Is Anything Real?

Women in sports leadership are still way too rare, especially in men’s professional hockey.Toni Will is one of the only women in the country leading a men’s professional hockey team, and her story challenges one of leadership’s most stubborn myths: If you don’t already know the room, you don’t belong in it.In this episode of Is Anything Real?, Adam W. Barney sits down with Toni Will, General Manager of the Kalamazoo Wings, women’s leadership coach, keynote speaker, host of Women In, founder of Empower Her, and author of Rebellious Success.Toni entered men’s professional hockey after earlier chapters in banking and economic development. She didn’t walk in pretending she already knew everything. She walked in honest, curious, and willing to learn. That became part of her leadership advantage.This conversation is about women in sports, leadership, outsider perspective, gatekeeping, access, community, confidence, and what happens when difference stops being treated like a weakness and starts being trusted as intelligence.Adam and Toni unpack why “I don’t know yet” isn’t a disqualification, why curiosity can be a serious leadership tool, and why the rooms most convinced they know exactly what they’re doing are often the rooms most allergic to change.Toni also shares how her outsider lens helped her see the Kalamazoo Wings differently. She wasn’t emotionally attached to hockey in the same way a lifelong hockey purist might be. Instead, she was emotionally attached to the people, the organization, the community, and the experience being created for fans. That perspective mattered.Because most people walking into a minor league hockey arena aren’t just looking for pure hockey. They’re looking for entertainment, community, memory, and belonging.The episode also explores the Kalamazoo Wings’ Guinness World Records, including the largest lightsaber battle, and why those moments are not just fun stunts. They’re proof of culture, discipline, execution, accountability, and leadership that knows how to bring a community into the room.The deeper thread is access.Toni and Adam talk about unequal starting lines, allyship, women in sports, and what it means to use access not as a trophy, but as a door handle - or, in Toni’s language, an elevator - for someone else.In this episode:Why women in sports leadership still mattersWhat Toni learned walking into men’s professional hockeyWhy “I don’t know yet” isn’t weaknessHow curiosity became a leadership advantageWhy outsider perspective can reveal what insiders missThe business cost of samenessWhy fun isn’t frivolous in leadershipWhat Guinness World Records teach about culture and executionHow access can become architecture for othersWhy allyship requires more than good intentionsThe Outsider Advantage Audit for leaders, founders, sports executives, and alliesThe big takeaway: You don’t need permission from the room to lead it. Sometimes the leader the room needs is the one willing to question how it’s always been done.Guest: Toni WillGeneral Manager, Kalamazoo WingsWomen’s Leadership CoachKeynote SpeakerAuthor, Rebellious SuccessHost, Women InWebsite: https://www.toniwill.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonildaniels/Email: [email protected]: Adam W. BarneyTransition Leadership CoachAuthor of Make Your Own Glass Half FullCreator of EnergyOS👉 Book your 20-min Exploration Call: https://calendly.com/adamwbarney/explorationplugin-20minSubscribe to Is Anything Real?: https://isanythingreal.adamwbarney.com/

A very quick bonus episode and an unusual ask from me.👉 Vote here: https://tophost.org/2026/adam-w-barneyIs Anything Real? is currently #3 in the Top Host competition, and the first cut happens tonight.12 is lucky. 1 sounds better. 😉I've spent a lot of time building this show around conversations that challenge assumptions, get past the noise, and hopefully leave people thinking a little differently. And every guest, listener, comment, share, and conversation has helped make it what it is.So I'm asking for a little help today. If you've enjoyed the show and you'd like to help me make a run at #1, I'd genuinely appreciate your vote.No big pitch. No elaborate campaign. Just a quick, slightly unusual ask from a guy who's grateful people keep showing up for these conversations.Vote here: https://tophost.org/2026/adam-w-barneyThank you. Seriously! ❤️— Adam W. BarneyHost, Is Anything Real?

Investing is not neutral.Your money is not sitting in some ethical waiting room. It is building something, financing something, and rewarding something. Whether you meant to or not, your portfolio may be voting for yesterday, today, or tomorrow.In this episode of Is Anything Real?, Adam W. Barney sits down with Pete Krull, longtime sustainable investing advisor and founder of Earth Equity Advisors, for a conversation about sustainable investing, legacy industries, greenwashing, long-term thinking, representation in finance, and why “safe” investing is often just nostalgia with better packaging.Pete has spent more than 22 years in what he once called counterculture Wall Street: helping people invest not in the economy of yesterday, but in the cleaner, more resilient, more resource-efficient, and more equitable economy of tomorrow.This conversation challenges the idea that sustainable investing is soft, niche, political, or simply values theater. Because every investment strategy has a worldview baked into it. The question is whether that worldview is honest about where the economy is actually going.Adam and Pete unpack why traditional finance often gets to hide its assumptions behind the word “normal,” why broad market indexes can reflect yesterday’s economy, and why future readiness matters more than nostalgia.They also get personal: inherited money, inherited worldviews, fossil fuels, circular economies, generational change, and what happens when you start asking what your money is actually building.Pete also shares practical questions investors can ask, including how to look beyond fund labels, why greenwashing requires better receipts, and how to start with one account instead of trying to overhaul an entire financial life in one weekend.NOTE: This episode is educational and not financial advice. Talk with a qualified financial professional before making investment decisions.In this episode:Why investing is not neutralWhy your money is already making a statementWhy sustainable investing is not just values theaterHow legacy industries shape the investing conversationWhy indexes can reflect yesterday’s economyWhy future readiness matters in portfolio thinkingWhat greenwashing gets wrongWhy the answer to greenwashing is better receipts, not cynicismHow inherited money can carry inherited worldviewWhy circular economies matterWhy finance still has a representation problemHow to run the “Money Is Building Something” auditWhat questions to ask a financial professionalThe big takeaway:Your money is building something.The only question is whether you know what it is building...and whether that still matches the future you say you believe in.Guest: Pete KrullFounder, Earth Equity AdvisorsSustainable Investing AdvisorEarth Equity Advisors: https://www.earthequityadvisors.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pkrull/Email: [email protected]: Adam W. BarneyTransition Leadership CoachAuthor of Make Your Own Glass Half FullCreator of EnergyOS👉 Book your 20-min Exploration Call: https://calendly.com/adamwbarney/explorationplugin-20minSubscribe to Is Anything Real?: https://isanythingreal.adamwbarney.com/

Success is not always additive. Add more effort. Add more output. Add more commitments. Add more you.That's the high-performer trap. But what if the real unlock is subtraction?In this episode of Is Anything Real?, Adam W. Barney sits down with longtime friend Nell Derick Debevoise, also known as Nell3D, creator of the 100-Day Subtract to Succeed Practice, for a conversation about systematic subtraction, pro-zilience, caregiving, over-efforting, success, leadership, and why “try harder” is sometimes the most expensive advice in the world.Nell’s work is a daily permission slip to stop worshiping more and start building a life that actually holds. This conversation is not about quitting life, lowering ambition, or pretending hard things are not hard. It is about subtracting what is fake so the real work can actually breathe.Nell’s TEDx talk, “Subtract to Succeed: The Case for Doing Less,” also just went live: a perfect companion to this episode’s conversation about systematic subtraction, pro-zilience, caregiving, and why success isn’t always additive.Adam and Nell explore the invisible weight high performers carry: unhelpful thinking, rumination, fake urgency, performative productivity, objectiveless meetings, content backlog shame, other people’s imagined expectations, and the belief that one more push will finally create the calm week that never comes.They also unpack pro-zilience, Nell’s alternative to the usual resilience story. Instead of just bouncing back to where you were, pro-zilience asks what it would mean to grow forward through disruption: becoming more grounded, more honest, and more capable because of what life demanded.The caregiving thread makes this episode especially human. When life gets loud, subtraction stops being a productivity hack and becomes survival-grade leadership. Caregiving, illness, family needs, work, ambition, and real life do not operate in neat straight lines. Your life is not linear. It is a system.And if the system is overloaded, no amount of motivation can fix it.In this episode:Why success is not always additiveWhy high performers over-effortWhy “try harder” can become expensive adviceWhat systematic subtraction actually meansWhy unhelpful thinking has a double costHow to tell the difference between reflection and ruminationWhy resilience can accidentally blame individuals for system problemsWhat pro-zilience meansWhy caregiving makes subtraction non-negotiableWhy objectiveless meetings are a good place to startHow relationships, wealth, content, and leadership collect unnecessary noiseWhy success must feel good, not just look goodWhy content backlog shame is a very modern form of sufferingHow to run a simple subtraction practiceWhy life is three-dimensional, not linearThe big takeaway: Your life is the system.Subtract what’s fake. Keep what’s human. Build what compounds.Guest: Nell Derick DebevoiseNell3D + Creator of the 100-Day Subtract to Succeed PracticeWatch Nell’s TEDx talk, “Subtract to Succeed: The Case for Doing Less”: https://youtu.be/bzRp2sQQNGcWebsite: https://www.nell3d.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nell3d/Email: [email protected]: Adam W. BarneyTransition Leadership CoachAuthor of Make Your Own Glass Half FullCreator of EnergyOS👉 Book your 20-min Exploration Call: https://calendly.com/adamwbarney/explorationplugin-20minSubscribe to Is Anything Real?: https://isanythingreal.adamwbarney.com/

Love is not proven by running yourself into the ground.But too many families are handed an impossible myth: If you really love someone, you should be able to care for them yourself.That sounds noble until someone is exhausted, unsafe, resentful, financially overwhelmed, medically confused, and Googling long-term care options at midnight while pretending they are fine.In this episode of Is Anything Real?, Adam W. Barney sits down with Lindsay Friedman, founder of LTCareNav and host of The Care Compass, for a deeply human conversation about long-term care, caregiving, family guilt, provider trust, and why needing outside help does not mean you failed your family. It may mean you are finally telling the truth soon enough to protect them.Lindsay is working on one of the most human, broken, and under-discussed systems in the country: long-term care. Through LTCareNav, she helps families connect with vetted care providers. Not random listings, not pay-to-play lead-gen chaos, but real support when families are overwhelmed, scared, and trying to make high-stakes decisions quickly.This episode is about care planning. But it's also about leadership under pressure. Because a family navigating care suddenly becomes a leadership team. There are stakeholders, emotions, constraints, money, medical needs, sibling dynamics, old history, safety concerns, and guilt...often with one person quietly carrying too much while calling it love.Adam and Lindsay explore why the language of care partner matters, how caregiving can become one-sided when the relationship disappears, and why the well-being of the person providing care must be part of the care plan. They also unpack what is broken in the way many families are matched with long-term care providers. When families are in crisis, they do not need more phone calls, confusing directories, or visibility disguised as quality. They need clarity, trust, and vetted support.This conversation is especially relevant for anyone caring for aging parents, supporting a spouse, navigating home care or assisted living decisions, preparing for long-term care planning, or quietly realizing their family may need help sooner than they wanted to admit.In this episode:Why love is not a care planWhy needing outside help is not failureWhy many families misunderstand who pays for long-term careWhy caregiving is more than physical careWhy families usually wait until crisis to planWhy care partner is a better frame than caregiverHow self-sacrifice can damage the relationship you are trying to preserveWhy care decisions go sideways under emotion and urgencyWhat is broken about pay-to-play care matching and lead-generation directoriesWhy vetted provider introductions matterWhy care partner wellbeing must be included in the care planThe Care Partner Reset families can use this weekThe big takeaway: Love needs infrastructure.Not because love is weak. Because love is too important to be left unsupported.Guest: Lindsay FriedmanFounder, LTCareNavHost, The Care CompassLTCareNav: https://ltcarenav.com/The Care Compass + resources: https://ltcarenav.com/podcastsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lfriedman1/Email: [email protected]: Adam W. BarneyTransition Leadership CoachAuthor of Make Your Own Glass Half FullCreator of EnergyOS👉 Book your 20-min Exploration Call: https://calendly.com/adamwbarney/explorationplugin-20minSubscribe to Is Anything Real?: https://isanythingreal.adamwbarney.com/