Love Stories

Why High Achievers Struggle in Relationships | FT: Lewis Huckstep CONNECT WITH CHARLENE: On Instagram @mscharlenebyars: https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars On YouTube @chosentraining: https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars Work with me HERE: https://charlenebyars.com/CONNECT WITH LEWISOn Instagram:@lewishuckstephttps://www.instagram.com/lewishuckstep/ Lewis Hugstep explains why your triggers are a mirror, his Awareness-Regulate-Reflect-Integrate framework, and how couples repair conflict. Timestamps: 00:00 — Intro: Meet Lewis Hugstep 02:42 — Why Lewis Got Into This Work 03:28 — Childhood: Diagnosis, Abuse, and the Insecure High Achiever 05:03 — Three Gyms by 22 and the Dark Night of the Soul 05:34 — Discovering Tony Robbins and Personal Development 07:03 — Mentors, Purpose, and Blending the Spiritual With the Practical 09:25 — Finding Purpose and Mission After Burnout 10:21 — “Success Without Fulfillment Is the Ultimate Failure” 11:43 — Soul vs. Ego: The Identity, Patterns, and Triggers Model 15:00 — His Brother’s Story: Values and Depression 17:33 — Why We Feel Broken and Project Our Reality 19:21 — The A.R.R.I. Framework: Awareness 20:00 — Regulate: Getting Out of Survival Mode 22:56 — Reflect: Finding the Belief or Perception Underneath 24:20 — Live Exercise: What Past Hurt Have You Been Through? 26:08 — Triggers vs. Boundaries and Standards 30:15 — Integrate: Removing the Emotional Charge 32:10 — Free Resources: Purpose and Belief Processes 33:09 — How Lewis’s Wounds Showed Up in Love 36:22 — Repair After Rupture With His Wife 39:54 — Why Relationships Bring Out Our Deepest Wounds 42:29 — Beliefs vs. Perceptions (and a Client’s Story) 46:16 — Conflict Repair Framework: Regulate, Inquire, Separate, Evolve 50:19 — Emotional Charge vs. Misalignment 51:57 — How to Know If It’s the Relationship or You 53:31 — Charlene on Healing and Parenting 57:48 — Why High Achievers Struggle in Relationships 59:55 — What Healing Looks Like Inside a Relationship 1:00:16 — The “Three Triggers in Seven Days” Agreement 1:03:11 — Learning and Growing Together as a Couple 1:07:36 — Where to Find Lewis and His Book 1:10:19 — Closing Thoughts

What Women Accept as Normal That Isn’t: Pelvic Floor Health | FT: Dr. Sara ReardonCONNECT WITH CHARLENE:On Instagram @mscharlenebyars: https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyarsOn YouTube @chosentraining: https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyarsWork with me HERE: https://charlenebyars.com/CONNECT WITH DR. SARA:On Instagram: @the.vagina.whispererhttps://www.instagram.com/the.vagina.whisperer/ Book Your Slot for Consultation: https://bit.ly/3UtgKVJ Dr. Sarah Reardon explains pelvic floor health, painful sex, perimenopause changes, and bladder habits every woman should know, in plain language.Timestamps:00:00 — Intro: What Women Accept as Normal That Shouldn’t Be01:22 — Meet Dr. Sarah Reardon, The Vagina Whisperer03:25 — Pain, Tolerated Sex, and Orgasm Changes as Warning Signs04:39 — What Is the Pelvic Floor?05:56 — Why Tight Muscles (Not Just Weak Ones) Cause Pain07:37 — Pelvic Floor Muscles and Orgasm10:13 — How to Release Pelvic Floor Tension12:08 — How the Pelvic Floor Changes: Pregnancy, Birth, Menopause13:09 — Perimenopause vs. Menopause Explained14:36 — Estrogen, Collagen, and Muscle Loss17:04 — Vaginal Estrogen and Strengthening in Perimenopause21:16 — How Dr. Reardon Found Pelvic Floor Therapy23:53 — Bladder Basics: Every 2 to 4 Hours25:57 — Don’t Pee “Just in Case,” Don’t Hover, Don’t Push28:04 — What More Women Should Know About Their Bodies29:21 — How Stress Tightens the Pelvic Floor31:01 — Who to See: Doctors vs. Pelvic Floor Therapists33:47 — The Pelvic Floor App and Why Kegels Aren’t Enough37:11 — Patient Story: The Nurse and the C-Section Scars39:30 — Patient Story: Painful Intercourse and Vaginal Dilators43:04 — Why Women Feel Broken (But Aren’t)44:15 — Talking to Your Partner About It46:36 — Shame, Anatomical Names, and Normalizing Periods49:40 — Dr. Reardon’s Own Story: Leaking During Tennis51:20 — Where to Find the Book, App, and Virtual Care57:55 — Closing: You Deserve to Feel Good in Your BodyBeyond that, she discusses how stress tightens the pelvic floor, why you can see a pelvic floor therapist without a referral, patient stories (including a labor and delivery nurse helped by scar massage and a newlywed who overcame painful intercourse), involving your partner, and breaking the shame that keeps women silent.

Why Women Disconnect From Desire (And How to Reclaim It) | FT: Annette BenedettiCONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars: https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars On YouTube @chosentraining: https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars Work with me HERE: https://charlenebyars.com/ CONNECT WITH ANNETTE Website: https://talksexwithannette.com/ On Instagram @annettebenedetti: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/ On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Talksexwithannette On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette Relationship and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti, host of the Talk Sex with Annette podcast, opens up about surviving sexual trauma at 13, why so many women feel numb or disconnected in the bedroom, and how she rebuilt trust with her own body to reclaim pleasure in her 40s. Timestamps: 00:00 — Intro: Meet Annette Benedetti, Host of Talk Sex with Annette 01:58 — Her Story: How Her Journey Into Intimacy Work Began 03:31 — How Common Sexual Assault Really Is 06:56 — Why Your Body Doesn't Know the Difference Between Traumas 08:59 — The Myths About Sex and Intimacy After Assault 11:10 — What We Were Never Taught About Pleasure 12:33 — Growing Up With Shame and Fear Around Sex 16:05 — The Hidden Layers of Trauma Most Women Carry 18:13 — Why So Many Men Are Showing Up for Their Partners 19:58 — Sexual Energy as the Engine of Your Whole Life 20:29 — Uncomfortable Sex and Vaginal Armoring 22:40 — How Childbirth Adds Another Layer 23:36 — Feeling Estranged From Her Body in Her 40s 25:01 — The Full Clitoris: Anatomy We're Only Now Learning 26:43 — Why Many Women Don't Want Sex: The Work vs. the Payoff 29:16 — The 365 Orgasms in a Year Challenge 32:01 — Finding Pleasure Outside the Bedroom 33:02 — Teaching Your Body to Trust You Again 34:00 — Self-Betrayal in Relationships and the Bedroom 38:16 — Why You Have to Be Your Own Best Lover 41:41 — What Happens to Desire When a Woman Disconnects 43:05 — Performative Sex vs. Real Pleasure 45:53 — Safety: The Foundation of Everything 48:39 — Talking About Fantasies Without Shame 51:18 — What Women Are Afraid to Ask For in Intimacy 53:43 — "Sexy Is an Inside Job": Owning Your Pleasure 55:23 — Where to Begin If You Feel Disconnected 58:33 — Why Romantic Relationships Need Microscopic Honesty 1:04:24 — Turning Pain Into Purpose 1:05:01 — Where to Find Annette: Talk Sex with Annette 1:05:53 — Final Advice: Reclaim Pleasure for Yourself Annette also breaks down why feeling safe — physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually — underlies everything else, closing with a reminder that reconnecting with pleasure is something every woman deserves for herself first, whether or not she's partnered.

How to Stop Reacting in Relationships | FT: Sabrina ZoharCONNECT WITH CHARLENEOn Instagram @mscharlenebyars ([https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars]On YouTube @chosentraining (https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars))Work with me HERE ([https://charlenebyars.com/](https://charlenebyars.com/))CONNECT WITH SABRINAINSTAGRAM:- https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/ Why Am I Like This? is available for pre-order now:- https://sabrinazohar.com/book RELEASE DATE: October 13TH, 2026 LINK TO PDF BOOK:- https://sabrinazohar.com/book Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur and dating coach renowned for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. With a clear, no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, Sabrina's podcast has resonated globally, ranking in the top 0.05% of all podcasts. Each episode features practical tips backed by board-certified and licensed psychologists, aimed at helping listeners improve their dating lives by fostering self-worth and personal growthTimestamps:00:00 — Intro: Meet Sabrina Zohar03:00 — Why Her Work Is About Patterns, Not Just Dating05:00 — Her Hot Mess Era: Moving to New York and Self-Abandonment08:00 — The Relationship That Hit Rock Bottom11:00 — Why She Said “He’s the One” Before Really Knowing Him14:00 — Intermittent Reinforcement and Repeating Childhood Dynamics17:00 — Taking Radical Accountability Without Blaming Herself19:00 — The Turning Point: Starting Therapy and Tapping22:00 — Healing Isn’t Linear: Dating Differently Over Time26:00 — You Always Have a Choice29:00 — Where Patterns Come From: Caregivers and Early Attunement32:00 — You Don’t Need “Big T” Trauma for Patterns to Matter35:00 — The Story Behind the Book Title38:00 — Self-Compassion as a Dopamine Hack41:00 — Starting Small: Teaching Your Nervous System Safety43:00 — Are You Asking “Is This the Right Person?” or “Am I Creating the Right Relationship?”46:00 — Attachment Styles: Explanation vs. Excuse48:00 — Sparks Don’t Mean Compatible50:00 — Burn the Checklist: High Standards as Avoidance52:00 — What Is Discernment? Running Toward vs. Away54:00 — Her Favorite First-Date Questions56:00 — The Conventionally Handsome Guy Story58:00 — How She Met Her Partner1:00:00 — Showing Up Differently: The Power of the Pause1:01:00 — First Step to Healthier Relationships: Understand Your Patterns1:02:00 — Where to Find Sabrina and Her Book

Should You Get Your Ex Back? A Breakup Coach Explains | FT: Coach Adrian CONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars ([https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars] On YouTube @chosentraining (https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars)) Work with me HERE ([https://charlenebyars.com/](https://charlenebyars.com/)) CONNECT WITH ADRIAN On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovecoachadrian Coach Adrian explains why breakups feel like addiction withdrawal, how to know if you should pursue your ex, and why contempt kills relationships. Timestamps: 00:00 — Intro: Meet Coach Adrian, Co-Founder of Love Advice TV 02:30 — His Personal Story: Breaking Up With His Future Wife in College 06:00 — Fear of Commitment and Emotional Immaturity in His 20s 09:00 — Reconnecting Years Later and Building a Family 12:00 — Why Breakup Pain Feels Like Addiction Withdrawal 15:00 — How to Know If You Should Pursue Getting Back Together 18:00 — Relationships as "Who Are We Becoming Together" 21:00 — The Spiritual Law of Crisis and Victory 24:00 — Charlene's Story: 23 Years of Marriage and What She Learned 28:00 — Why Getting Back Together Means Building Something New 31:00 — Being Kind to Your Past Self During the Healing Process 34:00 — The Danger of Desperation and Begging After a Breakup 37:00 — Contempt: The Number One Killer of Relationships 41:00 — How to Recognize Patterns in Yourself and Your Relationship 44:00 — Charlene's Second Marriage: How Faith Changed Her Husband 48:00 — Success Stories: Couples Reuniting After Years Apart 52:00 — Even High School Sweethearts Reunite Decades Later 54:00 — Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity: A Nuanced Approach 58:00 — Why Authentic Apologies Require Consistency Over Time 1:02:00 — Addressing the Betrayed Partner Who Can't See Their Own Part 1:06:00 — Breaking the Blame Cycle: Listening to Feelings, Not Just Words 1:10:00 — Final Advice: You're Never Powerless in Love 1:13:00 — Where to Find Coach Adrian: Happily Committed & Love Advice TV Coach Adrian also shares real client stories, including couples reuniting after 4.5 years apart and even decades-long separations, closing with practical advice for breaking the blame cycle: pausing to genuinely listen to what a partner is feeling, not just what they're arguing about on the surface.