055: PISSED ON - Finding Humility to Mend a Separation (with Jimmy Durbin)
Over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Some research indicates that 5 years after divorce, people are no happier than they were in their “unhappy marriage.” While sometimes divorce is the only option, it isn’t always the only option. Today we will be discussing how separation can, in many cases and when done with the right approach, save your relationship. We share some insights we have gained from men we have worked with on this, some applicable research on this topic, and some of our own very personal experiences with separation as a means to save a marriage.
Questions to be answered today:
- What are the not-so-obvious issues that make people believe that divorce is the answer?
- Why is separation something that men should consider as an alternative to divorce?
- What actions should a man be taking during a separation?
- What does a successful separation and eventual reunion look like?
This segment is about separation as Option C. Stephen Covey talked about continuing to look for alternatives in general until you find something that works. Option A might be to continue to stay miserable in a dead relationship. Option B may be divorce (which can feel like an emotional murder-suicide). Option C is often separation.
We aren't encouraging anyone to separate, rather we are encouraging people to consider separation before proceeding with a divorce first.
You can always get a divorce; you can file tomorrow. But once you do, you can’t undo it. Is there any decision more impactful on your ENTIRE FUTURE and the ENTIRE FUTURE OF GENERATIONS AFTER YOU than whether to not to stay married? Sometimes it is an inevitability. Sometimes divorce is the only sensible choice. But let’s talk about how not to BLOW the one of the biggest decisions you will ever make.
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