts as a joint or personal expenseWhy big purchases like houses and cars complicate financial equalityThe benefits of keeping personal finances separateHow financial independence can reduce resentment and money disagreementsWhy fairness looks different in every relationshipWe also explore how couples split household bills in Scott’s WTF of the Week, including surprising YouGov research showing that only a third of couples split expenses 50/50 when one partner earns more.And in Shelby’s Good Vibes Only, we look at research suggesting that couples with similar motivations around money may have greater relationship satisfaction, even when those financial habits aren't always positive.Chapters:00:00 – Introduction01:30 – How Do We Know When Traditions Are Good or Bad?03:26 - Series Recap04:11 – The Challenge: Why Is Breaking the Money Rules So Hard?13:30 – The Reward: What Going Against the Grain Gave Us17:23 – Scott’s WTF of the Week: Why Only 33% of Couples Split Bills 50/5020:45 – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Research Links Financial Compatibility to Relationship Satisfaction 22:40 – Conclusion23:41 – Cliffhanger24:05 – Recommended Episodes 24:27 – OutroRecommended Episodes📺 S4: My Money, Your Money or Our Money?🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 S3: The Social Rules We Stopped Following as a Couple🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ EP2⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠⁠Stories Shared:💸 ⁠Scott's WTF of the Week – Why Only 33% of Couples Split Bills 50/50🔗https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/50381-what-is-the-fairest-way-for-couples-to-split-household-bills?❤️ Shelby’s Good Vibes Only – Research Links Financial Compatibility to Relationship Satisfaction 🔗⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/pere.12539Discount Codes:AiraloAn eSIM service that lets you get mobile data while travelling without needing a physical SIM card.🏷️ Airalo: SCOTR7127🏷️ Airalo: SHELBY5873 🔗https://www.airalo.com/Starling BankA digital UK bank offering easy money management and fee-free card spending abroad.🏷️ Starling: LBL0M2D🔗https://www.starlingbank.com/About Yalla Habibi Podcast:Yalla Habibi — Let’s go, my friend! We talk about relationships, life, travel, social expectations, personal experiences, and the things couples often think about but don’t always talk about. If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, like, share, and leave a review. It really helps us reach more people and bring interesting guests onto the show.Follow Yalla Habibi:TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@yallahabibipodcast?lang=en⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/yallahabibipodcast/⁠

When it comes to relationships, should it be my money, your money or our money?In this episode of the Yalla Habibi Podcast, we talk about money in relationships, financial equality, splitting expenses as a couple, and the conflicting expectations around who should pay.We share how we manage our finances as a couple, why we pay evenly for shared expenses, what we keep financially separate, when we choose to pay for each other, and why we don’t believe being in a relationship makes you entitled to your partner’s money.In This Episode:The conflicting financial expectations placed on couplesWhether men should still be expected to pay moreWhat financial equality actually means in a relationship•How we split bills and shared expenses as a coupleWhy we keep personal expenses separateHow we decide what counts as a joint expenseWhy paying evenly doesn’t have to mean keeping scoreBuilding a financial system that feels fair to both partnersWe also look at financial infidelity in Scott’s WTF of the Week, including research showing how many Brits have lied to their partner about money and secretly spent thousands without telling them.And in Shelby’s Good Vibes Only, we explore research that followed 230 engaged or newlywed couples and found that couples who combined their finances maintained stronger relationship quality over two years.Chapters:00:00 – Introduction02:12 – Would Our Relationship Have Survived If Shelby Paid on the First Date? 03:38 – The Pressure For Men Have to Pay in Relationships06:22 – Society’s Financial Expectations in Relationships 13:28 – How We Manage Money as a Couple24:43 – What We’ve Learned About Couples’ Finances 25:40 – Scott’s WTF of the Week: The Secret Spending Problem31:05 – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Joint Finances, Stronger RelationshipsRecommended Episodes📺 S3: The Social Rules We Stopped Following as a Couple🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠⁠ EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 ⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠⁠ EP2⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠⁠🎧⁠ ⁠⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠Stories Shared:🤫 ⁠Scott's WTF of the Week – The Secret Spending Problem🔗https://www.confused.com/press/releases/2026/almost-half-of-brits-admit-lying-to-their-partner-about-money💰 Shelby’s Good Vibes Only – Joint Finances, Stronger Relationships🔗⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://academic.oup.com/jcr/article/50/4/704/7077142?guestAccessKey=32d8dc66-db46-45ab-a360-57a401a01af9Discount Codes:AiraloAn eSIM service that lets you get mobile data while travelling without needing a physical SIM card.🏷️ Airalo: SCOTR7127🏷️ Airalo: SHELBY5873 🔗https://www.airalo.com/Starling BankA digital UK bank offering easy money management and fee-free card spending abroad.🏷️ Starling: LBL0M2D🔗https://www.starlingbank.com/About Yalla Habibi Podcast:Yalla Habibi — Let’s go, my friend! We talk about relationships, life, travel, social expectations, personal experiences, and the things couples often think about but don’t always talk about. If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, like, share, and leave a review. It really helps us reach more people and bring interesting guests onto the show.Follow Yalla Habibi:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yallahabibipodcast?lang=enInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yallahabibipodcast/