Builders of a Better World

How can school leaders build environments where students feel respected, represented, and capable of thriving? In this episode of the Build a Better World Podcast, Ashlieya speaks with Dr. Whitney Hegseth, assistant professor of educational leadership at the University of La Verne and author of Just Talk to Us Normally: A Leader’s Guide to Organizing Schools That Elevate Students.Dr. Hegseth shares insights from her work in educational policy, systems-level change, qualitative research, and international comparative education. Together, they explore how school culture affects student belonging, teacher well-being, family engagement, equity, and young people’s ability to develop meaningful autonomy.They also discuss the difference between equality, equity, and student agency; the line between supportive classroom management and compliance; why leaders should examine systems instead of blaming individuals; and how comparing different educational settings can reveal assumptions that may be limiting students and schools.Whether you are a teacher, parent, school administrator, aspiring leader, or someone committed to building healthier communities for young people, this thoughtful conversation offers practical questions for reflection and meaningful change.In this episode, you’ll hear about:Student belonging and culturally responsive school cultureAction research and systems-level educational changeQualitative versus quantitative educational researchEquality, equity, autonomy, and mutual respect in schoolsSupporting teachers, parents, and students as partners in educationRethinking classroom management, authority, and student voiceLessons from Montessori, public, charter, and international school systemsDr. Hegseth’s new book, Just Talk to Us Normally: A Leader’s Guide to Organizing Schools That Elevate Students, available now for pre-order on Amazon or VitalSourceListen now, share this episode with an educator or leader in your life, and subscribe for part two of this conversation.

What if time is not the enemy—but the story you have been telling yourself about it is?In “Time Is Killing Me: Rewriting the Story of Aging, Energy, and Possibility,” Ashlieya and Neff explore the relationship between time, perception, aging, energy, presence, and personal possibility.Together, they reflect on why time can feel like it flies in moments of flow and drags when we are uncomfortable; how beliefs about age and limitation can shape our experience; and why rest, recovery, and intentional living are not signs of falling behind. They also discuss using time as a tool rather than allowing schedules, expectations, or old narratives to dictate your worth.This is an invitation to release the countdown mentality, question what “too late” really means, and decide how you want to use the time you have.In this episode, you’ll hear reflections on:Rewriting limiting beliefs about aging and possibilityPresence, flow, and the subjective experience of timeHonoring your energy and allowing intentional recoveryUsing schedules as tools without becoming ruled by rigidityChoosing appreciation, curiosity, and self-leadershipBuilding a better world by building a more empowered relationship with yourselfHow do you want to use time?

In the final episode of Facing the Origin Story, Ashlieya and Neff explore healing meditation, collective intention, and the practice they call Operation Gift a Miracle. They reflect on a group healing session for Carl, the power of offering healing with permission and benevolent intention, and why “gifting miracles” may also transform the person offering them.The conversation moves into coherence: becoming attuned to your body, emotions, intuition, and the energy behind your actions. Ashlieya shares her perspective on radical forgiveness, generational patterns, reclaiming the meaning of the past, and choosing to embody the change you want to create.Together, they consider how love, gratitude, awareness, and clear intention can shape our inner worlds—and how personal healing may ripple outward into families, communities, and the collective.In this episode, they discuss:Healing meditation and collective intentionOperation Gift a Miracle and the healing session for CarlCoherence, embodiment, and emotional awarenessRadical forgiveness and shifting generational patternsThe relationship between belief, perception, and possibilityMoving from fear and judgment toward compassion and intentional actionMagic, miracles, and becoming the change you wish to seeWhat would change if you allowed yourself to believe that healing, growth, and transformation are possible?

In Part 1, Ashlieya shared how growing up in survival mode with a “monster” father shaped her sense of self, and how years of inner work and a profound meditation began to soften that story into forgiveness without denial. After nearly twenty years of no contact, she chose to answer a quiet inner calling: to sit down, face‑to‑face, with the man she once believed defined her own darkness.In Part 2, we pick up right there—on the back‑patio “meeting with the monster.” This episode dives into the conversation itself and the complex humanity inside it:What Carl revealed about his childhood, including abuse, shame, and the moment he believes his “darkness” truly began.How unprocessed emotional pain, addiction, and family secrecy can turn into cycles of harm that feel almost inevitable.The deal he made as a child to protect his siblings, and the lifelong guilt he carries when that protection fails.How hearing his story allowed Ashlieya to see places where she could unexpectedly relate to him—without excusing his actions.Why compassion with boundaries is different from spiritual bypassing, and how it lets her send love and healing energy while still choosing not to invite him into her ongoing life.This conversation is not about rewriting history to make it prettier. It’s about what happens when you sit in front of the source of your deepest fear and see a wounded human instead of only a villain—while still honoring the impact of their choices and protecting your own nervous system, future, and relationships.If you’ve wrestled with estranged parents, family secrets, religious messaging around “forgive and forget,” or the fear of becoming what hurt you, this episode offers a real‑time example of meeting the past with radical honesty, spiritual depth, and firm boundaries.This is the second half of the original conversation that began in Part 1. In the next installment, Part 3, Ashlieya and Neff return after this experience has settled to unpack the two‑part healing ceremony they mention here, the “miracle” they set out to gift, and how this kind of compassion continues to unfold over time.

In this opening episode of multi-part series on Builders of a Better World, Ashlieya shares the tender, raw story of growing up in survival mode with a father she once saw as a “monster,” and the long inner journey that followed. After nearly twenty years of estrangement, she begins to question the narratives she told herself as a child: Was her past really as dark as she remembers? Is she destined to become what hurt her? Or does she have the power to write a different ending?Together with interviewer Neff, Ashlieya explores:How childhood trauma, addiction, and family dysfunction shaped her sense of identity.The crossroads between victimhood, villainy, and choosing a heroic path.Her years‑long process of emotional work, nervous system healing, and spiritual practice that led her to ask for true understanding of forgiveness.A profound meditation experience in which she first feels her father’s and grandmother’s humanness instead of only their darkness.Why she no longer identifies with a “tragic story,” even though she lived through genuinely traumatic events.This episode is part 1 of a multi‑part series about the same pivotal event: meditating on, then visiting, her father after two decades of no contact. It sets the emotional and spiritual groundwork for the later episodes, where she will sit across from him, hear his own story of woundedness and wrongdoing, and discover a deeper, more embodied form of forgiveness.Episode 1 is for anyone who has ever feared “turning into” the people who hurt them, who feels defined by their past, or who wonders whether it’s possible to honor the truth of what happened without carrying it as their identity forever.