Girl, Wake Up!

What if divorce didn’t have to be something you simply survive?In this episode of Girl, Wake Up!, Amy sits down with family law attorney, holistic divorce expert, mediator, and Reiki Master Sharon Oberst DeFala to talk about a radically different way of approaching the end of a marriage.Sharon, author of Love Your Divorce: Your Guide to a Holistic Happier Ever After, believes divorce can be more than an ending. It can be a powerful turning point–one that creates space for greater clarity, peace, growth and possibility.Together, Amy and Sharon explore what “holistic divorce” really means, why divorce does not have to become a war, how mediation can work even with difficult personalities, and why supporting the whole person–motionally, financially, legally and even spiritually–can lead to healthier outcomes. They also talk about Sharon’s unique perspective as both a longtime family law attorney and Reiki Master, the rise of gray divorce, and why so many people are beginning to rethink what happiness and fulfillment can look like in the second half of life.Love Your Divorce: Your Guide to a Holistic Happier Ever After is available on October 13, 2026. If you’re navigating divorce or thinking about it, connect with Amy Polacko for a free 15-minute consultation at www.freedomwarrior.infoLearn more about Sharon DeFala here: https://www.oberstlaw.com/📌 CHAPTERS:00:00 - "How to Love Your Divorce" | Intro with Sharon Oberst Defala01:03 - The Real Reason Divorce Exists (It’s Supposed to Improve Your Life)02:08 - Debunking Divorce Horror Stories: Why No One Regrets Leaving03:22 - What is a Holistic Divorce? (Looking Beyond Money & Legal Battles)05:01 - Litigation vs. Mediation: Why "The Fight is the Gift"06:05 - The Biggest Emotional & Communication Mistakes to Avoid08:14 - How to Use Reiki & Mindfulness to Lower Conflict in Divorce09:50 - Visualization & Radical Self-Care Before Court or Depositions11:21 - Secret Strategies for Handling High-Conflict & Narcissistic Exes13:20 - "Staying for the Kids?" The Truth About Waiting to Divorce15:00 - Truth or Trap: Should You Wait Until the Divorce is Final to Heal?16:11 - Overcoming Guilt When Your Marriage "Isn't Bad Enough" to Leave17:42 - The Future of Divorce: Non-Adversarial & Collaborative Laws18:49 - Where to Find How to Love Your Divorce & Final Thoughts🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED:• Sharon's Blog & Book: https://love-your-divorce.com• Sharon's Law Practice: https://oberstlaw.com• Connect with Amy Polacko: https://www.freedomwarrior.info/coaching-services#DivorceSupport #DivorceForWomen #HolisticDivorce #SeparationAdvice #GirlWakeUp #WomenInTransition #DivorceCoach #FamilyLaw

Midlife can bring huge shifts–divorce, gray divorce, empty nesting, menopause and the loss of roles that once defined you.In this episode of Girl, Wake Up!, Amy talks with Dr. Ellen Albertson, known as The Midlife Whisperer, about why so many women feel lost during this stage of life–and how midlife can become an opportunity to reinvent yourself rather than fear what’s changing.They talk about divorce, gray divorce, empty nesting, menopause, people-pleasing, dating, self-compassion and what happens when women finally stop living for everyone else and start asking what they want for themselves.Dr. Ellen is a psychologist, registered dietitian nutritionist, board-certified health and wellness coach, self-compassion teacher and bestselling author of Rock Your Midlife.If you’re navigating divorce or thinking about it, connect with Amy Polacko for a free 15-minute consultation at www.freedomwarrior.infoLearn more about Dr. Ellen Albertson:https://themidlifewhisperer.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/the_midlife_whisperer/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themidlifewhispererFB: https://www.facebook.com/DrEllenAlbertsonX: https://x.com/RockYourMidlifeLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drellenalbertson/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@themidlifewhisperer

Divorce can change your financial life overnight-and the decisions you make during it can affect you for years to come.In this episode of Girl, Wake Up!, Amy talks with Randi Engelbrecht, Wealth Manager and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) at Radiance Private Wealth, about what women need to know to protect themselves financially before, during and after divorce.They discuss why every woman should understand her household finances, common money mistakes in divorce, how to think strategically about assets like the family home and why a settlement is only the beginning of building your financial future.Most importantly, Randi explains how women can move from feeling overwhelmed by money to making informed decisions with greater confidence and clarity.If you’re navigating divorce or thinking about it, connect with Amy Polacko for a free 15-minute consultation at www.freedomwarrior.infoLearn more about Randi and Radiance Private Wealth here: https://radianceprivatewealth.com/Follow Radiance on Instagram @radianceprivatewealth

Want free tips from a divorce attorney who spent nearly 40 years inside the family court system?In this episode of Girl, Wake Up!, Amy talks with former family law attorney Ronald J. Bavero, Esq. about what people need to know before and during divorce. Ron shares the mistakes he saw clients make again and again, what’s really worth fighting over, how cases spiral out of control and what a seasoned attorney wishes more people understood before walking into a courtroom.Ron is also the author of An Elephant Doesn’t Marry a Giraffe: Everything I Learned as a Divorce Attorney, based on decades of experience handling divorce cases in New York.Think of this episode as a free consultation–with the kind of perspective that usually comes after years in family court.If you’re navigating divorce or thinking about it, connect with Amy Polacko for a free 15-minute consultation at www.freedomwarrior.infoLearn more about Ron Bavero and his book: https://www.divorcedeverafter.com/

What happens when the relationship ends, but the control does not?In this episode of Girl, Wake Up!, Amy sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Jaime Zuckerman to talk about the exhausting reality of co-parenting after narcissistic abuse. Divorce may end the relationship, but when children are involved, the manipulation, blame, chaos and control can continue through schedules, communication, school decisions, parenting apps and everyday logistics.Dr. Zuckerman explains why traditional co-parenting advice often fails with a narcissistic or high-conflict ex, how women can stop reacting to bait and blame and why protecting your peace requires strategy-not endless flexibility.This conversation is for any woman who has been told to “just co-parent” with someone who refuses to cooperate. You are not crazy. You may simply be trying to use healthy relationship tools with someone who never intended to play fair.If you’re navigating divorce or thinking about it, connect with Amy Polacko for a free 15-minute consultation at www.freedomwarrior.infoLearn more about Dr. Jaime Zuckerman:Her book Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse: A Step-by-Step Guide to Reclaiming Your Power, will be released in September 2026 and is currently available for preorder on Amazon here.www.drjaimezuckerman.com www.zgrouptherapy.comIG: @dr.z_psychologistYT: Dr Jaime ZuckermanFB: Dr Jaime ZuckermanTT: @dr.z_psychologist