The Rewrite

At what age does this actually stop? Asking for a friend. And also for myself.In this solo episode, Jamie is getting into something that most of us pretend we’ve outgrown but honestly haven’t — the very human, very inconvenient habit of caring what other people think. And rather than just saying “stop caring,” she’s unpacking why our brains are wired this way in the first place, and what to actually do with that instead.In this episode, we talk about:✨ Why caring about social approval isn’t a personality flaw — it’s a deeply wired survival mechanism that goes back way further than Instagram or your last family dinner✨ The neuroscience behind why social rejection lights up some of the same brain regions as physical pain — and why that helps explain why it hits harder than it logically should✨ The spotlight effect — why we massively overestimate how much other people are actually noticing what we do, and how much mental energy we spend on an audience that isn’t even watching✨ Why we often imagine the criticism before it has even happened — and how our brains can have a full emotional response to a conversation that exists entirely in our imagination✨ The important difference between caring about the people in your life and letting somebody else’s opinion make decisions for you✨ How to get selective about whose opinions actually deserve influence — and why someone who loves you can still be completely wrong about your choices✨ Jamie’s leopard print sweater moment — and what it taught her about what happens when you don’t overthink it✨ The question to ask yourself next time you hesitate because of what someone might think: is this somebody you trust, or is it an audience you invented in your head?This one is honest, a little funny, and lands right where most of us live.Connect with me on Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

Some pivots are planned. Some are forced. And some come from standing at the edge of your own life and deciding to choose yourself instead.In this episode, Jamie sits down with Liz Rivas — first-generation Dominican-American tech founder and CEO of RoamCircle, a social travel platform helping women build meaningful friendships across borders. Liz’s story is one of the most honest, surprising, and genuinely moving conversations The Rewrite has had. It starts at a destination wedding in the Dominican Republic, and ends in Paris, building something the world didn’t know it needed.In this episode, we talk about:✨ What happened when Liz’s partner showed up fully relapsed at their altar on their wedding day in the Dominican Republic — and what she decided on the plane ride home✨ How she spent 2025 solo traveling through 13 countries to heal, and why she realised she heals through movement, not stillness✨ The moment at an airport — on her way from New York to Miami, in the departures terminal — when she opened ChatGPT and RoamCircle went from idea to LLC to live app in 90 days✨ What happened when she got laid off from her corporate job, spent two months in a dark depression trying to interview her way back to safety, and couldn’t finish a single presentation with any real hunger behind it✨ The decision she made in Paris that changed everything — giving up the Miami apartment, the corporate life, the car, the facade — and how shedding all of it was the thing that made room for everything she actually wanted✨ How RoamCircle works: a Bumble-BFF-style interface for women traveling solo or living abroad to find community, connect at local events, and feel at home wherever they land✨ Why every event, partnership, and activation on RoamCircle is built around women-owned businesses — and what that looks like from Paris to Mexico City to Bali✨ The Women of Oaxaca retreat she is building, where every day brings a new woman and her story — sitting at the table, not standing behind itLiz is funny, raw, and completely herself. This one is a rewrite in the truest sense.🌐 Visit: roamcircle.app📲 Instagram: @roamcircleapp💼 LinkedIn: Liz RivasConnect with me on Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

What if the constraint you've been fighting is actually the thing that could set your business free?In this episode, Jamie sits down with Yasmin Vorajee (business strategist, coach, author, and founder of Tiny Time Big Results) for a conversation about building a business that actually fits your life, not the other way around. Yasmin runs her business in just four hours a day from rural Ireland, where she lives with her husband (an Irish farmer) and their three children. And far from being a limitation, those four hours have become the foundation of everything she teaches.This one is warm, honest, and full of the kind of practical wisdom that only comes from someone who has genuinely lived it.In this episode, we talk about:✨ How being made redundant in 2012 — in a small Irish town with no equivalent local roles — became the accidental beginning of a 14-year business journey Yasmin wouldn't trade for anything✨ Why Tiny Time Big Results was born not from strategy but from necessity, and how a coach helped Yasmin see that her ability to get things done in tiny pockets of time was actually her superpower✨ The real problem with the "if I can do it, you can do it" line, and why Yasmin believes it often does more harm than good✨ Why chasing money from a place of fear and insecurity leads to short-term decisions that keep you stuck, and what to ask yourself instead✨ How Yasmin wrote her book in a single month — 42,000 words, two hours every morning before her three young children woke up, and why one of her early readers became a private client who covered the entire cost of production✨ The tension between content creation and actually running a business, and why Yasmin believes in building assets that sell for you rather than being available on every platform all the time✨ Why she qualified as a hypnotherapist mid-career, what following her curiosity has done for her business, and what the next evolution of Tiny Time Big Results might look like✨ What she tells her kids about carving their own path, and how marrying outside her faith 17 years ago set the tone for a family culture built around choice, not default📖 Get Yasmin's book Tiny Time Big Results on Amazon (Kindle and paperback)🌐 Visit: yasminvorajee.com (or search Tiny Time Big Results)📲 Instagram: @yasvorajee💼 LinkedIn: Yasmin Vorajee🎥 YouTube: @YasminVorajeeyvConnect with me on Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

What happens when you spend decades studying the mind, only to realise that the body holds answers the mind can never fully reach?In this episode, Jamie sits down with Dr. Jo (holistic embodiment coach, former psychologist, yoga teacher, and founder of TulaSoul) for one of the most honest and layered conversations The Rewrite has ever had. Dr. Jo's path began at age 12, when a struggle with anorexia led her to a hospital, and then unexpectedly to her life's purpose. Decades later, she has built an entire practice around helping women do the thing she spent years learning herself: come home to their bodies.Dr. Jo's mission at TulaSoul is to help every woman feel Empowered, Embodied, and Enlightened, and this conversation is a front-row seat to what that actually looks like from the inside out.In this episode, we talk about:✨ How a hospitalisation at age 12 became the unexpected beginning of Dr. Jo's calling, and why she believes the hardest chapters often grow our hearts the biggest✨ The shift from clinical psychology to holistic embodiment coaching, and what happened when Dr. Jo finally stopped studying the mind and started listening to her body✨ Why 74% less physical touch between couples over the last decade is doing more damage than most people realise, and what we can do about it starting with ourselves✨ The somatic release practice that Dr. Jo didn't induce or plan, and why her body simply started doing it on its own when she finally got quiet enough to listen✨ The profound connection between a woman's voice and her sexuality, and what the tissue in the back of the throat has to do with the tissue in the cervix✨ What it's like to become more authentic and have fewer people like you for it, and why Dr. Jo has decided she gives fewer shits about that with every passing year✨ Her vision for three transformative women's retreats built around the pillars of empowerment, embodiment, and enlightenment, and what each one is designed to unlock✨ The practice she is most committed to mastering next: stretching stillness, and why joy is the mark of the masterThis is a conversation about healing, wholeness, and what it really means to take up space as the woman you actually are.🌐 Visit: tulasoul.com📲 Instagram: @holisticcoachjo📧 Email: [email protected]🎥 YouTube: Dr. Jo TulaSoulConnect with me on Instagram: @vandercreativeco and @itsjamievander

Here's something slightly inconvenient that neuroscience has to say about your past: your memory is not nearly as reliable as you think it is.In this solo episode, Jamie is getting into one of the most fascinating (and quietly life-changing) things she learned through her neuroscience training. Your brain isn't storing your memories like videos you can press play on. Every time you remember something, your brain is reconstructing it. And that changes everything about how we understand our past, our stories, and what we've decided those stories mean about us.In this episode, we talk about:✨ Why memory is reconstruction, not playback, and what's actually happening in your brain every time you recall a past experience✨ Why two people can live through the exact same moment and remember it completely differently, and why both of them might be completely convinced they're right✨ How the mood you're in when you're remembering something can change what comes back, and why you can look at the same period of your life and see it completely differently depending on the day✨ The moment something that happened to you becomes the story of who you are, and why those two things are not actually the same✨ How your brain uses old memories as evidence to predict what's going to happen next, and what that means for the risks you're not taking✨ Reconsolidation: why recalling a memory can make it temporarily flexible, and how that means we're never stuck interpreting our entire lives through the same lens we were using when things first happened✨ The difference between changing what happened and changing what you decided it meant about you, and why one of those is actually possibleThis one is fascinating, a little bit freeing, and only mildly inconvenient if you've been winning arguments about things that happened 15 years ago.Connect with me on Instagram:@vandercreativeco@itsjamievander