Unbroken Podcast with Richard Akita

You can do everything right. You can work hard, provide for your family, and show up every single day. But if you don't understand that relationships are not a sprint but a marathon, if you don't communicate clearly about who does what, and if you're not intentional about keeping romance alive within your limitations, you'll miss the foundation that holds everything together. In this deeply personal, profoundly insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with Kailash, a business leader with 26 years of marriage experience, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to sustain a marriage, why one parent staying home to shape the children's character is critical, and the uncomfortable truth that romance is in your mind and you can organize your life systematically no matter how much money you make. Kailash holds nothing back. He breaks down why after marriage both he and his wife were working because she felt what would she do sitting at home with house help and everything, why when the children started going to school they strongly believed one parent should be there to shape their character, and the one thing most people refuse to accept: children learn whatever they see and when the mother is there she rectifies mistakes like when the child misbehaves with the house girl and says no she's your auntie you cannot talk like that. He reveals why every class of people deserves respect irrespective of which class you belong to, how he always feels that whoever earns his own living deserves respect because he doesn't become a burden on somebody, and the moment you realize that you cannot respect someone depending on money because every individual has a respect. He also explains why romance is in your mind, how some people think after three or four years romance dies and they get involved with their children and fulfilling family requirements, and the one thing every couple needs to understand: you can organize your life in a more systematic way because even billionaires have their own problems. This isn't just marriage advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why you don't need to fly to USA or UK or Bahamas when you can travel to Akosombo with your family, why thinking that holidays or movies or restaurants are not for you because it's for a certain class of people doesn't work with children, and how you can move forward keeping pace with the world within your limitations without shutting all the doors and saying I cannot do this because I'm low salary. Kailash dives into why most relationships get bad because there's always a lack of communication, how however bad the situation is you must communicate because if your children are going and you feel the money you're earning is not enough you sit down and talk to them and they understand, and the uncomfortable reality that the more you take your children into confidence the more they respect you because they know you always speak to them frankly and surrender yourself with your strengths and weaknesses. He also tackles why you don't bluff your children by saying I'll take you to KFC next week and then call from outside saying sorry I got stuck in traffic, how if you grow your children with confidence sharing your tough times and taking them to your office they get so attached that even when they leave because of work they'll make one or two calls every day to find out how you're doing, and the one thing every parent needs to do: keep things transparent and tell your children I cannot send you to this expensive school but I can send you to this school and hard work is in your hand. If you're married, wondering whether romance dies after a few years, or asking yourself how to keep your relationship strong while raising children and working within your limitations, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop thinking relationships are a sprint and start building a marathon where you communicate clearly, organize your life systematically, and take your children into confidence so they respect you and stay connected even when they leave. Guest: Kailash ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS

You can do everything right. You can pursue God with everything in you. But if you don't understand that the adhesive holding your relationship together is not your love for each other but your individual obedience to God, you'll miss the foundation that makes everything else work. In this deeply personal, profoundly insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with a young man who has finally cracked the code to relationships, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build a marriage that lasts, why love alone is never enough, and the uncomfortable truth that God interrupted Adam with Eve the same way he interrupts every man who is consumed with pursuing him first. This guest holds nothing back. He breaks down why the problem with his past relationships was not that the women didn't embody his ideal but that individually they were not in pursuit of the adhesive, why he relied on his own willpower which depletes instead of trusting somebody who is omniscient and omnipresent, and the one thing that finally clicked: his obedience to God. He reveals why he's been dating since GSS and struggled with youthful exuberance and adolescence and seeking satisfaction, how the difference now is that he trusts God who has the best eye view of what this looks like and follows as he leads, and the moment he realized that his love for his woman cannot be compared to the love God has for him or for her but as long as their love is a subset of God's love for them they are sustained. He also explains why it took two years before he could pop the question because he had to meet her father who is a big man he admired even before he knew his daughter, how he spoke to his brother his dad and her aunt before approaching him and when they finally met they talked for an hour and a half, and the one thing every man needs to understand: the thing that keeps him in check is not his love for his woman but his love for God and his faithfulness to him. This isn't just relationship advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why bad egg bad egg makes a bad omelet but good egg good egg makes a good omelet, why it's not the institution of marriage that's the problem but the individuals who come together in that institution, and how the first Adam and Eve made in the image of God were in pursuit of God until they lost that pursuit and started pursuing each other instead. He dives into why Jesus protects his bride with vengeance and says if anybody comes against his church it is better to tie his neck to a stone and drown in the sea, how the word Ezer means God is not just giving you an ally but giving you himself, and the uncomfortable reality that submission is not tyranny or dictatorship but mirroring how God deals with us because the Holy Spirit is gentle and coaxes us and shows us the way without being forceful. He also tackles why the hierarchy of the home says the man is submitted to Christ and the woman is submitted to the man, how Christ deals with the man the way the man is supposed to deal with the wife, and the one thing every couple needs to accept: love is not enough because the standard is not your love for each other but your obedience to God who keeps you in check. If you're in a relationship, wondering whether love is enough to hold you together, or asking yourself how to maintain your love for your wife in obedience to God, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop relying on your own willpower and start building a relationship where both of you pursue God first and let him interrupt you with each other. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to hear this

You can do everything right. You can quote scripture. You can understand what it means to be the head of your home. But if you don't understand that leadership is not about controlling everything, if you don't submit to your partner's strengths, and if you're not intentional about cultivating your woman the way God cultivates you, you'll miss the foundation that holds everything together. In this deeply personal, beautifully vulnerable episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with a young man who is redefining what it means to be a godly leader in a relationship, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build a marriage that lasts, why submission goes both ways, and the uncomfortable truth that two heads cannot lead a home but a clear leader means leaning on each other's strengths and letting your partner lead where you are weak. This guest holds nothing back. He breaks down why submission is not about being beneath someone but about recognizing somebody who can do things that you cannot, why he submits to his woman's financial wisdom because she is a whiz and he is an artist who needed to learn, and the one thing most men refuse to accept: when you recognize your weakness and allow your partner to lead in that area you gain strength because you submitted to wisdom. He reveals why the way God deals with him is the way he deals with her, how God cultivates him and teaches him and pushes him to write and tells him to work out and eat right, and the moment you realize that loving your wife as Christ loved the church means cultivating her and reminding her that God has not given her the spirit of fear but of power and boldness and love. He also explains why when she starts a new role and wonders how to go about it he reminds her that they did this exact thing six months ago and God showed her he was faithful, how worst case scenario he is also there to remind her how they went about it on day one, and the one thing every man needs to understand: she submits to him when it comes to everything else but he submits to her when it comes to finances because that is her strength. This isn't just relationship advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why individual relationships with God must come before the relationship with each other, why he struggled with pornography and lust for years until God helped him deal with it through celibacy and keeping his temple away from sexual immorality, and how making that clear from the jump means past relationships did not work because the other person did not have the same values but today they don't have that problem because this person has the same values as he does. He dives into why he has two rules in his relationship: tell the truth and at least don't lie, how these rules make them communicate clearly because when there's a problem she cannot say it's fine because that's a lie, and the uncomfortable reality that the least don't lie part means there are some things privy to you that your partner cannot know like when you're a counselor and have conversations with people but the tell the truth part removes everything else from the relationship. He also tackles why the Holy Spirit whispers to him to do romantic things and he does them and she asks how did you know and he says the Holy Spirit told me, how he documents with precision every single thing she tells him that she wants or loves or is interested in because his memory is bad and he remembers the last thing he remembers not the thing itself, and the one thing every man needs to do: have particular days where you have dates even in a long distance relationship because she's just a girl who is a financial whiz and she has to be loved. If you're in a relationship, wondering whether submission means being beneath someone, or asking yourself how to love your woman as Christ loved the church, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop trying to control everything and start building a relationship where both of you lean on each other's strengths and cultivate each other the way God cultivates you. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to

You can do everything right. You can love your spouse with everything in you. But if you don't understand that marriage is more than just love, if you don't protect the first year from external interference, and if you're not intentional about teaching your daughters how they deserve to be loved, you'll miss the foundation that holds everything together. In this deeply insightful, beautifully vulnerable episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with John Michael, social worker and development consultant, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build a marriage that lasts, why the first year of marriage should be just the two of you with no family interference, and the uncomfortable truth that if you're a father who is absent in your daughters' lives they will accept any kind of love from any man because you never taught them what real love looks like. John Michael holds nothing back. He breaks down why the first year of marriage should be just the two of you because you need to get to know each other without external parties bringing their opinions and turning your private issues into family discussions, why eight out of ten couples who survive the first year survive the rest of the years, and the one thing most couples refuse to accept: when children come they disrupt everything and turn your world either the right side up or the right side down. He reveals why his father who is a Reverend Minister said he doesn't understand why young couples go on honeymoon because by the time they marry they've already eaten all the honey, how some people got married because they got pregnant and trying to put a timeline on when to have children is weird, and the moment you realize that ideally the best time to have children is in your 20s when a woman's body is young and she heals quickly. He also explains why if you have children in your 20s by the time you're 40 you look like you've never had kids and men are asking is that your girlfriend and you say that's my wife, how waiting until your mid 30s means you should start working towards having children immediately because what are you waiting for, and the one thing every couple needs to prepare for: the first year becomes complicated when you're dealing with a woman waking up in the middle of the night telling you she wants to eat okra and you don't have okra at home or she wants KFC at 2 a.m. and you have to find it. This isn't just marriage advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why emotional intelligence is about developing a habit of reflection so you can think about what happened and what you did that added to it and what you could have done differently, why the trick is to have these conversations constantly with yourself because this is how you grow and evolve, and how being an involved father means showing up for school recitals and open days and serving as PTA chairman twice because parenting doesn't stop at paying school fees. John Michael dives into why he made his wife cry the only time he remembers when she couldn't reverse the manual car and he kept repeating himself and got flustered because repeating himself is one of his triggers, how he had to sit down and reflect and make a conscious effort to communicate without escalating the situation, and the uncomfortable reality that when he started having kids he realized he was a lot more patient than he thought and learned to teach children to self soothe by letting them cry for 30 minutes until they realized crying won't make him pick them up. He also tackles why he refused to read any books on raising children because white people writing about their white child doesn't mean his black child will do the same thing, how he wanted to write his own child's book and learn how to raise his child uniquely, and the one thing every father needs to understand: your role is not just to mentor your sons but to teach your daughters how they should feel love because when they meet men they're going to judge how they treat them by how you treat them. If you're married, wondering whether love alone is enough, or asking yourself how to be an involved father who teaches his daughters what real love looks like, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop chasing money at the expense of your family and start showing up in ways that matter so your children learn through observation what a healthy marriage and healthy love actually look like. Guest: John Michael ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders,..

You can do everything right. You can love your spouse with everything in you. But if you don't understand that submission is not synonymous with suffering in silence, if you don't recognize that faithfulness doesn't mean losing your voice, and if you're not intentional about understanding that scripture requires both partners to fulfill their roles equally, you'll miss the foundation that holds everything together. In this deeply vulnerable, profoundly insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with Yoko Kobi Gold, author of Faithful, Not Voiceless, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to sustain a marriage, why being a good Christian wife became synonymous with suffering in silence, and the uncomfortable truth that we hide behind culture and scripture to box women into enduring instead of enjoying marriage. Yoko holds nothing back. She breaks down why society expects that as a Christian woman you have to literally lie down for a husband to walk over, why church leaders told her to clean up her cheating husband if she found him on the matrimonial bed with another woman, and the one thing most women refuse to accept: if you read the book of Ephesians chapter 5 it says a woman must submit to the man but it also says a man has to love a woman as Christ loves the church so if I am going to play my part by submitting and then he doesn't play his part by loving me how does that really benefit the marriage. She reveals why her ex husband would literally use the word of God to corner her and say I'm talking you don't have to talk, how church counselors asked what did you do when he cheated instead of asking why is he doing that, and the moment that changes everything: when you realize that your role as a wife is to pray for your husband regardless of whether he's cheating abusive or does nothing but the Bible does not ask a woman to love the husband as Christ loved the church. She also explains why submission is also a form of love and God knew that women would naturally find it difficult to submit so he instructed us to submit, how God knew that men are not emotional beings so he instructed men to love because he wanted a balance, and the one thing every woman needs to know: every woman that is loved right will naturally submit to that man unless that woman is a witch. This isn't just marriage advice. It's a masterclass in understanding why culture is one of the things that has positioned women to endure instead of enjoy marriage, why most of the time our brain is tuned to an overview of what our predecessors did so psychologically it leads you to choose certain spouses that probably you're not supposed to choose, and how if she had known herself the way she got to know herself while she was in the marriage and after the marriage she wouldn't have ended up with her husband. Yoko dives into why she went to rescue him because he was an orphan and didn't have that close knit family so she wanted to be that family for him, how she kept telling herself that God brought her into his life so that he would experience what genuine love is, and the uncomfortable reality that unfaithfulness was one of the major issues in the marriage but church leaders told her she was always the difficult one stubborn disrespectful and that's why he's doing what he's doing. She also tackles why she realized at the point where her personal growth was not being invested in that she can either stay in the marriage for her daughter and not fulfill her dreams or she can stay out and pursue her dreams and give her daughter a better life and a better example for what a woman ought to be, how before the separation came they were practically tenants in the same house in different rooms minding their business and only having conversations when it has to do with the child, and the one thing every person needs to understand: when you are consistently doing the things that you're supposed to do and you're still not seeing changes in the person there's always a trigger because it's draining and some people would not recognize the consistency but rather attack the triggers. If you're married, wondering whether submission means suffering in silence, or asking yourself how to be faithful without losing your voice, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop enduring and start understanding that you can be faithful and have a voice because scripture requires both partners to fulfill their roles equally and when a woman is loved as Christ loves his church submission naturally comes. Guest: Yoko Kobi Gold ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT