ThirtyFiveSixtyFour

Did you know that repeating daily affirmations can shift your mindset and energize your outlook on life? In this special episode, Karen guides listeners through a transformative experience with positive affirmations tailored for those in midlife. Join us on a 40-day journey where we encourage you to integrate these affirmations into your daily routine, fostering personal growth and opening doors to new possibilities. Before we begin, take a moment to relax. Take a deep breath. Let go of any tension. Remember, you are deserving of happiness, success, and all the good things this stage of life has to offer. Tune in and embrace the power of positivity in your spiritual journey! ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle. So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead. Resources: thirtyfivesixtyfour.com 

Are you prepared to make critical healthcare decisions for yourself or your loved ones when the time comes?  Join me as I welcome back my friend and attorney Andie Patton to discuss the vital topic of healthcare directives. We explore the importance of appointing a trusted agent to make medical decisions in cases of incapacity, navigating family dynamics, and planning ahead to ensure your wishes are respected. The conversation covers end-of-life decision-making, including the nuances of healthcare directives, organ donation, and documenting preferences like cremation. We also address the emotional aspects of preparing for these scenarios and the role of attorneys versus DIY approaches. Tune in for insights on ensuring your healthcare decisions align with your values.  Andrea, “Andie” Patton is a seasoned trust and estate attorney with over 20 years of experience in drafting family trusts, wills, and powers of attorney. Passionate about guiding clients through the complexities of estate planning, she ensures their families are well cared for and their wishes honored. Andie holds a Bachelor’s degree in English from UC Irvine and earned her law degree from Loyola Law School in 1999. Licensed by the California State Bar, she is an active member of the Orange County Bar Association. Outside of work, Andie enjoys reading, spending time with her son and partner Matt, and exploring the outdoors with her chihuahua, Theo.   In this episode:  (00:00) What is it, who is it for, and when would you need an advanced healthcare directive? (05:31) Choosing the right family member to be your agent  (08:13) Using the California Medical Association form, immediate vs. ‘springing’  (09:27) Living wills, making changes in agents or directives  (14:40) Organ and tissue donation, cremation or burial requests   (20:18) Changing percentages of people that choose different options over the years, movies and real life scenarios in the news  (26:17) How your body may help others after death  (31:45) Steps to take, how long will it take, what are the costs of a directive?  (33:09) Kaiser has their own forms, but check them with your attorney, AARP and other orgs have resources  (38:34) Review this document every FIVE YEARS!  (40:54) Playing “You Know You’re Old When…”  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.  So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources: 

What are the real emotions behind the often-used phrase, "It's not personal, it's business"?   In this episode we explore the VERY personal, emotional impact of layoffs, featuring guest Tara MacKenzie, who shares her deeply moving experiences of navigating job loss. Through her journey, we challenge the notion that job loss is merely a business decision, stressing the importance of treating each individual's contributions with dignity and respect.  By reflecting on personal stories of job loss, we highlight how empathy and transparency in leadership can mitigate the emotional toll of such events. We cover the importance of one-on-one communication and preparedness, offering practical advice for leaders tasked with delivering difficult news and for colleagues aiming to provide genuine support. We round out our episode by exploring innovative ways to cope with job loss and how career setbacks can lead to exciting new beginnings. Tara’s entrepreneurial venture, Ragebox, was a creative response to job loss, offering humor and comfort in challenging times. As we share insights on maintaining a healthy work-life balance, we emphasize the power of community and the support systems that can transform adversity into opportunity.  RageBox specializes in crafting gifts, experiences and products that cater to the dark theme enthusiasts and fans of the mischievous. The company founder, who had endured multiple job losses in the IT sector (and being handed that dreaded 'pack up your desk in a box' spiel one too many times), decided to turn her frustration into inspiration and RageBox was born. RageBox is a brilliant fusion of her passion for true crime, horror movies, and astrology, all within the simple concept of a box. If you're looking for the perfect gift for a fellow dark theme enthusiast, or just want to indulge your own dark side, RageBox has got you covered. Check out our Themed Gift Boxes and experiences, or pick up an angry artifact from our products and collections. Get ready to embrace the thrill and dive into the darkness with RageBox - RageOn!  In this episode:  (00:00) Six common major stressors in middle age  (02:37) The shock of being laid off  (05:46) Karen’s change in perspective about people who get laid off  (08:00) Tara’s experience of being laid off, different reactions to this news  (13:07) Advice for leadership when laying off  (18:15) Words and phrases to use in layoffs (and what not to say)  (20:29) An ideal scenario story  (24:00) How to proactively help a colleague who is being let go  (28:00) Tara’s business pivot to Ragebox  (33:00) Have these ‘closed doors’ led to better things?  (37:00) Tara’s worst layoff she had to perform on the job  (39:40) Ways to get in touch with Tara and Ragebox  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between t...

How do end-of-life rituals and personal reflections shape our understanding of life and death?   In this thought-provoking episode, Karen welcomes motivational speaker and seasoned chaplain Jeff Hetschel. Jeff shares his profound insights and experiences from his extensive career in providing spiritual and emotional support during critical end-of-life situations. He reflects on the invaluable role of chaplains, highlighting the importance of offering hope and courage in emergency rooms and on the front lines with firefighters and police officers. Jeff delves into his experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic, offering a poignant perspective on the challenges faced by healthcare workers and patients, as well as the significance of human connection and end-of-life rituals. Throughout the conversation, Jeff emphasizes the transformative power of love, spirituality, and self-care, drawing from his personal journey and four decades of marriage. He encourages listeners to pursue their dreams regardless of age or circumstances, leaving them with a motivational reminder to cherish life's final moments.    In this episode:  (00:00) Welcome and intro of guest Jeff Hetschel  (01:49) Origin and function of chaplains, hope and courage  (07:05) Personal experiences as a chaplain  (10:04) Thinking and speaking in retrospect about experiences during the pandemic  (14:07) Common chaplain situations at the end of life  (23:07) Is there a transitional stage between life and death?  (26:37) “Thin spaces” and the presence of god (as each person perceives it)   (29:00) Personal ND experiences of Jeff’s  (34:56) Changing your life after an NDE  (37:00) Longevity, using AI as a coach  (40:00) Advice for Jeff’s younger self  (42:00) Societal reactions to the state of the world, listening, love, learning, and acceptance  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources: The Hetschel Group 

Ever wonder how we went from blasting boomboxes to bird-watching in the blink of an eye? In this clip compilation, we take a look back at some of the funny ‘You know you’re old when….” segments from the podcast.   From reminiscing about the days of pagers and walkmans to hilariously unexpected challenges like getting up out of a recliner, we leave no ‘stone’ unturned. You'll laugh with us as we struggle through the undeniable signs of middle age. Whether it's the constant need for tissues, the joy of early dinners, or the newfound thrill of bird watching, we share the quirks that come with getting older. From multiple bathroom stops on road trips to explaining old tech to our kids, episode is packed with stories that highlight the absurdities of midlife. Join us for a fun, fast-moving look back at a few of the incredible guests we’ve hosted on 3564 so far. Sit back, relax, and enjoy as we find humor in the everyday moments and embrace the journey with a smile.  In this episode:  (00:00) Karen introduces the episode  (01:07) Andrea  (02:24) Kim Selby  (03:22) Lawyer? Producer?  (03:45) Curtis Thompson  (04:29) Tiffany Wilson  (07:03) Mary Cook trampoline?  (07:56) Kevin Headley  (09:38) Chris Roberts  (10:12) Producer CD collection  (10:54) Fax Machine - Young woman in blue  (12:28) Keeping old clothes - silver fox guy  (14:00) Kevin Headley  (15:00) Chris Roberts  (17:37) Karen closes the show  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show! ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.  So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources: thirtyfivesixtyfour.com 

Chris Dancy, aka “The most connected man on earth”, shares his incredible journey detailed in his book "Don't Unplug." Chris provides profound insights into optimizing personal health, aging, love, dating, and preparing for death through the extensive use of sensors and technology. His unique perspective offers an eye-opening glimpse into the future of human connectivity and well-being.  Chris and I reminisce about our 22-year friendship, filled with adventures, laughter, and memorable moments from our early adulthood to now. We explore the concept of aging, discussing research that suggests it happens in accelerated bursts and sharing personal experiences of how milestone ages bring noticeable changes. We highlight the importance of adopting healthier habits early on to ease the transition into older age. Our conversation offers a humorous and relatable exploration of generational habits and preferences, from serving cereal for dinner to the quirky traits we develop over time. We delve into the use of self-tracking AI systems for enhancing productivity and emotional well-being, and discuss the impact of technology on video calls and digital reflections. Lastly, we touch upon the complexities of forgetfulness, the advantages of neurodiversity, and the significance of preparing for death and legacy. Tune in for an enlightening and entertaining conversation that spans a wide range of topics, guaranteed to leave you with valuable insights and plenty of laughs.    In this episode:  (00:00) “The Most Connected Man on Earth” & navigating offensive comments   (03:58) Old friends reflect on past adventures and travels  (09:57) Reacting to news articles with Chris, embracing aging  (13:37) Maximizing life's battery, making each experience “the best” it can be  (17:00) Reactions to news: Disappointing experiences at over-hyped Willy Wonka event  (29:44) AI-assisted life coach platform, feedback on daily habits, emotions, mindful reflection  (37:17) Personal data tracking and AI insights  (43:00) Technology to improve human connections, “Are You Okay?”  (45:32) Memory, focus, and the “salad bar of neurodiversity”  (52:42) Preparing for death and legacy  (55:22) Steve Wozniak and happiness in life  (01:00:45) Life planning and technology, planning an approach to death  (01:04:14) Chris and the dating app meeting of his partner, technology transformed life  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re def...

What does it truly mean to be a man in today's evolving society?   Join us as we unpack this intricate question with returning guest Iain Thatcher, an expert coach specializing in modern masculinity. Iain offers invaluable insights into how men can interpret the mixed messages they receive and shares actionable advice on how they can be their best selves amid these changes. We delve into the unique challenges middle-aged men encounter, discussing everything from emotional labor in relationships to the mental workload of managing household tasks.  How should men respectfully respond to a female colleague's noticeable cosmetic changes without crossing lines? Iain sheds light on the complexities of workplace interactions and dating, particularly for men navigating post-divorce life. He emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and the ability to read social cues, which are crucial for forming respectful and meaningful connections. Finally, we discuss the importance of community and support for men, especially those going through midlife transitions. Iain explains the benefits of coaching and therapy, encouraging men to seek growth and improvement without feeling inherently problematic. Listen in for practical tips for men to invest in themselves and maintain their passions, paving the way for more fulfilling personal and professional lives.     In this episode:  Navigating modern masculinity and societal expectations with Ian Thatcher's insights   Emotional labor in relationships and the hidden mental workload    Balancing respect and acknowledgment in workplace interactions and comments    Challenges in post-divorce dating, emotional intelligence    Reading social cues and asking for consent in dating scenarios    Balancing career success with personal availability in relationships    Addressing men's midlife challenges, health issues, and aging gracefully    Building male community through shared hobbies and online groups    Exploring coaching and therapy  Ian Thatcher's coaching approach and its benefits for middle-aged men    Encouraging self-investment and the power of community support  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show! ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  Iain Thatcher  Book Your Free 15-minute Consultation  Book: For the Love of Men  thirtyfivesixtyfour.com 

Today I sit down with Iain Thatcher, a seasoned behavioral health and wellness coach, to explore the diverse types of coaching available and what it takes to be a truly effective coach, highlighting the importance of experience and dedication.   Navigating the complexities of life can be challenging, and finding the right coach is crucial. Iain helps us break down how coaching assists clients in uncovering their paths and creating actionable plans, from tackling job searches to achieving a work-life balance. We delve into the nuances of the coach-client relationship, stressing the importance of accountability and the professional boundaries that distinguish it from friendship. Ian also shares what to look for when selecting a coach to suit your individual needs. As people reach middle age, they often reevaluate their careers and seek greater personal fulfillment. Ian provides valuable insights into this transitional phase, sharing personal anecdotes and professional experiences that underline the role of coaching in navigating significant life changes, such as divorce. We wrap up by celebrating the empowering journey of self-investment and personal growth, with Iain recounting some of the incredible transformations his clients have experienced.    In this episode:  High school reunions and reviving friendships  Iain, a behavioral health and wellness coach, shares his journey and expertise  Rise of ‘confidence coaching’  Most common areas in Iain’s coaching business  Iain’s coaching session structure  Breaking down complex goals into steps, removing barriers  Finding the right coach involves interviewing at least 3 and ensuring a good fit  Themes with middle-aged clients, career reevaluation and shifting priorities during middle-age  How to work with a coach, time invested, vs. other modalities like therapy  The best reason to hire a coach  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead. Resources:    Iain Thatcher  Book Your Free 15-minute Consultation  Book: The Second Mountain  thirtyfivesixtyfour.com 

In this episode, we uncover little known pearls of driving wisdom to enhance your road experience. Discover the obscure laws governing air and water at gas stations and learn how speeding over a certain amount can increase your ticket chances. We reveal the secret behind a dashboard icon that can be surprisingly informative, and decode what those flashing brights from other drivers might actually signify. Plus, we share a quirky trick to locate your car in a crowded parking lot and a bonus survival tip for extending battery life. Tune in for these rare insights to become a more savvy and informed driver! In this episode: Laws governing air and water at gas stations Speed racers, beware! If you go over the speed limit by this amount, you’re more likely to get a ticket This icon on your dashboard gives you a helpful hint Is someone flashing their brights at you? What does it really mean? Bizarre trick to help you find your car in the parking lot Bonus! Survival tip for extending battery life Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show! ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle. So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead. Resources: Free Speech and Flashing Headlights thirtyfivesixtyfour.com

In this episode of ThirtyFiveSixtyFour, we dive into transformative self-improvement strategies tailored for your midlife journey. Discover how the people you surround yourself with can significantly impact your growth. You’ll hear about evaluating your current social circle, identifying gaps, and strategically integrating influential individuals who align with your goals. Whether you want to enhance your career, health, or personal life, learn how to reshape your schedule and relationships to support your aspirations. Join us as we explore practical steps to rejuvenate your path and turn midlife into a playground of discovery and potential. Don't forget to follow, subscribe, and share your thoughts and feedback with us—let's embark on this exciting transformation together.In this episode: Who do you want to be? What do you wish to improve? Choose several areas of your life to focus on building Look at your schedule, which 5 people are you spending time with? Find the gaps, find a friend who can help you get better at your chosen area Which friend, colleague or family member does what YOU feel you need to improve Rearrange your schedule to fit these people in  Comment and share - what are you interested in? How are you going to change your schedule and friends? Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show! ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead. Resources: The Science behind "You Are the Average of 5 People You Spend Time With the Most You're The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With   Stanford Study: Peer Influence on Behavior   

Have you ever wondered how to streamline your health routine without overwhelming your budget or time?  Today Karen is joined by returning guest and 3564’s podcast’s Digital Content and Brand Strategy Director Megan Steen. Megan divulges her secrets to optimizing your well-being with vitamins and supplements. From her meticulous use of a pill organizer to the game-changing Gem Bite, packed with superfoods like turmeric and probiotics, Megan shares her transformative journey towards better gut and skin health. Her practical tips will inspire you to simplify your supplement regimen while reaping maximum benefits. Discover affordable supplement options from Target and Costco that don't compromise on quality. Learn from Megan's personal experiences and insights gained from annual health check-ups and blood work. Our discussion touches on the psychological advantages of a consistent wellness routine and weighs the pros and cons of getting nutrients solely from food versus supplements. Whether you're navigating midlife or just beginning your health journey, Megan’s insights offer valuable guidance on making informed and effective choices that won’t break the bank.   Megan Steen, our own Digital Content and Brand Strategy Director of the thirtyfivesixtyfour podcast, lives in Orange County, CA, and balances a dynamic career with family life alongside her husband and two toddlers. With roots in Northern California and a passion for sports inherited from her father, a sports writer, Megan is a devoted fan of the San Francisco Giants and 49ers. Her decade-long blog, With Love, Aunt Megs, reflects her personal musings and advice. Currently Director of Growth Marketing at Quest Software, Megan oversees international teams driving diverse marketing initiatives. Beyond work, she cherishes genuine connections, hosting annual vision board parties and participating in a brunch club. She finds solace in nature, whether strolling on local beaches, breathing in the crisp air of Lake Tahoe, or marveling at Big Sur's beauty. Megan's insightful podcast episode on navigating grief, "Loving a Widower," showcases her heartfelt storytelling and empathy.   In this episode:  Megan uses a pill organizer to ensure consistent daily supplement intake.  The Gem Bite offers a nutrient-dense option for gut and skin health.  Liquid collagen, tracking through bloodwork.  How do you know supplements are working? Annual health check-ups and blood work provide valuable health insights.  Affordable supplement options at Target and Costco.  Kombucha improves digestion and immunity, boosting gut health.  Weekly vitamin B complex shots enhance energy, focus, and mood.  IV infusion treatments offer potential wellness benefits, especially post-events.  Monthly costs of supplements, how much is excreted vs. used in your body?  Discussing the importance of starting with existing supplements before buying new ones.  Insights into middle-age health routines and the mental comfort of healthy choices.  Mid-life jokes, fitness adventures, ironman races.  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the sho...

Today Karen is joined by the vivacious Kim Selby, who shares her inspiring journey of aging gracefully and confidently. From her early career at Glamour Magazine to starring in a lingerie ad in her 60s, Kim's story is a testament to resilience and self-acceptance. We explore societal beauty standards, the pressures of cosmetic enhancements, and the transition to embracing natural hair color. Kim offers practical tips for boosting self-confidence, celebrating personal accomplishments, and maintaining a positive self-image through self-care practices. Tune in for an uplifting conversation on inner beauty and the power of a positive mindset at any age.    Kim Selby is a multifaceted motivator and fashion aficionado who embraces life's stages with zest. From her influential roles at GLAMOUR Magazine and Saks Fifth Avenue to founding a fashion show production company, she's empowered individuals of all ages to discover their confidence through style and self-expression. Certified in Creativity Coaching, Kim now champions women through Sparkle Coaching, igniting their inner spark and speaking passionately on stage about embracing life beyond mid-life. A dedicated community volunteer, she's uplifted countless lives, including previously incarcerated women, fostering their self-esteem and reintegration. Kim's upcoming self-guided class promises to inspire others to ignite their own sparks and contribute positively to our world.    In this episode:  Background and journey, New York, acting, journalisam - Kim Selby  Appearing in a lingerie commercial after 60  Most middle-aged people (men and women) won’t wear a swimsuit at a pool party  Embracing and celebrating our bodies  Affirmation techniques for self-encouragement  Embracing “not caring” and authentic self at the beach  Discussion on cosmetic procedures  Men and plastic surgery  Boosting confidence through external appearance  Wearing a “cloak of compliments” that YOU give yourself  “You know you’re old when….” game  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:    Ignite Your Spark Podcast    Kim's Episode on Silver Hair ...

Age is just a number, and those of us in the middle are here to prove it. Join us for an inspiring conversation with Curtis Thompson, a remarkable musician, dedicated father, loving husband, and esteemed professor who eschews ageist stereotypes to follow his dreams. Together, we challenge the conventional wisdom surrounding ageism, and Curtis shares his thoughts on defining success from within and using criticism as a driving force. Our discussion expands to the concept of true wealth, emphasizing gratitude, meaningful relationships, and serving others as keys to a fulfilling life. In a consumer-driven world, Curtis' insights illuminate a rare path to genuine happiness and purpose. Tune in to redefine what it means to live a rich life and be inspired to make the most of the present.   In this episode:  Living without regrets, learning lessons - Curtis Thompson defies age stereotypes, views success as a personal metric, not societal  Emphasizing self-worth, self-acceptance, and addressing traumas related to aging  Therapy and Reflection: Essential for growth and well-being at any stage of life  Gratitude, relationships, and community service as antidotes to materialism  Curtis encourages living in the present and serving others  Value in Scarcity: Understanding how scarcity and difficulty can enhance appreciation and meaning  The 3564 podcast is one of the only venues speaking to the middle  Sneak Peak - 7-Day Generosity Challenge  Feeling down and depressed? Lonely? Try service to others   “You know you’re old when...” game  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate…Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.  So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources: Gabby Bernstein Curtis Thompson Website Simon Sinek Attachment Theory Simply Psychology-Attachment Theory   thirtyfivesixtyfour.com   

Polish your dining etiquette for any occasion with these essential tips! These insights aren't just about following rules; they're about exuding confidence in any dining scenario, whether it's a casual meal with friends, a first date, or a formal business dinner.  Do you freeze when you encounter a piece of gristle or bone in your meal? Wondering why stashing your phone out of sight can significantly enhance your dining experience? Join me as I delve into mastering key dining etiquette to elevate your confidence whether you're on a date or dining with your boss.  Learn the art of discreetly handling inedible items and understand why making eye contact during a toast goes beyond mere politeness—it's a way to forge genuine connections. From understanding wine ordering nuances, like leaving a sip for your server, to knowing when to rest your elbows on the table, I’ve got you covered. Plus, discover the subtle differences between American and European fork styles to effortlessly navigate any dining setting.   In this episode:  Keep your phone silenced and off the table to give your full attention to your companions.  Demystify wine ordering with tips on sniffing, corked wine, and leaving a sip as a tip.  Elbows on the table: when it's acceptable and when it's not.  Master the art of cutting your food one bite at a time.  Fork etiquette: fork-down or fork-up?  Navigate napkin usage, from waiting for the host to black napkin hints.  Leave plate clearing to the professionals; don't play Jenga with your dinnerware.  Passing salt, pepper, and dishes with finesse.  Quick tips for handling unexpected encounters like gristle or bone.  Delve into the history and modern etiquette of toasts and cheers.  Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.  So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  5 Things Nobody Tells You About Ordering Wine in a Restaurant  7 Expert Tips for Ordering Wine at a Restaurant  Napkin Etiquette 101   

Are you a “future chaser”? Are you constantly pushing for “the next thing” and forgetting to appreciate where you are right now?   Join us as we explore these insights and more with our special guest, Tiffany Wilson, a seasoned marketing and communications professional who has navigated her career with resilience and grace. Tiffany shares her incredible journey from Southern California to Philadelphia, including an adventurous cross-country move during the COVID-19 pandemic. Together, we dissect the dual nature of "future chasing"—how it can drive us to succeed but also lead to burnout and discontent if left unchecked. We delve into practical methods for maintaining a positive mindset, such as writing thank you notes to oneself and keeping a gratitude journal. We highlight the significance of self-affirmations and the impact of focusing on abundance rather than lack.   Tiffany Wilson juggles roles as a devoted wife, mother, avid traveler, roller coaster enthusiast, and enthusiastic high-fiver. Beginning her career at a boutique integrated marketing agency, she progressed to amplify the narratives of many renowned brands. Presently, she spearheads social media initiatives for Comcast NBCUniversal at its Philadelphia corporate base. Originally from Southern California, Tiffany, along with her spouse and two children, Miles and Nola, made the move to Pennsylvania amidst the peak of the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020, settling in the Philadelphia suburbs.   In this episode:  Tiffany’s career journey included Walmart and other leading brands  “Future chasing” - a curse and a trap  Burnout - what it means to different people, common causes  Regaining balance - taking a breath, gratitude  Thank you  notes- sending , receiving, even writing them to yourself!  Keeping a gratitude journal, positive affirmations  Physical and emotional symptoms of burnout  Talking to your 25-year-old self  The game - “You Know You’re Old When….’  Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.  So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.    Resources: Positive Affirmations for Self-Love, Self Esteem, Confidence Powerful Positive Morning Affirmations Positive Affirmations to Change Your Life 

Statistics show that a growing percentage of the population chooses to be childless and single. Who is going to care for these individuals when they become incapacitated?     Join us for a heartfelt discussion on the often-unspoken challenges that come with siblings caring for siblings through medical crises and disabilities. In this episode, we bring light to the sacrifices and emotional journeys that families navigate when a sibling steps into a caregiving role. Our very own Mary Cook, a vital member of our podcast team and one of eight siblings, shares her family's touching story of supporting her older brother John (who was born with cerebral palsy), particularly after the loss of their parents. This conversation is a tribute to the countless silent heroes who take on such responsibilities, often reshaping their lives around the needs of their loved ones. This episode is not just a source of support and recognition for caregivers but also a call to normalize these caregiving experiences within our society.  Mary Cook, nicknamed “MC” and “Mother Mary,” is a renowned content whisperer and Marcom Director at ThirtyFiveSixtyFour. With a degree in English from UCLA, she merges her grammar expertise with captivating storytelling. Raised in a large family, she cherishes familial bonds and infuses her work with the same energy she brings to family gatherings. A sports enthusiast turned adrenaline junkie, Mary balances her role with adventurous pursuits like jet skiing and desert trailblazing. Behind the scenes, her meticulousness and dedication drive the excellence of ThirtyFiveSixtyFour's Marcom strategy, ensuring each communication reflects the brand's essence.  In this episode:  Mary Cook discusses caring for her brother John who was born with cerebral palsy  Understanding the complexities of cerebral palsy and family care  A large family and sharing responsibilities  External support and boundaries in sibling caregiving  Navigating guilt and responsibility in a sibling caregiver's life  Maintaining a sibling relationship - paying for caregiving duties  Strategies for managing care and self-care for caregivers  Remembering this is your sibling, even though they may be declining  Celebrating the devotion of siblings in caregiving roles  The game - “You Know You’re Old When….’  Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:    Childless Older Adults More Educated, More Likely to Live Alone Than Older Parents  What to Expect When You Become a Sibling’s Sole Caregiver  ...

We’ve all heard the horror stories that can unfold when a person dies unexpectedly or without an estate plan to carry out their wishes.      In this episode, seasoned estate planning attorney Andrea Patton and I delve into the intricate world of wills and trusts, exploring the emotional and legal complexities of estate planning, from peculiar inheritances to the importance of meticulous trust management to avoid probate court. We tackle thorny issues such as blended families, guardianship challenges, and selecting a successor trustee, emphasizing the necessity of clear directives and understanding the impact on our loved ones. Additionally, we highlight the often-overlooked aspect of pet care in estate planning, sharing personal anecdotes and insights to ensure our furry companions are cared for after we're gone. Whether navigating family dynamics or ensuring your pet's future, this episode promises both engagement and enlightenment.   Andrea "Andie" Patton, a dedicated estate planning specialist for over 20 years, excels in crafting comprehensive estate plans, including family trusts, wills, powers of attorney, advanced health care directives, and more. Her passion lies in ensuring families are prepared for the future, even when they cannot express their wishes themselves. Licensed to practice in all California state and Federal Courts, Andrea is an active member of the Orange County Bar Association. After graduating from UC Irvine with a B.A. in English, she pursued her legal career, graduating from Loyola Law School. Andrea prioritizes family and relationships, taking pride in her son's achievements and cherishing moments with her partner Matt while enjoying leisure activities like walking her chihuahua Theo, reading, and hiking.  In this episode:  Trusts vs. wills, DIY vs. Attorney-generated, avoiding probate  The average age of Andie’s clients for estate plans  Death and money make people crazy  Death is often easier than issues around incapacity  Challenges with siblings and wills  Unusual items to squabble over - the doll collection   Pets and their care after your death  Prince and Bob Marley - complicated estates  Probate is not triggered if your estate doesn’t exceed $184,500  Average costs for wills and trusts - it depends  The game - “You Know You’re Old When….’  Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:    https://www.thepattonlawfirm.com/    https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-patton-75a152a/    CA Courts “Small Estate” Probate Thresholds   

Have you ever noticed how a well-timed pause can speak volumes during a negotiation?     Join me and returning guest, sales and marketing maestro Kevin Headley, as we unravel the intricacies of negotiation, an art form that's just as relevant when buying a candy bar as it is in the boardroom. We pull back the curtain on the power of silence, likability, and the deftly executed 'sweet trade' to find that sweet spot in any deal. Starting with the concept of low stakes negotiations in everyday life, these seemingly trivial exchanges can set the stage for the psychological preparation necessary for larger, more significant negotiations. Listen in as a seasoned sales executive shares insights on aiming for 'win-win' outcomes and the importance of approaching every deal with the right mindset, whether you're bartering over household items or navigating high-stakes sales contracts.    With over two decades in the Consumer Durable Goods Industry, Kevin Headley is an accomplished Sales & Marketing Leader, having worked with renowned brands like Whirlpool Corporation and Sub-Zero Group. Currently serving as VP of Sales at Rinnai America, he drives innovation and execution. Known for mentoring colleagues and fostering enduring client relationships, Kevin values humor in both professional and personal settings. His family has embraced various relocations across the US, settling in Peachtree City, Georgia, where Kevin faces the challenge of an empty nest. In his leisure time, he enjoys being a devoted father to his three daughters, playing guitar with his garage band, and refining his golf skills.    In this episode:  Try some everyday negotiations, like no-risk haggling in convenience stores  Win-win outcomes in negotiations, the power of silence  A friendly demeanor can unlock unexpected upgrades and favorable terms  Understanding motivations is key in negotiations, creative solutions like 'sweet trades' can lead to mutual satisfaction  Strategies include timing purchases and knowing when to commit    Low-stakes negotiations, such as garage sales tactics, choice overload  Sales executives value negotiation skills in potential hires, negotiating one's own contract reflects ability to negotiate for the company  Salary negotiations focus on adding value for pay increases, asking for alternative benefits, timing requests, handling rejections, and finding alternative solutions for advancement  A positive mindset and clear objectives are important internally, understanding personal desires helps in negotiating close relationships  The game - “You Know You’re Old When….’  Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:    The subtle power of uncomfortable silences (bbc.com) ...

AI and cybersecurity expert Chris Roberts returns to the show to answer some intriguing listener questions on the topic of AI. Chris was my guest on Episode #2, and his appearance certainly stirred up some emotional responses and interesting inquiries.     Tune in to hear Chris’s take on AI and its impact on various aspects of our daily life. We explore the ethical concerns surrounding deep fakes like the Taylor Swift debaucle, open-source vs. closed-source AI development, and the concerns of creatives - musicians, artists, writers, and performers. Chris speaks about the potential environmental impact of AI, the benefits of AI in medicine, and whether or not AI is going to replace you at your job. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the show – leave your comments and feedback below!    In this episode:  Taylor Swift and AI, the dark web, and deep fakes  Open source vs. closed source AI  Concerns expressed by artists, writers, musicians  Detecting AI content on social media  Interview with OpenAI CTO  Questions around AI and the environment  Nvidia - what is it, how does it work, should I invest?  Medical professionals - how are they using AI to help you?  Karen’s experience with AI at her doctor’s office  Jobs and AI - Will it replace you?  Automation has already changed our lives over the years   Self-checkouts - Amazon Fresh didn’t work  The game - “You Know You’re Old When….’  Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is your weekly dose of inspiration for navigating the exciting, unpredictable, and undeniably transformative journey of midlife. Hosted by Karen Stones, founder of 13 Jacks Marketing Agency, avoids the tired cliches of crisis and stagnation. This podcast celebrates the power of play, discovery, and possibility that comes with this unique chapter in life. Join us every week as we delve into the real stories, challenges, and triumphs of midlife. We'll explore fresh perspectives, practical tips, and inspiring experiences that will help you thrive, not just survive, during this pivotal time. Ready to rewrite your midlife narrative? Head over to ThirtyfiveSixtyfour.com and be a part of the adventure!  Resources:    IamChrisRoberts.com  ChatGPT from OpenAI  Gemini AI from Google  Claude AI  What exactly happened with Taylor Swift? What is a Deep Fake?  Is my Dr using AI?    How Doctors are using ChatGPT  What is Nvidia?   What is happening with all these musicians and this petition e...

This episode dives explores the complexities, challenges and beauty of dating a widow or widower. We'll meet Megan Steen and hear her story of finding love  with a widower she met at work. We explore the foundation of building a new relationship while acknowledging and honoring the memory of the one who is gone, as well as tackling the sensitive topic of being invited into the family's grief journey. You'll hear valuable advice on navigating these dynamics, along with resources like therapy and books to support both partners. The episode wraps up with interesting statistics on widowers and widowers, dispelling the myth that they are "undateable." Finally, excerpts from a poignant poem on grief add a reflective touch.  We'd love to hear your thoughts on the show – leave your comments and feedback below!    Originally from Northern California, Megan Steen lives in Orange County with her husband and two energetic toddlers. A lifelong sports fan, she roots for the San Francisco teams. Building a successful career in enterprise technology, Megan rose from an office assistant to Director of Growth Marketing at Quest Software, now leading a global marketing team. She values personal connections and enjoys hosting vision board parties and brunches. Finding peace in nature, Megan loves beach walks, the fresh air of Lake Tahoe, and the beauty of Big Sur. To share her wisdom, Megan writes heartfelt letters filled with life lessons to her niece.  In this episode:  Intro and background - Megan Steen  Foundations - meeting and building a relationship  Acknowledging and honoring the one who is gone  Being invited to experience grief with the family  Accessing help and resources - therapy, books  Moving in together  Interesting stats on widows and widowers  Advice on getting involved with a widow or widower  Widowers should not be viewed as “undateable”  A poem on grief  You are an ‘addition’ not a ‘replacement’ for that person who is gone  The game - “You Know You’re Old When….’  Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is your weekly dose of inspiration for navigating the exciting, unpredictable, and undeniably transformative journey of midlife. Hosted by Karen Stones, founder of 13 Jacks Marketing Agency, avoids the tired cliches of crisis and stagnation. This podcast celebrates the power of play, discovery, and possibility that comes with this unique chapter in life. Join us every week as we delve into the real stories, challenges, and triumphs of midlife. We'll explore fresh perspectives, practical tips, and inspiring experiences that will help you thrive, not just survive, during this pivotal time. Ready to rewrite your midlife narrative? Head over to ThirtyfiveSixtyfour.com and be a part of the adventure!  Resources:  Megan’s Blog: With Love Aunt Megs  Blog Post - Grief From the Perspective of a Widow’s Partner   Brene Brown TED talk  Book: The Gift of Imperfection  Book: It’s Ok That You’re Not Ok  ...