Live Your True Life Perspectives with Ashley Berges

On today’s show, I am talking about adjacent stress. Adjacent stress is the stress that others have and its impact on your life. It is other people’s stress and because of our relationship with them, it affects our lives. This stress can come from our spouse, our children, parents, best friend, family, and other friendships. Some people do not feel this stress, while others are highly impacted by it. If you are dealing with someone’s adjacent stress, this is the podcast for you. We need to understand adjacent stress and how to deal with it. It is great to care, but it can be difficult when we are dealing with our stress and taking on adjacent stress as well.

Stress, stress, and more stress! Many of us are under an immense amount of stress every day. This stress can come from our career, our home life, lifestyle, situations, family, relationships, regrets, and the state of the world. When we think of stress, how do we define it and how do we deal with it? We need to take a look at the choices that we have made and choices that we have not made in our lives that have created havoc and stress for us. Join me today as I take a deep dive into stress, where it is coming from, and what we can do right now to make changes In our lives to offset some of our stress.

Today’s show will discuss science and keeping our children up to date on the most innovative ways to obtain accurate information for them to learn. Joining me is Dr Penny Norman. Dr. Norman has a Ph.D. in Biophysics from UC Berkeley. Dr. Penny is dedicated not only to children but also to education. She has written more than 20 Science STEM books for elementary-aged children over the last 20 years. A number of these STEM books have sold millions of copies. These titles are based on years of work with children in the classroom and in after-school programs. She and her editor Ann Einstein have tested these materials and books over many years. Some projects work. Some do not. Some engage children. Others do not. It is only through years of “watching their faces” that activities have been sourced and selected.Her books and kits have received numerous awards, including Family Choice Award 2018 – GOLD MEDAL, Multiple Creative Child Magazine Awards, Scientific American’s Young Reader’s Book Awards, Good Morning American’s Top Ten Children’s Toys, multiple National Parenting Magazine Awards, The Parent’s Choice Seal of Approval, PUZZLE of the YEAR from Games Magazine, and a Modern Library Award. See ScienceWiz.com for an almost complete list of her titles.

On Today’s show, we will identify the people in our lives that we pay to be in our lives. Our doctors, lawyers, accountants, and therapists are just a few examples of the people we pay to be in our lives. We pay these people to help us in our lives. We need to identify who these people are and be confident that they have our best interests in mind, often we lose sight of this. We need to make sure that the people we are paying and giving power to in our lives are there for us and give us the best possible care, advice, and interest in our lives. We need to understand why we chose these people to help us, and what it is that causes us to stick with them when they may not be the best choice for us. We give them power and hope they do the right thing. We must find people that share some of our values.

Have you ever found yourself offering a suggestion, only to be quickly turned down? The feeling of being shut down can be very disheartening. Today I want to talk about a group of society that tends to gravitate toward individuals who think they know it all. However, the reality is that very few know it all. This same type of person also seems to gravitate toward others who are narcissistic in nature. The heart of the matter lies in the issue that they only take advice from supposed know-it-alls without wanting to consider input from anyone else. This behavior most likely comes from their upbringing and family dynamics. This behavior seems to work for these individuals because it is something they are accustomed to. What works for them is very frustrating to the rest of us who care about them. The frustration is evident when the responsibility of caring for these individuals falls on our shoulders, and they refuse to take advice from anyone outside of their chosen know-it-alls.

On today’s show, I dive into the complicated relationship where one minute they love you and the next they don’t. This leaves us never knowing what is going to happen next. The uncertainty that goes along with this type of relationship has an impact on our daily lives leaving us stressed, overwhelmed, and unable to focus. Often, we find ourselves losing our sense of self, fearing being left, having our partner get angry at us, or blaming us for everything wrong. There is a lack of responsibility on their part, expecting everyone else to be responsible but them. A big part of our journey is to recognize and realize what we are dealing with. We need to ask ourselves if this relationship is worth saving. Are we both doing the work necessary to have this relationship move forward? Also, do we deserve this type of person in our lives? We cannot let their behavior rub off on us, we need to set boundaries and make sure those boundaries are respected. Are we willing to walk on eggshells our whole life with them or are we ready to take a stand for our well-being?

As children, we all wanted to be the popular kid. We wanted everyone to like us. We wanted to be the kid chosen first for the team. However, no matter what we may have done there was always one or two kids who did not like us. What happens when we are adults and this desire to be liked by everyone continues in our lives? What about us causes us to want to be liked by everyone? On today's show, I am going to be talking about why we want to be liked so badly. I am going to examine the roots of our desire for popularity and how it shapes us as adults. Are you a people-pleaser, or can you be authentically yourself without needing outside validation? It is important to understand the difference between people-pleasing and being an authentic person. We need to take a deeper look into if our childhood is triggering us. Understanding why we do things, why we make certain choices, and why some things really impact us is key to our seeing who we are. We need to uncover the reasons why being liked by everyone still impacts our lives as adults.

What does it mean to be authentic? On today’s show, we are going to be talking about authenticity. Authenticity is something we strive for in our lives. We must learn how to do this for ourselves and other people in our lives. The founder of Bridging Worlds Behavioral Service, creator of Heart-Centered Revolutions, and author of his latest book, Authenticity: The Immense Power to be Yourself, Adam Bulbulia joins us today. Adam is dedicated to showing us how being authentic is powerful and life-changing.You can find information about Adam Bulbulia by following the links below:[https://bridgingworldsbehavioralservices.com](https://bridgingworldsbehavioralservices.com/)https://www.amazon.com/Inspired-Authenticity-Power-Yourself-World/dp/B0B55D8M67[https://heartcenteredrevolutions.org](https://heartcenteredrevolutions.org/)https://www.instagram.com/heartcenteredrevolutions/https://www.facebook.com/heartcenteredrevolutions

How do you handle an argument that you never planned on having? Have you ever had someone start an argument with you when you did nothing to provoke them? On Today’s show, we are going to take an in-depth look into arguments. Specifically, what happens when the argument comes out of the blue? We need to understand what needs to be done in these situations. To avoid being caught off guard when it occurs in the future and to enable us to react appropriately, we must learn how to retain the concept in memory.

Studies have shown that most drivers develop an emotional connection to their car. Some people even refer to their car as an old trustworthy friend. The emotional connection people feel towards their cars is interesting and can be pretty normal. Join Ashley today as she talks about the emotional attachment that we have to our vehicles and why is it so hard to let our cars go. Ashley helps us understand why we develop these connections and why it is so hard for us to say goodbye to our cars when the time comes.

I am speaking with emerging and upcoming author David Valovcin on Today's show. David is a Financial Services Technologist and has written his first book, “A Desk To Lean On.” David’s inspiration to write the book comes from his daughter Grace. Going back to school affects both parents and children. “A Desk To Lean On” helps take the guesswork out of some of the unknown when it comes to attending a new school. Join David and Ashley as they discuss what it is like to go to school, start a new school, and the importance of a support system in an often overwhelming situation for children.Visit David’s website: https://www.davidvalovcin.com

Many of us are familiar with the new term work wife or work husband. It appears many of our friends or co-workers have one. Perhaps even one of us has a work wife or husband. We may hear the terminology emotional affair where someone is confiding in someone outside of their marriage for emotional support. We may feel alone in our marriage even after being married for many years. The marriage may have become a roommate situation. Listen to today’s show to learn more about marriage, the roommate situation, and having a work wife or work husband.#workwife #workhusband #roommatesituation #marriage #relationships #emotionalaffaireTo learn more about the roommate situation log into Ashley’s YouTube channel, https://www.youtube.com/@LifecoachAshleyBerges as well as watch the following videos on YouTube:https://youtu.be/fpHKBeOEu-4https://youtu.be/1ihtarkPLUchttps://youtu.be/kbjEVg0Sd2A

On today’s show, we are going to be exploring spiritual bypassing. Many of us may be using this as a defense mechanism in our own lives. Spiritual bypassing is the tendency to use spiritual explanations to avoid complex psychological issues. Rather than working through difficult emotions or confronting our issues, we dismiss things that have happened and use spiritual explanations or toxic positivity. Often this is done to protect ourselves or create harmony with other people. Another way this is used is when people judge us, but they are hiding behind their life as a highly spiritual person. Listen in today to learn more about spiritual by-passing and identify who may be using it in your life.

On today’s show, I discuss how our past and our experiences not only color our lives, but also color the way we see and interpret things that happened to us and happened to others around us.When it comes to giving helpful advice to someone in need, we must have some sort of understanding, knowledge, and experience to provide the correct advice. In today's show, I offer a simple example of a situation that can take place to anyone at any time. The reason why I offer this example about the grocery store, and the woman and the cart is to show how is a simple situation that you tell a friend, coworker, parent, or spouse can be observed, and discussed very differently. This particular example that I provide is extremely simple in nature. However, many of us are not asking advice from our friends and family about anything simple. The interesting part is that even a simple situation can be looked at differently by various people. When it comes to deep situations, like marital issues, possible divorce, parental alienation, and the list goes on, many people have a different take on it and offer advice that may or may not be the right advice to take. When it comes to the big issues in our lives, we want to be sure that if we are taking advice, we are taking the right advice for us to better our situation.We get advice from family and friends. Sometimes we ask for advice and other times it is just given to us. Throughout today's show, I’m giving you the information that you need to be able to understand both mentally and emotionally if this advice is helpful or harmful. Sometimes the advice is not advice at all. Sometimes instead of somebody giving you advice, they’re actually judging you.We need to know where the advice is coming from and if it is advice we should be taking. It is important to keep in mind that the advice we receive is directly impacted by the person’s life experiences or lack thereof. We must decide if the advice we are being given is advice that is going to help us or make us feel worse.

On today’s show, we will be talking about your life. We are going to take a deep dive into what we really want in our life and how we are going to get it. Once we get the things we want, how do we then hold onto them? Many of us have that one thing that seems to always get in the way of us attaining what we want. Let’s examine what is missing in our lives, what we love about our lives, and finally figure out how we can get exactly what we want in our life.

Many of us may be experiencing parental alienation right now. During a separation or divorce, our children have turned against us, and we are left to understand why this happened. It is a very painful experience that often blindsides us because our relationships with our children had always been close. Join me today as I speak with Will, a father currently experiencing parental alienation. We will be discussing how it feels, why it happens, and some possible steps we can take to try and turn it around.

Today Ashley speaks with two women who are making a significant difference in the lives of children. Children today need to have ways to work through stress, be more at peace, and be comfortable with who they are. Maleku’s Gift, A story about consciousness and the power of your own breath, helps parents and children learn how to come together and do the necessary work to help children. Join Ashley and Children’s Author, former child educator, and Doctor of Educational Psychology, Jill Reed, and Patricia Coester, Children’s Book Illustrator, breathwork teacher, coach, and psychotherapist, as we discuss the book and how it is going to help parents empower our children.

As humans, we all face challenges. However, it's important to question whether these challenges truly deserve to be labeled as problems. To do this, we must first understand what defines a problem. It's crucial to analyze the situation and determine what actions we can take to make a positive change. When we define a situation as a problem we pigeonhole ourselves by seeing an issue that needs to take place that might be impossible to overcome.

Are you hyper-focused on a situation in your life? Perhaps it feels like all your energy is being consumed by this one issue. It can be difficult to navigate this kind of hyper-focus, as it often leads to neglecting other aspects of our lives and creating new problems. On today's show, I will offer some helpful advice for anyone facing this kind of situation. This advice will allow you to reach a conclusion and move forward in a positive direction.

Today on Live Your True Life Perspectives, Ashley talks with Life Transformation Coach, Illumination Guide, and children’s author Julie D’Ann. Julie has recently released her new children’s book titled, “Which Would You Choose?” This book presents experiences that children or any person may come across in life. The book also demonstrates how to choose thoughts to change feelings and emotions to make more positive choices in life. Join Ashley and Julie as they discuss higher being consciousness, your heart center, dealing with emotions, feelings, processing thoughts, and Julie’s new book. You can find Julie D’Ann by following the links below: Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C11L5WXBAuthor/Coaching Website: https://juliedannauthor.com/TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFYTAKtbzh4FB profile: Julie D’Ann facebook.com/groups/illuminateyourlife Instagram: julie_dann_