Everyday Ancestral with James Barry

Content note: this episode discusses suicide. If you need support in the US, 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Outside the US, findahelpline.com lists services by country. I have friends all over the world, and I still spent four months trying to make plans with one guy in my life. Baruch "B" HaLevi, a logotherapist and cofounder of Men's Peer Groups, calls male loneliness an epidemic, and says it gets worse in the second half of life, when work stops holding men's friendships together. I asked him why so many successful men end up without real friends, what happens when your net worth becomes your self-worth, and why a room full of men can teach things therapy alone may not. If you look fine on paper and feel disconnected in private, start here. Key Insights: ✅ Why Men Lose Their Friends After Retirement ✅ Is Money a Means or an End? ✅ Name the Feeling Underneath Your Anger ✅ Add a Fourth Bucket Called Relationships ✅ Loneliness May Rival Smoking for Health Risk ✅ Male Initiation Built on Facing Fears Chapters: 00:00 - Why Are Men So Lonely Today? 03:12 - Are Men Too Busy to Have Friends? 07:44 - What Happens When a Man Loses His Purpose? 10:18 - Pluck (Sponsor) 11:12 - Why Your Purpose Must Be Bigger Than Money 13:39 - The Mirror Exercise That Shows Who You Are 15:50 - How to Help a Man Who Feels Stuck 19:23 - How to Choose Your Response Like Viktor Frankl 21:38 - Why Men Need to Open Up to Other Men 26:20 - Why Knowing Your Values Makes Her Feel Secure 28:36 - How to Make Time for Men's Groups 32:58 - Successful but Lonely? Your First Step 35:38 - The Ancestral Rite of Passage Boys Need 👤 More From Baruch HaLevi Website: https://bhalevi.com Follow Baruch on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baruch_halevi/ Follow Baruch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bhalevi Follow Baruch on Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/@Dr.BHaLevi 👇 More From James Barry 👇 🎁 Try Pluck Superfood Seasonings Get 15% off your first order with code EA15 at http://www.eatpluck.com — real flavor, real nutrients, no junk. 🎁 Get your FREE Freedom Meats Guide I created this free guide to make it easy to eat how we’re meant to—nutrient-dense, energizing, and deeply satisfying. Get it, read it, and enjoy REAL FOOD the ancestral way! https://shop.eatpluck.com/pages/freedom-meats-guide Follow James on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chefjamesbarry Follow Pluck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eatpluck This episode is for general information only and is not medical advice. Nothing here is intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any condition. Talk to your doctor before making changes to your care. #malelonliness #mensgroups #logotherapy #everydayancestral #jamesbarry #baruchhalevi

Chloe Melas, an NBC News correspondent living with ulcerative colitis for 15 years, was 25 when she first saw blood on the toilet paper. She thought it was a hemorrhoid and ignored it. It took a second gastroenterologist and a full colonoscopy to name it. If you are hiding ulcerative colitis symptoms behind a face that looks fine, this one is for you. I asked Chloe why nobody asked what she was eating, what fiber and sleep have changed for her, why she believes rest kept her in remission for years, and why she says blood in your stool means seeing a gastroenterologist. Key Insights: ✅ Your Stool Is Your Daily Report Card ✅ Get a Second Opinion if Dismissed ✅ Psyllium Husk May Ease Colitis Symptoms ✅ Poor Sleep and Stress Can Trigger Flares ✅ Repeated Antibiotics May Disrupt Your Microbiome ✅ Ask Your Doctor Before Adding Fiber Chapters: 00:00 - Modern Life, IBD and the Blood She Ignored 03:54 - How Proctitis Became Left-Sided Ulcerative Colitis 06:00 - Why Is Nobody Talking About IBD? 08:30 - Freedom Meats (Sponsor) 09:06 - Why Gut Symptoms Feel Too Shameful to Mention 12:03 - What Happened When She Went Public With IBD 14:05 - Ulcerative Colitis Flares, Fiber and Sleep 18:11 - Can Working Moms Put Their Health First? 23:00 - How Rest May Have Kept Her in Remission 25:16 - What to Know When Newly Diagnosed With IBD 29:15 - When to See a Gastroenterologist 31:19 - The Ancestral Practice She Would Bring Back 👤 More From Chloe Melas Pre-order The Girl’s Guide to Guts https://thegirlsguidetoguts.com Website: https://www.chloemelas.com Follow Chloe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chloemelas/ Follow Chloe on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chloemelas Follow Chloe on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChloeMelasMazza/ 👇 More From James Barry 👇 🎁 Try Pluck Superfood Seasonings Get 15% off your first order with code EA15 at http://www.eatpluck.com — real flavor, real nutrients, no junk. 🎁 Get your FREE Freedom Meats Guide I created this free guide to make it easy to eat how we’re meant to—nutrient-dense, energizing, and deeply satisfying. Get it, read it, and enjoy REAL FOOD the ancestral way! https://shop.eatpluck.com/pages/freedom-meats-guide Follow James on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chefjamesbarry Follow Pluck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eatpluck This episode is for general information only and is not medical advice. Nothing here is intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any condition. Talk to your doctor before making changes to your care. #ulcerativecolitis #livingwithibd #invisibleillness #everydayancestral #jamesbarry #chloemelas

Content note: this episode discusses suicide. If you need support in the US, call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Outside the US, findahelpline.com lists services by country. You can have the life you worked for and still feel lost. Retired Marine Raider Cody Alford had what he calls the dream life, and he still told himself he wasn't happy. When he left the Marine Corps in 2018, he lost his mission, his identity and his purpose all at once. I asked him what he has learned since, and where to start when you don't know what your purpose is yet. Cody has coached people who seemed to have it all and still felt empty inside, and he explains why the work starts on the inside. Key Insights: ✅ Say Halfway Home, Not Almost There ✅ Kids Want to See You Handle Conflict ✅ Turn a Vague Wish Into a Number ✅ Sit in Silence Without Music or Media ✅ Walk Barefoot, Even in a City Park ✅ Trade Have To for Get To Chapters: 00:00 What Makes Someone a Warrior Off the Battlefield? 01:48 How Do You Build Grit When You Can Quit? 06:09 Why Most People Never Speak Up for Themselves 11:30 Pluck (Sponsor) 12:28 Where Does the Courage to Lead Come From? 19:03 How Small Can a Daily Mission Be? 23:59 Freedom Meats (Sponsor) 25:07 How to Pull Kids From Screens Into Creating 29:22 How Do You Figure Out What You Actually Want? 31:56 Can Fear of Regret Fuel Your Motivation? 34:16 What Question Should You Ask Yourself Every Morning? 37:57 What Does a Healthy Warrior Look Like at Home? 45:33 Why Time in Nature May Calm Your Nervous System 👤 More From Cody Alford 🎁 Join Cody's Reclaim Your Fire Program Cody's 6-week program, one objective a week, to help you name what's draining you and rebuild your sense of purpose. https://www.wedefythenorm.com/products/reclaim-your-fire-course-by-cody-alford Website: https://Codyalford.com We Defy The Norm: https://wedefythenorm.com Follow Cody on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecodyalford/ Follow Cody on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thecodyalford Follow Cody on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheCodyAlford/ Follow Cody on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecodyalford 👇 More From James Barry 👇 🎁 Try Pluck Superfood Seasonings Get 15% off your first order with code EA15 at http://www.eatpluck.com — real flavor, real nutrients, no junk. 🎁 Get your FREE Freedom Meats Guide I created this free guide to make it easy to eat how we’re meant to—nutrient-dense, energizing, and deeply satisfying. Get it, read it, and enjoy REAL FOOD the ancestral way! https://shop.eatpluck.com/pages/freedom-meats-guide Follow James on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chefjamesbarry Follow Pluck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eatpluck This episode is for general information only and is not medical advice. Nothing here is intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any condition. Talk to your doctor before making changes to your care. #lifeafterthemilitary #marineraider #findyourpurpose #everydayancestral #jamesbarry #codyalford

Katie Kimball, TEDx speaker and author of The Picky Eater Playbook, says the research shows your parenting style can't actually create a picky eater, though it can make picky eating worse. Sometimes the cause is physical: a tongue too weak to move food, low-level pain, or senses that are overwhelmed. I asked her about the five Ps of picky eating, why "just take one bite" and even praise still count as pressure, and the one phrase every parent needs at the table. She also explains why spacing out snacks may help kids come to dinner with an appetite. Key Insights: ✅ Food Pouches May Change How Kids Chew ✅ A Weak Tongue Can Look Like Defiance ✅ Even Praise Can Be Pressure at Dinner ✅ Parents Choose What, When and Where ✅ Leave 90 Minutes Between Snacks and Meals ✅ Serve a Veggie Tray Before Dinner Chapters: 00:00 Are We Accidentally Creating Picky Eaters? 02:33 Can Your Parenting Style Cause Picky Eating? 05:20 What Causes Picky Eating in Kids? 07:39 Can Hidden Pain or Sensory Issues Cause Picky Eating? 10:29 Freedom Meats (Sponsor) 11:06 Why "Just Take One Bite" Can Backfire 14:18 Is My Child Picky or Struggling With Food? 16:43 What to Say When Your Kid Refuses Dinner 20:13 Why the Whole Family Should Eat One Meal 22:49 How Do You Make a Picky Eater Curious? 28:27 Is Snacking Sabotaging Your Child's Dinner? 31:08 Is It Okay to Hide Healthy Food From Kids? 33:52 What Does Success Look Like With a Picky Eater? 37:19 The Ancestral Practice She Would Bring Back 👤 More From Katie Kimball Pre-Order The Picky Eater Playbook: Katie's new book shows parents how to shape the dinnertime environment so a child moves from fear to curiosity with food. Pre-order bonuses include a food journal, a reading plan and "what to say instead" reminder cards. https://raisinghealthyfamilies.com/pickyancestral Website: https://kidscookrealfood.com/ Raising Healthy Families: https://raisinghealthyfamilies.com Kitchen Stewardship: https://kitchenstewardship.com Healthy Parenting Handbook Podcast: https://raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Watch Katie's TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oecQiEkzgm4 Follow Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghealthyfamilies Follow Katie on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KatieKimball Follow Kids Cook Real Food on Facebook: https://facebook.com/kidscookrealfood/ Follow Kitchen Stewardship on Facebook: https://facebook.com/kitchenstewardship Connect with Katie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-kimball/ 👇 More From James Barry 👇 🎁 Try Pluck Superfood Seasonings Get 15% off your first order with code EA15 at http://www.eatpluck.com — real flavor, real nutrients, no junk. 🎁 Get your FREE Freedom Meats Guide I created this free guide to make it easy to eat how we’re meant to—nutrient-dense, energizing, and deeply satisfying. Get it, read it, and enjoy REAL FOOD the ancestral way! https://shop.eatpluck.com/pages/freedom-meats-guide Follow James on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chefjamesbarry Follow Pluck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eatpluck This episode is for general information only and is not medical advice. Nothing here is intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any condition. Talk to your doctor before making changes to your care. #pickyeater #pickyeatingtips #familydinner #everydayancestral #jamesbarry #katiekimball

When someone sets you off, it feels like they did it to you. Mental performance coach Grant Dziak doesn't deny that painful things happen. He says the trigger was already inside you, and it's your responsibility to remove it. I asked Grant how to stop reacting emotionally in the moment and why blame feels so much easier than looking at yourself. I also share why I feel our nervous systems weren't built for thousands of opinions, when our ancestors heard news as a story. His answer for the middle of an argument is a three-step reset: drop your shoulders, take a belly breath, and name what you can see in the room for about 90 seconds. Key Insights: ✅ You Have a Trigger Inside of You ✅ Drop Your Shoulders, Breathe Into Your Belly ✅ Naming Objects in the Room Signals Safety ✅ Unexpressed Expectations Are Premeditated Resentments ✅ Trusting Others Starts With Trusting Yourself ✅ Gratitude for People You Believe Hurt You Chapters: 00:00 Is Your Personality Just a Repeated Reaction? 03:18 How to Tell if You're Reacting or Responding 07:30 Why Changing Your Diet Feels Like a Threat 10:06 Why Is Blaming Others Easier Than Looking Inward? 13:40 Why Your Brain Resists Change Even When It's Better 18:09 Pluck (Sponsor) 19:06 How a Partner Can Mirror Your Old Patterns 22:14 Taking Responsibility vs Blaming Yourself: What's the Difference? 26:50 Freedom Meats (Sponsor) 27:26 Did You Ignore the Red Flags Before Trust Broke? 32:07 Does Fear of Being Left Out Shape Your Beliefs? 34:24 Is Constant News Overloading Your Nervous System? 37:50 Should You Be Selfish Before You Are Selfless? 41:05 How to Stop Reacting Emotionally: A Three-Step Reset 46:57 How to Ride Out a Junk Food Craving 49:34 Why Sunlight and Human Connection Still Matter 👤 More From Grant Dziak Website: https://www.grantdziak.com Follow Grant on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/grant.dziak/ Follow Grant on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grantdziak/ 👇 More From James Barry 👇 🎁 Try Pluck Superfood Seasonings Get 15% off your first order with code EA15 at http://www.eatpluck.com — real flavor, real nutrients, no junk. 🎁 Get your FREE Freedom Meats Guide I created this free guide to make it easy to eat how we’re meant to—nutrient-dense, energizing, and deeply satisfying. Get it, read it, and enjoy REAL FOOD the ancestral way! https://shop.eatpluck.com/pages/freedom-meats-guide Follow James on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chefjamesbarry Follow Pluck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eatpluck This episode is for general information only and is not medical advice. Nothing here is intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any condition. Talk to your doctor before making changes to your care. #emotionaltriggers #stopblamingothers #nervoussystemregulation #everydayancestral #jamesbarry #grantdziak