You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

Grayson Hart had the life we're all told to want. Professional Rugby player, founder of a company worth millions, a wife on the cover of magazines...and he burned it all down in the name of truth.This a public sharing of what years of devotion to truth, authenticity, and the courage to be who you are will afford you.It won't be comfortable, but comfort is never what your soul wanted anyway. Comfort is why you're deeply uncomfortable. As the age old saying goes: The truth will set you free.I KNOW this conversation will touch many people, as it did me. There is nothing more important to a fulfilling life than honoring what's true, even and especially when that truth hurts to admit.Enjoy, and let us know by subscribing and commenting if you do :-)Follow Grayson: https://www.instagram.com/graysonjonhart/Check out Hart Workshop: https://hartworkshop.com/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters:0:00 Introduction1:35 We Are Not Separate 2:55 The Paradox of Belonging5:05 All You Have to Do Is Be True7:17 Whatever Falls Away Is a Blessing8:25 The Dolphin on the Beach13:17 Reframing the Ten Thousand Hour Rule15:15 Billy on Athletes Who Look Too Relaxed21:15 Conor McGregor and Israel Adesanya26:17 Your Own Being Is Your Home27:08 The First Step to Being True Is Being Fake29:33 How Do You Know What's True?30:12 Truth Is a Knowing, Not a Belief33:51 The Myth of Personal Responsibility40:28 Crazy Story About Boarding School44:30 How Grayson Became Untouchable48:13 Words Are the Least Purveyor of Truth51:47 You Don't Have to Change Anything54:46 Choosing the Hard Truth After 8 Years of Marriage1:00:02 Let It Be a Possibility First, Then Decide1:02:13 Inauthenticity Often Gets Rewarded by the World1:06:51 Be Your Whole Self, Unapologetically1:12:51 Life Will Show You the Answer1:16:15 The Illusion That Love Lives in Another1:19:37 How to Be Charismatic While Inside a Committed Relationship1:21:12 Stop Giving Your Energy Away1:30:52 Making Love to the Universe1:32:00 Billy on Flirting With the World1:34:55 Nothing Is Worth More Than Freedom of Truth1:35:44 Be Like Jesus on the Cross1:37:56 Can You Trust a Man Everyone Likes?1:40:24 The Note He Wrote While Meditating1:41:20 Giving Yourself Away Is Not Love1:42:19 Dermot Kennedy's Lyrics1:46:30 Forgiving Everyone That Hurt Him1:50:16 Why Forgiveness Protects Other People1:54:32 The Most Personal Is the Most Universal1:57:20 Billy on Not Needing to Be Understood1:59:41 The Worst Thing God Could Do for You2:06:43 Hart Workshop and the Heart Behind It

This may be my favorite conversation we've had on the show so far. Koa Smith is a professional surfer who made a name for himself chasing the biggest and most beautiful waves on earth and capturing them on camera. His career and life was dramatically altered when a collision with a reef caused a traumatic brain injury. He lost his memory, sense of self and fell into a deep depression. This is a conversation on identity, on intimacy, and on integrity. It's about learning to feel again, dissolving the illusion of separate between you and another, but also between you and everything you desire. There aren't many people more equipped to talk about death, about discovering inner peace amidst chaos, and about learning how to find purpose in life again. We talk about 3 rules for life that were given to him by a shaman, 2 words that keep you from having what you desire, and 1 way of being (Hint: trying to figure it out) that keeps us in endless suffering. We also deep dive on the modalities that have changed his life, Transcendental Meditation, Psychedelics, Joe Dispenza...and the most important one, CHOICE. I am reminded that the tools are only as effective as we choose to be with the information that is revealed. That is why life is the ceremony, and the rest are just companions supporting our awareness. After awareness always comes choice, and we must CHOOSE differently if we wish to witness new and better circumstances for our life. Enjoy, and if you do, please subscribe to the show. The chances are, if not subscribed, you will miss future episodes that, I will assert, are life altering. I am grateful for all the love and support. Follow Koa: https://www.instagram.com/koasmith/?hl=enJoin Koa's Community "Spaceship to Many": https://www.skool.com/spaceshiptomany/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bioFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow the Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters0:00 Introduction1:51 Koa's Brain Injury2:11 Facing Identity Crisis without Surfing4:50 Surfing Can Be a Dangerous Addiction5:30 Being Raised by the Ocean7:20 A More Empowering Relationship to Life8:48 Koa's Relationship to Death13:13 Fear Is the Greatest Illusion17:16 Billy on Losing His Own Career18:15 Strip Away Every Vice21:25 Meditation Became His Secret Weapon22:19 The Thought That's Holding You Back24:37 Transcendental Meditation Opened His Eyes25:24 Healing Depression in One Experience28:03 Seven Days With Joe Dispenza30:02 Koa on Learning to Feel His Heart32:34 Fear Is in the Thought34:40 The Two Words That Keep You Separate35:48 The Moment He Felt He Belonged38:56 Humans Longing For More41:26 Crisis Is God's Whisper Getting Louder43:35 How to Hear Your Intuition45:05 Koa's Business, Spaceship to Many47:24 Nine Months Without Alcohol49:14 Billy on Faith, Money and This Show52:07 You Can't Engineer Belonging54:24 The Only Way to Experience True Belonging56:52 Koa on Not Fitting In1:01:59 What's Blocking Your River1:03:08 Challenge Nobody Does1:07:03 The Lesson that Changed Billy's Life1:09:02 The 3 Rules for an Extraordinary Life1:15:17 Turning Down the Noise1:19:41 This Perspective Will Free You to Truly Live1:23:26 What's Next for Koa

Does God exist? Are all these Christian people genuine? Is Christianity the way? Are SSRIs and antidepressants harmful? What even is depression? Can I out-will the algorithm? How can I retrain myself to focus?If any of these sound like questions you are asking, give the next 97 minutes your full attention.Elliot Bewick is a 21 year old atheist and the host of The Next Generation, a podcast for...you guessed it.I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Never stop or change prescribed medication without speaking to your doctor.Follow Elliot - https://www.instagram.com/elliotbewick Follow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjrCHAPTERS:0:00 Why He Hid the Bible1:28 Why Gen Z Is Flocking to the Pews2:34 We Have No Blueprint Anymore4:17 The Two Questions That Give Life Meaning8:33 What If There Is No Meaning?10:29 What Happens When You Kill God11:58 Is Being an Atheist Good for Marketing?13:15 Christianity Would Be Better for Marketing14:46 The Rise of the Performative Christian16:58 "Try Harder. You Don't Love Jesus."20:27 Nobody Ever Knows That God Is Real21:14 Faith Is the Whole Point22:15 Ram Dass and the Insane Asylum24:31 What Is Love Without God?24:50 How Many Women Are on Antidepressants25:42 Nobody Knows What Depression Is26:19 The Chemical Imbalance Was Invented29:23 His Friend, the Meds and the Breakup32:24 19 Yr Old Girl DM's Elliot About Zoloft 33:18 She Couldn't Feel Anything34:09 Where Most Sexual Dysfunction Comes From36:55 We Live in a Culture of Too Many Labels41:02 The Day at the White House42:40 Who the Girl in the DM Actually Is45:01 What Filled the Last Gap in His Faith46:52 Love Is a Choice, Not a Feeling51:37 The Information Age Promised You a Recipe52:55 Just Do53:39 "I'm Confused as F*ck Right Now"55:26 Gen Z are the Victims 56:39 The Blame Game Has No Solutions1:00:52 The Girl Who Sued Meta and Won1:02:00 Your Problem Isn't Doom Scrolling1:05:00 Compartmentalise Your Scrolling1:05:31 The Science of Getting into Flow State1:08:18 Breaking a Social Media Addiction1:09:38 What a Monk Taught Him About Impulse1:10:43 Willpower Is the Wrong Frame1:12:13 Our Generation's Worst Habit1:13:17 Put Down a Vice, Don't Pick Up a Virtue1:19:43 Comfort Creates a Numbness to Life1:24:21 The Study on Choosing the Wrong Answer1:25:14 What Does It Mean to Belong?1:29:46 Loneliness Is Not About Other People1:31:01 The Global Village Problem1:33:24 Elliot's Sponsor, Shift Your Phone

If you have ever looked at a man you love and wondered what is actually going on in there, watch this. If you are raising a boy and you can feel the internet reaching him faster than you can, watch this. If you are still carrying something left unsaid with your own father, watch this for the way through. And if you're a man who has done years of work on himself and still feels broken, watch this. There is a way back...and it isn't more discipline.Adam Jackson is the cofounder of the largest men's work organization in the world, Sacred Sons. Over 20,000 men have made their way through the Sacred Sons programming. There are few people more equipped to talk about men than this man. Expect to learn why combat is important for men, what twenty thousand men have actually admitted to him behind closed doors, why he doesn't fully trust men and what he means by that, the most important parts of manhood, of fatherhood, and of true intimacy in relationships. This is a timely message for anyone with a boy or. man in their life. If you listen all the way through, you'll leave with clear tools for a more empowered existence.Enjoy!CHAPTERS:0:00 Intro0:04 The Violence Already Exists4:19 The Men Who Don't Fight, Fight in Other Ways10:44 The One Thing More Important Than Honesty15:13 It All Comes Back to Mom17:01 "I Don't Know If I Trust Men"20:58 The Harm Is Happening Inside Your Own Home24:40 Why the Uncles Have to Be Cool29:15 Billy: "Part of Me Is Stuck in Boyhood"30:42 You Cannot Initiate Yourself38:18 Why He Tells His Brothers to Have More Children41:39 They Don't Stop Loving You45:48 Protect Your Children From Yourself49:40 What a Child Actually Needs From a Father53:52 The Way Back to Your Father Is Gratitude55:59 The Age of Ancestral Amnesia59:32 The Moment He Repeated the Pattern1:02:18 The One Message Men Need From Women1:05:39 Love One Woman Completely1:08:00 Choose WiselyFollow Adam - https://www.instagram.com/adam___jacksonSacred Sons - https://www.instagram.com/sacredsonsSacred Sons events - https://sacredsons.comFollow the show - https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy - https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr

If you are like me and have spent the majority of your life not feeling at home inside your own skin, this conversation is for you.Jules Horn spent over a decade as THE model. Chanel in Paris with Karl Lagerfeld. Magazine covers with Nicki Minaj holding his photo. Dinner tables with with A-list sitting next to him.Yet he calls that entire chapter a bird in a golden cage.He was blackout drunk most weekends, burned out flat in bed for days every couple of months, chasing one campaign for ten years that never came, monitoring every way of being in the world in case an agent didn't like his hair.Today, he helps people release the tension that they have carried in their fascia for decades, retrain their nervous system for safety and find a comfortable home inside their own skin.Jules showed me the perfect way to breathe, we talked about releasing anger and rage, where most people carry tension and how to release it, the rediscovery of God and how he accesses the divine within him.We also shine light on the dysfunction of the modeling industry, what he was really chasing and how he has transitioned from an endless pursuit of external validation to a love like no other, not from the world, but within himself.If you have been trying to think your way into peace, this episode is the other door. It's free, it's always with you, and you have the opportunity through this conversation to touch a felt sense of peace like never before.I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.
Chapters:

0:00 Intro0:12 The Perfect Breath2:45 The $150,000 Hyperbaric Chamber Mistake7:11 Running Half Marathon Nose Breathing Only10:16 God Is Whispering, the Ego Is Yelling13:00 A Decade of Modeling and Shallow Breathing14:00 Growing Up Without Feeling Loved16:17 Chasing One Campaign for a Decade17:33 Billy: Four Foot Eleven With Cystic Acne20:50 Modeling: An Industry of Power and Control23:20 Blackout Drunk Every Single Weekend26:02 What You Seek Is Already Looking at You34:01 A Bird in a Golden Cage35:53 The Day it All Changed37:17 "You'll Never Work as a Model Again"43:40 The Truth Behind Aging45:48 The Energy of Desperation49:15 How to Release Your Jaw Tension53:55 What to Ask the Monster Within You56:11 Rage, Anger and Suppression1:00:20 Catholic Altar Boy to a Relationship with God1:04:12 God Spoke to Him in a Psychedelic Ceremony1:07:01 Most People's Version of Prayer is Begging1:12:21 Seeing His Dad in His Son1:17:19 The Greatest Gift You Can Give a Child

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