Recovering Out Loud

In this episode of Recovering Out Loud, Anthony opens up about what it really means to get current in recovery. He talks about the danger of pretending everything is fine, the pressure to look strong on the outside, and how secrets, isolation, fear, comparison, and financial stress can quietly pull someone away from the solution.Anthony shares how meditation, honesty, prayer, service, fellowship, and integrity have helped him stay grounded through a tough season. He also reflects on learning to accept life on life’s terms, let go of control, and stop performing recovery for other people.This episode is for anyone in sobriety who feels like they’re struggling internally while trying to look okay externally. If you’ve been holding things in, isolating, comparing yourself, or feeling spiritually off-center, this conversation is a reminder that recovery starts with honesty.Topics covered:What “getting current” means in recoveryThe danger of secrets and stage-character recoveryFinancial insecurity, ego, and surrenderMeditation and spiritual awareness in sobrietyIsolation vs fellowshipIntegrity, comparison, and serviceWhy honesty can protect you from relapse

The Great Debate...Ontario’s HART Hubs vs Harm Reduction | Ontario is shifting its addiction response with the rollout of HART Hubs — short for Homelessness and Addiction Recovery Treatment Hubs — while moving away from supervised consumption services, safer supply, drug checking, and needle exchange programs. In this episode, I break down what that policy shift actually means, what HART Hubs are supposed to offer, and why this debate is so important.We talk about the real tension between harm reduction and abstinence-based recovery, why keeping people alive matters, and what happens when treatment is offered to people who are not ready to stop using yet. I also share my personal perspective on addiction, recovery, treatment, and why I believe you cannot force someone into sobriety before they are ready.This episode covers:What HART Hubs areWhat services they provideWhat they do not includeThe biggest criticisms and concernsWhy harm reduction still mattersWhether abstinence-based systems leave some people behindThis is an honest conversation about addiction policy, overdose risk, treatment readiness, and what actually helps people survive long enough to have a chance at recovery.Comment below: Do you think closing supervised consumption sites is the right move?

What actually keeps someone sober long-term?After spending the last 10 years in and out of recovery, I’ve learned some powerful lessons that completely changed the way I approach addiction, sobriety, and life.In this episode of Recovering Out Loud, I break down the most important principles that have helped me stay sober and continue growing in recovery.These are ideas I’ve learned from people who came before me — the mentors, counselors, and recovery communities that helped save my life.In this episode we talk about:​ The three essentials of recovery: honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness​ Why your addict brain never stops doing pushups​ Why you cannot force someone else to get sober​ The importance of spirituality in long-term recovery​ Why service helps keep people sober​ The danger of secrets, resentment, and fear​ How ego can destroy recovery​ Why connection is the opposite of addictionRecovery isn’t easy, but it is possible.If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, this episode may help you better understand the mindset and principles that support long-term sobriety.Disclaimer: This episode reflects personal experience and recovery education and is not medical advice.

Many people believe that once they quit drugs or alcohol, the addiction is over. But for many in recovery, the addiction doesn’t disappear — it just changes form.In this episode of Recovering Out Loud, Anthony breaks down cross addiction, the phenomenon where addictive patterns shift from substances to other behaviors like gambling, work, fitness, social media, shopping, or even relationships.Drawing from his own experience — including how steroids and body dysmorphia led him back into addiction after years sober — Anthony explains how the real issue isn’t the substance, it’s the underlying addiction process.You’ll learn:• What cross addiction actually is• Why the brain searches for new dopamine sources after quitting substances• The warning signs of cross addiction• The difference between healthy coping and addictive behavior• How to prevent cross addiction in recoveryRecovery isn’t just about quitting substances.It’s about learning how to live without needing to escape your life.If you’re sober, in recovery, or supporting someone who is, this conversation could change how you understand addiction.

Addiction doesn’t only affect the person using substances — it affects everyone around them.In this episode of Recovering Out Loud, Anthony shares a deeply personal and honest conversation about what happens when addiction enters a family. From broken trust and emotional chaos to the painful cycle of hope and disappointment, families often find themselves trying to fix something they cannot control.Anthony speaks from experience about how addiction impacted his own family and the difficult amends that followed. He explains why addiction is often called a family disease, how enabling keeps addiction alive, and why healthy boundaries are one of the most important tools families have.You’ll learn:Why addiction changes the entire family systemThe difference between supporting and enablingWhy families often feel guilt and responsibilityThe importance of boundaries and self-careWhy families need recovery tooIf you are struggling with a loved one in addiction, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical guidance.Remember the three truths:You didn’t cause itYou can’t control itYou can’t cure itBut you can protect yourself and support recovery.

In this episode, I break down what spirituality actually is — especially for people in recovery who don’t believe in God, grew up religious, or feel triggered by the word “spiritual.”Spirituality in recovery isn’t dogma — it’s connection, grounding, meaning, and a power greater than your impulsive brain. Today I share practical spiritual tools, how I rebuilt my relationship with a higher power after relapse, and how spirituality became the anchor that keeps me sober.We cover:• Spirituality vs religion (what’s the difference?)• Why willpower alone isn’t enough in addiction recovery• The spiritual void caused by addiction• Practical tools: stillness, gratitude, service, meaning-making, surrender• How ego blocks your recovery• How to build a spiritual practice even if you’re brand newIf you’re struggling, open to change, or tired of white-knuckling sobriety—this one’s for you.Follow on IG: @RecoveringOutLoudPodSubscribe for weekly recovery content.

In this episode of Recovering Out Loud, Anthony dives deep into one of the most dangerous emotional patterns in addiction recovery: resentment.Often called the number one offender of relapse, resentment quietly builds in the background through replayed anger, unmet expectations, and stories we tell ourselves about other people.Anthony explains the difference between anger and resentment, why anger is often a secondary emotion rooted in fear, and how holding onto resentment keeps people stuck in a disturbed mental state.Drawing from personal experience, recovery principles, and emotional sobriety practices, this episode explores:• Why resentment feels justified but ultimately harms you• How social media, expectations, and comparison fuel anger• The connection between resentment and relapse• The concept of being “disturbed vs undisturbed” in recovery• Practical tools to regulate anger in the moment• How forgiveness and responsibility dissolve resentment• The idea of a “spiritual bank account” in sobrietyAnthony also shares practical strategies for dealing with anger in real time, including breathing techniques, meditation, boundary setting, and journaling.Recovery isn’t about eliminating emotions — it’s about learning how to feel them without letting them control your actions.If you're struggling with anger, resentment, or emotional triggers in recovery, this episode offers powerful insight and tools to help you move forward.

Have you ever been having a normal day when a smell, a song, or a place suddenly pulls you back into the past?In this episode, we talk about intrusive memories in recovery — why they happen, why they feel so intense, and why they don’t mean relapse, failure, or weakness.Intrusive memories aren’t something you choose. They’re automatic nervous system responses that often show up in addiction recovery, trauma healing, and emotional sobriety — especially once substances are no longer numbing the system.We break down:What intrusive memories actually are (and what they’re not)Why smells, music, and places are such powerful triggersWhy sobriety can make memories feel louder before they softenThe difference between memory and meaningWhy intrusive memories are not cravingsWhat to do when an intrusive memory hitsWhy triggers and obsessions fade over time in recoveryThis episode is for anyone who’s ever thought:“Why did that come out of nowhere?”“Does this mean I still want to use?”“Am I doing something wrong in recovery?”You’re not broken.You’re not back there.Your nervous system is learning safety.

Complacency in recovery rarely announces itself. It creeps in quietly—disguised as comfort, routine, and “I’m fine.”In this episode, Anthony Degasperis breaks down how complacency develops in recovery, why it’s one of the most common relapse pathways, and how to recognize the early warning signs before things spiral. Drawing from lived experience, Anthony explains why relapse is usually a process, not a moment—and why catching complacency early is far easier than rebuilding after a fall.This conversation explores emotional sobriety, self-awareness, comparison traps, and the importance of staying intentional and connected in recovery. If your recovery feels “boring,” this episode might be exactly what you need.Complacency doesn’t mean you’re doing recovery wrong—it means you’re human.In this episode, Anthony Degasperis explores how complacency shows up once the chaos fades and life starts feeling manageable again. He explains how recovery can slowly slip into emotional autopilot, why comparison to others weakens vigilance, and how subtle shifts in thinking and behavior can quietly move someone closer to relapse.You’ll learn:Why complacency feels comfortable—but is still dangerousThe difference between boring recovery and checked-out recoveryEarly emotional and behavioral warning signsWhy addiction doesn’t disappear—it goes dormantHow humility, honesty, and connection interrupt relapse cyclesThis episode is a reminder that recovery isn’t about intensity—it’s about intention.

“You can be sober… and still be miserable.”You cannot be miserable and sober for long - it doesn't work A lot of people hear sobriety and assume it automatically equals recovery.But if you’ve been around this long enough—or lived it—you know that’s not true.Today we’re breaking down:What ‘dry drunk’ actually meansThe difference between being sober and being in recoveryWhy people relapse even after long stretches of abstinenceAnd what real recovery actually looks like in day-to-day lifeThis isn’t about labels.It’s about quality of life.

my apologies in advanced for the poor video quality on this oneWhy can two people experience the same trauma in recovery — and one relapse while the other grows?The answer isn’t willpower. It’s perception.In this episode of Recovering Out Loud, we unpack how distorted thinking fuels cravings, emotional suffering, and relapse — and how recovery teaches us to reinterpret pain instead of escaping it. You’ll learn why discomfort isn’t the enemy, how emotional sobriety equals perceptual maturity, and why feelings are real but conclusions are optional.If early recovery feels louder, harder, or more overwhelming than you expected — this episode will help you put on a new pair of glasses.🎧 Topics include:Why triggers aren’t events — they’re interpretationsPain vs suffering (and how resistance multiplies pain)Emotional sobriety and perceptual maturityHow mindfulness interrupts cravingsThe shift from “why me?” to “what now?”

Welcome to Soul School. Today i sat down with Jessica and Nicole from the Soul School Podcast and we got real deep to uncover, discover and discard old ideas. You can find them on instagram here : https://www.instagram.com/therealsoulschool/What if addiction isn’t about alcohol, drugs, or behaviors—but thinking?In this episode, we break down why money obsession, judgment, anger, and control feel just as compulsive as substances—and why recovery doesn’t work until the programming changes.We explore:Why chasing money feels like spiritual starvationHow judgment becomes a socially acceptable drugWhy “more” never fixes the internal problemWhat reprogramming actually looks like in daily lifeHow service, presence, and awareness replace obsessionReplacing drugs and alcohol with self awareness and service to others can change your life one day at a time. This conversation is raw, uncomfortable, and honest—covering ego, spirituality, resentment, and the illusion of control.⚠️ Open mind required. Take what helps. Leave the rest.

Cravings don’t mean you’re failing.They mean your nervous system is activated.This 10-minute mindfulness meditation for addiction recovery is designed to help you sit with urges without reacting, using principles from Buddhist mindfulness (Anapanasati & insight practice) adapted for modern recovery.This is not about forcing calm, positive thinking, or “making cravings go away.”It’s about learning how to stay present long enough for urges to rise, peak, and pass—without acting on them.• Grounding the body when cravings or emotions spike• Mindfulness of breathing without control or force• Observing urges as sensations—not commands• Creating space between feeling and action• Strengthening the core recovery skill: non-reactivityThis practice is especially helpful for:• Cravings and relapse prevention• Early recovery or emotional sobriety• Anxiety, restlessness, or racing thoughts• Moments when willpower feels exhaustedYou can use this meditation daily, or as a reset when urges hit.You’re not weak for having cravings.You’re learning how to stay.🎧 Listen with headphones if possible🪑 Sit or lie down—whatever feels safest⏸ Pause or stop at any timeIf this helped you, consider subscribing or following for more recovery-grounded tools, not hype.In this guided meditation, you’ll practice:

This episode is a raw, unfiltered conversation about relapse after long-term sobriety, shame, integrity, and why early recovery relationships can quietly derail progress.Anthony sits down with a Steven W who shares his full arc: early substance use, jail, treatment, sober living, loss of close friends, repeated relapses, and finally what changed after hitting the true “jumping-off point.” Together, they unpack what it’s like to relapse with a head full of recovery, how secrecy erodes sobriety long before the first drink or drug, and why integrity—not willpower—is often the real line between staying sober and going back out.They explore:Why relapse often begins weeks or months before the substanceThe hidden danger of relationships in early recoveryHow shame and guilt isolate people from helpThe myth of “I can handle it this time”Why chemical peace of mind is no longer an option for someThe slow drift away from spiritual fitness that leads back to old patternsThis episode is especially powerful for anyone who has relapsed after significant clean time, is questioning their recovery foundation, or feels stuck between wanting sobriety and wanting comfort. It’s an honest reminder that recovery isn’t about perfection—it’s about alignment, honesty, and staying on the beam one day at a time.

We talk a lot about getting sober — but far less about what happens after the substances are gone.In this episode, I break down emotional sobriety: what it really means, why so many people struggle emotionally even years into recovery, and how emotional overload often comes before relapse.This isn’t about being calm all the time or “positive thinking.”It’s about learning how to feel emotions without being controlled by them.You’ll hear:The difference between physical sobriety and emotional sobrietyWhy emotional relapse often comes before physical relapseCommon emotional patterns in recovery that don’t get talked aboutWhat emotional sobriety actually looks like in real lifePractical tools to help regulate emotions without numbing or escapingIf you’re sober but still feel overwhelmed, reactive, or emotionally exhausted — this conversation is for you.Recovery isn’t just about not drinking.It’s about learning how to live inside your own head and body — safely.

Relapse doesn’t usually happen because someone “stops caring.”It happens when the mind becomes unsafe — when fear, shame, isolation, and obsession quietly take over.In this episode, we have an honest, unfiltered conversation about what the final days before recovery really feel like — the desperation, the mental chaos, and the moment when surrender finally becomes possible.We talk about why coming back to recovery can feel harder than getting sober the first time, how shame compounds after relapse, and why willpower alone is never enough. From spirituality and service to connection, honesty, and daily practice, this episode breaks down what actually helps when your brain is working against you.This conversation is for:• Anyone returning to recovery after relapse• People struggling with shame, fear, or mental obsession• Those questioning spirituality or a “higher power”• Anyone who feels disconnected, overwhelmed, or stuckRecovery isn’t about perfection.It’s about safety, connection, and learning how to live in the present moment again.If you’re struggling, you’re not broken — you’re human.👉 If this episode helps, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who might need to hear it.

Today i sat down with my good friend Ray. Relapse doesn’t usually start with picking up a substance.It starts quietly — with secrecy, self-deception, and the belief that “I’ll handle this on my own.”In this episode, we have a brutally honest conversation about what relapse actually looks like after time in recovery — when you’re no longer in crisis, no longer desperate, and no longer asking for help.We talk about being sober for years and still escaping. About how addiction becomes a chemical eject button for discomfort, fear, shame, resentment, money stress, and feeling out of control. About why some of us don’t ask for help — we have to get caught. And why, for many addicts, getting caught can feel like relief.This conversation goes far beyond substances. We unpack lying “for no reason,” people-pleasing, emotional reactivity, comparison, resentment, food addiction, control, and the everyday behaviors that keep addict thinking alive long after drugs are gone.We also talk honestly about the difference between alcohol and cocaine addiction, why willpower isn’t what keeps people sober, and what early recovery actually feels like when cravings are loud and honesty feels impossible.Most importantly, we talk about what recovery looks like today — not the highlight reel, not the inspirational version, but the real work: learning to sit with discomfort, slowing down reactions, and making sure at least one person in the world knows everything.This episode is for anyone who:Has relapsed after time soberFeels like they should be further alongIs sober but still strugglingOr is quietly carrying things they haven’t told anyone yetIf you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know if I have another recovery left in me,” this conversation is for you.You’re not alone — and you don’t have to carry it by yourself.

Welcome to al the new listeners! I'm so glad you're here. This is my story in a 20 minute episode, I hope you get something out of it. Relapse doesn’t start with drugs — it starts with secrets. In this raw episode, I explain how addiction convinces you you’re fine, productive, and “different this time,” even when your life looks good on the outside.I break down how steroids, ADHD meds, and stimulant abuse reopened the door to full relapse after years sober — and what I learned coming back.

Today's guest is Logan from New Generation Sobriety. Logan Battled alcoholism and gambling addiction until he went to his first rehab at 17 years old. After getting sober and celebrating some time under his belt, he relapsed on slot machines until he lost it all. Gambling addiction is one of the most dangerous and misunderstood addictions because it’s invisible. Unlike drugs or alcohol, there are no obvious physical signs — until the financial, emotional, and relational damage is already done.In this powerful recovery conversation, we break down why gambling addiction is often called a silent killer, how it hides in plain sight, and why so many people don’t realize there’s a problem until it’s too late.This clip is for anyone struggling with gambling, supporting someone in addiction recovery, or trying to understand why behavioral addictions can be just as destructive as substance use.Topics covered:Gambling addiction warning signsWhy gambling is harder to detect than drugs or alcoholFinancial secrecy and addictionRecovery, awareness, and early interventionIf this resonates, you’re not alone — and help is available.

Today Allen Kharlip, Clinical Supervisor at Addiction Rehab Toronto and good friend, returns to recovering out loud as we open up about current events. In this raw conversation, we unpack how social media becomes a new addiction for people in recovery — triggering comparison, inadequacy, obsessive thinking, and emotional relapse.If you’ve ever scrolled Instagram and felt worse afterward, you’re not alone. We talk about why inspiration online quickly turns into self-judgment, why comparison is the thief of joy, and how recovery tools like spirituality, connection, discipline, and CBT help us break the cycle.This episode covers:– Why scrolling never makes you feel better– How comparison fuels insecurity + relapse thinking– The “addict brain” hijacking social media– What actually restores peace: connection, meetings, service, spirituality– Setting boundaries around tech in early recovery– How to stop chasing validation and start living againFind Allens full story on episode