034 – Stop Self-Hate: How to Be The Best Teammate…To Yourself
Description
You’ve had a garbage teammate before—selfish, lazy, full of excuses. Toxic. Talks crap and puts you down. You're never good enough, you don't belong…you get it.
In this episode I continue to garbage teammate series but this time it may be the worst version - that horrible teammate is YOU. You are the worst possible teammate to yourself.
We cover what it sounds and looks like to be a garbage teammate to yourself, the danger of those negative self-beliefs and words, and then what to do instead.
You’ll learn how to stop being your own worst critic and start being your best teammate—the one who builds confidence, respects identity and plays free.
We’ll break it down into three buckets:
- Identity – Who you really are beyond stats and playing time
- Authenticity – Staying aligned with your values and self-respect
- Confidence Evidence – Stacking proof that fuel unshakable belief
Packed with real stories, neuroscience and tactical tools like box breathing, reframing, snapback cues, gratitude, journaling and visualization—this episode is your playbook for resilience, confidence, and freedom on and off the field.
Perfect for athletes, parents, and coaches who want to shift the mental game from toxic self-talk to authentic self-trust.
00:00 Intro, Episode Highlights & Garbage Teammate Recap (032 & 033)
01:17 Hearing the Hate from a Championship Game Disaster
05:00 Inversion Thinking Exercise: Playbook to Being Your Own Worst Teammate
09:25 Three Buckets of How to Be the Best Teammate to Yourself
09:59 Bucket 1 - Identity: Who You Really Are
12:58 Bucket 2 - Authenticity: How Aligned You Are To Your Identity
16:53 Bucket 3 - Confidence Evidence
20:10 Tactics In the Heat of the Moment: Breathwork, Reframe & Snapback, Gratitude
24:15 Strategies To Practice Over Time: Meditation, Journaling, Visualization
27:41 Closing Thoughts: Recap & How To Support