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Feeling emotionally reactive or facing a big decision? Karen introduces a game-changing three-step check-in process that could save you from making choices you’ll regret. Ever sent that text in anger, made an impulsive purchase, or reacted poorly to a situation only to wonder later what you were thinking? This episode reveals the simple but powerful “T.H.H.” framework that helps you pause before making important decisions or emotional reactions. Karen shares vulnerable stories from her own experience with young children and perimenopause, explaining how being tired, hungry, or hormonal can hijack our decision-making abilities. Her practical approach offers immediate relief for anyone who’s ever wondered why they sometimes feel so emotionally dysregulated. Ready to transform your reactive patterns into thoughtful responses? Karen breaks down each element of the T.H.H. framework with relatable examples and actionable strategies. From keeping snacks in your glove compartment to recognizing hormonal patterns (yes, this applies to men too!), she provides practical tools for better self-awareness. The conversation gets real about perimenopause, intermittent fasting challenges, and those 3 AM parenting moments that can make everything feel extreme. Karen’s friends even use this system to redirect each other during emotional meltdowns. Listeners will walk away with a simple but effective method for identifying when they’re not operating at their best, plus permission to give themselves grace during those inevitable human moments. In this episode: (00:00) Introduction: The T.H.H. Framework for Better Decision-Making (01:15) T – Are You Tired? The Sleep Deprivation Decision Trap (03:45) Real Talk: Five Years of Sleep Deprivation with Young Kids (06:20) H – Are You Hungry? The “Hangry” Factor in Decision-Making (09:30) Practical Tips: Keeping Snacks Everywhere for Better Mood (11:45) H – Are You Hormonal? Perimenopause Reality Check (15:20) It’s Not Just Women: Men and Midlife Hormonal Changes (17:40) The Friend Check System: How to Support Each Other (20:15) When You Check Multiple Boxes: Emergency Self-Care Protocol (22:30) Making Better Decisions When You’re Stable (24:45) Tip Jar Information and Closing Thoughts About: ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. If you find our stories and conversations valuable, your contribution helps cover the behind-the-scenes costs of keeping this podcast running. Leave a tip or donation here → https://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com/donate/ Episode Transcript: So, I’ve noticed that there are three reasons that I should not be reactive or make decisions. I’m gonna go through those with you. They’re very basic and it almost works every time. So let’s dive in. T, are you tired? Now they say no one is getting enough sleep. I don’t know. I try to prioritize my sleep. I really am one of those people who need like minimum eight hours. I do not do well, operating under a low amount of sleep. And if I am tired, I’m just not thinking straight. I’m not at my best. I can operate. But I’m not operating at the level that I should be if I’m going to make a really important decision. So do not, whatever you do, do not make a decision that is impactful and important. or react in a way that’s going to change the outcome of your life in the imme...

Ever find yourself caught in a spiral of complaint conversations that leave you feeling drained and pessimistic? Host Karen returns to ThirtyFiveSixtyFour after a year-long hiatus following an electrical fire, bringing hard-won wisdom about breaking free from what she calls “the negativity vortex.” Despite naturally leaning 80% positive, Karen discovered how easily she and her best friend had slipped into daily phone calls dominated by complaints about rising costs, work stress, and life’s general difficulties. What started as relating and supporting each other had morphed into a destructive pattern that fed on itself, gaining momentum like a psychological tornado. Ready to escape your own negativity spiral? Karen shares her four-step recovery plan that transformed weeks of doom-scrolling conversations into uplifting daily exchanges. The solution isn’t about forced gratitude or toxic positivity—it’s about intentionally training your brain to notice what’s actually going well in real-time. Through a simple seven-day texting experiment with her friend, Karen demonstrates how our confirmation bias works both ways: if we look for problems, we’ll find them everywhere, but if we actively seek out small wins and smooth moments, those multiply too. Listeners will discover practical strategies for identifying when they’re stuck in the vortex, recruiting accountability partners, and rewiring their mental focus toward what’s working rather than what’s broken. In this episode: (00:00) Karen’s Return: Back Home After Electrical Fire Recovery (02:30) Recognizing the Negativity Vortex Pattern (05:45) How Complaint Conversations Spiral Out of Control (08:20) The Psychology Behind “You Find What You’re Looking For” (11:15) Why Our Brains Amplify What We Focus On (14:00) The Four-Step Program to Break Free (16:30) The Seven-Day Texting Experiment Rules (19:45) Real Examples: What “Going Well” Actually Looks Like (23:10) Why This Isn’t Just Another Gratitude Practice (26:00) How Confirmation Bias Works For and Against Us (29:20) Accountability Partners: Choosing the Right Person (32:15) Results: How Conversations Transform in One Week (35:00) New Tip Button Launch for Podcast Support (37:30) Season Relaunch and What’s Coming Next Resources: ThirtyFiveSixtyFour WebsiteNew Tip/Donation Button About: ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. If you find our stories and conversations valuable, your contribution helps cover the behind-the-scenes costs of keeping this podcast running. Leave a tip or donation here → https://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com/donate/ Episode Transcript: Welcome to thirtyfivesixtyfour, a podcast for the middle. I am so happy to be with you today. It’s been a long break. I am finally moved. If you can see behind me and you’re watching on YouTube, I am back in my house after over a year when I had an electrical fire. It’s been quite a journey getting everything back in place and working with insurance. I am so grateful to be home and you can see behind me I’m in a bit of a new studio environment. This is my first recording back at it in the new studio. So, so, so good to be with you today we are diving into...

Ever secretly eye that bold piece in the store window while playing it safe? Saratta Murphy brings fearless wisdom about redefining life and fashion after 40—without losing yourself in the process. From running two Texas businesses to relocating across the country just weeks after burying her father, Saratta now inspires thousands of Gen X women as a content creator and influencer. She and Karen explore conquering educational goals later in life and navigating grief while pursuing dreams. Saratta's challenge: "I am fearing less of what other people think and appreciating who I am, showing up just as that." Transform your "I don't know how to dress" anxiety into "I'm going to try that pink scarf" excitement. Saratta shares how clients moved from "boring wardrobe" moments to authentic style expression. That blazer you've been eyeing? These aren't fashion mistakes—they're style evolution opportunities. The conversation covers supporting friends through loss and the gift of moving in silence until you're ready to share big dreams. Listeners get actionable style tips, grief support wisdom, and mastering what Saratta calls "shopping your own closet." Saratta Murphy, 48, is a Gen X content creator, influencer, and authentic life enthusiast. She earned her MBA and marketing degree in nine months while processing grief and major life changes. After building two successful businesses, burying her father, and relocating cross-country within two weeks, she now empowers women to show up authentically. Her philosophy: "fearing less of what other people think" while focusing on practical wisdom over perfection. Episode Breakdown: (00:00) Introducing Saratta Murphy: From business owner to content creator (01:20) Age and attitude: Embracing 48 and looking forward to 50 (03:45) Educational transformation: Two degrees in nine months (08:30) Moving in silence: Protecting your dreams from doubt (11:45) Navigating loss: Losing a parent and honoring their legacy (14:45) How to show up for friends in grief (16:00) Finding purpose that evolves with you (21:00) Business lessons: What problem are you solving? (28:45) Summer 2025 fashion essentials and comfort zone expansion (36:00) Shopping your closet and the power of blazers (42:00) Scarf styling for beginners (featuring the pink scarf challenge!) (47:00) What to put away for summer 2025 (56:00) Favorite shopping destinations from H&M to Goodwill (59:00) Styling the men in your life with love ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. Resources: SaRatta's Instagram: https://instagram.com/the_unimaginedlife SaRatta's Amazon Store: https://amazon.com/shop/theunimaginedlife?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_FJ82XC5Z9EEER8HFV661&language=en_US  SaRatta's TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theunimaginedlife?_t=ZP-8whnWEFTwtS&_r=1  _________________________ Watch & Subscribe ✅ on YouTube → https://youtube.com/channel/UCUMAMJFx9trP1ixYD8uEs4A?reload=9  Listen & Subscribe ✅ on Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/sho...

Is your midlife crisis actually your soul demanding a rebirth?  Midlife crisis or midlife opportunity? Tina LeAnn Erdmann brings refreshing wisdom to ThirtyFiveSixtyFour about embracing life's second act. Ever felt stuck in patterns that once worked but now feel suffocating? Tina's been there. After two decades in corporate America, she ditched the corner office to become a mindset coach helping others navigate their own transitions. Karen and Tina laugh about the classic signs—impulse purchases, existential dread, and that nagging question: "Is this all there is?" But Tina challenges listeners to reframe: "Your midlife crisis is actually your soul demanding rebirth." Her three-step approach offers practical ways to transform breakdown into breakthrough.  Ready to convert your midlife panic into purposeful passion? Tina shares vulnerable stories of clients who transformed their "oh no" moments into "aha" revelations. Remember that vintage motorcycle gathering dust in your garage? Or the half-finished novel in your drawer? Tina explains why these aren't failures but breadcrumbs leading to your authentic path. The conversation takes a powerful turn when discussing midlife's ultimate gift: the courage to disappoint others to reclaim yourself. "People-pleasing is a young person's game," Tina quips. Listeners will walk away with actionable strategies for identifying their "rebirth signals" and embracing what Tina calls "the most creatively fertile period of your entire life."    Tina LeAnn Erdmann is a Human Design Guide, NLP Practitioner, Podcast Host, Author, and Educator who embodies transformation both personally and professionally. As a 3/5 emotional Manifestor, she lives her design through bold experimentation and sharing her discoveries to benefit others. Her adventurous spirit has taken her across the globe, from trekking to Mount Everest base camp to summiting Mount Kilimanjaro. Most recently, Tina spent a year as a nomad, driving her beloved 1971 Plymouth Cuda across the country—a journey that became both literal and metaphorical as she reconnected with her life force energy and authentic self. Through her work, she unlocks focused codes within human design that release energetic blockages. Tina's philosophy centers on the belief that "the human body is the key to the Kingdom," finding that the integration of human technology, heart coherence, and self-love creates the deepest connection to Divine Source.    In this episode:  (00:00) Introducing Tina Erdmann: From Corporate America to Midlife Coach  (03:45) Signs You're Not Having a Crisis—You're Having a Rebirth  (07:12) Why Impulse Purchases Are Actually Soul Breadcrumbs  (12:30) The Three-Step Framework for Midlife Transformation  (18:05) Breaking Free from People-Pleasing After 40  (23:50) Stories of Transformation: Real Client Breakthroughs  (29:15) The 5-Minute Daily Practice for Clarity  (35:40) Navigating Relationships During Your Rebirth  (42:10) Resources and Next Steps for Listeners  (45:30) Tina's Personal Midlife Awakening Story  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife cr...

What if being in your fifties is actually the best age to be?  Franck Pedretti gets real about embracing the middle years in this entertaining episode of ThirtyFiveSixtyFour. A former professional snowboarder turned French TV host and filmmaker, Franck brings his European perspective to aging with humor and wisdom. Ever find yourself feeling caught between your youthful brain and your middle-aged body? Franck has. He shares how his mind still says "backflip" while his back screams "chiropractor appointment first!" But there's something beautifully liberating about this stage too. "When you're 51, you're young in the club of five-zero," he says with characteristic charm. The secret to thriving? Accept your limitations, maintain your health, and embrace the wisdom you've earned.  Have you been living to work instead of working to live? Franck challenges listeners to reconsider priorities before it's too late. From navigating fatherhood with an 11-year-old who wants dad to "drop into the halfpipe" to contemplating post-empty-nest adventures in an RV, Franck shares how midlife brings perspective that twenty-somethings can't comprehend. He discusses the wave of divorces he's witnessed among friends hitting their fifties and the importance of healing past wounds. But ultimately, Franck's message is optimistic: "My best age is obviously now." With his contagious energy and thoughtful insights, this episode reminds us all that with age comes not just limitations, but a profound understanding of what truly matters in life.    Franck Pedretti is a dynamic creative force who began his career as a professional snowboarder before transitioning to French television, where he hosted sports programs for six years including Olympic coverage. Now based in San Diego, this 53-year-old French native directs films and produces documentary work through his creative lens. When not creating visual stories, Franck embraces active fatherhood with his 11-year-old son, sharing his love for outdoor adventure while balancing the physical realities of middle age. His European perspective brings a refreshing take on aging gracefully, making him both an entertaining storyteller and thoughtful philosopher on midlife's unique challenges and opportunities.    In this episode:  (00:00) Introducing French Creative and Former Snowboarder Franck Pedretti  (04:15) From Professional Snowboarding to French TV Hosting  (08:30) Being 53: When Your Body Unsubscribes from Your Brain's Newsletter  (13:52) Sleep is Key: The Middle-Age Health Reality Check  (18:47) Navigating Friendship Through Divorce Waves in Your 50s  (23:15) The Hardest Part of Aging for Active Men  (29:20) Why Now is His Favorite Age: "I'm Young in the Club of 5-0"  (35:43) Looking Forward to the 60s: RV Dreams and Work-Life Balance  (39:20) Work to Live, Not Live to Work: Midlife Priorities  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to becom...

  How much of your mental energy is wasted on unnecessary guilt every single day?    Karen Stones confronts six everyday guilt-triggers - from declining invitations without elaborate excuses to ignoring text messages without apology, Karen challenges midlife's unnecessary guilt trips. "Age should bring wisdom," she reminds listeners while sharing her own struggles with saying no. Her practical advice? Simply say, "Thank you for thinking of me, I'm not able to make it" – no excuses needed. Karen's candid confession about skipping a five-year-old's birthday party gives listeners permission to prioritize their precious time without the guilt baggage.  Ever feel guilty about forgotten birthdays, not tipping at counter service, or - gasp - actually relaxing? You're not alone. Karen dives into these midlife guilt traps with humor and practical solutions. "I hope it was a great birthday," she suggests as the perfect response when you've forgotten someone's special day. Karen even admits her own struggle with Netflix guilt, sharing the story of a woman who jumps off the couch when her husband comes home. The episode concludes with permission to say no to volunteering when your schedule is already packed. The message? It's time to drop the guilt and reclaim your midlife sanity.    In this episode:  (00:00) Are Guilt Triggers Ruining Your Midlife Happiness?  (00:37) Declining Invitations: The No-Excuse Method That Actually Works  (03:03) The Text Message Guilt Spiral (And How to Break It)  (05:18) Forgotten Birthdays: The Perfect Response When You've Messed Up  (07:38) The Tipping Dilemma: When Obligation Replaces Appreciation  (09:57) Netflix Guilt: Why Relaxation Feels So Uncomfortable in Midlife  (12:04) The Volunteering Pressure: Setting Boundaries with School, Sports & Community  (15:21) What Do You Feel Guilty About? Drop me a message!   Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com

Ever wondered if your embarrassing midlife moments are actually universal?     Lisa and Suzette from "Midlifers" join Karen Stones to laugh about the realities of aging gracefully (or not). Self-described as the "tweens of adulthood," this hilarious duo shares "the good, the saggy, the hard, the funny, and everything else about life in the middle." From brain fog moments like calling an ankle a "foot wrist," to discovering the iPhone magnifier, they bring authentic humor to middle age struggles. These Instagram sensations started their platform when they noticed plenty of content on fashion and fitness, but not enough truth and fun.  For instance, are you embracing the "great hair migration" yet? Karen, Lisa, and Suzette tackle everything from colonoscopies to Botox, skinny jeans, and the infamous "freeze, squeeze and sneeze" of middle age. Lisa and Suzette's philosophy? "Shame loves the dark." They advocate unapologetically for living your best midlife with confidence—whether that means going gray, getting Botox, or taking up drums at 53. After all, isn't this the best part about being middle-aged? We finally care less about what others think and more about what brings us joy. As Lisa says, "The sexiest part of all this is confidence."    In this episode:  (00:00) The Gap in Midlife Content: Why Midlifers Was Created  (06:00) Colonoscopy Chronicles: Middle Age Milestones  (08:33) The Botox Debate: Finding Confidence in Midlife  (14:48) Extinct Names: How Lisa, Suzette, and Karen Date Themselves  (21:05) The Body Rebellion: Drooping Knees and Beyond  (27:59) Finding Purpose and Joy in Midlife: Self-Discovery After 40  (32:41) Midlife Confessions: Babies and Drums, Saying “Yes” to More Things  (35:44) The "Foot Wrist" Incident and Other Brain Fog Moments  (40:30) Midlife Red Flags: Checks, Paper, and Transition Lenses  (50:00) Midpoints: The Freeze, Squeeze, and Sneeze of Middle Age  (53:50) Closing Thoughts: Laughter is Key  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  Midlifers Instagram   Midlifers Facebook  Middle Age Playlist on Spotify 

What if your most embarrassing midlife struggle is exactly what someone else needs to hear about?  Karen Stones gets real about vulnerability in this honest episode of ThirtyFiveSixtyFour. Ever tried being truly vulnerable with someone, only to realize you were just reciting a script? Karen has. For 2025, she's challenging herself—and her middle-aged listeners—to move beyond surface-level connections. She shares raw stories: opening up about her perimenopause struggles to an old friend (who immediately responded "me too") and admitting her parenting failures to her hairstylist. But who deserves to see your true self? Not everyone. "Choose wisely," she warns.  Have you been avoiding difficult conversations with people who matter? Karen believes we need fewer Instagram acquaintances and more genuine connections. She asks listeners to identify the safe people in their lives and take a risk. Share something hard. Feel that racing heart. The payoff? Deep connection. And your vulnerability might just help someone else navigate their own midlife challenges. After all, isn't that what we're all looking for at this stage—to be seen, flaws and all, and still be loved?    In this episode:  (00:00) Choose Your Confidants Wisely   (02:00) What Vulnerability Really Means   (03:30) The Art of Safe Vulnerability: Who Gets to See the Real You?  (04:33) Reconnecting with a Long-Distance Bestie  (06:03) Perimenopause: When Vulnerability Creates Connection  (07:40) The Hair Salon Confession  (09:50) Food Struggles & Parenting  (12:10) Your Vulnerability Challenge: Don't Waste Your Hard-Earned Wisdom  (14:04) Closing Thoughts  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  Vulnerability: The Key to Better Relationships   http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com  Thank you to our sponsor: Dana Creath Lighting   

Did you know that the best time to start therapy might be when you're NOT in crisis?  Welcome to Season 2 of the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour podcast! Host Karen Stones experienced a house fire last summer and is now in the reconstruction phase. She welcomes listeners back after a two-month break. In a deeply personal episode, host Karen Stones shares her personal journey with therapy, offering valuable perspectives for middle-aged listeners. Drawing from her own experiences, she debunks common therapy myths and shares how seeking professional help when not in crisis can lead to profound personal growth.  Karen discusses how childhood experiences shape adult behaviors, the investment value of therapy despite its cost, and finding the right therapist match. Therapy isn't a sign of weakness but of strength and wisdom. Find out how one person's therapy journey can positively transform relationships through "therapy by osmosis." Throughout, Karen weaves personal anecdotes with practical advice for listeners considering therapy as a pathway to living their best middle-aged life.    In this episode:  (00:00) Welcome Back! Karen's Season 2 Return & House Fire Updates  (03:52) Therapy Myths Debunked, That Bad Therapy Experience Needs a Do-over  (05:40) Only Losers Go to Therapy? Biggest Misconceptions  (08:16) The Perfect Time for Therapy (Hint: It's Not When You Think)  (11:38) Was Your "Perfect" Childhood Actually Perfect?  (17:53) Parenting Revelation: We All Impact Our Kids  (18:35) Confession Time: The Middle-Aged Art of Lying to Your Therapist  (22:48) $220 Per Session: Worth More Than Those Designer Shoes?  (24:44) Finding Your Therapy Soulmate After 40  (28:30) When You Do the Work But Your Partner Doesn't: The Ripple Effect  (31:40) Closing Thoughts  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  Attachment Styles & Their Role in Relationships    http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com  Thank you to our sponsor: Dana Creath Lighting   

What challenges did Victoria Nino face when considering egg donation, and how did she navigate the complex emotions of genetic grief and redefining family?  Join me for a heartbreaking but inspiring conversation with Victoria Nino, author and advocate, as she shares her experiences with infertility. Victoria candidly discusses her endometriosis diagnosis and the emotional and physical toll of fertility treatments in her pursuit of motherhood. Her story offers hope and solidarity to the one in six individuals worldwide facing similar fertility struggles.  Victoria also opens up about her decision to pursue egg donation after unsuccessful IUI cycles, navigating ‘genetic grief’ and societal expectations along the way. As an advocate for diverse family structures, she challenges traditional views on building a family. This episode sheds light on the emotional, financial, and societal aspects of fertility challenges, while highlighting the importance of community support and inclusivity.    In this episode:  (00:00) Getting vulnerable about infertility, guest intro Victoria Nino  (02:57) Victoria’s challenging journey  (13:19) Statistics around infertility  (16:34) Karen’s story  (25:13) Victoria’s most challenging situations along the way  (29:44) The unbelievable costs   (30:26) How Victoria’s husband dealt with the process  (32:48) Resources and support  (39:00) Closing thoughts, advice and reaching out for support  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  Instagram: @expectinganything @infertilityunfiltered  Our Hearts Match by Victoria Nino  Infertility Unfiltered: Victoria Nino on Egg Donation, Support and Finding your Why   Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health  http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com

Could seeking feedback from your loved ones about what they hope you’ll change in the coming year lead to surprising insights and personal growth?  Picture this: I'm sitting across from my therapist, and in an unexpected twist, I ask her to craft a New Year's resolution just for me. Her answer? Learn to relax and chill more. This suggestion threw me for a loop, challenging my deeply ingrained beliefs about productivity and the innate fear of laziness.     Next, I explore the intriguing idea of asking children or partners for New Year's resolutions, a concept that emerged from a discussion with friends. I dare my listeners to ask these challenging questions. What if you could foster deeper connections and self-improvement? While receiving feedback can be difficult, it can also be a valuable opportunity to enhance relationships and personal well-being in the new year.    In this episode:  (00:00) Did you make one of these top 5 resolutions at the beginning of 2024?  (03:24) A therapist’s resolution for Karen  (07:26) What would your partner suggest for you as a resolution? The top requests of men and women for their partners  (12:50) Asking your kids what their resolutions might be for you, closing thoughts   Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com   

What can we learn from hackers about patience, persistence, and creativity? Find out how these traits are not just for digital security but can also lead to personal success.  Break the mold and defy expectations with Ted Harrington, a trailblazer in ethical hacking who redefines what it means to challenge conventions. Forget the lone hacker myth—Ted reveals how collaboration, persistence, and strategy are the real keys to turning the tables on cyber threats. There are shocking security flaws in everyday tools - from password managers to dating apps. Discover how hackers use the same tactics as cybercriminals—but for good. In adopting a ‘hacker mindset’ Ted encourages us to embrace curiosity, tackle new challenges, and break free from outdated rules. It's time to question the status quo, push boundaries, and unlock your full potential.    In this episode:  (00:00) Debunking Hollywood hacker myths with Ted Harrington, misconceptions and realities of ethical hacking, stereotypes and the critical role of ‘good’ hacking in safeguarding digital environments  (09:00) Discovering security flaws in apps, password managers and dating apps   (19:00) Unveiling the hacker mindset  (27:00) Personality types and social collaboration in the hacker community, upcoming book "Inner Hacker", collaboration and patience as keys to hacking success  (33:11) Embracing a beginner's mindset for lifelong growth, seeking new experiences can maintain growth and adaptability, regardless of age  (40:27) Things you can start doing today, challenging assumptions and breaking rules,  fostering innovation and personal growth, questioning societal norms   (44:15) How to connect with Ted, closing thoughts, encouraging creativity and resilience in personal pursuits  Life is full of opportunities regardless of age, embrace your potential and inspire each other.  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  Ted Harrington Website https://www.tedharrington.com/  Ted's Book Hackable https://www.amazon.com/Hackable-How-Application-Security-Right/dp/154451767X/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= 

Middle age: it's not as scary as it sounds, and it’s definitely not what we thought it would be. In this episode, a group of middle-aged podcast launch party friends share their take on everything from confidence, wisdom and peace, to sagging boobs—and whether they'd ever go back to their 20s (spoiler: most would not!). While some admit they miss the flexibility of their youth, others are totally thriving, finding happiness, stability, and the surprising joy of not giving a damn what anyone thinks anymore. Tune in for some laughs, some wisdom, and some brutally honest reflections on how much life changes, but also how much it stays the same. And for anyone wondering, yes—middle age is officially the new black!    In this episode:  (00:27) Guests reveal their current age and how old they “feel”  (05:29) If you could speak to your 20-year-old self  (11:37) Would you go back to being 20?  (16:48) What is the most surprising thing about middle age?  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!   ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:    http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com   

Join me as I recount a recent harrowing experience at my own home, where a sudden electrical surge in the motor of a jetted tub ignited a fire in my master bathroom.   You’ll hear the details of the aftermath of this fire and the practical steps I took in its wake, which included hiring a public insurance adjuster, who was a godsend. Since my home was temporarily uninhabitable, she helped my family relocate and is working through the claims process with me. This experience is an important reminder to all homeowners about the unpredictability of accidents and the importance of being prepared. Tune in to hear more about how this incident unfolded, the lessons learned, and the steps we took to navigate the crisis.    In this episode:  (00:00) A scary bathroom fire during a staff meeting  (03:40) The aftermath - what next?  (05:00) Temporary relocation, hiring a public insurance adjuster  (06:47) What is a public insurance adjuster, and how can they help you?   (08:08) Four reasons to hire an adjuster  (10:40) Costs, ethics, word of mouth referrals  (13:00) Do you have an insurance story to share? Send it in!  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  Find a Public Insurance Adjuster  http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com   

How can you enhance your sense of fulfillment and maybe even strengthen family bonds with just a few simple intentions?  In this episode, I share a simple yet transformative practice that goes beyond the typical to-do list. This is something I’ve been doing myself - creating an intention list. All it takes is three minutes. Reflect on your highest and best intentions for the day or week—what you want to prioritize, how you want to feel, and who you want to be. This isn’t about tasks, but about setting a mindful direction for your life, from connecting with loved ones to making time for self-care. You can start small. Try three intentions a day, and see how it shifts your outlook and sense of accomplishment. It’s a quick, powerful habit that can truly change your life!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.  So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources: How (and why) to start a gratitude journal for your well-beingGratitude Journal | Count your blessings and enjoy better health and happiness How to Make a Gratitude ListGratitude Practice: How to Use Gratitude to Improve Your Life http://thirtyfivesixtyfour.com https://youtu.be/b2LEgRHVHpo

Did you know that repeating daily affirmations can shift your mindset and energize your outlook on life? In this special episode, Karen guides listeners through a transformative experience with positive affirmations tailored for those in midlife. Join us on a 40-day journey where we encourage you to integrate these affirmations into your daily routine, fostering personal growth and opening doors to new possibilities. Before we begin, take a moment to relax. Take a deep breath. Let go of any tension. Remember, you are deserving of happiness, success, and all the good things this stage of life has to offer. Tune in and embrace the power of positivity in your spiritual journey! ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle. So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead. Resources: thirtyfivesixtyfour.com 

Are you prepared to make critical healthcare decisions for yourself or your loved ones when the time comes?    Join me as I welcome back my friend and attorney Andie Patton to discuss the vital topic of healthcare directives. We explore the importance of appointing a trusted agent to make medical decisions in cases of incapacity, navigating family dynamics, and planning ahead to ensure your wishes are respected. The conversation covers end-of-life decision-making, including the nuances of healthcare directives, organ donation, and documenting preferences like cremation. We also address the emotional aspects of preparing for these scenarios and the role of attorneys versus DIY approaches. Tune in for insights on ensuring your healthcare decisions align with your values.    Andrea, “Andie” Patton is a seasoned trust and estate attorney with over 20 years of experience in drafting family trusts, wills, and powers of attorney. Passionate about guiding clients through the complexities of estate planning, she ensures their families are well cared for and their wishes honored. Andie holds a Bachelor’s degree in English from UC Irvine and earned her law degree from Loyola Law School in 1999. Licensed by the California State Bar, she is an active member of the Orange County Bar Association. Outside of work, Andie enjoys reading, spending time with her son and partner Matt, and exploring the outdoors with her chihuahua, Theo.  In this episode:  (00:00) What is it, who is it for, and when would you need an advanced healthcare directive?  (05:31) Choosing the right family member to be your agent  (08:13) Using the California Medical Association form, immediate vs. ‘springing’  (09:27) Living wills, making changes in agents or directives  (14:40) Organ and tissue donation, cremation or burial requests   (20:18) Changing percentages of people that choose different options over the years, movies and real life scenarios in the news  (26:17) How your body may help others after death  (31:45) Steps to take, how long will it take, what are the costs of a directive?  (33:09) Kaiser has their own forms, but check them with your attorney, AARP and other orgs have resources  (38:34) Review this document every FIVE YEARS!  (40:54) Playing “You Know You’re Old When…”  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources: 

What are the real emotions behind the often-used phrase, "It's not personal, it's business"?   In this episode we explore the VERY personal, emotional impact of layoffs, featuring guest Tara MacKenzie, who shares her deeply moving experiences of navigating job loss. Through her journey, we challenge the notion that job loss is merely a business decision, stressing the importance of treating each individual's contributions with dignity and respect.  By reflecting on personal stories of job loss, we highlight how empathy and transparency in leadership can mitigate the emotional toll of such events. We cover the importance of one-on-one communication and preparedness, offering practical advice for leaders tasked with delivering difficult news and for colleagues aiming to provide genuine support. We round out our episode by exploring innovative ways to cope with job loss and how career setbacks can lead to exciting new beginnings. Tara’s entrepreneurial venture, Ragebox, was a creative response to job loss, offering humor and comfort in challenging times. As we share insights on maintaining a healthy work-life balance, we emphasize the power of community and the support systems that can transform adversity into opportunity.  RageBox specializes in crafting gifts, experiences and products that cater to the dark theme enthusiasts and fans of the mischievous. The company founder, who had endured multiple job losses in the IT sector (and being handed that dreaded 'pack up your desk in a box' spiel one too many times), decided to turn her frustration into inspiration and RageBox was born. RageBox is a brilliant fusion of her passion for true crime, horror movies, and astrology, all within the simple concept of a box. If you're looking for the perfect gift for a fellow dark theme enthusiast, or just want to indulge your own dark side, RageBox has got you covered. Check out our Themed Gift Boxes and experiences, or pick up an angry artifact from our products and collections. Get ready to embrace the thrill and dive into the darkness with RageBox - RageOn!  In this episode:  (00:00) Six common major stressors in middle age  (02:37) The shock of being laid off  (05:46) Karen’s change in perspective about people who get laid off  (08:00) Tara’s experience of being laid off, different reactions to this news  (13:07) Advice for leadership when laying off  (18:15) Words and phrases to use in layoffs (and what not to say)  (20:29) An ideal scenario story  (24:00) How to proactively help a colleague who is being let go  (28:00) Tara’s business pivot to Ragebox  (33:00) Have these ‘closed doors’ led to better things?  (37:00) Tara’s worst layoff she had to perform on the job  (39:40) Ways to get in touch with Tara and Ragebox  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between t...

How do end-of-life rituals and personal reflections shape our understanding of life and death?   In this thought-provoking episode, Karen welcomes motivational speaker and seasoned chaplain Jeff Hetschel. Jeff shares his profound insights and experiences from his extensive career in providing spiritual and emotional support during critical end-of-life situations. He reflects on the invaluable role of chaplains, highlighting the importance of offering hope and courage in emergency rooms and on the front lines with firefighters and police officers. Jeff delves into his experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic, offering a poignant perspective on the challenges faced by healthcare workers and patients, as well as the significance of human connection and end-of-life rituals. Throughout the conversation, Jeff emphasizes the transformative power of love, spirituality, and self-care, drawing from his personal journey and four decades of marriage. He encourages listeners to pursue their dreams regardless of age or circumstances, leaving them with a motivational reminder to cherish life's final moments.  In this episode:  (00:00) Welcome and intro of guest Jeff Hetschel  (01:49) Origin and function of chaplains, hope and courage  (07:05) Personal experiences as a chaplain  (10:04) Thinking and speaking in retrospect about experiences during the pandemic  (14:07) Common chaplain situations at the end of life  (23:07) Is there a transitional stage between life and death?  (26:37) “Thin spaces” and the presence of god (as each person perceives it)   (29:00) Personal ND experiences of Jeff’s  (34:56) Changing your life after an NDE  (37:00) Longevity, using AI as a coach  (40:00) Advice for Jeff’s younger self  (42:00) Societal reactions to the state of the world, listening, love, learning, and acceptance  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!  ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.  So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources: The Hetschel Group Jeff Hetschel LinkedIn  The Body Keeps the Score https://youtu.be/KD6u69Wbu78

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_W_Ar0i9aE Ever wonder how we went from blasting boomboxes to bird-watching in the blink of an eye? In this clip compilation, we take a look back at some of the funny ‘You know you’re old when….” segments from the podcast.     From reminiscing about the days of pagers and walkmans to hilariously unexpected challenges like getting up out of a recliner, we leave no ‘stone’ unturned. You'll laugh with us as we struggle through the undeniable signs of middle age. Whether it's the constant need for tissues, the joy of early dinners, or the newfound thrill of bird watching, we share the quirks that come with getting older. From multiple bathroom stops on road trips to explaining old tech to our kids, episode is packed with stories that highlight the absurdities of midlife. Join us for a fun, fast-moving look back at a few of the incredible guests we’ve hosted on 3564 so far. Sit back, relax, and enjoy as we find humor in the everyday moments and embrace the journey with a smile.    In this episode:  (00:00) Karen introduces the episode  (01:07) Andrea  (02:24) Kim Selby  (03:22) Lawyer? Producer?  (03:45) Curtis Thompson  (04:29) Tiffany Wilson  (07:03) Mary Cook trampoline?  (07:56) Kevin Headley  (09:38) Chris Roberts  (10:12) Producer CD collection  (10:54) Fax Machine - Young woman in blue  (12:28) Keeping old clothes - silver fox guy  (14:00) Kevin Headley  (15:00) Chris Roberts  (17:37) Karen closes the show  Follow, subscribe, share, and rate….Send me your comments and feedback on the show!    ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is a podcast for listeners between the ages of 35 and 64. Available on all major podcast platforms, the show offers an engaging journey through the various challenges and experiences of midlife. ThirtyFiveSixtyFour presents a distinct departure from the traditional midlife crisis storyline. Instead, it champions the perspective that midlife should be viewed as a period marked by play, discovery, transformation and possibility. With new episodes released weekly, ThirtyFiveSixtyFour is positioned to become one of the fastest-growing podcasts of the year, providing both valuable insights and entertainment for those in the middle.    So, subscribe and get ready to join show host Karen and the ThirtyFiveSixtyFour regulars for both serious and fun conversations around living middle age to the fullest. After all, it’s not too late. You’re not too old. And you’re definitely NOT dead.  Resources:  thirtyfivesixtyfour.com