Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal

After betrayal, it's natural to want something - anything - that will make you feel safe again. Sometimes the boundaries we set carry a quiet hope that our partner will finally change, and without meaning to, a boundary can become a way of trying to control the outcome.In this episode, we talk about what healthy boundaries actually are in betrayal trauma recovery, how to tell the difference between a boundary and covert control, and why that difference matters so much for your peace. Whether you're staying, leaving, or still figuring it out, this conversation is about your healing.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Attend my FREE live weekly Workshop: Boundaries That Build SafetyIf you're ready to stop carrying this alone, I'd love for you to join me. Learn more about Reclaiming You and get started here: REGISTER for RECLAIMING YOU. Whatever you're deciding about your relationship, this is a space for your healing — come as you are.Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of somatic healing, breathwork, sound, energy work, Human Design, meaningful cultural experiences, adventure, rest, and connection—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you're trying to hold your family together while your own world is falling apart, this course is for you. It won't hand you a script for a pain this big - but it will give you language, tools, and a steadier way to show up for the people who need you most: your kids. Intentional Parenting After Betrayal Self Guided Course⁠⁠⁠⁠, created by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.👉5 Questions to Find Your Next Step👉6 Ways Betrayal Hides In Your Body👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠Upcoming Group Coaching: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a group coaching container focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This group is ideal for those who want support that is more than just once a week.👉⁠ Schedule a Complimentary Call to See if this is Right for YouListen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

If you've caught yourself saying "I don't even know what I need anymore," you are not alone — and you are not broken. For women navigating betrayal trauma and infidelity recovery, this kind of disconnection from your own needs is one of the most common, and least talked about, experiences.In this episode, Hali offers 5 simple, grounding questions to help you find your next honest step — without needing to have it all figured out.This episode is for you if you're a partner navigating a spouse's sex addiction or infidelity recovery, if you've been pouring your energy into his healing while your own gets put on the back burner, or if you simply feel stuck and unsure where to start.👉Free download 5 Questions to Find Your Next StepEnjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:If you're ready to stop carrying this alone, I'd love for you to join me. Learn more about Reclaiming You and get started here: REGISTER for RECLAIMING YOU. Whatever you're deciding about your relationship, this is a space for your healing — come as you are.Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.The⁠ Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive takes place October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work and are ready to move beyond surviving into deeper joy, embodiment, and wholeness. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of somatic healing, breathwork, sound, energy work, Human Design, meaningful cultural experiences, adventure, rest, and connection—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you're trying to hold your family together while your own world is falling apart, this course is for you. It won't hand you a script for a pain this big - but it will give you language, tools, and a steadier way to show up for the people who need you most: your kids. Intentional Parenting After Betrayal Self Guided Course⁠⁠⁠⁠, created by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.👉6 Ways Betrayal Hides In Your Body👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

Betrayal doesn't just break trust in one person. For a lot of women, it quietly rewrites how they see everyone — turning "this person hurt me" into "people aren't safe," or "this man betrayed me" into "men can't be trusted."In this episode, Hali talks directly to the parts of you that have gotten more guarded since betrayal. This episode covers that healing was never dependent on the relationship's outcome, that people (including the person who hurt you) can genuinely change through consistency and accountability — but that trust is earned back over time, not handed over because someone says they're changing. While you're doing the harder work of healing, start noticing the good that's still around you — the people who keep their word, apologize and actually change, show up consistently. Not to prove anything to yourself, just to notice it. Because betrayal doesn't get to decide who you become. You do.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review💬 Join the Community📲 Share This EpisodeConnect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:If you're ready to stop carrying this alone, I'd love for you to join me. Learn more about Reclaiming You and get started here: REGISTER for RECLAIMING YOU. Whatever you're deciding about your relationship, this is a space for your healing — come as you are.Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.The⁠ Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive takes place October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali. If you're trying to hold your family together while your own world is falling apart, this course is for you. Intentional Parenting After Betrayal Self Guided Course⁠⁠⁠⁠, created by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.👉6 Ways Betrayal Hides In Your Body👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠Upcoming Group Coaching: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a group coaching container focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This group is ideal for those who want support that is more than just once a week.👉⁠ Schedule a Complimentary Call to See if this is Right for YouListen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

When your partner starts doing things differently — even for a short stretch — it's natural to feel relief, and easy to let your guard down. But a few good weeks isn't the same thing as rebuilt trust, and relaxing your boundaries too early can open the door for old patterns to quietly return. In this episode, we talk about why trusting too soon happens, what it actually costs, and how to validate how hard it is to sit in the discomfort of waiting for trust to be earned over time — not just implied by a good moment.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review 💬 Join the Community 📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:If you're ready to stop carrying this alone, I'd love for you to join me. Learn more about Reclaiming You and get started here: REGISTER for RECLAIMING YOU. Whatever you're deciding about your relationship, this is a space for your healing — come as you are.Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.The⁠ Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive takes place October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work and are ready to move beyond surviving into deeper joy, embodiment, and wholeness. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of methods—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you're trying to hold your family together while your own world is falling apart, this course is for you. It won't hand you a script for a pain this big - but it will give you language, tools, and a steadier way to show up for the people who need you most: your kids. Intentional Parenting After Betrayal Self Guided Course⁠⁠⁠⁠, created by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.👉6 Ways Betrayal Hides In Your Body👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠Upcoming Group Coaching: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a group coaching container focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving. This group is ideal for those who want support that is more than just once a week.👉⁠ ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠⁠Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

If you're a woman and you’re doing the work — therapy, coaching, reading everything you can get your hands on — and you're still white-knuckling it alone most days of the week, this episode is for you. I talk about why healing from betrayal trauma was never going to happen in one hour a week, including from my own experience, and about a pattern I see constantly: how much of our time, money, and energy goes toward his healing while ours quietly gets put on the back burner. Then I introduce Reclaiming You, the group program built to put your healing first — with community and high-touch support to get you through the hardest days. Click here to learn more.Enjoyed This Episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review💬 Join the Community📲 Share This Episode Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:If you're ready to stop carrying this alone, I'd love for you to join me. Learn more about Reclaiming You and get started here: REGISTER for RECLAIMING YOU. Whatever you're deciding about your relationship, this is a space for your healing — come as you are.Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.The⁠ Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive takes place October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Bali, Indonesia is an intimate, trauma-informed women’s healing retreat designed for women who have already done significant inner work and are ready to move beyond surviving into deeper joy, embodiment, and wholeness. Join us April 18–25, 2027, in Bali for a powerful fusion of somatic healing, breathwork, sound, energy work, Human Design, meaningful cultural experiences, adventure, rest, and connection—all guided by trauma-trained facilitators. If you're trying to hold your family together while your own world is falling apart, this course is for you. It won't hand you a script for a pain this big - but it will give you language, tools, and a steadier way to show up for the people who need you most: your kids. Intentional Parenting After Betrayal Self Guided Course⁠⁠⁠⁠, created by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.👉6 Ways Betrayal Hides In Your Body👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠