Strength Beyond Struggle

In this conversation, Molly McGill shares her journey of overcoming a toxic relationship marked by codependency and narcissistic abuse with host Michele Nelson. She discusses the importance of recognizing self-worth, the dangers of staying in abusive situations, and the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist.The conversation delves into the cycle of abuse, including love bombing and gaslighting, and emphasizes the need for support and self-forgiveness in the healing process.This conversation delves into the experiences of individuals who have faced narcissistic relationships, exploring themes of objectification, childhood trauma, psychological entrapment, and the cycle of codependency. The speakers share personal stories of emotional manipulation, the struggle for autonomy, and the health consequences of living in such toxic environments. They emphasize the importance of education and support for those still trapped in similar situations. End Notes and Research: Molly’s first husband bullied and belittled her. She figured this out, but she struggled to leave. She left him three times – and came back twice -- before she had the will, the clarity, and the courage to leave for good. She says it’s because she was in a codependent relationship– unable to escape. She thought, if she just loved him enough, it would get better.The term “codependence” was coined years ago mostly to explain the dynamics of relationships involving addiction.The original definition focused on the way in which the non-addicted partner finds purpose and self-worth in taking care of the addicted partner. By keeping the addict’s life from falling apart – the codependent partner can make the addiction worse.Over time, counselors started to apply the term to all kinds of lopsided relationships. One partner is the giver. The other is the taker. The experts have no medicine to treat codependence. They can’t identify it in a brain scan. No one has a magic bullet therapy.  And you won’t find “codependence” in the Diagnostic and statistical Manual of Mental Health Disorders.So is it a mental health condition? – or just an unbalanced relationship?The Mental Health America website suggests a list of signs to help you decide if you might be codependent: 1. You have an exaggerated sense of responsibility for others.2. You confuse love and pity -and therefore have a need to rescue your partner.3. You have a gnawing need for approval.4. You feel a crippling sense of guilt when you assert yourself.5. You fear being abandoned or alone.Chapters:00:00 The Objectification in Relationships03:05 Childhood Trauma and Its Impact05:59 The Struggle for Autonomy09:05 Psychological Entrapment and Isolation11:54 The Cycle of Codependency14:59 Health Consequences of Codependency17:56 The Gradual Descent into Abuse19:17 Finding Self-Worth and Love20:26 The Breaking Point: Recognizing Danger22:43 The Aftermath of Leaving: Restraining Orders and Support23:55 The Struggles of Co-Parenting with a Narcissist25:53 Understanding Gaslighting and Its Effects28:49 The Cycle of Abuse: Love Bombing to Manipulation32:42 Recognizing and Surviving Narcissistic Relationship36:52 Forgiveness and Moving Forward

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, host Michele Nelson speaks with Aeron Prosek, a queer man whoshares his experiences with discrimination. They discuss the concept of lateral discrimination, the challenges faced by those whose identify is defined as “different”, and the importance of finding community and support. Aaron emphasizes the need for self-care and mental health awareness, highlighting the interconnectednessof physical and mental well-being.KeywordsLGBTQ+, discrimination, mental health, aromantic, asexual, community, support, cisgender, privilege, resilienceAeron faced a lot of challenges – queerness, autism, depression, BiPolar, and ADHD. But you know what hurt the worst? Discrimination - even by people he might have looked to for help.Discrimination imposes a terrible burden. Decades of research shows that discrimination affects our physical and mental health.According to research, experiencing discrimination significantly increased the risk you will suffer: Depression, Stress disorders, Anxiety, Physical illness, Alcoholism, Druguse, Eating disorders, Anger disorders, PTSD, Obesity, Diabetes, Heart disease, Even risky sexual behavior. This list from research published on the National Institutesof Health website.Discrimination – the shame others impose on us and the shame we accept – even changes the brain.Animal studies showed that the lack of normal, positive interaction with others permanently affects the neurotransmitters serotonin and dopamine in the brain. Anda brain scan of people as they read an account about being discriminated against showed huge activity in the areas of the brain controlling emotion.Some 70% of US citizens say they’ve experienced discrimination. For Asians, blacks and Hispanics – that mostly involved race. For women, that mostly often involved sexism. For white men, that mostly involved ageism. For Aeron – the discrimination involved being transgender. Perhaps that’s why people struggling with gender identity issues have twice the suicide rate as the general population.Every culture stigmatizes the mentally ill in a way that makes everything worse, according to research published on the open journal Cureus. Many Asian cultures see mentalillness as a weakness, a failure of self-control that shames the family. Many African cultures attribute mental illness to a curse or possession by evil spirits. Arab cultures see it as a divine punishment. Latin American cultures see it as a sign of personal weakness and lack of will power. Here in the Western culture, we have embraced the disease model - but still see those with a mentally health condition - as dangerous. That’s why I admire Aeron for having the courage to speak up.Chapters00:00  Understanding Discrimination in the LGBTQ+ Community09:53  The Impact of Lateral Discrimination19:39  Navigating Identity: Asexuality and Aromanticism29:20  Finding Community and Support34:11  Coping Strategies and Mental Health Awareness

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, host Michele Nelson speaks with Jayden De La Rosa about herpersonal journey with anxiety and mental health challenges. Jayden shares her experiences with crippling anxiety, suicide ideation, and the impact of her diabetes diagnosis on her mental health. The conversation explores the importance of advocacy, the role of mental health facilities, and the power ofconnection and encouragement in overcoming struggles. Jayden's story serves as a beacon of hope for others facing similar challenges, emphasizing the need for understanding and support in mental health.Keywordsmental health, anxiety, suicideideation, advocacy, NAMI, personal stories, support, resilience, youth mentalhealth, coping strategiesTakeawaysJayden's anxiety began in her early teens after being diagnosed with diabetes.Anxiety can lead to severe isolation and suicidal thoughts.Mental health challenges often stem from a combination of genetic and environmental factors.Advocacy and sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone.Connection and support from peers and family are crucial in overcoming mental health struggles.Jayden found strength in her love for family and friends during her darkest moments.Mental health facilities can vary in effectiveness; personal experiences differ widely.Group therapy provided Jayden with a sense of community and understanding.The importance of planting seeds of hope in others through encouragement.Anxiety is a serious condition that can have life-threatening consequences.Chapters00:00Introduction to Jayden's Journey02:51The Impact of Anxiety on Life05:33Turning Points and Moments of Crisis12:19Navigating Mental Health Facilities16:35Finding Connection and Support19:51Advocacy and Empowerment Through Storytelling22:16The Power of Connection and Hope26:26Understanding Anxiety: A Widespread Challenge29:26The Complexity of Anxiety Disorders31:23The Impact of Trauma and Genetics on Anxiety31:50Embracing Uniqueness and IndividualityJayden spoke for more than 40 million adults – and for abouta third of American teenagers.That’s because she had to find a way to live with cripplinganxiety –the most common mental health challenge in the nation.We’re still trying to figure out what causes normal stress,fear, and vigilance to spin out of control.But for about 20% of US adults and 32% of teens – theanxiety can become disabling.And they suffer a higher risk of suicide, according to theNational Institutes of Health.One recent National Health Survey concluded that 44% of theUS population say they suffer from anxiety. But another 13% who reported all the symptoms – don’t thinkthey’re anxious.Many people with an anxiety disorder also suffer frombipolar disorder, ADHD, sleep disorders, headaches, substance abuse, eating disorders, and irritable bowel syndrome.So, what causes this debilitating, pervasive, unrealistic fear?Well, genes have something to do with it. Anxiety often runsin families. Turns out, women are much more likely to suffer from an anxiety disorder than men.It’s also linked to childhood trauma, rape, domesticviolence, the death of a loved one or exposure to violence. Even a serious or chronic illness can play a role indeveloping anxiety.You can find summaries of all the research on our website, Strength Beyond Struggle.org. Anxiety that disables looks a lot like normal fear in thebrain. That's useful bu can get hijacked – by trauma,PTSD, child abuse – or even diabetes or depression. It wears a grove in your brain. Pretty soon, you can’t stop being afraid – even when it makes no sense.Fortunately, there are options. Anti-anxiety drugs – or antidepressents and therapy – work for many people.You just must want to change so you can live at peace inyour own brain.

In this conversation, Strength Beyond Struggle podcast host Michele Nelson discusses Jason Gillette’s journey through understanding masculinity and mental health, shaped by his challenging childhood and military experiences. He emphasizes the importance of emotional expression, the impact of societal expectations on men, and the needfor accountability and empathy in redefining masculinity. Jason shares insights on fatherhood and how he aims to provide a different model for his children, contrasting with his own upbringing. The discussion highlights the significance of therapy and personal growth in overcoming ingrained beliefs about masculinity and violence. What role does “masculinity” play in mental health? Is masculinity about violence, denial, and anger? Or is it about strength, grit, discipline, and purpose?That’s a heavy question – with a complicated answer. The masculine norms demanded by society are a mixed blessing. Studies published in places like the American Journal ofMen’s Health, the Lancet, and the American Psychological Association website offered some of the dismaying statistics on the toll of toxic masculinity in our society: - Men commit 90% of the murders -and comprise 77%of the victims.- Men succeed at suicide at a rate 3.6 timeshigher than those for women.- Men have much higher rates of drug addiction, injury, behavior problems, violence, aggression, and incarceration.- Men are far more likely to have addictions to gambling and pornography. In fact, toxic masculinity imposes a high cost on men. They die on average five years sooner than women. And are less likely than women to have close friendships. For one thing, men face unrelenting pressure to be strong, dominant, and in control of their emotions – at all times. Perhaps that’s why although an estimated 9% of men suffer from major depression and anxiety – only about 4% will ever seek treatment.Takeaways• Men are statistically less likely to seek help for mental health issues.• Childhood experiences significantly shape perceptions of masculinity.• Violence is often seen as a primary expression of masculinity.• Emotional expression is crucial for mental health and well-being.• Therapy can provide new perspectives on masculinity and personal growth.• Fatherhood offers an opportunity to redefine masculinity for the next generation.• Accountability and empathy are essential in managing violent tendencies.• Societal expectations can pressure men to suppress their emotions.• Transitioning from military to civilian life can be challenging for veterans.• Redefining masculinity involves letting go of harmful narratives.Chapters00:00  Exploring Masculinity and Mental Health09:59. The Impact of Childhood Experiences onMasculinity19:46. Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life23:47  Fatherhood and Redefining Masculinity

In this episode, host Michele Nelson explores the profound impact of living with diabetes and the intertwined challenges of mental health with guest Jayden De La Rosa. Jayden shares her personal journey, highlighting the feelings of shame and fear that accompanied her diabetes diagnosis. They discuss the importance of self-acceptance, the role of mental health in managing chronic illness, and the significance of support systems. The dialogue emphasizes the need for advocacy and the hope for a future where mental health stigma is diminished.People with chronic diseases are three or four times more likely to also develop a mental health disorder – especially anxiety and depression.People with a mental health diagnosis are also more likely to develop certain chronic health problems, which include diabetes, heart disease, kidney failure and other maladies.Studies document the link between chronic health challenges and mental health disorders. Johns Hopkins researchers looked at the link between diabetes and depression. Some 37 million Americans have diabetes. On average – they’re up to four times as likely to also suffer depression. Only one third to one half of diabetics with depression ever get treatment for the depression. Why? Doctors don’t ask, which leaves the patients locked in a spiral of shame that haunts people with mental health conditions at every level.The link is overwhelming. That failure to get treatment may explain why diabetics with depression have a 45% higher risk of death, compared to diabetes not suffering from depression.Keywordsdiabetes, mental health, chronic illness, self-acceptance, shame, advocacy, body image, emotional health, support systems, personal growthTakeaways• The diagnosis of diabetes can trigger a cascade of emotions, including shame and fear.• Mental health issues are often linked with chronic illnesses like diabetes.• Self-acceptance is crucial; it's okay to have unique needs and struggles.• Shame can lead to a cycle of depression and anxiety, impacting overall health.• Support systems, including friends and community, play a vital role in recovery.• Finding balance in life involves addressing both physical and mental health.• Self-talk and positive affirmations can help break the cycle of shame.• Advocacy for mental health awareness is essential for reducing stigma.• It's important to remember that everyone has mental health, not just mental illness. • Personal growth often comes from confronting and sharing one's struggles.Chapters00:00The Beginning of a Journey: Diagnosis and Struggles02:45Living with Diabetes: The Emotional Toll05:30Coping Mechanisms: From Partying to Pain08:22The Feedback Loop: Mental and Physical Health Connection10:59Turning Point: Seeking Help and Finding Balance14:05The Power of Self-Talk and Community Support16:55Embracing Life: Overcoming Shame and Stigma19:33Advocacy and Hope: A Message for Others22:26Introduction to Jayden's Story23:07The Link Between Chronic Illness and Mental Health24:12The Importance of Screening for Mental Health25:16Ending the Silence on Shame and Mental Health25:33Embracing Uniqueness and Individuality26:45Strength Through Struggles and Community Support

In this conversation, Melinda Claypool, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, discusses the complexities of mental health, particularly in relation to family dynamics. She contrasts experiences in private practice with those in community agencies, highlighting the impact of socioeconomic factors on mental health care. The discussion delves into how family backgrounds shape mental health outcomes, the stigma surrounding mental health issues, and the importance of supportive relationships. Real-life stories illustrate the challenges faced by individualswith mental health conditions, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding. The conversation concludes with insights on creating safe spaces for healing and the role of genetics and environment in mental health. Melinda then discusses the complexities of family dynamics in relation to mental health, emphasizing the importance of recognizing struggles within family members and the need for open communication. She highlights the significance of creating safe spaces for individuals dealing with mental health issues, particularly in the context ofgenerational trauma and the impact of PTSD. The discussion also covers the role of self-care in recovery, the challenges of finding stability, and the necessity of support systems in navigating these issues.Keywordsmental health, family dynamics,psychiatric nurse, support systems, stigma, private practice, communityagencies, childhood trauma, relationships, mental health challenges, mentalhealth, family dynamics, PTSD, safe spaces, self-care, substance abuse, generationaltrauma, coping mechanisms, emotional support, recoveryTakeawaysMental health care is influenced by socioeconomic factors.Support systems are crucial for individuals with mental health issues.Family dynamics can significantly impact mental health outcomes.Stigma surrounding mental health can hinder recovery.Adverse childhood experiences contribute to adult mental health challenges.Healthy relationships can provide essential support.It's important to set boundaries with toxic family members.Empathy is more effective than sympathy in supporting others.Creating safe spaces is vital for open communication.Mental health is a combination of genetics and environmental factors. Melinda emphasizes that everyone is unique and experiences mental health differently.Creating a safe space is crucial for healing and recovery.Family dynamics can complicate mental health issues, often leading to denial or misunderstanding.PTSD can manifest in various ways, affecting daily life and relationships.Stability in housing, income, and emotional support is essential for mental health.Self-care is a vital component of recovery and should be prioritized.Generational trauma can influence how families address mental health.Coping mechanisms can develop from a lack of safe spaces, leading to unhealthy behaviors.Support systems, including friends and professionals, are necessary for healing.There is always hope for recovery, even in challenging circumstances.Chapters00:00Introduction to Mental Health and Family Dynamics01:09Private Practice vs. Community Agencies03:57Impact of Family Background on Mental Health08:09Real-Life Stories of Mental Health Challenges12:42Stigma and Support in Families16:10The Role of Support Systems20:36Healthy vs. Toxic Relationships25:07Understanding Mental Health: Genetics and Environment30:12Navigating Relationships with Trauma32:58Creating Safe Spaces for Healing33:28Navigating Family Dynamics and Mental Health39:40The Importance of Safe Spaces46:07Understanding PTSD and Its Impact51:15Finding Safety and Stability55:29The Role of Self-Care in Recovery

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, host Michele Nelson discusses Tardive Dyskinesia (TD) with Melinda Claypool, a psychiatric nurse practitioner. They explore the complexities of TD, its impact on patients, and the role of dopamine in mental health. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication between patients and providers, the uniqueness of each patient's experience, and the stigma surrounding mental health. They also discuss the significance of therapy, the influence of adverse childhood experiences, and the hope offered by new treatment options for TD.

In this conversation, Candice shares her journey through mental health challenges, emphasizing the importance of support from friends and family. She discusses the detrimental effects of loneliness and the critical role that connection plays in recovery. The dialogue explores the significance of open communication, self-care practices, and the process of finding a supportive community. Candice highlights her personal growth and the lessons learned through vulnerability and honesty in relationships, ultimately encouraging listeners to reach out and seek help when needed.

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, Lauren Shoemaker shares her personal journey with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), discussing the symptoms, challenges, and the impact it has had on her life. She emphasizes the importance of understanding OCD as a serious mental health condition rather than a mere personality quirk. Lauren also highlights the significance of therapy, particularly Exposure Response Prevention (ERP), and the role of support systems, including her husband and community involvement. Additionally, she discusses her creative writing endeavors and the upcoming children's book aimed at helping kids understand anxiety.

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, Candice Miller shares her personal journey with depression, discussing the complexities of mental health, especially among youth. She emphasizes the importance of support systems, the challenges of seeking help, and the empowerment that comes from advocacy. Candice also highlights coping strategies and the significance of self-care in managing mental health. Her story serves as a beacon of hope for those struggling, reminding listeners that they are not alone and that reaching out for help is crucial.

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, Adrian Arciniega shares his transformative journey from struggling with ADHD and substance abuse to finding faith and purpose through rehab. He reflects on his complicated relationship with God, the challenges he faced in school, and the pivotal moments that led him to a faith-based rehabilitation program. Adrian discusses the importance of reading the Bible, the lessons he learned, and how he now uses his experiences to inspire and mentor youth. His story is one of resilience, redemption, and the power of faith in overcoming life's struggles.

In this conversation, Mark Schaefer shares his journey of navigating grief after the loss of his brother to suicide. He discusses how music became a vital tool for emotional expression and healing, emphasizing the importance of support systems and community in the grieving process. Mark highlights the significance of finding safe spaces to share emotions and the therapeutic effects of music, including the unique frequency he uses in his compositions. The discussion culminates in a message of hope and gratitude, encouraging others to seek help and not suffer in silence.

In this conversation, Diego Mejias shares his journey through therapy, highlighting its transformative power in overcoming social anxiety and navigating the challenges of mental health. He discusses the importance of sharing personal stories through NAMI's Ending the Silence program, the process of finding the right therapist, and the significance of empowerment and self-discovery in healing. Diego emphasizes that therapy is a tool for personal growth and encourages others to seek help without shame.

In this conversation, Diego Mejias shares his experiences growing up in a challenging family environment marked by emotional and verbal abuse from his father. He discusses the impact of adverse childhood experiences on his mental health, relationships, and personal development. Diego reflects on his journey of healing after his parents' divorce, the importance of supportive relationships, and the role of therapy in overcoming negative self-talk. He also highlights the significance of sharing his story to empower others facing similar struggles, emphasizing that healing is a continuous process.

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, Adrian Arcieniga shares his personal journey with ADHD, discussing the challenges he faced throughout his childhood and adolescence. He highlights the importance of family support, the impact of medication on his identity, and the struggles he encountered in school. Adrian also opens up about his experiences with substance use during high school and his path to rehabilitation, ultimately finding faith and purpose in helping others. This conversation emphasizes the significance of understanding ADHD and the power of community and mentorship in overcoming life’s challenges.

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, host and guest Mark Schaeffer delve into the profound impact of suicide and grief on individuals and communities. Mark shares his personal experiences with loss, including the deaths of friends and family members, and discusses the importance of coping mechanisms, support groups, and the Ray of Light Project, which aims to provide hope and healing through music. The conversation emphasizes the need for empathy, understanding, and open dialogue about mental health, particularly in the context of cultural perspectives and the unique challenges faced by children dealing with grief.

In this conversation, school counselor Kadi Tenney discusses the evolving role of school counselors in addressing mental health issues among students. She highlights the importance of mental health support, the challenges faced by counselors, and the impact of the pandemic on student well-being. The discussion also covers cultural perceptions of mental health, the necessity of parental involvement, and the transformative experiences of students who have benefited from counseling. Tenney emphasizes the critical need for more trained counselors in schools and encourages open communication about mental health.

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, school counselor Kadi Tenney discusses the concept of 'survival mode' in families and its impact on children. She highlights the challenges faced by families today, including economic pressures and mental health issues, and how these factors contribute to students' struggles in school. The conversation emphasizes the importance of family dynamics, communication, and the role of schools in providing support to students and families in crisis. Tenney shares insights on recognizing warning signs of distress in students and the significance of seeking help, as well as the potential for breaking cycles of trauma through education and support.

The Strength Beyond Struggle podcast aims to raise awareness about mental health issues, sharing personal stories and experiences to foster understanding and support. The host, Michele Nelson, discusses her own journey with mental health alongside her daughter's, emphasizing the importance of open conversations about mental health, especially among youth. The podcast is supported by NAMI and AHCCCS , focusing on the alarming rise of mental health issues among teens, particularly in Arizona.

In this episode of the Strength Beyond Struggle podcast, Ecko Helmick shares her journey with mental health, discussing how animals have played a crucial role in her life. She reflects on her childhood experiences, the impact of her diagnoses, and how animals have provided her with routine, purpose, and companionship.