The Connection Podcast - Lauren Dry

Everyone says you're so easy to be around. The yes leaves your mouth before you've even paused. And by eight o'clock at night, you're loading the dishwasher like it owes you money.In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores people pleasing, the fawn response, and how a pattern that gets celebrated at work, at home and in friendships can quietly keep the people closest to you from meeting the real you.This is part three of the four-part series on nervous system addictions inside The Connection Podcast.You'll hear aboutWhy people pleasing is the nervous system addiction that gets the most applauseHow the fawn response grows from enmeshment and being the good kidThe resentment that builds when a yes stays stored, and the fear sitting underneath itWhere people pleasing shows up in the body, from a tight throat to forgetting to eatA slow, doable way to start catching the half second before the yesUnderneath all that helpfulness is a nervous system doing its best to keep connection safe. When it learns that wants can exist and the relationship still holds, there's more room for closeness, honesty and the clarity and ease that come with being truly known. There's time for it, and it starts small.Timestamps00:00 Introduction01:54 The Yes That Leaves Your Mouth Before You've Paused06:43 The Fawn Response Behind Your People Pleasing08:50 How People Pleasing Became Your Whole Job11:25 The Fear Hiding Underneath Your Resentment13:50 Where People Pleasing Lives In Your Body15:39 The People Pleasing Addiction Everyone Applauds19:10 Why Boundary Scripts Fall Apart For People Pleasers21:31 The Half Second Before Your YesResources & LinksConnect with Lauren📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.Take the quiz to see how your nervous system moves between addictions. Nervous system addiction quiz🌐 Ready for a deep body reset by the weekend? Join the C.L.E.A.R. and Connected - Break the Pattern Program.If something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren x

Why does the urge to be anywhere else arrive the exact moment a real conversation begins? The sudden jobs. The sudden distance. And a calm that looks so convincing from the outside.In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores avoidance, the flight response all grown up. At first glance it can look easygoing and unbothered, while underneath there's a body that learned distance was the safest place to be. Getting curious about the pull to leave the room is where things start to shift.Part two of the four part series on the nervous system addiction responses.You'll hear aboutWhy avoidance is flight mode all grown upWhat a calm exterior can be coveringHow avoidance shows up in the body and in the words we useWhy avoidance and hypervigilance so often find each otherSlow steps your nervous system can trustAvoidance is a pattern the body learned in order to feel safe, and patterns can change. Slowly, with curiosity, there is a way back to clarity and ease.Resources & Links📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.📝 Take the quiz to see how your nervous system moves between addictions. Nervous system addiction quiz🎧 Listen to part one of the four part series on hypervigilanceIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren x

Reading every room. Managing every mood. Lying awake at 1am wondering why you're the only one trying this hard. That's hypervigilance.In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores the nervous system pattern that keeps so many capable, high-achieving people on constant alert inside their closest relationships.This is part one of a four-part series on the hidden nervous system addictions that can quietly shape how we connect. It's a chance to get curious about what your body has been working so hard to protect.You'll hear aboutThe grown-up version of the fight responseHow feeling dismissed teaches a body to stay on guardThe fear of being left underneath the angerWhy it works at work and costs you at homeSoothing the pattern without shameIf you've been scanning, managing and holding it all together for two, there's relief in knowing this is a pattern your body learnt, and patterns can change. Clarity and ease start with understanding what your nervous system has been protecting you from.Resources & Links🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage. 📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry 🧠 Take the quiz to see how your nervous system moves between addictions. Nervous system addiction quizIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren x

You leave the breathwork session feeling amazing, and by the next morning the same old pressure has crept straight back in.In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, sits down with Siamon Emery, a neuro somatic embodiment practitioner and founder of The Embodied Return, to explore whether regulation can become a form of avoidance. Siamon trained at the Bihar School of Yoga in India and is now studying neuroscience at UPenn, and he brings both lenses to the question of whether getting calmer is bringing clarity or raising your capacity to stay in a situation that isn't working.Together, Lauren and Siamon get curious about what your calm is really telling you, and what your body already knows before a big decision gets made.You'll hear aboutWhy regulation can quietly raise what you're willing to tolerateHow acceptance and resignation each feel in the bodyWhat a decision made from clarity feels like compared with one made from exhaustionWhy the calm from breathwork can fade by the next morningA five minute body scan to check in with this weekFeeling calm is a beautiful beginning, and it gives you the space to hear what your body has been trying to tell you. When you feel safe enough to own your choices, clarity follows, and that's where ease begins.Resources & LinksConnect with Lauren 🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage. 📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryConnect with Siamon 📱 Follow Siamon on Instagram @siamon_emery 📱 Watch Siamon on YouTube @siamonemery 📅 Book a 30 minute discovery call with Siamon hereIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love, Lauren x

Finally saying the sentence you've rehearsed for years, then wondering whether it was a boundary or an ultimatum.In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores how a boundary and an ultimatum can sound almost identical, and what shapes which one comes out when you've reached your limit.It's a chance to get curious about how your nervous system responds under pressure, and what it takes to stay firm and connected at the same time.You'll hear aboutWhy boundaries and ultimatums can look so alike from the outsideWhat naming a need opens up in the person across from youEducate, redirect and release as three ways to hold a lineThe four nervous system addictions that shape how we reactHow a whole generation learned boundaries as wallsHolding a line while keeping the relationship open asks a lot of a nervous system, and it's a skill that can be learnt. Feeling protected and connected at the same time is possible, and clarity and ease begin right there.Resources & Links🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage. 📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry 🧠 Take the quiz to find your primary and secondary nervous system addiction. Rise into Regulation QuizIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren x