You Will Be OK

- Why do we keep repeating relationship patterns we know aren’t good for us? In this episode, I sit down with Sabrina Zohar to talk about what’s actually happening underneath the people we chase, the relationships we struggle to let go of, and the dynamics we swear we’ll never repeat again. We get into how childhood experiences create what Sabrina calls our “bullshit blueprint” — the subconscious programming that shapes what feels familiar, safe, and even attractive to us as adults. We also discuss why understanding your patterns intellectually isn’t enough to change them, what it actually means to embody self-worth, and how to move from chasing and needing to be chosen to becoming the person who chooses. In this episode, we cover: - How childhood wounds shape the relationships you choose as an adult - Sabrina’s “bullshit blueprint” and the subconscious programming running your love life - Why your brain will always choose familiar over healthy until you rewire it - The difference between knowing your worth and actually embodying it - How to tell when you’re responding to the person in front of you versus something from your past - Navigating anger, forgiveness, and holding compassion for yourself without excusing past behavior - Why real healing requires repetition, not just intellectual understanding - How to shift from chasing and being chosen to actively choosing your partner - What healthy, regulated love actually feels like - Why “I want you, but I don’t need you” is the ultimate power shift If you’ve done a ton of work on yourself, understand your patterns, and still find yourself getting pulled back into the same dynamics, this conversation is for you. LISTEN / SUBSCRIBE: Enjoying the show? Be sure to hit subscribe, drop a 5-star rating, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it today! Get Sabrina's book: Why Am I Like This? https://link.amazon/B0ima0dPW Follow Sabrina- @thesabrinazoharshow https://www.instagram.com/thesabrinazoharshow/?hl=en MY STUFF: Detached- https://link.amazon/B04UXAsNn The Feminine Code - https://link.amazon/B0iGvrmbB Join my 8-Week Course - https://sabrinabendory.com/you-will-be-ok-8-week-course Follow me- Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice 00:00:00: Introduction to Sabrina Zohar and her journey00:01:10: How Sabrina’s past shaped her approach to relationships00:03:04: The evolution of relationship advice and authenticity00:04:54: What it actually means to embody self-worth and integrity00:08:02: Compassion, healing, and inner-child wounds00:13:58: Anger, forgiveness, and making peace with past hurts00:18:53: Letting go of control and learning to trust00:22:21: The “bullshit blueprint”: childhood programming and subconscious patterns00:26:34: How old wounds get triggered in present-day relationships00:36:54: The shift from chasing to choosing00:44:33: Why repetition is necessary to actually rewire your patterns00:50:52: What healthy love and self-acceptance really look like #relationshippatterns #SabrinaZohar #childhoodwounds #self-worth #bullshitblueprint #healing #subconsciousprogramming #choosingpartners #healthylove See show notes: https://inlet.fm/you-will-be-ok/episodes/6ad0a559294953c22e786fc2 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I’m diving into one of the hardest questions in relationships: when do you accept a relationship for what it is, and when is it time to let go? It’s so easy to stay hooked on the memory of how things felt in the beginning or to keep waiting for someone to become the person you believe they could be. But at some point, you have to stop making decisions based on the past or the potential and look at what’s actually in front of you. I share personal insights and some of the questions I use to help you see your relationship more clearly. We talk about why you need to stop diagnosing someone’s behavior, why potential can keep you stuck for years, and the one question that can change everything: If nothing changed, would I still choose this person? Whether you’re trying to recover from a devastating breakup or sitting on the fence about your current relationship, this episode is about getting brutally honest with yourself, seeing the relationship for what it actually is, and deciding what you want to do from there. 🔑 Key Takeaways & Topics Covered The Trap of Early Idealization: Why the beginning of a relationship isn’t always representative of the relationship you actually have. Potential vs. Reality: How focusing on who someone could be keeps you attached to a fantasy instead of seeing who they are today. The Question That Changes Everything: How asking “What if nothing changed?” can give you clarity when you don’t know whether to stay or let go. Childhood Wounds & Attachment: How old patterns can distort what we perceive as love, acceptance, and safety. Choosing Yourself: Stop putting all your energy into analyzing or fixing someone else and start paying attention to what you actually need. Books: Detached- https://link.amazon/B022nkMoP The Feminine Code - https://link.amazon/B0fzZvlXS Join my 8-Week course- https://sabrinabendory.com/you-will-be-ok-8-week-course Follow me Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ Tik Tok: @sabrinabendory - https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrinabendory #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice 00:00:00: Introduction: Why This Topic Matters00:02:11: The Real Reason You’re Devastated After a Breakup00:03:20: The Power of Asking: “What If Nothing Changed?”00:07:29: The Truth About Early Relationship Idealization00:09:52: Building a Relationship with Potential vs. Reality00:11:04: Deciding Based on Current Information, Not Potential00:13:37: Stop Diagnosing and Predicting: Focus on Now00:16:39: Seeing Your Partner Clearly: Who Are They Today?00:19:13: Love and Acceptance: When Is Enough Enough?00:21:37: Letting Go of Future Fantasies and Choosing Yourself #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #Potentialvs.Reality #BreakupRecovery #Self-Reflection See show notes: https://inlet.fm/you-will-be-ok/episodes/6ac76acbb65295ab0755562b Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dating is supposed to be fun… so why does it make so many of us feel completely exhausted, anxious, and miserable? In this episode, I’m joined by Serena Kerrigan, author of the just released book "Let’s F*cking Date". We talk about what it really means to “be the prize,” how to stop letting rejection destroy your confidence, why you need to stop dating someone’s potential, and how to take the pressure off dating and actually make it fun again. If you’re tired of overthinking texts, feeling depleted by situationships, or wondering how to meet and flirt with people in real life again, this episode is your roadmap to taking your power back. In this episode, we cover: - What “being the prize” actually looks like in practice - Why dating yourself first changes the entire dynamic - How safety and inner peace can change who you’re attracted to - The danger of falling for potential instead of reality - The myth of “the one,” soulmates, and perfect timing - How to approach, flirt, and signal interest in real life - How to reframe rejection as redirection and build resilience - Why maintaining your independence matters in a relationship - How to take the pressure off and actually enjoy modern dating again Get the book: "Let's F*cking Date: Become the Prize, Enjoy the Ride, and Never Settle Again" - https://link.amazon/B0cvzuuyI Follow Serena- @serenakerrigan https://www.instagram.com/serenakerrigan/ Follow me: Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #dating #confidence #rejection #potential #flirting #independence #moderndating See show notes: https://inlet.fm/you-will-be-ok/episodes/6ab3a4243558af675040108c Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is the fear of rejection secretly running your life? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on rejection and exposing it for what it really is: a childhood "boogeyman" that only holds power because of the story we attach to it. Whether you're holding back in your career, walking on eggshells in relationships, or constantly doubting your self-worth, I want to give you a powerful shift in perspective to help you take your power back. I share my own personal stories of overcoming rejection, the exact mental models I use to separate hard facts from emotional fiction, and actionable steps to build real resilience. We’ll break down why a simple "no" feels like a direct attack on your identity, how old wounds amplify modern fears, and how practicing true detachment allows you to take big risks without the fear of falling. It’s time to stop letting a fictional boogeyman cost you years of growth, happiness, and connection. What We Cover: - Why rejection is just a story you tell yourself—not a final verdict on your worth - How old wounds trigger deep rejection sensitivity in your adult life - The hidden cost of self-rejection in love, career, and personal growth - Practical ways to practice detachment and separate facts from feelings - How to stop fearing the "no" so you can finally move forward with trust Join my 8-week You Will Be OK course: https://sabrinabendory.com/you-will-be-ok-8-week-course "Detached"- https://link.amazon/B09vsZ4g5 "The Feminine Code" - https://link.amazon/B0hfTuN6B Follow me0 Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ Tik Tok: @sabrinabendory - https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrinabendory #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #rejection #self-worth #resilience #detachment #fear #growth #career #relationships #mentalmodels #empowerment #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice See show notes: https://inlet.fm/you-will-be-ok/episodes/6aabbb1ee44f94d02f8e3fbd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Money impacts far more than just our bank accounts—it plays a central role in who we date, our relationship dynamics, and how safe we feel in our own lives. In this episode of You Will Be OK, I’m joined by personal finance coach Whitney Hansen to break down the intersection of money, mindset, and relationships. We dive into how childhood experiences shape your money story, the financial red flags to watch for when dating, and how to navigate saver vs. spender dynamics without ruining your relationship. Whitney also shares why financial compatibility isn't about finding someone with a specific salary, but rather aligning on mindset, habits, and values. In this episode, we cover: - How childhood experiences and financial trauma shape your adult mindset - Crucial financial red flags to look for while dating - How to evaluate a partner’s debt and financial habits logically - Essential money conversations every couple needs to have - Saver vs. spender dynamics, prenups, and joint vs. separate finances in marriage - Why financial literacy and independence are non-negotiable for women - Practical first steps toward building wealth and unlearning financial anxiety Whether you are single, dating, married, working through debt, or ready to build real wealth, this conversation will transform the way you view money and relationships. Connect & Resources: Follow Whitney Hansen: @whitney_hansen_co https://www.instagram.com/whitney_hansen_co/ Grab my latest book, The Feminine Code: https://amzn.to/4heFlWH Work with me: https://www.sabrinabendory.com Follow me Instagram: @sabrinabendory - https://www.instagram.com/sabrinabendory/ #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #financialredflags #moneyconversations #financialcompatibility #wealthbuilding #financialliteracy See show notes: https://inlet.fm/you-will-be-ok/episodes/6a9fdd932b2ecdd6ec8d6ba5 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices