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Ever catch yourself smiling and nodding at a doctor while secretly planning to ghost them forever? In this episode, you'll hear Jay and Dr. Rana Awdish unpack the absurd art of exam room people-pleasing—and how to finally take your power back! Dr. Rana Awdish is a pulmonary critical care physician and the Medical Director of Care Experience at Henry Ford Health who brings deep insight into medical trauma, patient advocacy, and reinhabiting your body. In this episode, you'll hear: • How medical training systematically conditions physicians to live in their heads and suppress their emotions, creating a profound disconnect at the bedside. • Dr. Rana's personal journey of reinhabiting a traumatized body using trauma-informed yoga, breathwork, and non-judgmental presence. • Why fawning and people-pleasing often kick in during medical encounters, and how to start dismantling those rigid power dynamics. • The practical "Ask, Tell, Ask" communication framework that doctors—and anyone in a relationship—can use to build real empathy and trust. Learn more about Rana Awdish: https://RanaAwdishMD.com Rana is giving away a copy of After Shock to the first 10 people who email her. Rana's email is [email protected] For full resources, past episodes, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant  

Jay unpacks the hidden reasons why years of therapy might not be enough to break your oldest patterns. In this episode, you'll hear about the 3 core needs every nervous system has, and how to give them to yourself so you can stop tripping yourself up by trying to get them from outside of you. Host Jay Moon Fields is a somatic coach and brings deep insight into the fawn response and how to stop being so beholden to this nervous system stress response. In this episode, Jay shares: ► Why people who tend to fawn response struggle to feel anger and fear ► How to metabolize the physical surge of anger without short-circuiting or losing your "good person" identity ► What do actually do with your body and say to yourself so you can handle feeling uncomfortable emotions ►Why hyper-self-sufficiency is basically the fawner's operating system, and how to actually create internal safety for yourself For full resources, past episodes, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com YoursTruly Program – https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly (Code: heywait-50 for 50% off) Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant

Do you ever catch yourself going quiet, acquiescing, or somehow shooting yourself in the foot — right in the exact moment you needed to speak up? This week's guest gets it. Jay sits down with leadership expert Selena Rezvani on how to stop people-pleasing, overcome the "Nervous Nice Girl" archetype, and advocate for yourself at work. Selena Rezvani is a leadership speaker, four-time author, and premier self-advocacy expert who brings deep insight into finding your voice, setting boundaries, and mastering confidence in the workplace. In this episode, you'll hear: ► The origin story of the "Nervous Nice Girl" archetype and how hypervigilance develops as a survival strategy. ► Live roleplaying actionable scripts for turning over-explained language into simple, clean boundaries ► The power of "selective excellence" and why trying to be excellent at everything leads to burnout. ► Simple mindset shifts and daily mantras that help you back yourself in high-stakes negotiations. Learn more about Selena Rezvani: https://selenarezvani.com For full resources, past episodes, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c   Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant  

Listen in as Jay shares an insightful conversation with ADHD wellbeing coach Kate Moryoussef on how undiagnosed ADHD manifests in women's bodies and nervous systems. Discover how a late-in-life diagnosis can reframe a lifetime of "what's wrong with me?" into a compassionate understanding of how your brain and body actually work. Kate Moryoussef is an ADHD wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who brings deep insight into late-diagnosed ADHD, nervous system regulation, and the hidden cost of masking in women. In this episode, you'll hear:  ► How undiagnosed ADHD in women often mimics fawning, chronic anxiety, burnout, or perimenopause ► Why "just calm down" is the wrong ask for an ADHD body—and how to aim for feeling "settled" instead ► How Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT/tapping) can help discharge stored tension and calm a hypervigilant nervous system ► Practical ways to set boundaries, build social exit plans, and protect your energy without shame or guilt   Learn more about Kate Moryoussef: https://www.adhdwomenswellbeing.co.uk For full resources, past episodes, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields  Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c    Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant  

This episode is all about resisting the urge to look outside yourself for all the answers and learning to treat cosmic tools as companions rather than controllers.   Guest Rachel Lang is a world-renowned astrologer, intuitive consultant, and elected City Council member who brings deep insight into the powerful relationship between fate, personal agency, and reclaiming your personal power.   In this episode, you'll hear: The difference between using astrology as a practical decision-making tool for self-empowerment versus using it as a spiritual permission slip or emotional outsourcing. How to balance and integrate your intuitive, "woo-woo" side with your grounded, professional life without hiding your true self. Why we need to stop blaming Mercury retrograde for everything and avoid letting toxic spirituality or astrology addiction limit our personal authority. How the current collective paradigm shift and historic planetary cycles are actively calling us to step out of hiding and author our own lives.   Learn more about Rachel Lang: https://rachellangastrologer.com For full resources, past episodes, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c   Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant