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Why Codependents Keep Choosing Narcissists — and the 11 Stages That End It

2026-10-2924:51

Many apologies for the bad audio. We tried to fix it up the best we could. Ross Rosenberg reintroduces a 2021 video on his 11-stage Self-Love Recovery Program, the treatment counterpart to his book Human Magnet Syndrome, which explains why codependents — those with self-love deficit disorder — are pulled magnetically toward narcissists. Unlike ordinary therapy, the program has rules, demands commitment, runs eight months to a year and a half, and follows an Eriksonian sequence whe...

Deeds, Not Creeds: A Heaven Without God

2026-10-2027:18

In “Deeds, Not Creeds: A Heaven Without God,” psychotherapist and Self-Love Recovery Institute founder Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., tells the personal story of how he came to see heaven differently. He was raised in a non-religious Jewish family and as a teenager bought his own “heaven insurance” by trying to be good. He then went through a phase of spiritual searching before science and Carl Sagan led him to humanism. From that journey he offers a vision of immortality that costs nothing and needs...

Shark Eyes vs. Dead Eyes: The Chilling Truth About Sociopaths and Psychopaths

2026-10-1324:41

In this episode, Ross explains antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), better known as sociopathy or psychopathy: no empathy or remorse, chronic dishonesty, and harming others without learning from consequences. Psychopaths enjoy inflicting pain, while sociopaths hurt people simply to get what they want. Unlike narcissists, sociopaths know exactly who they are, and they hide behind a "backdrop," often a partner and family, to appear normal. Ross covers the warning signs, from scripted charm ...

Unmasking Fear: The Biological Link Between Trauma, Pain, & Codependency

2026-10-0246:50

Why do so many codependents and people with Self-Love Deficit Disorder live in constant fear, even when they're safe? In this episode, I talk with Dr. Todd Burstain, an internist who spent 30 years treating patients, about how chronic fear changes the brain and hides behind "masks" like anxiety, codependency, and narcissism. We get into why narcissists cope by controlling others while codependents cope by giving in to control, and how PTSD and gaslighting make it hard to tell real danger fr...

Codependency Is Broken. Now What? Ross on "Divorce Like a Boss" Podcast"

2026-09-1640:05

On Dianna Romanov's Divorced Like a Boss podcast, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., explains his Human Magnet Syndrome theory, that givers are reflexively drawn to narcissistic takers, and why the outdated term "codependency" should be replaced by Self-Love Deficit Disorder. His pyramid model traces the problem from childhood attachment trauma to core shame, pathological loneliness, and an addiction-like compulsion to stay in harmful relationships. His ten-stage Self-Love Recovery Treatm...

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