054: SH*T SANDWICH - Surviving Separation to Save Your Relationship
In our most deeply-personal episode ever, Brad, Taco Mike, and guest Jimmy Durbin discuss how they all three survived lengthy separations that ultimately helped save their marriages. Learn from these examples about how they were wrong in the first place, how they were wrong throughout the process, how they made it right again and how YOU can get right by recognizing your own part in relationship wrongs, regardless of your current status as a single, married, partnered, separated or divorced person.
We discuss how trauma, failures from past relationships, self-righteousness and fake, phony strength and other issues made us drift intro colossal failure. Mike makes a comparison between his past and a character from Lord of the Rings, Jimmy discloses his slow maturing process, and Brad outlines his self-righteous judgement and projecting, all of which led to near-divorces. Ultimately, we became grown-ass men and acknowledged our faults and worked it out. Miraculously, our wives forgave us and we are each now happily married. Brad and Jimmy are therapists and Taco Mike is a recovery and relationship coach and entrepreneur.
We teach how our crucial mistakes created pain in our lives:
We also share how we discovered these principles after a lengthy season of hardheadedness and how these saved our relationships:
- forgiveness of self and spouse
- controlling selfish urges
- contact with a higher power
- ongoing dialogue with honest men
If you are the person in a failing relationship with a dirtbag of a human, this can help you understand where he may be coming from and what you may be able to do to help him.
Who*ever is reading this: you need this information more than you could even know. You don't even have to be in a bad relationship to learn through our experiences what may be amiss, perhaps even in you. This episode colorfully illustrates the grueling and gut-wrenching experiences of a combined 5 years of manning-the-freak-up by three unassuming alphas who learned to conquer their self-absorption and reconnect with the women they love.
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