unFAITHFUL: redeeming infidelity

In our introductory episode, you'll meet hosts Nick and Bekah Moes, founders of Family of Hope Ministries. We'll introduce our show format and discuss what to expect from future episodes.  We'll also share our 3 foundational pillars for couples facing recovery from infidelity: hope, help, and healing.  

We're sharing our very first story... our own! In part one of Nick and Bekah's story, we'll give a detailed account of our destructive cycles and how they paved the way for betrayal through infidelity. We'll also discuss the role of pornography in the destruction of our marriage, and what became the turning point in our healing journey.   For detailed show notes, including discussion questions visit www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.        

In part two of Nick and Bekah's story we're talking all about our affair recovery process and the lifestyle of healing we're now committed to. We'll discuss the role of faith in our healing journey and share all of the details of our extravagant redemption.  For detailed show notes, including discussion questions and links to additional resources visit www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.  

On today’s show, we’re asking the question: is this the end? Should an affair mean the end of a marriage? We’re addressing: the unique perspective of the betrayed vs. the unfaithful spouse obstacles both will need to overcome what it's going to take to recover indicators a marriage can survive after infidelity For detailed show notes, and discussion questions visit http://myfamilyofhope.org/podcast. For our latest blog, additional resources, and contact information visit Nick and Bekah at Family of Hope.

What does your spouse really need to know? In this episode we address full disclosure and why it’s SO important in the early stages of recovery. We also talk about the consequences of withholding information, and suggest some tips for keeping “discovery” a safe process for both parties. Detailed show notes, and discussion questions are available at www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.

This episode is all about the facts. Who is using pornography? Is using pornography actually infidelity? Is the recovery process the same as a couple with a physical affair? What is the big problem, and what is the solution? Join us as we answer all of these questions and more! This show is a production of Family of Hope. 

It’s one thing to understand the impact of pornography, it’s another thing to break free and walk away from it. In this episode, we have an unscripted conversation about Nick’s journey from addiction to freedom. We share strategies and techniques that did NOT work, as well as some that did. We also talk about what it feels like to live with shame, the difference between “sobriety” and true freedom, and how connection with God and others made the ultimate difference.

Nick and Bekah stop by with a quick check-in to talk about where the show is headed, and what to expect moving forward.

One of the most helpful tools we can think of to support you on your journey is a clear understanding of the journey itself. Today we want to provide a road map for a typical affair recovery process to help you determine if you’re on the right course. We’ll review the typical path for recovery and lay it out on a timeline, and highlight 8 critical elements we believe define a “healthy” recovery. Detailed show notes, discussion questions, and relevant links are available at www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast. 

The world of counseling and therapy can be so intimidating! Today we hope to make it a little easier by tackling the topic “How to Choose a Therapist.” I interviewed my friend Meredith Tilton, associate pastor of biblical counseling at Gateway Church. We discuss the difference between biblical counseling and licensed professional therapy, the cost of therapy and how to make it work, what kind of questions to ask a prospective counselor or therapist and much more. We hope this incredibly practical conversation empowers you to take the next step in pursuing the support you need for your recovery journey! Show notes and discussion questions are available at www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.

On today’s show our friends Liz and Jeff share their journey through infidelity. Themes of our conversation include how our family of origin impacts the lens we view marriage through, ways that shame keeps us stuck, “rules of engagement” when recovering from infidelity, why they stayed even when everything fell apart, and what “making it” really means. Liz and Jeff also share several things they did wrong, and some things they did right… you won’t want to miss this one! Show notes and discussion questions are available at www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.

In a profound turn-around, Liz Jones is now the Associate Pastor over Marriage Crisis under the Care Department at Gateway Church. She is the head of an incredible crisis marriage team that has served thousands of people to-date and is still growing! I talked to Liz about this beautiful evolution, and asked her all kinds of questions about what she’s learned about Affair Recovery over the years. We talk about: types of support couples need in recovery the difference between surviving and thriving what is “success” in affair recovery? developing empathy toxic shame what if the affair was many years ago? and much more! Shownotes and discussion questions are available at www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.

How will I ever trust my spouse again? A question anyone facing a betrayal asks themselves over and over again! In the absence of trust, a couple must learn to create safety for each other both inside and outside the relationship. In this episode Nick and Bekah talk through what it takes to rebuild a foundation of trust by giving you 10 ways to create safety inside your relationship. This will help you to create an emotional environment that is supportive of a healthy recovery.

Let’s pick back up where we left off. In the absence of trust a couple must learn to create safety for each other both inside and outside the relationship. Today you’ll evaluate areas your relationship is vulnerable as we explore 10 parts of your life that require healthy boundaries in order to create safety from the outside. If safety is the goal, it will require doing “whatever it takes.” DOWNLOAD A PRINTABLE of today’s content. All 10 points with discussion questions are included. You’ll find it in the show notes at www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.

Being thoughtful about who to tell is critical as you explore recovery! To continue to build a foundation of safety, you must use discretion and limit who you tell about the infidelity and what kind of information you share. In this episode we talk about: destructive reasons for sharing the consequences of oversharing healthy motives for sharing a few boundaries to protect the people you do choose to involve our best recommendation for developing a healthy support system Shownotes and discussion questions are available at https//myfamilyofhope.org/podcast.

Today we’re sharing a few tips to help you get through the difficult holiday weeks. It’s not a recipe for a pain-free Christmas, but it might be a little bit of peace and sanity through a challenging time of year. You never know, in letting go of some obligations and doing something new you could stumble into the most meaningful holiday season of your life. Shownotes @ https://myfamilyofhope.org/podcast

Betrayal at the hands of your spouse leaves wounds that seem impossible to heal. How do you move forward when all you see in front of you is pain? As you journey through recovery, you’ll learn that you have choices when faced with pain. Those choices will either transform your pain, or transmit it. Join us today as we discuss the process of grief and “how to handle the pain.” Discussion questions and shownotes are available at https://myfamilyofhope.org/podcast. To stay up-to-date or give a tax deductible gift text FOH to 555888.

Years of destructive cycles leading to infidelity left Crystal and Kerry’s relationship feeling broken beyond repair. Failed attempts at counseling, and reconciliation left divorce as the only option. After a lengthy and volatile divorce process God spoke something new to each of them. It wasn’t fast, and it wasn’t easy but radical restoration came. Join us today as our friends Crystal & Kerry share how absolutely nothing is too far gone for God’s redemption! Shownotes available at https://myfamilyofhope.org

God had our best in mind when He created sex as an expression of intimacy. Humanity has made a mess of it since the Fall of man… but God wants to redeem every detail. On today’s show we're going to introduce you to our friend Nancy Houston. Nancy has a master’s degree in counseling, is a licensed professional counselor and is board certified as a sex therapist. She is an adjunct professor and Fellow with the Townsend Institute and a Townsend Leadership Director with groups in Portland, Oregon and Southlake, Texas. Author of the book “Love & Sex,” she travels the country doing relationship events, and speaking at conferences. Nancy’s expertise and perspective are both comforting and refreshing. This episode is sure to leave you wanting to hear more! Shownotes available at https://myfamilyofhope.org

Ladies, this one’s for you! Bekah recently visited a women’s group in San Antonio, Texas. Join them today as she shares her story in a message called “The God Who See’s Me,” live from the Ft. Sam Houston PWOC. Shownotes available at www.myfamilyofhope.org/podcast