What if the reason you’re upset they ignored the TikTok you sent them… has absolutely nothing to do with the TikTok? This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole of John and Julie Gottman's theory of the fundamental unit of emotional communication: bids for connection — the tiny, often invisible ways we ask the people we love to notice us, choose us. Emma gets into why seemingly insignificant moments can hurt so f*cking much, how repeated rejection can quietly create distance in relationships, and the difference between someone who simply doesn’t know how to love you the way you need — and someone who knows and still chooses not to. From ignored texts and missed affection to one particularly painful relationship where breadcrumbs started feeling like a feast, this episode is about the little moments that tell us a whole lot about the people we love — and ourselves. Plus, Spooky Season Series has OFFICIALLY entered the chat once again, with an audience ghost story to close out the episode. EPISODE SPONSORS: Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuch For a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com Shop the merch!! Follow Too Much: IG TikTok Follow Emma: IG TikTok Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below. https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Going on vacation with someone sounds romantic until the flight gets canceled, someone’s hangry, the credit card declines, you haven’t had a bowel movement in five days, and suddenly the person you’ve been dating becomes a full-blown mammal.This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole about why traveling with a partner — or someone you’ve known for approximately 19 business days — is one of the fastest ways to figure out what you’re actually working with. Because travel doesn’t necessarily change a relationship. It reveals it.From booking a trip on a FIRST DATE (yes, you read that right) to romantic trips that exposed some very unromantic truths, Emma gets into traveling too soon, manufactured intimacy, vacation love bombing, money, conflict, compatibility, and the dangerous little fantasy of cosplaying marriage in a hotel room.The question isn’t whether it’s “too soon” to take the trip. It’s what you’re making the trip mean. But in Emma's POV — the answer is usually, "fuck it. Book the trip. Just don’t pack an imaginary relationship in your carry-on."EPISODE SPONSORS:Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuchFor a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer availableGo to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guaranteedHead to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE!For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.comShop the merch!!Follow Too Much:IGTikTokFollow Emma:IGTikTokWant to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below.https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
When did “I don’t feel like it” become a good enough reason to stop showing up for the people we love? This week, Emma is going down the rabbit hole on one of her biggest pet peeves: bailing. The last-minute cancellations, the casual “sorry babe, can’t make it,” and the yes that apparently meant “I’ll decide how I feel that day.” Because somewhere between protecting our peace and honoring our boundaries, it appears we all forgot how to honor our word.Emma gets vulnerable about why being bailed on can feel so much bigger than a canceled plan, dating back to her abandonment wounds and following her up until a couple weeks ago when half the group trip bailed. She unpacks the difference between giving someone grace and ignoring a pattern, and when it’s finally time to stop extending invitations to people who keep showing you they won’t show up.Because relationships aren’t built on declarations — they’re built on evidence. And an honest no will always be better than an unreliable yes. So moral of the story — it's time to start showing the f*ck up.EPISODE SPONSORS:Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuchFor a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer availableGo to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guaranteedHead to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE!For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.comShop the merch!!Follow Too Much:IGTikTokFollow Emma:IGTikTokWant to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below.https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What if you love your life…and you’re still lonely as fuck? Emma is the happiest, most confident and fulfilled she’s ever been. Her career is growing, her friendships are strong, she feels good about herself—and for once, there’s no man wreaking havoc in the background. But this week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on the kind of loneliness nobody talks about: the kind that can coexist with happiness. From realizing she doesn’t miss her ex, she misses having a “Sunday person,” to questioning whether she’s actually lonely or just experiencing life without romantic distraction for the first time, she gets brutally honest about what happens when your standards become stronger than your fear of being alone.If you’ve ever thought, “My life is really good, so why do I still feel lonely?” this one’s for you. You don’t have to pretend you don’t want love to prove you’re good at being single. Loneliness can visit your life without defining it.EPISODE SPONSORS:Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuchFor a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer availableGo to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guaranteedHead to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE!For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.comShop the merch!!Follow Too Much:IGTikTokFollow Emma:IGTikTokWant to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below.https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Ask Emma is BACK, which means a simple listener question is about to become a full-blown existential crisis.This week, Emma goes down the rabbit hole on dating fatigue, high standards vs. unrealistic expectations, and the question she hates admitting she’s asked herself: does she know too much about relationships to actually enjoy one?She’s talking being single for years without settling, catching feelings for a guy friend, slowing down sex without killing the chemistry, whether she’d date a man less successful than her, when to stop inviting the friend who never shows up, and why healthy love can feel suspiciously boring after you’ve been conditioned to chaos.Basically, if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking for too much, taking too long, moving too fast, choosing the wrong people, or becoming a little too self-aware for your own good — this one’s for you.EPISODE SPONSORS:Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at Shopify.com/toomuchFor a better way to stay hydrated, go to instanthydration.com/TOOMUCH and use promo code TOOMUCH for over 40% off your first subscription order - it’s Instant Hydration’s best offer availableGo to AquaTru.com now for 20% off using promo code TOOMUCH. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guaranteedHead to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code TOOMUCH and get up to $300 off ANY of their select AirDoctor models, plus you will get a 3-year warranty, absolutely FREE!For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.comShop the merch!!Follow Too Much:IGTikTokFollow Emma:IGTikTokWant to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below.https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.