10: Maybe It’s Mail

10: Maybe It’s Mail

Update: 2018-05-08

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Amiira and Greg answer emails from fabulous listeners. (Keep ‘em coming! You send them, we’ll answer them.) As if that wasn’t enough,producer Yusong finally gets dragged into the studio and giant bonus - Amiira and Greg’s daughter True takes teen emotions to a new level.

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Let Me Show You Failure (with John Henson)

Comedian and Television Host John Henson joins Amiira and Greg to discuss their friendship and how men's friendships differ from women’s in what closeness means. The craziness of life and how suddenly you go from being at the height of everything to having your life completely blow up. The desire to assign value to things in your life impulsively that are completely different in hindsight or retrospect. The habit of boxing and storing things emotionally that you can keep bottled up to endlessly fuel future disappointment. Coming to the understanding that carrying around anger that is toxic when the truth simply is that no one denied me anything they had the power to give me.

Let Me Show You Failure (with John Henson)

2018-12-1101:01:32

Depression Is Not Synonymous With Sadness (with Mandy Hale)

Widely known as The Single Woman, best-selling author, blogger and social media star Mandy Hale drops in on Amiira and Greg to talk about her new book “You Are Enough.” A soul baring document of feeling trapped by the successful persona and brand she created that no longer felt authentic to the life she wanted to live, her struggle with deep depression that resulted in an intensive partial hospitalization psych program where she rebuilt her self worth through grieving, healing and intensive therapy that led her to write “You Are Enough.” The realization that you have to lose yourself to find yourself, that sometimes losing something is actually making room for something better and while the happy times might be great, it’s the sad times that make you great.

Depression Is Not Synonymous With Sadness (with Mandy Hale)

2018-12-0401:11:35

Hothouse Children (with Merrin Dungey)

The multitalented Merrin Dungey (Alias, Big Little Lies, The Fix) drops some serious knowledge when she joins Amiira and Greg. Coming in hot with, "Say what you mean, mean what you say and don’t say it mean," Merrin brings real tools for having healthy, strong, and most importantly effective communication in all your relationships. Traversing topics from understanding your power as a girl/woman, the horror show of teens dressing too provocatively and the discomfort it causes Dads and concern it causes Moms, finding your place and sorting your life amid divorcing with children, and the female mind at work as an Super Type A personality and how motherhood makes you a multiple instead of an individual. Fascinating, insightful and wildly entertaining!

Hothouse Children (with Merrin Dungey)

2018-11-2701:08:22

Bringing Home the Boyfriend (with H. Alan Scott)

Comedian H. Alan Scott (You’re Making It Worse podcast/Latter Day Jew) joins Amiira and Greg for emotional bumper cars where Greg and H. Alan realize that they are mirror Straight/Gay images of each other. Having both survived cancer and been tasked with restarting their cancer treatment paused careers, Greg and H. Alan bond over the reinvention that is the silver lining of personal setback. Now in a healthy relationship H. Alan is bringing the very first boyfriend he’s ever brought home to his Mormon family for Thanksgiving and what preparation is required with all parties for full family immersion.

Bringing Home the Boyfriend (with H. Alan Scott)

2018-11-2001:11:06

Take Your Own Walls Down - Beth Lapides/Uncabaret

Beth Lapides, the creator of the longtime alternative comedy show UnCabaret, joins Amiira and Greg to discuss long term relationships both romantic and the relationship you have with your own creative work. The crossover of working together and living together that works until it stops working, how a dysfunctional relationship can get stuck in the past and stop growing when you stop exploring yourself, and the realization that you might be squeezing the life out of your favorite person. Brought to you by Hello Fresh! Use discount code MAYBE at hellofresh.com/maybe60 to receive $20 off your first three orders. Thats a total of $60 off your first three orders!

Take Your Own Walls Down - Beth Lapides/Uncabaret

2018-11-1301:05:111

Sound Bath Envy (with Mary Lynn Rajskub)

Actress (24, Night School, It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia) and comedian Mary Lynn Rajskub join Amiira and Greg to talk about the shared relationship dynamic of a marriage of a magical thinker with a non-linear mind opposite a linear mind and what daily communication looks like… and how they hilariously still are puzzled by each other after a decade plus of marriage. Learning your person, how they are, how you are and what you both need then training yourself to identify it when it’s actually happening then practicing the appropriate acceptance, boundaries and actions to boost the fun and harmony in your home plus sound bath envy and the desperation of performing comedy.

Sound Bath Envy (with Mary Lynn Rajskub)

2018-11-0601:04:53

How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking Part 2 - Moon Zappa

The singularly hilarious and mystic Moon Zappa joins Amiira and Greg to talk about all the different obstacles and pitfalls that we encounter in our marriage relationship. Part 2 of our deep dive into How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking where we discuss how we behave as badly as your family of origin, hang on to stuff even after an apology has been made because anger continues to come up, and how you can have total willingness and desire to get rid of something and STILL not be able to do it. The idea of looking to the past as proof that you can recover from adversity or trauma rather than looking to the past for injury. The avoidance trap of putting pleasure on your discomfort rather than digging deeper into the issue and that compromise isn’t meant to be taking turns being miserable. There’s a ton of funny and insightful information and conversation that will help keep your relationship thriving.

How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking Part 2 - Moon Zappa

2018-10-3001:23:05

How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking Part 1

Amiira and Greg go into the conversations and real life advice that sparked the writing of our new book How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking, a preventative guide to keeping your wedlock out of deadlock. We’ve run the obstacle course and know all the hazards so we can warn you about all the traps you need to look out for. Includes a hilarious because it’s true excerpt from the How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking relationship conversations you need to have quiz, the ability to renegotiate things in your marriage and a sidebar about porn’s effects on how you view your partner. Plus they answer a listener question. Enjoy!

How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking Part 1

2018-10-2301:03:06

We Got to Fix It To Fix It (with Jackie Kashian)

Comedian Jackie Kashian (The Dork Forest & The Jackie and Laurie Show podcasts) drops by for an hourlong hilarious deep dive into family dysfunction, celebration and revelation, the joys of marrying the right person after you’re already a formed adult, the steep learning curve of the time we’re living in of sexual misconduct, racism, and human garbage as well as the great hope for self-correction in the future and those who choose to be on the right side of history.

We Got to Fix It To Fix It (with Jackie Kashian)

2018-10-1601:11:551

Couples Therapy w/ Naomi & Andy

Engaged couple Naomi Ekperigin and Andy Beckerman from the Couples Therapy Podcast join Amiira and Greg to talk about marrying your lives, navigating each other’s parents, historical parent child dynamics that continually teeter on the line of infantilizing. The responsibility you feel towards your partner in the face of the familial loyalty and love triangle and how too much togetherness and enmeshment can potentially spoil your Couples harmony rather than strengthen it.

Couples Therapy w/ Naomi & Andy

2018-10-0901:21:56

The Evaporation of Identity

Amiira and Greg discuss the erasure of identity that slowly seeps in with the monotony, structure and repetition of daily adult life. With responsibility and children comes the evaporation of spontaneity and adventure as your role changes to be of service to others before being of service to yourself. The disconnection from how you once defined yourself now that you’re in the environment of adult life. As well as a lively and revealing discussion of mental illness in marriages.

The Evaporation of Identity

2018-10-0201:04:092

Testing the Elasticity of Your Love

Amiira and Greg explore the idea of love elasticity. How much wear and tear can you put on your love before it stops snapping back? How far can you stretch your love before it breaks? In long term committed relationships (including friendships, romantic relationships, family) we can find ourselves withdrawing our thoughtfulness, consideration and attention from our partner, who once was our first thought, and giving it to elsewhere in the moment then expecting your person to just roll with it. Suddenly, you’ve built this new habit of taking your person for granted, being disconnected and even treating them poorly in favor of another person who is relatively meaningless in your world. Maybe It’s You listener email raises the discussion of conflict in the division of domestic labor and what roles gender, personality and position may play.

Testing the Elasticity of Your Love

2018-09-2501:08:17

Tom Morello - Part Two

Amiira and Greg’s conversation with Tom Morello (Rage Against The Machine, Audioslave, Prophets of Rage) continues and delves into band dynamics being similar to a group marriage as well as the challenges that arise when making decisions as a band at the intersection of art, commerce and ego. Then switch gears into fatherhood with his own sons, discovering as an adult that he had three half-brothers in Kenya and developing strong relationships with them and how their new brotherhood bond built a bridge to his biological father finally becoming a part of his life. Finally, Tom challenges Amiira and Greg to a battle of the bands game!

Tom Morello - Part Two

2018-09-1800:59:26

Tom Morello - Part One

Tom Morello, (Rage Against The Machine, Audioslave, Prophets of Rage) join Amiira and Greg to talk about the glory and challenges of his adolescence as the only African American kid in his town and high school, how working at the Renaissance Faire is still the best job he's ever had, the other education he got at Harvard, having a change of heart about getting married and having kids, and the five problems you encounter in a band.

Tom Morello - Part One

2018-09-1100:45:01

Weddings, Breakups and Everything In Between

Greg and Amiira introduce new producer Land and discuss the difference in the pageantry of young couple weddings and the later in life weddings that are coming down the pike. In true How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking fashion Greg and Amiira relive their own wedding planning dilemmas that led to them having an engagement party where they staged a surprise wedding and Amiira’s struggle with vulnerability and anxiety at weddings and all the mistakes they made around their wedding. The reality of post wedding day depression, the brain scramble of when you and your person part ways in what moves you and the opportunity that lives within heart crushing breakups.

Weddings, Breakups and Everything In Between

2018-09-0401:03:43

Live from Book Soup w/ Kelsey Cook & Kane Holloway

Greg and Amiira are joined by engaged comedians and podcasters Kelsey Cook (Self-Helpless) and Kane Holloway (Your First Time) at the How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking book signing at the infamous Book Soup on the Sunset Strip in Los Angeles. We get into the meat of bad proposals, conflicting fighting styles, control issues and boundaries as well as reading an excerpt from How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking and taking questions from the audience on Greg and Amiira’s first live Maybe It’s You..

Live from Book Soup w/ Kelsey Cook & Kane Holloway

2018-08-2801:06:00

Lazy Communication

Amiira and Greg get into the guts of lazy communication plaguing your long term and most meaningful relationships. How we get into the habit of sacrificing the feelings of our significant others in favor of accommodating near strangers, how we enter a space with conversations that have already started in our head then land them on our bewildered partner with an unexpected punch of amped up and heavily laced energy to guarantee that everyone gets to feel bad now.

Lazy Communication

2018-08-2101:04:491

Beverly D’Angelo - Deep Dive Into Perryanity

Beverly D’Angelo (National Lampoon’s Vacation, Hair, Every Which Way But Loose, Coal Miner’s Daughter, Entourage, Simpsons) discusses her career as a misfit in Hollywood, seeking fulfillment rather than success, her obsession with Steve Perry of Journey as a gateway for the nostalgia of a time of innocence and seeking safety and her entrepreneurial idea for mobile therapy. Plus the bonus of close up magic with Handsome Jack!

Beverly D’Angelo - Deep Dive Into Perryanity

2018-08-1401:01:09

Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon - Bachelor Stars Align

You know them from seasons of the Bachelor, Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise, the vibrant, foxy and newly engaged Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon join Greg and Amiira to talk all things love under and outside of the microscope. Finding strength in their differences and incredible introspection these two reality stars were put on television to find love but developed their relationship off screen between seasons where they nurtured and protected their friendship and incubated an authentic romantic love. Plus we talk about wedding planning and the awkwardness of having to watch your fiancé’ date on television.

Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon - Bachelor Stars Align

2018-08-0701:10:13

Jennifer Armstrong - Sex and the City and Us

Jennifer Armstrong, author of Sex and the City and Us, drops by to discuss the cultural impact of female aspiration and the breadth of relationships and behaviors explored through the characters and storylines of the the much celebrated and groundbreaking Sex and the City. Shining the light on their own marriage proposal as well as Jennifer’s and Carrie Bradshaw’s, Greg and Amiira delve into the expectations and realities of your evolution both personal and as a couple when marriage is on the table.

Jennifer Armstrong - Sex and the City and Us

2018-07-3101:12:54

The Mormon & the Methhead - Crisis, reinvention and intimacy.

Aaron Woodall and Jessa Reed of the Mormon and the Methhead podcast join Greg and Amiira for a deep dive into the experience and expectation of growing up in the Mormon religion, self-discovery through meth use, climbing your way out of isolation, failed marriages, fear of rejection and the dynamics of mastering vulnerability.

The Mormon & the Methhead - Crisis, reinvention and intimacy.

2018-07-2400:58:241

Paul Gilmartin - Horseshit and Fear

Paul Gilmartin from the Mental Health Happy Hour podcast joins Greg and Amiira to take a deep dive into the difficult conversations that you have to have to achieve true intimacy, how we plant landmines in our relationships in the first five years that will explode later on, recognizing that the shared reality of a relationship morphs with time and fractures, and the fall out of growing up in an emotionally invalidating household. It’s a good one people!

Paul Gilmartin - Horseshit and Fear

2018-07-1701:05:28

19: Maybe It’s Mail #2

The revealing (and puzzling) truth of Amiira’s family dynamic through a text chain about salad. Greg and Amiira answer listener email about dating and making a connection. Producer Yusong discusses his experience with dating apps and struggles with being complimented. Greg can’t decide whether to discuss his colonoscopy or True’s improv summer intensive.

19: Maybe It’s Mail #2

2018-07-1001:02:21

18: Dan Freedman - Being your own moderating force.

Our friend Dan Freedman joins us to talk about being a single father after the unexpected death of his first wife, having to be your own moderating force as both the disciplinarian and the paternal figure, being alone in making all the parenting decisions you usually make with your partner, how wasted time is just wasted time and some really insightful perspectives on first and second marriages including the idea of the six month break.

18: Dan Freedman - Being your own moderating force.

2018-07-0301:10:22

17: Karen Kilgariff - Who’s going to wet themselves?

Karen Kilgariff the hilarious comic and My Favorite Murder co-host joins Greg and Amiira to discuss how self-doubt, insecurity and descending voices cripples owning your own ambition, black out dysfunctional drinking days with a crew of comedy greats and a walk down memory lane of the early low brow Los Angeles comedy scene.

17: Karen Kilgariff - Who’s going to wet themselves?

2018-06-2601:06:391

16: Why We Write Books

In a very special Maybe It’s You, Greg and Amiira flash back to their roots when Greg was a stand-up comedian and Amiira a music business executive when they were first dating and became writing partners. Together they revisit their path to becoming relationship book authors of He’s Just Not That Into You, It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken, It’s Just A F***ing Date and the upcoming How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking.

16: Why We Write Books

2018-06-1901:04:44

15: The Art of Appreciation and F*** All Y’all with Jackie & Paul

Greg and Amiira’s favorite long time married couple, Jackie Harris and Paul Greenberg, discuss marrying above your paygrade, how your sense of self affects the health of your marriage, too much and not enough togetherness, having genuine appreciation for everything your spouse does for you, knowing how to deal with your spouse when they’re being difficult, crazy or an asshole, and the priority of resolving fights and hurt feelings.

15: The Art of Appreciation and F*** All Y’all with Jackie & Paul

2018-06-1201:09:381

14: Menship

Travis Clark joins Greg and Amiira to discuss the struggle to match viewing schedules with your mate, having your insecurities triggered by your spouse and male friendship. Long time friends,Travis and Greg were forced into an inorganic work friendship that resulted in a huge professional falling out. Years later we discuss how they came back together and were able rebuild a meaningful real friendship.

14: Menship

2018-06-0501:10:221

13: Send Nudes

Greg and Amiira discuss modern dating and the challenge to meet people outside of social media platforms. What Tinder dating is like for an introvert like producer Yusong. Amiira is tempted to mess with the “wrapped" sports car she keeps encountering that is wrapped with the message “send nudes” and an instagram and twitter handle to send them to. Plus Coachella moments and Greg talks about competition and sensitivity among performers.

13: Send Nudes

2018-05-2901:05:08

12: Psychic Slow Mo

Amiira’s visit to a psychic is hijacked by Greg's energy. Laura House joins Greg and Amiira to talk about the difference between love and fear based people, her recent engagement, slow motion breakups, ignoring information to stay in unhealthy relationships and being skeptically open to all astrology and the otherworldly that pops into everyday life. It’s jam packed!

12: Psychic Slow Mo

2018-05-2200:50:39

11: Tara Strong/Love, Safety and Disintegrating

Amiira & Greg talk to the wonderfully talented actress Tara Strong (Teen Titans Go!, My Little Pony, Fairly Odd Parents) about still crushing on your spouse after twenty years, knowing your calling at an early age, always having the hunger to learn, encouraging independence in kids, not being afraid to punch grope-y people at Coachella and disappointing the game master at the escape room.

11: Tara Strong/Love, Safety and Disintegrating

2018-05-1501:12:20

10: Maybe It’s Mail

Amiira and Greg answer emails from fabulous listeners. (Keep ‘em coming! You send them, we’ll answer them.) As if that wasn’t enough,producer Yusong finally gets dragged into the studio and giant bonus - Amiira and Greg’s daughter True takes teen emotions to a new level.

10: Maybe It’s Mail

2018-05-0801:09:38

9: Janet Varney - The Allowance of Self

Amiira and Greg are joined by the star of Stan Against Evil, Janet Varney, to chat about reaching next level comprehension and awareness in your relationship, the personal behavior revelations from watching the Crown, and the “Pillow Incident”.

9: Janet Varney - The Allowance of Self

2018-05-0101:06:42

Mandy Stadtmiller/Unwifeable

Amiira & Greg talk with Author & Comedian Mandy Stadtmiller about her new memoir “Unwifeable”, personal boundaries and lack thereof, historical triggers, the energy shifting magic of clapping and the unsung importance of directing your sexual energy and desire into strengthening your marriage instead of wasting it on strangers.

Mandy Stadtmiller/Unwifeable

2018-04-2401:09:53

Christine Taylor (Amiira’s BFF and Husband Therapy Sesh)

Amiira’s best friend Actress Christine Taylor (Brady Bunch, Dodgeball, Zealander, Arrested Development) joins in the conversation about relationship intruders and the Girl’s Best Friend/Husband dynamic that challenges the modern relationships.

Christine Taylor (Amiira’s BFF and Husband Therapy Sesh)

2018-04-1701:03:59

Doctor Weirdness and Great Expectations

Greg and Amiira discuss the pressure that marriages collapse under when the spouse is expected to be everything to each other and the weirdness of knowing your doctor just banged the pharmaceutical rep or seeing your doctor out of context in real life.

Doctor Weirdness and Great Expectations

2018-04-1001:03:07

Comment Cards and Quarterly Review

This episode Amiira gives Greg a quarterly review and reads his comment cards, change in dynamics from when the dad was the head of the family and revolved around to him to the kids being the central focus, what Greg and Amiira’s dads were like coming home from work, behavior remorse and regret and Greg’s desire to work in the relationship field stems from his empathy and understanding of how people are and feel.

Comment Cards and Quarterly Review

2018-04-0300:52:17

I'm Deciding How You Feel

This episode we talk about Greg and his family’s dog show, Greg and Paul both have had similar shifts where they no longer like what they do but feel like they’re too far into it now, feeling antisocial in your middle age, victim of unrealistic expectations, we talk about the Grammys, revisit Moon stories that we talked about when she was guest, how similar Moon and Greg are and Amiira and Paul, the spiral of feeling too much and getting worked up internally by motivation you have assigned to someone that isn’t there.

I'm Deciding How You Feel

2018-03-2701:07:37

Moon Zappa (Throuple)

This episode we cover Collateral damage and the butterfly effect in relationships, talk about Moon & Greg going on a date, Amiira and Greg’s first date, Moon and her ex-husband and Moon goes to a tantric sex workshop and realizes she’s a nightmare to be in a relationship with, Greg and Amiira decide they should be a throuple with Moon.

Moon Zappa (Throuple)

2018-03-1901:04:53

The Peace Of Resistance

This episode we cover resistance and going to see Hamilton, the sliding scale of injury and resentment, butterfly effect and collateral damage in relationships.

The Peace Of Resistance

2018-03-1901:04:48

It's also us.

This episode we cover writing relationship books, Being talked out of things you like, looking for validation, Amiira going to a lecture about raising kids in a porn addicted world, men’s midlife crisis, disparity between a couple in a marriage where one wants more and the other is fine as is)

It's also us.

2018-03-1900:56:32

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