Love At Any Age with Laurie Gerber

Are you doing everything right on your dating profile and still not getting the matches you want? Most women over 50 hit publish on their dating profile exhausted from the process, convinced they've done the work: good photos, honest bio, thoughtful answers. But a "fine" profile isn't enough. It blends into the crowd instead of standing out, and it can even attract the wrong people instead of the right ones. In this episode, I break down the 3 most common dating profile mistakes women make and show you exactly how to fix each one today. I help women feel confident and clear about how to show up authentically in online dating, especially women over 50 navigating dating apps for the first time in decades. This episode covers the photo mistake nearly everyone makes without realizing it, the one question that transforms a boring bio into a magnetic one, and a surprising tweak to your search parameters that could open up your entire dating pool. ⏱ Timestamps 00:00–01:14 — Why a "fine" profile isn't good enough. 01:15–02:54 — The 3 changes previewed. 02:55–03:40 — Welcome to Season 4. 06:04–09:23 — The photo mistake almost everyone makes. 09:24–12:05 — Why you need help getting good photos. 12:06–14:29 — The bio mistake: writing like a resume. 14:30–18:11 — The exercise that fixes your bio. 18:12–19:06 — Why the work is worth it. 19:07–22:15 — The search parameters most people get wrong. 22:16–25:15 — Homework and where to get more help. 25:16–28:18 — Crazy Comments segment and sign-off. 🔗 Links & Resources Previous episodes referenced: Episode 9: Self-Love After 50: Confidence, Body Image, and Worthiness: Rebuild All Three: https://youtu.be/8W5KKb93h8E Episode 10: New Year, New Love: How to Make Your Love Resolutions Actually Work: https://youtu.be/8LvhNBaKBNw Episode 12: Dating Over 50: Is AI Your Friend in Online Dating? (guest Evan Marc Katz): https://youtu.be/sawFhaAk5NQ Episode 13: 6 Step Guide For Getting Ready to Date Over 50: https://youtu.be/UTqyOl7K0Wc More from Laurie: Master the Art of Love Webinar: If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training: 👉 https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_037 Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_037 Master the Art of Love (MAOL), Laurie's full coaching program: https://www.lauriegerber.com/maol?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_037 Stay connected with Laurie: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

Are your dating standards protecting you, or are they keeping you single? Many women over 50 build strict rules about height, income, and chemistry to avoid getting hurt again. Some of those rules work. Others just keep the wrong walls up. In this episode, Laurie Gerber answers 6 real comments from Love at Any Age listeners about dating over 50. She covers whether trauma can distort a woman's Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha scores, responds to the wife-appliance complaint, and settles whether an 8-out-of-10 attraction standard is fair. She also runs the math on height and income deal breakers and asks whether introversion is a dating liability. Laurie has spent 20 years helping women over 50 build lasting, healthy love. This mailbag episode answers the questions listeners actually ask, including how to talk about money without sounding like a gold digger. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00–01:09 — Are Your Dating Rules Helping or Hurting You? 01:09–03:24 — Meet Laurie and Today's Six Mailbag Questions 03:24–07:43 — Can Trauma Distort Your 3H Scores? 07:43–12:17 — Are Men Looking for a Wife Appliance? 12:17–16:08 — Is an 8 Out of 10 Standard Realistic? 16:08–20:02 — Height and Income Rules: Fear or Protection? 20:02–22:49 — Is Introversion a Dating Liability? 22:49–26:29 — How to Say You're Not a Gold Digger 28:23–28:41 — Recap and Free Webinar Invite 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES More from Laurie: If you want clarity on what a healthy partnership looks like for you, I walk you through the 3H method step by step in my free 75-minute training: 👉 https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=mailbag_01 Website: https://lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=mailbag_01 Previous episodes mentioned: Episode 1 — Dating Over 50: How to Stop Repeating the Same Love Mistakes https://youtu.be/na3ihxavm6g   Episode 3 — The Secret to Choosing the Right Partner (for Real This Time) https://youtu.be/A53BiuAiw6o   Episode 4 — Stop Wasting Time on Maybes: Your 3-Date Strategy https://youtu.be/cfHrKi86I3s   Episode 5 — Here's How to Talk About the Hard Stuff (without Scaring Him Off) https://youtu.be/qN-d5vMFdwE   Episode 18 — 8 Things Men Really Want in a Woman Over 50 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLXCOjYu36w   Episode 25 — Why Your Dating Life Isn't Progressing: 5 Reasons Women Over 50 Stay Stuck https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3oCjHirURo   Stay connected with Laurie: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

If his good morning texts suddenly disappear, is he just busy, or is he already checking out and how can women over 50 tell the difference? For six weeks it felt effortless, then the good morning texts vanished, replies started taking 6 or 7 hours, and every attempt to bring it up got waved away with “you're overthinking this.” That's the kind of quiet unraveling so many women navigating dating after divorce over 50 know by heart, the moment excitement tips into second-guessing and nobody can quite say when it started. In this episode, Laurie Gerber teams up with Andrea Knoche, host of the podcast From Mrs. to Ms. and her co-host on Menopause Love Lounge, to work through 3 real dating scenarios women over 50 sent in: a man who's suddenly harder to reach, an ex-wife who never really leaves the picture, and a boyfriend who wants “ongoing” but won’t label the relationship. Together they dig into the dating red flags over 50 that are easy to miss and the situationships that can drag on for months. Laurie brings two decades of helping women over 50 through exactly these moments, and Andrea brings the lived experience of actually being back out there dating after divorce. If you've ever wondered whether you're overthinking a good morning text, unsure what to do about his ex, or stuck waiting for a label that never comes, this conversation will help you trust your gut again and know when it's telling you something real. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00–00:43 — Three Real Dating Dilemmas To Debate 00:43–03:03 — Meet Andrea And Laurie: Two Very Different Lenses 03:03–06:48 — Scenario 1: He's Still Texting But Something Feels Off 06:48–09:15 — Busy Or Pulling Away? Reading His Mixed Signals 09:15–11:34 — Why Date 3 Is When You Ask What He's Looking For 11:34–16:57 — Good Morning Texts: Sweet Ritual Or Breadcrumbing? 16:57–20:39 — Scenario 2: His Ex-Wife Still Calls Him Every Week 20:39–23:53 — Laurie's Take: Why You Should Meet The Ex, Not Ban Her 23:53–26:10 — How To Raise Jealousy Without Sounding Jealous 26:10–29:03 — Scenario 3: He Wants Forever But Not The Label 29:03–34:24 — Real Story: Silke's 15-Year Love Found After Divorce 34:24–38:36 — Marriage After 50, Patience Vs Settling, And Goodbyes 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES Previous episode mentioned: Ep. 36 — “The Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Make That Push Good Men Away,” with guest Silke Schwarzkopf, who met her now-partner after her divorce at 50 and has been with him for 15 years.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2OOdpzTL6Q Master the Art of Love Webinar: Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership looks like for you: https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=guest_swap_andrea&utm_term=andrea_knoche Website: https://lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=guest_swap_andrea&utm_term=andrea_knoche Take Laurie's free dating quiz: https://lauriegerber.com/quiz?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=guest_swap_andrea&utm_term=andrea_knoche Guest website — Andrea Knoche, host of From Mrs. to Ms.: Andrea is host of From Mrs. to Ms., now a globally-ranked top 2% podcast with over 160,000 downloads. https://frommrs2ms.com 📸 Instagram & TikTok: https://www.instagram.com/from.mrs.2.ms ▶️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FromMrs2Ms 💙Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580264082996 🎧Menopause Love Lounge (co-hosted by Laurie and Andrea): https://www.youtube.com/@MenopauseLoveLounge Stay connected with Laurie: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

Are you dating a divorced man over 50 and wondering if his walls are ever really going to come down? Dating a divorced man over 50 means dating his ex, his kids, and every wound he has not fully dealt with yet, even when he is a genuinely good guy. Trust does not come back on your timeline. It comes back on his, and if you do not know what healing actually looks like, it is easy to mistake a man who is still in survival mode for a man who is simply not that into you. In this bonus re-edit of the conversation with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce, Laurie Gerber gets into what actually rebuilds trust after divorce, why a man's nervous system, not his feelings for you, may be what is repelling you, and how to tell the difference between a divorced man who is regulated and one who is dysregulated. Rachael has spent years coaching men through the emotional aftermath of an unwanted divorce, and Laurie brings her in to help women over 50 spot the 3 real signs a man is ready for a committed relationship, not just relief from being alone. If you have ever wondered whether a divorced man's grief is normal or a red flag, this episode names the actual stages, so you are never left guessing again. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:01–01:21 — Why Dating a Divorced Man Isn't Just Dating Him 01:21–02:53 — What Men Go Through in the First Year After Divorce 02:53–04:21 — Loss of Agency and the Trust Issues That Follow 04:21–06:10 — How to Help a Divorced Man Feel Safe Enough to Trust 06:10–08:26 — Repelled by Him? It Might Be His Nervous System 08:26–10:10 — Machismo, Midlife Bias, and Emotionally Available Men 10:10–12:57 — 3 Signs He's Really Ready to Date, Not Just Healing 12:57–14:01 — Sign #3: He Wants the Hard Conversations 14:01–16:22 — Divorced Men vs Widowers: A Hidden Layer of Shame 16:22–17:42 — The Subtle Red Flag Most Women Miss 17:42–19:08 — Naming the Stages of Grief and Where to Get Help 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES More from Laurie: Men’s dating coaching: If you are a man looking for help with dating, fill out this application to apply for men’s group coaching:  https://lauriegerber.com/coaching-men?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032_reedit&utm_term=rachael_sloan Master the Art of Love Webinar: Laurie walks you through the 3H method step by step in her free 75-minute training, so you can get clear on what a healthy partnership looks like for you: https://lauriegerber.com/webinar?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032_reedit&utm_term=rachael_sloan Website: https://lauriegerber.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=ep_032_reedit&utm_term=rachael_sloan Stay connected with Laurie: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/ Rachael Sloan's Free Download: Emotional Stages of Divorce — A Survival Guide for Men. 9 stages of the divorce grieving process, with signs for each stage and exercises to help men move through them instead of getting stuck.  https://resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/stages-of-divorce-guide 👉 Find Rachael and Better Beyond Divorce at: https://www.rachaelsloancoaching.com/ Rachael's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach

What's the one dating blind spot keeping women over 50 stuck in the same frustrating patterns? She's done the personal growth work, read the books, and sat in therapy, maybe more than once. But she still keeps choosing the wrong person, or no one at all, or she's stuck on the sidelines, wishing she felt ready to get back in the game. In this episode, Laurie Gerber pulls back the curtain on her small group dating coaching program for women over 50, unpacking what really happened over 3 months with the 6 women in her last cohort. She explains the 34 obstacles that commonly trip up daters, and why she builds each woman's curriculum around the Handel Method, developed at MIT and Stanford. Laurie has spent over 20 years helping women over 50 navigate dating after divorce, widowhood, or a long break from the game, and this episode lays out exactly how group coaching turns hidden blind spots into a personalized plan for finding love after 50. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00–02:00 — The Blind Spot Keeping You Single After 50. 02:00–03:14 — Why Dating After 50 Requires Real Expertise. 03:14–06:41 — Inside Laurie's Small Group Dating Coaching. 06:41–07:51 — What's Changed Since You Last Dated. 07:51–09:33 — The 34 Obstacles to Lasting Love After 50. 09:33–11:04 — Is Group Coaching Right for You? 11:04–12:43 — Support, Structure, and Real Accountability. 12:43–15:01 — Client Wins: Kim and Michelle's Breakthroughs. 15:01–19:30 — The Homework That Makes Coaching Work. 19:30–25:27 — The 3 Phases: Bench, Game, Relationship. 25:27–28:35 — Real Client Comments and Results. 28:35–32:06 — How to Apply Before the Cohort Fills Up. 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES Apply for Master the Art of Love Small Group Coaching: https://lauriegerber.com/coaching-women?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women  Master the Art of Love (self-paced digital program): https://lauriegerber.com/maol?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women Website: https://www.lauriegerber.com/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=promo_coaching_women Stay connected with Laurie: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber 🎧 Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/